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Monday, September 24, 2012

ARE YOU A CYBERBULLY? - TAKE THE QUIZ

Often our cyberpaths, once found out and/or exposed turn into a cyberbully to silence their victims. We have had threats of lawsuits against victims. (No predator really wants their lies or cover-up exposed!)

Other predators have threatened their victims' families, children, friends, jobs, reputations. Two even started hate sites about their victims, blaming them for everything. Both were even so childish as to think she was US!! (They only see their exposes and not the slew of the rest of them!!)

Our very first exposed predator, Charles 'Ed' Hicks still claims its "all false" and is back online doing the same all over again as well as being WANTED for jumping probation! In fact he tells new potential victims he's suing his ex-wives, Very Bad Men, Dr. Phil and the court system in Virginia for their supposedly false accusations and writing a 'tell-all' book with the 'truth!' LOL. Don't hold your breath, readers.

Of course there's the old "SHE'S JUST A SCORNED WOMAN" or "HE'S A JILTED LOVER" excuses in cyber affairs. Real life affairs use them too when the predator wants to play victim and make everyone feel sorry for him - including new targets. It's a joke. (Our advice? The minute you hear that 'scorned woman' defense? Make it your business to contact this 'scorned woman' or 'jilted man'! Someone with no secrets or destructive agenda wouldn't care if you spoke to their ex! Same applies to women predators.)

So let's find out - did your online love or cyber-friend turn into a cyberbully? Or were they a cyberbully all along?
from: DEATH BY 1000 PAPERCUTS:

Cyber-harassment, cyber-stalking, cyber-group bully, cyber-Gossip: all of these categories fall under the tactics of a cyber-bully.

Here is a quiz, take it and see it you’re a cyber-bully or if you've ever pulled some other cyber-bullying tactics during your time on-line.

Have you ever done this?

1.Signed on with someone else’s nic and password to get information.
While this does not seem like cyber-bullying if this information was to be used for ill-will, then, yes, it is cyber-bullying.

2. Sent an email or online greeting card from someone else’s account.
Again, some may claim that this is not cyber-bullying, if the email or online greeting is used to stalk or harass someone, then it falls under cyber-bullying.

3. Forwarded a private IM or email without permission.
This could be construed as a “grey” area. After all, it’s merely passing on a private email or IM and some would argue as fairly innocuous.

It boils down to intent.

Was the private conversation/email sent to someone or others with the intent to spread gossip or do harm? While most likely the victim may never know their communication has been forwarded to others, this is still harmful to that person. This is not direct cyber-bullying, more like back-stabbing cyber-bullying tactics.

4. Hacked into someone’s PC, website or blog
Not only is this cyber-bullying but also cyber-stalking and illegal. A 33-yr-old man in Florida was just sentenced to prison for 110 years after being convicted of hacking into MySpace teenaged girl’s PC’s. He threatened to harm to them or their families if they didn’t send him lewd photos.

5. Sent a virus or Trojan Horse?
This is malicious behavior with intent to do harm.

6. Posted rude, nasty or vicious (miscontrued) comments about someone online
Back to intent. Some blogs or forums can get heated and contentious but if someone’s intent is to solely post rude, nasty or vicious comments about another poster then this is cyber-bullying and cyber-gossiping.

7. Teased or frightened someone during IM chats
Teasing that goes over the line, that is meant to chip away someone’s self-esteem. The victim cries foul, the perpetrator claims “teasing.” Boo! (Not that kind of fright) Frightening someone can mean making threats to do harm.

8. Joined in a clique on a blog, website or chatroom that enjoyed driving other posters offsite
Not often talked about are the “community” blogs or chatrooms where “like-minded” posters form cliques. Part of their activities are to single out other posters for the sole purpose of driving the target off the site. This is often done in the guise of “for the good of the blog or chatroom.”

9. Accused someone of a crime online without proof
The person who is unfairly accused of committing a crime online usually has nowhere to turn. The accusers are for the most part, anonymous, the “accusation” gets spread without proof.

10. Followed someone across the Web
Kept track of other online posters, following them from blog to blog, chatroom to chatroom, site to stie. This is a form of soft-core Cyber-stalking. Not the same as showing up at their door but enough to creep anyone out. (Cyberpaths do this to see if any of their victims are "talking about them" to anyone else and then raging on as "being the victim" themselves!)

(many of our victims feel that they need to find out if their cyberpath is "doing it again" or "harming anyone else." EOPC does NOT consider that cyberstalking but accountability as well as compulsory in order to stop these predators from throwing one life away to start destroying another)

Did you answer "yes" to any of these?

Only you know the answer to that question. If you did, maybe it was a one-time occurrence. Only you know the answer to that one, too.

If you were guilty of any of these actions, you should think about changing your behavior.

Unless you want to be a cyber-bully.

Monday, May 04, 2009

IN REVIEW: PAST FULL FRONTAL ATTACK BY A CYBERPATH

In light of people like Angela Buer, another similar prize-Cyberpath who came back on our radar in 2007 was Jeff Dunetz / Yidwithlid/ Sammy Benoit (some of his known online identities)

We re-ran his expose from 2005 in summer of 2007 and it seems Jeff Dunetz / Yidwithlid finally found out that he'd been exposed. His repeat notoriety didn't thrill him and he decided to go after us, our friends at The Exposer and just one of his victims; making the ludicrous assumption that she was all of us! Of course she was caught completely off-guard, having zero idea what was going on until after we re-ran the expose.

It never fails that the exposed cyberpath thinks EOPC is run by their victim(s). They are so hyper-focused on the truth being out there and trying to smear & suppress that their narcissistic egos only see their expose and don't even bother to notice that whole long list of predators we have in our right hand columns.

