tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-172483712024-03-13T05:57:28.340+02:00Exposing Online Predators & CyberpathsOnline Players, Internet Predators, Cyberpaths, Dating Site Frauds, Cyberstalkers... whatever you call them - they need to be EXPOSED! Did they take your heart? your trust? Harass you? Tell your story... Share ideas for dealing with them... ('FAIR USE LAW' APPLIES TO ALL ARTICLES)Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger1044125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17248371.post-60072815293565364852018-01-30T01:58:00.000+02:002018-01-28T18:55:08.195+02:00DMCA Takedown & the Digital Millennium Copyright Act<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">by <a href="http://www.rexxfield.com/michael-roberts.php">Michael Roberts</a></span></b>
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<u><b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">What is the Digital Millennium Copyright Act (DMCA)?
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">The Digital Millennium Copyright Act (DMCA) is a copyright law of the United States that merges two 1996 treaties of the World Intellectual Property Organization (WIPO). Provisions are made therein to heighten the penalties for copyright infringement on the Internet. It was signed into law by President Bill Clinton on October 28, 1998 after passage by a unanimous vote in the United States Senate on October 12, 1998. Title 17 of the United States Code was amended by the DMCA to extend the reach of copyright while limiting the liability of on-line service providers for copyright infringement by their users.
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">The DMCA’s principal innovation in the field of copyright is <span style="color: #bf9000;">the exemption from direct and indirect liability of internet service providers and other intermediaries</span>. It was adopted by the European Union in the Electronic Commerce Directive 2000; the Copyright Directive 2001 implemented the 1996 WIPO Copyright Treaty in the EU.</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"><u>Use and Abuse of DMCA Take-Down Demands</u>
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Digital Millennium Copyright Act takedown demands can be an effective tool for the removal of unprotected, defamatory and fallacious speech from websites and from search engines for search results displayed as a result of searches on a particular subject, person or business. For the most part, search engines and Internet service providers are protected from liability for tort such as defamation and harassment as a result of another law called Section 230 of the Communications Decency Act (if defamation is provided by a 3rd party). <span style="color: #bf9000;">This can be incredibly frustrating for victims of the abuse of this safe harbor, particularly in instances where malicious and fallacious reports have been posted on websites such as RipOffReport.com, thedirty.com and CheaterVille.com.</span> In such instances, victims can take advantage of a DMCA take-down demands to both the websites displaying the offending material and the search engines. A word of warning though; if you direct such a take-down demand to websites with low value speech and poor social responsibility records, then you are effectively “telegraphing your punches”. In such instances, stealth might be your best friend, as such, it might be tactically and strategically prudent to limit your DMCA takedown demand to the search engines only. Let’s face it, if it is not on Google it may as well not exist no matter how damaging the allegations.
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">The safe harbor provisions of § 230C of the CDA do not extend to copyright violations in most instances, although there are provisions for reasonable notice to be given to the offending Internet service providers. Search engines such as Google might ignore take-down demands for defamatory search results linking to defamatory website, such as Ed Magedson’s Rip Off Report, pursuant to the immunity granted to them through § 230C. However, if such a demand is made on the basis of copyright breaches, you may submit a similar take-down, but based on copyrighted material such as photos, images, quotations, or other copyrighted material owned by you, or another party willing to support you in your take-down efforts. If you elect to submit such a take-down demand, I would caution you to completely avoid the defamatory context because it may invite deeper scrutiny by the receiving party such as Google. <span style="color: #bf9000;">Consequently, it may be rejected on the basis that the DMCA take-down demand is determined to be a disguise for relief from defamation, which as mentioned does not attract liability to the search engines because of § 230C.
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">(NOTE: If the copyright demand is for a photograph, then it must be made by the person who actually clicked the shutter! If you are actually in the photograph, then you are not the owner, unless you used a self-timer or tripod, or if you paid a third party to take the photograph in which case you can claim ownership of the photo based on “work for hire”.)
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">DMCA takedown demands can be directed to Google through the following web form; you are welcome to<a href="http://www.rexxfield.com/contact.php" target="_blank"> contact Rexxfield </a>if your problems persist, but for the most part, unless the problem is catastrophic and a clear and present danger to your livelihood is evident, we suggest you try this form first. There’s no need to spend money on our services if you can achieve results by yourself unless the problem is severe:
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<a href="http://support.google.com/bin/static.py?hl=en&ts=1114905&page=ts.cs" target="_blank"><b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Google DMCA Takedown Form</span></b></a><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">If you do not have a copyright breach vector, you might try the same form if the offending webpage is defamatory or harassing. We have seen limited success with this form on that basis, but do not hold your breath.</span></b><br />
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17248371.post-71812056578000185762017-03-13T00:07:00.000+02:002017-04-21T00:15:48.814+03:00Cops use dating site to lure guy who beat up his girlfriend during breakupBy Angela Matua<br />
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Cops from the 114th Precinct were able to find and arrest a violent criminal in Astoria, NY using non-traditional bait – the dating site Plenty of Fish, the precinct’s commander reported on Tuesday night.
