Friday, November 20, 2015

Match (dot) WRONG

EOPC recieves 100s of emails every week. At least 90% and more start with or include: "I met a someone who SEEMED LIKE a nice guy/ girl via ONLINE DATING."

Readers, never -- we repeat -- NEVER would we recommend Online Dating to ANYONE. EVER. It's not a "good way to meet people" nor is it a way to "ease back into dating after divorce/ breakup." Online dating is CRAWLING with predators: narcissists, sociopaths, cyberpaths -- etc. And the online "sex site" (i.e. - bangmatch.com, eroticy.com, adultfriendfinder.com, redpersonals.com - there are 100s) are the worst!!

And don't kid yourself -- it can be IMPOSSIBLE to know who someone really is, their criminal background and their TRUE intentions... EVEN IF YOU THINK YOU KNOW THEM!

STAY AWAY FROM ONLINE DATING!!! Volunteer, join a local group, go to the library and volunteer your time, join a running club or a gym. But never ever go looking for love, friendship, a pen pal or and old school pal online.

The online dating industry buries the bad stories. For each ONE of those good stories you hear? There are a minimum of 15-25 horror stories. Below is just one of them:

Texas man fights misdemeanor assault charge on Internet date gone awry

A Texas man with a home in Aspen faces assault and domestic violence charges after an Internet date allegedly ended in an scrap at the Hunter Creek trailhead in August 2007.

John Kirk Mitchell, 51, however, claims that the woman he met online was the one who started the fight. He said she had filed charges in a nearly identical situation involving her ex-husband in 2001.

And Mitchell, an oil executive in San Antonio, Texas, has hired an attorney from a high-profile Denver firm to prove it.

On Aug. 28, Mitchell and the woman, whose name is withheld because she is an alleged victim of domestic violence, were on a date after meeting on an Internet dating site, according to a police report.

Mitchell picked up the woman in Denver, where she had driven from her home in Fort Collins to meet him. Things went wrong at about 6 p.m. that evening, when the two began arguing over the music being too loud on the drive from Mitchell’s Aspen residence to the Hunter Creek trailhead, according to the woman’s statement in the police report.

Officers arrested Mitchell on charges of third-degree assault and took him to jail.

Mitchell’s attorneys say the woman has a history of lying to police over harassment and assault charges.

The case has been before the Pitkin County court for nearly a year. A possible plea deal in March fell through.

In a March 18 letter to Judge Erin Fernandez-Ely, the alleged victim implored the judge to deny Mitchell a plea deal that would have dropped the assault charges for a no-contest plea on disorderly conduct.

When the plea deal fell through, Mitchell dropped his local attorney, Lauren Maytin.

And after a four-month hiatus in court, Mitchell hired Jeffrey Pagliuca of the firm Haddon, Morgan, Mueller, Jordan, Mackey & Forman, P.C. in Denver. On Aug. 5, his attorneys filed a motion to admit a recent lie detector test Mitchell took.

On Wednesday, Ely set a trial date for Sept. 26, but Mitchell’s attorneys and Deputy District Attorney Richard Nedlin are negotiating a possible settlement.

Ely will consider the motions at a hearing scheduled for Sept. 24.


Tuesday, November 03, 2015

Spying on Partner's Email ILLEGAL

Spying on lover's e-mail? Monitoring may be illegal
Austin police have charged two recently with activity.
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By Tony Plohetski

Shawn Macleod wanted to know where his estranged wife was going on the Internet and what she was writing in e-mails, investigators said, so he secretly installed a program called SpyRecon on her computer that sent him electronic logs with the sites she had visited and messages she had sent.

His spying resulted in a four-year prison sentence.

Software programs created to monitor computer activity have grown in popularity in recent years as parents have sought ways to prevent children from accessing adult Web sites or e-mailing possible predators and as businesses have tried to curtail the time employees spend on the Internet when they are at work.

Others, too, have found a use for the software: Scorned lovers can track where their spouses or partners go online, whom they are e-mailing and what they are saying — all possibly in violation of the law.

Austin police considered Macleod's actions tantamount to illegal wiretapping and charged him with unlawful interception of electronic communication, a second-degree felony that can carry a 20-year sentence. Macleod pleaded guilty in May.

"It's pretty alarming," said Macleod's attorney, Johnny Urrutia.

Urrutia said he would be surprised if his client knew that what he was doing was against the law.

Doug Fowler, president of SpectorSoft Corp., which manufactures an Internet monitoring program called eBlaster, said law enforcement agencies nationwide have in recent months sought company records during criminal investigations, hoping the documents would show who installed the software on victims' computers.

In New York this year, a sheriff's deputy was found guilty of eavesdropping after investigators said he spied on the computer activity of a neighbor he thought posed a threat to young girls in their neighborhood.

The deputy was sentenced to five years of probation.

In California, a man was indicted on federal charges in 2005, accused of manufacturing, advertising and sending a program called Lovespy.

In that case, victims received an electronic greeting card that, when opened, would record e-mail messages and the Web sites they visited.

Austin police in recent months have charged two men, including Macleod, with the crime. The second case, filed last month, is pending.

Detective Darin Webster, who works in the department's high-tech crime division, said investigators also have looked into several other cases that didn't result in charges because the evidence had been destroyed or they couldn't conclusively determine who had installed the spyware.

"The problem itself isn't the software," Webster said. "The problem is how the software is being used. ... And in the cases I've seen, there are warnings on there that it may be against the law. In Texas, it is."

State law says it is illegal to intentionally intercept spoken or electronic communication.

The law grants some exceptions, such as to switchboard operators who might hear part of a conversation while doing their job.
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The law doesn't address certain questions about computer spyware, such as whether it is legal to install the equipment on a jointly owned computer without the consent of the second owner.

Employers typically have workers sign waivers acknowledging that they know the company computers are monitored.

Parents, as guardians of their minor children, are allowed to monitor their children's activities.

According to court records, Macleod's estranged wife, Kristy, reported to police in August 2005 that she suspected he was monitoring her computer use.

A detective using a fake name sent Kristy Macleod an e-mail offering to buy the couple's pool table.

A few days later, Shawn Macleod confronted Kristy Macleod about the e-mail, according to a probable cause affidavit.

Detectives searched the computer and found SpyRecon software on it, according to the affidavit.

Kristy Macleod could not be reached for comment. Company officials for SpyRecon did not respond to an interview request.

In an online advertisement, the company asks, "Have you ever needed to secretly read the e-mail of your child or spouse?"

In the second case Austin police filed, investigators said Alexis Lugo, 29, installed eBlaster software on his ex-girlfriend's computer.

An affidavit in that case said Kara Winebright called Austin police and reported that she thought Lugo had hacked into her computer and changed the password on some of her accounts.

Winebright said she had broken up with Lugo and later had discovered some unusual activity on her account with eHarmony, a dating Web site. She checked her other online accounts and found similar problems.

Police searched her computer and found the eBlaster software.

Ordinary anti-spy software might not detect such programs, but checking to see which programs and files have been downloaded to hard drives should reveal them, said Fowler, the manufacturer of eBlaster.

Fowler said his company intended for the software to be used only by parents or businesses, not by spying spouses or partners. The company marketed the product that way several years ago but stopped, he said.

"We ultimately decided that it wasn't a market we wanted to participate in," Fowler said. "There are certainly those who buy the software for this kind of thing. But we don't encourage it."