Some, like Brad Dorsky, assume we are a bunch of petulatent teens on a bash-site. Well, if that's what helps them sleep at night...

In the interest of brevity we are going to borrow from our friends at the Exposer, their last post on "Jeff Dunetz / Yidwithlid.

(posted from THE EXPOSER with permission:)
A few months ago EOPC told us one of this online predator's victims was being victimized by him (he called it "a falling out" ha ha ha) yet again and she wrote a new blog with all the information on it.  This 'telling' is a good way for victims to heal.
It was an attempt to stop the craziness & lying by Jeff Dunetz /Yidwithlid against her.

He wants her to control the internet and take down all posts about him - she tried. But he's going to continue to give her a public beat down. 
Jeff Dunetz / YidwithLid. like all of them, even says the relationship was "her fault too" - never mentioning that this victim genuinely cared for him while he lied to her & had a hidden and malicious agenda towards her. (Don't they all?)

The site also has a post which Jeff Dunetz (who calls himself "yidwithlid" or "Sammy") - put up and then erased, which whitewashes what he did (never talks about his major addiction to hookers, porn, phone sex, cybersex babes, etc -- all validated by law enforcement internet forensic sweeps) - and paints himself as a victim.

He removed that post from his blog and went right back to business as usual; stating he would 'not react anymore' and the 'subject was closed.' That post still remains HERE however. Sound familiar readers?


EOPC told us that Jeff Dunetz / YIDWITHLID has a site which is nothing less than an outright hate attack on one of his victims, full of projection and accusing her of everything he did or is doing.. Like all emotional predators/ cheaters & womanizers (narcissists & psychopaths) - he blames her for everything - even when she has clear, hard, verified evidence what she did and didn't do. After being called on his outright copyright infringment -- he took most of that site down but it still remains, rather than being deleted -- along with a libelous technorati profile - HERE.

She even reported to EOPC she begged an MSN support site in 2004, to remove her posts about Yid when that site owner told her HE WAS SURFING HER NICKNAMES AND COMING THERE TO READ WHAT SHE WROTE! (btw, the support site REFUSED to take down the posts and so did we as well as EOPC. MSN sites are now closed.)

He's mad and calling her a stalker? Because WE support his victims and refuse to pretend 'it never happened' and allow him to continue to lie about we really happened.

Incredible!


To Clarify: that MSN group was a VICTIMS SUPPORT GROUP - so YIDWITHLID's just admitted HE'S a stalker. He CYBER STALKED his targets and got mad that they were looking for support about what he did to them!

That MSN group? We looked -- His picture is there - BUT HIS NAME IS NOT! So unless you have even MORE victims YIDWITHLID, who might recognize you - you are angry over NOTHING!

MSN however, knows he was SURFING and stalking his victims from board to board! Monitoring their every word and emotional pain. What a GREAT GUY!

Hell to pay when you disagree with an internet predator's version of truth, right readers?
This predator also names her and blames her for everything.  Classic of a disordered personality. yidwithlid committed copyright infringment against our sites and EOPC. We have written to Blogger.com about it - so now this bully says he's making a bunch of new sites about his victim. To RETALIATE FOR THE TRUTH BEING OUT THERE

Why? Because he thinks: She is us.
EOPC told us he thinks she is them too!

He's scared of her because she's that OMNIPOTENT apparently.


This is so funny because this victim does nothing for either us or EOPC. Typical of a narcissistic predator's paranoia when their false image of being perfect & important is threatened. Which is exactly why this story is so important. It's textbook, readers.

He attacks & smears even after she tried to ask everyone to stop bothering him. Unfortunately - can't control everyone now, can you?

Jeff Dunetz  has only proved he committed copyright infringement as well as speaking libel and harassing someone who, to the best of our knowledge, probably has little to no clue what is going on or has moved from the situation for her own healing.
Jeff Dunetz  asserts because he was part of the chat that he owns the copyright. He does own part of the copyright to the chat only (which are wall to wall lies &  manipulation on his part, and prove his victims had no idea what they were truly getting into) - but not our or EOPC's comments or commentary on the chats .

He can't revoke the copyright because it was published in 2005 originally by EOPC and they extended their copyright to us - and the permission of only one of the chatters or emailers is necessary - and EOPC got them from LAW ENFORCEMENT. bye bye copyright!


In fact: The Exposer did a little checking and back in March 2007, Sammy (yidwithlid's pseudonym) posted this on someone else's blog (along with some other thin-skinned sarcasm):
Posted by: Sammy Benoit | Mar 16, 2007 5:01:07
AMA copyright may be embedded into a bitmap or jpeg file with software on a Mac or PC. Also, there are several companies that can officially help copyright images so that it is documented.


If these two things are done, and a quiet agreement is made with whomever uses it, it should be pretty easy to please everyone, and misuse of it would be easy to spot and stop. Well, hopefully.@@@@@

So he does know about copyrights! Well, well, well. 


No "I'm Sorry", no attempt to speak to his victims (he's got PLENTY of lame excuses not to) - just rage - telling his victims to MOVE ON because he has [of course he has, he doesn't want to apologize for destroying someone's life - since he's perfect and everyone else is just an object]... besides he started up with this new identity like nothing happened!

Just like all cyberpaths - nasty and childish emails like these went to EOPC:



From: Yidwithlid@aol.com
To: cyberpaths@gmail.com
Date: Sun, 24 Jun 2007 16:33:58 EDT
Subject: Re: http://stumblingtchatzkahs.blogspot.com

http://stumblingtchatzkahs.blogspot.com/....