On Dec. 5, 2016 at about 7:20 a.m., officers received a call about an assault in progress in Astoria. The victim told them that, while attempting to break up with her boyfriend, he punched her in the face with a nail in his hand. The woman suffered a laceration near her left eye, according to Deputy Inspector Peter Fortune, commanding officer of the 114th Precinct.
Cops were unable to find him, but they took a complaint report and kept the investigation open.<br />
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Officer Otto Pereira, a member of the domestic violence unit, took on the case. During the investigation, Pereira found out that the suspect had six criminal contempt charges for violating an order of protection from the same woman.
It was also discovered that he had checked into a drug rehabilitation center after the assault.<br />
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For weeks, it was impossible for police to know here he was being treated because of patient confidentiality laws. A break in the case came when the victim alerted police to a dating site profile he created on Plenty of Fish.
The free online dating site has more than 90 million registered users, according to its website.<br />
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Pereira advised the victim to make a fake profile to lure in her ex-boyfriend into a meeting.
“Surprisingly, after several days the perpetrator took the bait,” Fortune said.
On Jan. 25, the victim also called the suspect and convinced him to meet her at a bar in Manhattan. While the victim stayed at the precinct, a female officer went to the location to act as a decoy and the NYPD Warrent Squad was also there.<br />
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The suspect was arrested at the bar. The NYPD worked with District Attorney Richard A. Brown’s office to “enhance the case,” Fortune said. They discovered that the suspect, who is in his late 30s, had 42 previous arrests. Because of his arrests and six criminal contempt charges, the victim is now remanded in jail on an attempted murder charge.<br />
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Officer Pereira was honored with the Cop of the Month award for January during the Feb. 28 114th Precinct Community Council meeting “for his professionalism in which he conducted this though investigation,” Fortune said.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17248371.post-65267853539634128772017-01-14T00:11:00.000+02:002017-04-21T00:14:42.212+03:00Conman uses Online Dating to Scam 15 women out of $360Kby Cheyenne Roundtree For Dailymail.com<br />
A conman scammed hundreds of thousands of dollars out of 15 women after he posed as a billionaire businessman on big-name dating sites.
John Edward Taylor stole up to $360,000 from several women across the United States after pretending to be a wealthy businessman and an oil tycoon, a FBI report claims.
The 46-year-old allegedly would use dating sites such as eHarmony to trick women into relationships in order to steal their identities and gain access to their bank accounts.<br />
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John Edward Taylor, 46, scammed at least 15 women out hundreds of thousands of dollars, the FBI claims
Taylor, who also went by Jay Taylor, was operating his scam for the past five years, according to the complaint filed in New York in June 2016, according to NBC New York.<br />
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When a woman - who Taylor charged $60,0000 to an American Express card in her name - confronted him, he threatened to send sexually explicit photos of the woman to her employer, the FBI said.
Taylor allegedly wrote in a message: 'Have fun at [work]. I'm sending them all.'
He had obtained his victim's social security number when he pretended that he wanted to order furniture for her so he could open a store credit account.<br />
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He would meet women from cities such as New York City and Atlanta through a host of online dating sites such as eHarmony, Match and Seeking Arrangement, the complaint stated.
The conman would also trick his victims of their money by 'forgetting his wallet' at hotels or shelling out cash for expensive office rentals once they believed they were hired by him, NBC New York reported.<br />
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To another victim, Taylor allegedly said he was robbed at gunpoint and needed to use her credit card to buy things and spent $17,000.<br />
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Taylor was arrested at country club in Yardley, Pennsylvania and police believe he was living out of his car during the scams.