From: Yidwithlid@aol.com
To: exposer@37.com
Received-On: 06/26/07 5:54 PM
Subject: Re: Exposer Requests You Remove Copyrighted Content Please

NO
______________

From Yidwithlid@aol.com by mo-m22.mx.aol.com
for exposer@37.com
Tue, 26 Jun 2007 20:54:21 -0400 (EDT)
Yidwithlid@aol.com X-Eon-Dm: dm08
Date: 06/26/07 1:54 PM

From: Yidwithlid@aol.com
To: exposer@37.com
Received-On: 06/26/07 5:54 PM
Re: Remove Content Please

No

But thanks for asking
____________________

From: Yidwithlid@aol.com
To: exposer@37.com
Cc: support@blogger.com
Received-On: 06/28/07 3:47 PM

Re: http://stumblingtchatzkahs.blogspot.com

cool two emails from you today thank you so much..
If you are publishing stuff that I wrote.. then who gave you the copywite...
I didnt.

and I didnt write them say so take off all references to me and I will take down my site

By the way Are you enjoying the Nut job convention [victim's name]?

Tonight I am going to open up three new stumling tchatches sites.
***************
These immature emails bring to mind this quote:
Innocence seldom utters outraged shrieks. Guilt does.

~ Whittaker Chambers



This cyberbully who is such an innocent victim? He should be more careful what he puts on the net. 


Jeff Dunetz's  got lots of blogs out there it seems and can't get enough of his own writing! He has accounts on aggregators, etc but the ONLY thing he ever puts out there or approves of are HIS OWN POSTS.
This one's from yidwithlid.typepad.com in past January 2007:

"January 21, 2007
New Peoples Choice Category: Most abusive of system

From two different sides of the world we wondered ....Who was crapping on our posts and yours. We had our lists of suspects but couldn't prove who was giving the bad grades ten at a time ...and how they were working sooooooo fast. Still have no clear proof. We do have some suspects . We googled the posts of one and noticed that there was one who would put up 8-9 posts one day, get them up over a hundred points take them down and repost the same articles the next day.

Then Sherlock Bagel Blogger found the a gun that was smoking even more. He put it in a much nicer way than me:

The awards known as the People's Choice awards seem to be finishing a lot quicker than most people expected.

I was going to hold on to this information until the results of the People's Choice Awards' became known, but I feel that it is not being honest to not divulge what I know.

I've debated with my self, my family and friends, should I or shouldn't I?

I also don't want to be accused of 'bitter lemons'.

I wrote a letter to another blogger and in the course of the letter I presented/made a table, now that I have made the table I feel something is seriously amiss.

I wont say what it is.

I'll leave the plain facts speak for them selves.

I have a PDF of the Google cache of 17th of Jan of the Israel forum's blog_best [rankings] which is now no longer available. [I have a copy and a html back up] and I have a PDF of the 19 th Jan 2007 Israel forum's blog_best
Thats less than two days apart

What's the main difference? Well check it out you should be able to see it, it occurred over less than two days.

The person is relying on no one seeing anything or saying anything. Well I won't say anything if you don't.

Well here it is in Table form:

Rank 19th Jan Blog Name Votes tally on 17th Jan Rank on 17th Jan Votes tally 19th Jan
Date last activity
Tally count difference
Up or DownPlaces
1 The Last Best Place 5224 1 5503 18th 279 0
2 Freedom's Cost 3676 2 3734 16th 58 0
3 Yid With Lid 5916 3 6066 18th 150 0
4 Samson Blinded 2359 8 3579 18th 1220 +4
5 Daf Notes 3993 4 4199 18th 206 -1
6 Bagel Blogger 4737 5 4949 19th 212 -1
7 The Maggid of Bergenfield 1092 6 1113 16th 21 -1
8 Simply Jews 6818 7 6978 18th 160 -1
9 Baleboosteh 2367 9 2422 18th 55 0
10 JoeSettler 2253 11 2255 17th 2 +1
11 Sarah's View 4317 10 4366 18th 49 -1
12 The Way I See It 3250 12 3279 16th 29 0
13 Divrei Chaim 1385 13 1404 18th 19 0
14 Orthomom 3016 17 3102 18th 86 +3
15 Chayyei Sarah 1592 15 1592 14th 0 0
16 Ask Shifra 1600 16 1616 14th 16 0
17 The Muqata 2078 14 2140 18th 62 -3
18 Slightly Mad 1425 18 1425 14th 0 0
19 Israellycool 4319 19 4440 19th 121 0
20 Lazer Beams 2230 20 2315 18th 85 0
_________________________
Here are snapshots of sections of the webpages in question:"

Well, waddya know! Seems he and this BagelBlogger are into watching who comes and goes from this 'supposedly' unbiased site and 'totally fair' blog voting.

And YID attempts to assert he has 'zero control or influence at this aggregator. ' LOL

CLICK HERE TO LOOK WHO'S AT THE TOPS ON THE AGGREGATOR!!


Yid With Lid VOTES: 26910
Bagel Blogger VOTES: 13649

If you click the link to the aggregator? Yid has MORE VOTES THAN ANYONE ELSE - almost DOUBLE! And the list appears to have numerous bloggers who haven't posted in weeks. Jeff Dunetz and Bagel Blogger are CAREFUL not to make themselves #1 and #2 - there's some rigging going on - this aggregator may be a fixed race for FRIENDS or ASSOCIATES OF THESE TWO ONLY! hmmm....

Sounds like
Jeff Dunetz controls his part of the internet, don't it??

Typical of all narcissists - they make SURE they are TOPS in their little online "club." sickening and childish... but that's a narcissistic cyberpath for you!

And here's a quote we found from 8/14/07 - on Jeff Dunetz (YidwithLid's) website:
I love the web's freedom. But with freedom comes responsibility. Certainly those who use the internet to harass or terrorize are abusing the freedom the internet brings.

Let us guess - if someone is exposing
Jeff Dunetz for the sexual & emotional predator, bully and liar he is - they're a terrorizer. Sure he loves the web's freedom - to prey on vulnerable women and dispose of them when they become inconvenient with no remorse!

But when HE terrorizes or harasses vulnerable women who actually CARE about him - he's a victim. Did yours do this to you, readers?

And if you want to prey on, lie to and manipulate vulnerable women and use them as sex toys to be tossed away when you're done - according to YidwithLid and all our exposed predators - That's FREEDOM!

The Exposer knows - FREEDOM isn't FREE. Nothing every really disappears on the net, no matter how much erasing you try to do. And where's your responsibility,
Jeff Dunetz and all the rest of you predators? For what you did to innocent people who had no idea you were using their naivete, compassion and vulnerability?

Did we mention cyberpaths are hypocrites? Now let's check out some of Jeff Dunetz / Gridney/ Yidwithlid's terrorizing tactics; see if they sound familiar:

Jeff Dunetz /YidWithLid has his blogs set so:
1. you HAVE to have a Blogger account to comment;

2. no anonymous comments. He "says" its for the integrity of his blogs! B.S. He wants to be able to track & block & smear anyone who calls him on his lies - just like a predator - always protecting their "image." HYPOCRITE

Yesterday I recieved a few "anonomous" postings about one of the writers who's work I have repulished on this blog. (someone whom I have only met via email after I posed one of his stories) The comments were very defamitory about this person.It is quite interesting that people who say bad things about others, like to keep their names and real emal adresses "anonomous" It tells me something about the quality of what they are saying. Anyway, those comments will continue to be deleted as I will not be a party to their acts.

Hold on! Jeff Dunetz / Gridney/ YidwithLid didn't use his real name! So that makes HIS comments anonymous. Smells like a double standard there SAMMY!

Don't make a cyberpath THINK about what they've done!! Goodness no! They are beyond reproach.
CHECK what he says to what apparently is one of his victim's friends on his hate blog:

Are you telling me that [one of my victims] posted my picture on the internet including MSN newsgroups as NYC******.[One of my victims] signed the letter to the Rabbi At aish?

Jeff Dunetz TRULY IS PATHOLOGICAL!

And none of his targets EVER used the nickname he states on any MSN board.

Jeff Dunetz / YidwithLid has gone so far as to accuse his targets of being PREDATORS (can you say PROJECTION?) and says one purposely put him on a porn aggregator (uh... Jeff Dunetz ? Those are automatic aggregators that crawl the net for specific words... no one PUTS you on one of those! You can't even join one - the Exposer checked!) Guess ole' Yidwithlid does an awful lot of ego surfing, huh?

Jeff Dunetz / YidwithLid also says he's "MOVED ON and she should too." Right.... "moved on" is predator speak for 'shut up about the truth so I can go back to banging whores and picking up vulnerable women online.' Predators never care because they see everyone as an object.

Let's look at 
Jeff Dunetz / YidwithLid's version of "moving on" and "subject closed" - here's a message we would guess is for his victims.

"when people google your site they will find out what you have been doing for the past three years instead of raising your children"

The victimizing NEVER ENDS with Jeff Dunetz / YidwithLid, does it? He's the "gift that keeps on giving!" Great job of him "moving on" too, huh?  Is your cyberpath like this?

He also says he and his wife have "worked it out" - wouldn't you LOVE to hear the twisted bullcrap these predators tell their wives about these naive, caring, vulnerable women THEY prey on or even send to the hospital? Not the prostitutes he saw for FOUR YEARS, once a month - we mean the NORMAL ones. Like the one he knew over 25 years!

How CRUEL can one Yid be? And he, like all our predators just wants his victims to FORGET about the trauma like it never happened?

UNREAL, aren't these jerks! Which proves their pathological and uncaring nature to us over & over

Jeff Dunetz / YIDWITHLID victimizes women, uses their good nature, lies to & manipulates them and when one of them figures his game out & that he's been using & abusing her for 2 years (and sent her to the hospital more than once!!) - he:
GOES TO ONLINE SUPPORT GROUPS AND FINDS &READS EVERYTHING HIS TRAUMATIZED VICTIMS ARE VENTING ABOUT WHAT HE DID TO THEM; THEIR FAMILIES AND LOOKING FOR SUPPORT ABOUT... AND GETS MAD ABOUT IT!
WHAT A MALICIOUS EMOTIONAL & SEXUAL VAMPIRE!! See how ENTITLED these predators feel? They get MAD that their victims are HURT!!

Be warned ladies - is yours doing this to YOU?: As a victim -- you are 'out of your mind' looking for help and they are reading EVERY WORD YOU ARE SAYING?

And then you are a "nut job" for needing mental or emotional help after they take your heart, soul, your peace of mind and trust?

Jeff Dunetz / YIDWITHLID, like all cyberpaths - sees only what makes him look like the victim.

Just look at more of the revisionist history
Jeff Dunetz / Sammy Benoit posted in 2008 about one of his many victims:


You were an old girlfriend of YWL from an upstate NY college. You used the internet to track him down after 30 years, which wasn’t too hard because he’s a published writer.

You had cyber-sex with him and then got him to agree to meet up with you. When he did meet up with you, to his horror, he saw that his ex-girlfriend from college had ballooned into a 275 lb fat pig with poor hygiene and he didn’t want to bang you. He politely excused himself by saying he couldn’t do this to his wife.

You then began stalking him and his family, driving by his house, sending letters to his wife, his parents, his in-laws, his rabbi, the police, anyone with whom you thought you could slander his good name. His poor wife was left with no choice but to report you to the police after you threatened to harm her children.

Sound familiar porkchop?




Law Enforcement sent EOPC a lot of information in late 2004 on Yid, after his Target #1 RELEASED it to us:
  • this victim he speaks of in the quote above? Was NEVER his girlfriend... never went on a date with him... was just friends. In fact, in college Yid treated her horribly after he 'got what he wanted' from her, including an abortion.
  • It has been forensically verified that Jeff Dunetz used CLASSMATES.com to track down this victim and possibly others. (Total opposite of his assertion)
  • This victim was manipulated & lied to by him and had to do DE-PROGRAMMING from what he COERCED her into and still has serious, medically verifiable PTSD. (Did we mention a number of medical people have all the Forensically Verified info. on Jeff Dunetz also?)
  • Jeff Dunetz saw prostitutes, advertised for sex partners , used his credit card on phone & webcam porn sites from 2000-2004 (possibly back to 1999( on a regular basis so he had no problem whatsoever "DOING THIS TO HIS WIFE" with anyone he could coerce or pay for. His assertions it was all 'planted' cannot be verified with internet archives or law enforcement.
  • This victim has never stalked, harassed, driven by his home, etc. (BTW - Law enforcement alerted us that his wife has a number of companies registered at their HOME address due to her job and their address and phone is regularly posted on construction projects in the Tri-State area as CONTACT numbers. A little websurfing would turn up anything any wacko needed to know), nor did she have anyone "do it for her"
  • Yid gave his spouse 'selective information' so she would use her contacts at their police precinct to have a Detective friend call and needlessly hassle this victim (imply she would be arrested, etc), not once but four times -- just after she came out of the hospital for trauma symptoms the first time - in an attempt to silence her. (NOTE: Jeff Dunetz didn't silence anyone because his favorite brothel was busted in a very public trial and allegedly he was ID'd by a couple of the 'employees' there after Jeff Dunetz's attacks on his victims forced them to go to police in fear. Good going, Yid!)

Predators love to believe their mere words create reality. But now we know what Jeff Dunetz is telling people "really" happened.... LOL

So 
Jeff Dunetz / YIDWITHLID (or any of our cyberpaths) - Tell us - what were your victims supposed to do? LIE & COVER MORE FOR YOU? AFTER YOU DESTROYED THEM?

These predators continue to amaze & astonish at their audacity.
Jeff Dunetz / Yidwithlid could care less he caused divorces, severe trauma and put one of his victims in the hospital! He just continues on with his baseless accusations & being indignant. (sound familiar readers?)

Predators are ANGRY at their victims. FOR TELLING THE TRUTH AND SEEKING HELP FOR THEIR TRAUMA.

Why should the truth slow any of them down?

By the way, on Yid's blog he says to email him your email address so he, himself can add it to his mailing list. There are automatic sites that can do this for you (example: Feedblitz) so why are we suspicious that Jeff Dunetz  is collecting emails for fresh prey? Women who might like one of his articles and be somewhere his job sends him on business? Does his wife know this?

These Cyberpaths never stop.


How's that for sick?
The Cyberpath is the angry one who wants their victims to JUST FORGET IT so they can lie, never apologize, smear them and continue duping their family & friends? Yes.

And this story, readers is a perfect example.

@@@@@

Don't forget Cyberpaths! If you really want help or want to write an open apology to your victim(s) just mail us here at EOPC and we will be happy to help you make amends ! Send your apology to: Cyberpaths@gmail.com. If it's genuine - we'll be happy to post it!


Monday, July 09, 2007

FINAL NOTE ON DUNETZ/ YIDWITHLID & A WORD ABOUT CYBERPATHS

An update and final note on Jeff Dunetz/ GRIDNEY/ YidwithLid for this rerun of his expose. This is a great example of what these predators do when they catch on that they've been exposed.


Do you think they - Apologize? Get Help? Admit What They've Done? Make Amends to the Victim(s)? No! As we have said, cyberpaths are narcissists or sociopaths at their core and those persons never ever apologize. Or if they do they will close the "I'm Sorry" with "but you..."

Jeff Dunetz/ GRIDNEY/ YidwithLid went into a psychopathic rage when he found out his story was here. So he decided to go after the person he thinks is posting it - his Target #1. (Look around, Mr. Dunetz - you aren't the only person exposed on this site!)

Reality: Target #2 first contacted us and from there EOPC contacted Target #1. Target #1 told her story to us a few months out of a treatment program for severe PTSD caused by her relationship with Jeff Dunetz/ Yidwithlid /GRIDNEY - and her counselors told her "TELL."

EOPC also warned her what this predator might do. But posting it herself here? She did not. Dunetz/ Yidwithlid thinks she controls the internet, it seems! All of them blame their targets or other victims on this site. ALL OF THEM!


This expose was the second one to come with law enforcement verification (the first was "Ed" Charles Hicks). Typically, Jeff Dunetz/ YIDWITHLID is now telling people it's "all made up" and to top that off - he thinks Target #1 is us and is telling OTHERS that she is EOPC!


MR. Dunetz- if you are reading this - there are three (3) people that run this site and neither your Target #1 or Target #2 is one of them. Also, we get an affidavit from everyone who tells us their story that this is the truth and would hold up in a court of law. Everyone.

Mr. Dunetz, you are the one keeping this story alive by having a tantrum every time you see something. This the third time we have re-run it. Other sites have picked it up and our policy is - we refuse to remove unless there's legal confirmation. We were asked to remove your story in March 2007 by Target #1. We declined when those who run this site found out what you were up to; attacking and threatening your victims. More than one person confirmed this story as did law enforcement for us in 2004. And we don't negotiate with terrorists.

If you would like to write a genuine apology, acknowledging ALL your actions and why you coerced these vulnerable persons - we would be more than happy to post it for you. You must have back up and be willing to sign a release that YOU will take full responsibility for what is posted and its veracity. Your victims had no problem doing that.

Initially Yidwithlid posted his version of events on his blog and later removed it.

His target answered Jeff Dunetz/ GRIDNEY/YIDWITHLID's version of events and says she made efforts to everything about him taken down. Most sites? Simply will not without a court document and even then some won't. On the site she details her efforts to get postings of him on other sites that used his real name taken down, even though Target #1 wasn't the one who put them there, and how futile it was.

Jeff Dunetz/ GRIDNEY/ YIDWITHLID sees the actions of all others against him as the fault of only Target #1. ha ha ha

As to Dunetz/ GRIDNEY's version, upon reading it, we found it did not make a lot of sense, it was very watered down, confusing and had a lot of gaps in it covered by statements of "love" for his wife and what a good person he is. (example: Dunetz left out his lunch hour hooker habit and porn addiction which started years before he even looked up Target #1. Nor does he mention Target #2; perhaps they are still involved?)

Worse -- his version had astoundingly icy statements in it like "I stopped cybering with her and started cybering with someone else." Boom, just like that. No explanation -- just talking about his victims like objects.

Considering the tremendous devastation he visited on Target #1 and her family, he's lucky -- because he destroyed this woman's life and thought nothing of her but sex. And thought the same of her friend, Target #2 - who is also a real person not a thing. His own statements reveal his severe pathology.

Dunetz's defense was stock phrases like "hell hath no fury" or "the rest is history". The 'woman scorned' nonsense is a time-worn defense that even the legal system knows is bull these days. Without fail, every single Cyberpath who has been exposed here and subsequently threatens us - use this same defense in addition to calling their Targets crazy, stalkers, liars and accusing them of slander & defamation. It is so predictable it gets monotonous.

After publishing this blog for as many years as we have now - an accusation by a Cyberpath that their Target is a 'nutjob' is, to us, a confirmation to EOPC that the Cyberpath is lying and projecting and that the Targets have told us the truth.

We have contacted Target #1 and told her that she has a good libel case against Jeff Dunetz/ GRIDNEY/YIDWITHLID and that he is so fixated on blaming her for everything that went wrong in his life. (he accuses Target #1 of: 'hurting his wife' by telling her the truth and the latest: 'driving his mother to a heart attack' - which Target #1 denies even knowing what he's referring to on her site and provides proofs to that effect. He even tells people it's HER fault he's unemployed - NOT that HE used hookers, posted on hooker rating boards and used phone & internet sex sites) so please use caution as he seems to be a loose canon.

His attack, like all of them, against someone he drove to the brink - is typical of the misogyny or misandry of Cyberpaths - done simultaneously as they swear they love their partners/ spouses.


(Cyberpaths paint the wife/husband/partner as ALL GOOD and the victims who dare to tell the truth as ALL BAD by comparing them. This is paramoralizing nonsense; typical of the black & white thinking of a pathological person. The partners AND the victims are probably the ALL GOOD - it is the Cyberpath who is ALL BAD.)

As with all Cyberpaths - their image is everything. They hurt their victims as if they were nothing and they use people like objects. So readers, look below at what the rage of one Cyberpath does - and then see for yourself if Dunetz/ GRIDNEY/ YIDWITHLID's words are the words of a rational, reasonable human being.



OTHER CYBERPATHS - SAME PATTERN
Mike Campbell went to court with one of his victims trying to shut her up. He also assumed that she is one who posted about him all over the web. Wrong.

We heard from three (3) other of his victims (who did not want their emails published because they are scared of Mr. Campbell or their families) confirming the sort of person he is and his predatory tactics.

Supposedly Campbell's tried to control the whole internet to stop the truth about him being out. Just like Dunetz
/ Yidwithlid - Campbell is blaming one person for posting him everywhere. The truth is that our stories often get picked up by other sites. Also, other victims will hide behind the story of a victim who is brave enough to come forward - and then post the story themselves.

Why do these Cyberpaths pick on that one person? Probably because they are the most truthful. Remember our posts about who Cyberpaths' target? The best and brightest among us. Predators usually pick the most moral, compassionate and truthful person to smear because 'mud sticks best to a clean spot.'

"Ed" Charles Hicks (aka Charles Greene) is back online on various dating sites, writing numerous women with a system so he can keep them all straight. Rumor has it he's writing a book to tell his truth - i.e.: that his last two wives set him up just to get on T.V. and ruin his life. Not a word about the thousands of dollars he stole from them, the ruined lives or his year in jail. Not a word that all the facts about him were independently verified by the Assistant D.A. in Virginia. Remember: these predators CREATE THEIR ONE VERSION OF REALITY AND LIVE THERE!

And Mr. Hicks is currently a known felon who spent time in jail. So EOPC wishes
Mr. Hicks good luck finding a publisher - maybe O.J. can give him some advice there if they end up in jail together.

BRAD DORSKY, STEVEN LANGLEY GUY
& KEITH CLIVE have all come here multiple times, surfing only their stories and lashing out at us and usually the person they "think" has exposed them.

PHIL HABERMAN
dragged his victim to court - of course wrong state, wrong venue - and isn't getting what he wants. In fact - Phil's looking crazier all the time.

If only they'd put that energy towards getting long term psychological help.

We have had Cyberpaths write us as their "alleged other victims" or their "lawyer" (btw - all the same IP) demanding & threatening us to remove them. Not asking, not providing us with anything other than their rageful demands.

We hold everyone to the same standard. YOUR WORDS ARE NOT PROOF. We must have verification and you must sign an affidavit that if you are lying you can be prosecuted for perjury and holding EOPC harmless. (fyi - we do not want Social Insurance/ Security numbers or credit card information!)

We have yet to remove anyone permanently with one except - at the request of a deeply harmed victim who was threatened with serious bodily harm by her Cyberpath. We also pass all threats to appropriate law enforcement.


We agree with AA and other recovery organizations that FULL DISCLOSURE can be very helpful in healing from the trauma and emotional rape caused by these Narcissistic, Sociopathic predators.

We have had Cyberpaths or their buddies try to join our mail list support group. That won't be happening. Sometimes we are lucky enough to have some help on those occasions.

We are constantly surprised, but not shocked, at the anger & rage these Cyberpaths have at being exposed! It is not an anger management problem. Narcissistic & sociopathic types do no have a problem with their anger - they have a problem with their victims being angry. Their victims are simply objects to them so "how dare they" feel pain, become ill, attempt suicide, have PTSD, complain or expose them. That's how sick and soul-less Cyberpaths are.

Cyberpaths will say "but they did it too!" (or "she's a cheater, too!!" or "she KNEW it was wrong") Oh, Really?

  • Were they aware you were using & grooming them, slowly brainwashing and telling them you had feelings for/ or were 'in love with' them?

  • Were they aware that you didn't care one bit about them other than what kicks you could get from them?

  • Did your victims know you had other prey on the hook, or were a sex addict, or a bigamist, or a fraud?

  • Did they know when you said "I care about you" or "I love you" you were lying?
In Mr. Dunetz's case - we ask him: Did your victims know you'd been seeing hookers on your lunch hours since 2000? Spending money on online porn and cybering with professional cyber-whores? Spending money on phone sex? Did they know? Or did you make them think they were the ONE AND ONLY? and you'd NEVER DONE THAT BEFORE?

You know the answer to that, Sir. So you also know where to put your blame-shifting of "they were married and knew what they were getting into" and "it takes two to tango" baloney.

If so, they DID NOT 'do it too.' They are human beings capable of something you are not - honest feelings. And they have every right to their hurt, anger and need to have some sort of closure.


But don't expect the Cyberpath to feel shame, sorrow or remorse. Ever.

Shame on any Cyberpath who attacks their victims! Talking, telling the truth and being kind would get you a lot farther than raging against victimized people.




HERE'S SOME EMAIL WE GOT FROM Duntez/ GRIDNEY/YidwithLid IN RESPONSE TO OUR REQUEST FOR HIM TO REMOVE SOME OF THE POSTS HE LIFTED IN FULL, GRAPHICS INCLUDED, FROM EOPC AND PLACED HERE
(he's since taken them down with zero admission that he did something wrong or an apology at his grave mistake!):




EOPC'S INITIAL EMAIL (SENT Dunetz/ GRIDNEY/ YIDWITHLID & TO BLOGGER) -
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OUR POST ALONG WITH OUR COMMENTS & GRAPHICS WERE TAKEN WHICH CONSTITUTES COPYRIGHT INFRINGEMENT:



This is to advise you that you are using copyrighted and protected material on your website/blog. Your illegal, unauthorized use of http://cyberpaths.blogspot.com/2006/03/j-open-mouth-insert-keyboard.html article at your site: A STUMBLING TCHATZKAH -- is originally from our blog called EXPOSING ONLINE PREDATORS & CYBERPATHS . This is original content and we are the author and copyright holder to the chat.

The IPs we have for your site are: 69.112.162.87 and 69.112.161.215


On the sidebar of our main site we give any exposed cyberpath the right to rebuttal along with the same burden of hard proof, along with a signed notarized statement that what they are saying is the truth along with copies of any pertinent documentation.

We also have our copyright/ usage rules there . Use of copyright protected material without permission is illegal under copyright laws.

Please take the following action immediately:

Remove the plagiarized material immediately.

We expect you to do so now within 24 hours as per prior notification.

Thank you for your immediate action on this matter.

Exposing Online Predators & Cyberpaths



IC3.gov -- Complaint Id: I0706271709542032

Filed with ChillingEffects.org

(we also filed a DMCA Complaint)


Dunetz /GRIDNEY'S BIZARRE RESPONSES TO OUR CC OF THE ABOVE TO HIM:
from "Yidwithlid@XXX.com"
to cyberpaths@gmail.com
date Jun 24, 2007 5:04 PM
subject Re: http://stumblingtchatzkahs.blogspot.com

dear cyberpaths
I published it for educational purposes also. It teaches people how one overzealous psycopahth can take slander from a sick women and post them on a website without knowin what the truth is. Or how one sick individtual can do her best to drive my mom to a heart attack.

You are a sick individual and so is your friend [Target #1]. Dont be surprised I circulate it even more, If She is determined to keep this up. I will make sure the world will know what a mom of two spends her time doing ..instead of taking car of her children.
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from "Yidwithlid@XXX.com"
to cyberpaths@gmail.com
date Jun 25, 2007 6:35 PM
subject Re: http://stumblingtchatzkahs.blogspot.com

you got my response yesterday...If you dont stop with this nonsense I will add stumbling tchatkes to every blog aggrigator I can find. Your choice [Target #1's name]
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from "Yidwithlid@XXX.com"
to cyberpaths@gmail.com
cc support@blogger.com
date Jun 27, 2007 7:19 PM
subject Re: http://stumblingtchatzkahs.blogspot.com

but [Target #1's name] if I wrote the chat I am the copywrite holder...and if I didnt then take it down and I will
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from "Yidwithlid@XX.com"
to cyberpaths@gmail.com
date Jun 28, 2007 6:49 PM
subject Re: http://stumblingtchatzkahs.blogspot.com

hope you are enjoying the convention in eurpe [Target #1]
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from "yidwithlid@XX.com" hide details Jun 29
to cyberpaths@gmail.com
date Jun 29, 2007 3:12 PM
subject Re: http://stumblingtchatzkahs.blogspot.com

Hey [Target #1's name]...haven't you gone to the site? I left you a present..You enjoying the pacific northwest?
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(didn't he just accuse her of being in Europe the day before? Is he on medication or what?)




As stated, NOTE that Dunetz/ GRIDNEY/YIDWITHLID addresses EOPC as if we are Target #1. We still can't figure out these emails but he did verify for us that he is probably a pathological man, a textbook-predictable Narcissist and a Cyberpath. (He has even gone so far as to tell some of our detractors we are his Target #1)

"The [exposed Cyberpath] on the other hand, cannot rest until they have blotted out a vaguely experienced [target] who dared to oppose them or [expose them], to disagree with them or to outshine them. [The Cyberpath] can never find rest because they can NEVER FULLY wipe out the evidence that has contradicted their conviction they are unique and perfect. This archaic rage goes on and on and on." - Dr. Ernest Wolf


Are Dunetz/ GRIDNEY/YIDWITHLID and predators like him sociopaths? We aren't doctors. And malignant narcissists & sociopaths rarely present themselves to psychiatrists and tell the truth - because they make the truth up as they go along. So, let's look at Dr. Stout's checklist in THE SOCIOPATH NEXT DOOR with regards to Dunetz/ GRIDNEY/YidwithLid
(use this checklist on YOURS!)

In her book, Stout also describes other techniques that shameless sociopaths use to keep the rest of us in line. They are:

  • Charm (all of Dunetz/ GRIDNEY/YIDWITHLID's targets found him charming and sweet)

  • Risk-taking, and convincing others to do it with them (despite Sammy Dunetz/ GRIDNEY/YIDWITHLID's later assertions that his targets were just as guilty as him - he did convince and 'sell' them on an affair with him. Target #2 says he even sent her an article about how affairs help people to further his agenda)

  • Recognizing a person who is decent and trusting — the perfect target (both of Dunetz/ GRIDNEY/ YIDWITHLID's targets were basically decent, trusting people.)

  • Sexual seduction (see the expose - he initiated & furthered ALL sexual involvement)

  • Crocodile tears — especially when sociopaths are about to be confronted (see GRIDNEY/ YIDWITHLID's lame 'apology' to his targets. And if Dunetz/ GRIDNEY/ YIDWITHLID wants to write a real apology - we would be happy to publish it for him at any time; as we would for any of our exposed cyberpaths) We doubt he will even read this - it would interfere with his 'reality'

  • Righteous indignation — Plan B when sociopaths are about to be confronted. Probably the one more 'decent and trusting' of all the targets - they are usually the ones who get smeared the worst. (Other examples: Ed Hicks' last wives #6 & #7.)

  • Exploiting social and professional roles (Dunetz/ YIDWITHLID has gone back to his publishers (under a new identity - Sammy Benoit), family, clergyman, job and 'friends' to continue to exploit his religious/family-man image as a platform for smearing his victims and elevating himself. He has never fulled owned or admitted the depth of his depravity or the devastation he purposedly caused innocent people. He has, as far as we know, continued to lie to everyone - including himself - who will actually listen to him.

  • Gaslighting — making victims doubt their own perceptions (Dunetz/ YIDWITHLID continues to blame his victims for their being hurt & upset for what he did to them! Insists they 'knew what they were getting into'; or it was consensual; and/or they are harassing him by standing up for themselves and telling the truth. Another was blaming his victims for 'turning him on' and 'making' him want the affairs! Wonder if using his money to pay for expensive prostitutes turned him on too?)


  1. IT IS EOPC'S FIRM BELIEF THAT CYBERPATHS FALL INTO THIS CATEGORY.

READ BELOW AND SEE WHAT TO DO ABOUT THESE EXPLOITATIVE PREDATORS & OUR KUDOS TO ALL OUR PAST VICTIMS WHO WERE BRAVE ENOUGH TO COME FORWARD TO LET OTHERS KNOW - THEY ARE NOT ALONE IN THEIR GRIEF & PAIN.

AS YOU READ THE FOLLOWING - THINK OF THE PREDATORS WE HAVE EXPOSED IN THE LAST 4 YEARS - DO THEY FIT THE PATTERN? WE SAY YES.

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THE MALIGNANT PERSONALITY
By Caroline Konrad

These people are mentally ill and extremely dangerous! The following precautions will help to protect you from the destructive acts of which they are capable.

First, to recognize them, keep the following guidelines in mind.

(1) They are habitual liars. They seem incapable of either knowing or telling the truth about anything.

(2) They are egotistical to the point of narcissism. They really believe they are set apart from the rest of humanity by some special grace.

(3) They scapegoat; they are incapable of either having the insight or willingness to accept responsibility for anything they do. Whatever the problem, it is always someone else's fault.

(4) They are remorselessly vindictive when thwarted or exposed.

(5) Genuine religious, moral, or other values play no part in their lives. They have no empathy for others. Under older psychological terminology, they fall into the category of psychopath or sociopath, but unlike the typical psychopath, their behavior is masked by a superficial social facade.

If you have come into conflict with such a person or persons, do the following immediately! :

Notify your friends and relatives of what has happened. Don't be ashamed. Tell.

Do not be vague. Name names, and specify dates and circumstances. Identify witnesses if possible and provide supporting documentation if any is available.

Instruct friends to take such an incident to the newspapers and other media.