He faces up to 30 years in prison for charges of wire fraud, bank fraud, aggravated identity theft, and threatening interstate communications.<br />
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<a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4085448/Conman-billionaire-scams-15-women-hundreds-thousands-dollars-meeting-dating-site.html">FROM THIS SITE</a> </div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17248371.post-75825248785160951542016-07-23T08:27:00.000+03:002016-07-30T07:51:05.011+03:00Do They Fit the Checklist on Predators?<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">The other type of emotionally unavailable man is unavailable due to his relationship (or relationships) with another woman (or women). These guys are never really committed to a woman. <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">They don’t see any relationship as necessarily permanent, including marriage - even if they give lip service to being “deeply committed” to the woman they are with at the moment. </span><br /><br />In truth, however,<span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);"> they don’t truly value their intimate relationships or take them seriously, because they are merely “playing,”</span> even though engagement or marriage hardly seems like something to “play” at. They don’t take their relationships seriously because on some level - even if subconsciously - they know they can find someone else who will get involved with them if their current affair ends. What else would cause someone to repeatedly play his future like a crap-shoot without really fearing the outcome?<br /><br />…It is probably because women keep attempting to get close to him that causes him to keep moving from partner to partner or to keep adding partners. He is uninterested in experiencing or is unable to experience deep feelings of connection with anyone. CHECK!<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhzQFUlR5JA-b7JAG-_Jol05jBe4pMmkKN_iCasK3mCpc7Z93qkj9eTJ66DkRtDM3L7gGxc4K61HVuzIogWd0fS2O_ax0ZXpvneU0EHzrwz7Tdhn9a7QK1W0SDr4pkdd4V_hiUS/s320/HST_sal.jpg" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img alt="" border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhzQFUlR5JA-b7JAG-_Jol05jBe4pMmkKN_iCasK3mCpc7Z93qkj9eTJ66DkRtDM3L7gGxc4K61HVuzIogWd0fS2O_ax0ZXpvneU0EHzrwz7Tdhn9a7QK1W0SDr4pkdd4V_hiUS/s320/HST_sal.jpg" style="cursor: pointer; display: block; height: 192px; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; width: 320px;" /></a><br />…What is dangerous about emotionally unavailable men is that they are not authentically emotionally responsive. They are emotionally avoidant.<br /><br />…Some of these men may have a sexual addiction that fuels their pursuit of rapidly revolving, superficial relationships. Perhaps his sexual addiction takes the form of chronic and compulsive pornography use, a pattern that will diminish a man’s normal human responsiveness.<br /><br />… <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">be aware that [this type of man] will come across to you as a devoted father and husband or as an upstanding citizen of his community. Never discount the possibility that your emotionally unavailable man may have multiple hidden lives (always the case if he’s engaging in clandestine extramarital affairs) as well as being an emotional predator. </span>For example: emotional unavailability, plus life he keeps hidden from you, his wife or his girlfriend, plus the keen sixth sense of an emotional predator, plus a sexual addiction - help these pathological men thrive at attracting serial superficial relationships.<br /><br />If he is a sexual addict as well he will have a hidden life of endless porn watching, masturbation, voyeurism, and even using prostitutes. <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">Many times these men will cover their perversions with heavy involvement in community politics, their church or synagogue or doing volunteer work. And they will make sure this cover is very visible so no one suspects. </span><br /><br />Sexually addicted predators will not stop at you, they will go after your friends as well. <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">They think nothing of telling your friend that you mean nothing to them and that you are possibly “imagining” the relationship. They will tell their wives the same things about you or any other woman they know insisting “she’s jealous of us and is obsessed with me.” </span>They are masterful jugglers of time and people.<br /><br />…a woman’s availability itself is a deciding factor… “any port in a storm” will provide adequate distraction from the reality of his life.<br /><br />Womanizers also look for women who will believe their stories about their home life. Very few of them tell women how happy they are at home, how wonderful their wife is, and how they just really want to have extramarital sex with no strings attached. No, that usually isn’t the story line. The story line goes: “<span style="font-style: italic;">No one has ever really loved me, and certainly not my wife. She nags… </span>doesn<span style="font-style: italic;">’t appreciate me… hates sex…”</span><br /><br />Women take this hook too often. …they will be able to make him <span style="font-style: italic;">“finally feel loved… listened to… appreciated.”</span> <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">His need is not “</span><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102); font-style: italic;">once and for all to be loved</span><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">” as much as it is to get laid, be amused and be distracted.</span><br /><br />A womanizer may be highly verbal about his relationships. He may share personal information in such a way that women mistake his sharing for emotional intimacy… <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">He knows well enough that women are empathic to tales of empty and sad relationships… </span><br /><br />An interesting point is that almost every woman who told us her story about getting involved with an emotionally unavailable man said<span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);"> it happened at a time when her self-esteem was low. [She] was coming out of a relationship situation that had damaged her self-esteem (such as being abused or even going through a divorce).</span> Women accept far more during times of low self-esteem than they do when their self-esteem is sound. A belief that she doesn’t deserve a whole, satisfying and healthy relationship is a reflection of how low her self-esteem is. If a man gives a woman who suffers with low-self esteem a little attention… then too often she willingly falls [for him].<br /><br />The emotional predator is as bad as it gets. <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">He qualifies as the pinnacle of poisonous and pathological… </span>He could, in fact, be called the “emotional psychic.” That’s because it’s his ability to intuit and sense a woman’s emotional vulnerabilities that places her at risk. Webster’s defines predatory as <span style="font-style: italic;">“having a disposition to injure or exploit others for one’s own gain";</span> it defines predator as <span style="font-style: italic;">“one that preys, destroys or devours.”</span> That’s a good summation of this man. Who but the most pathological among us would set out to exploit, prey on, destroy or devour?<br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">He will hone in on your vulnerabilities and read you. If he likes what he reads, he will follow up by luring you into his scary and dangerous life.</span><br /><br />Predators have a natural ability for reading women who are lonely, needy by nature, emotionally wounded or vulnerable. The predator also has his antennae up for women who… have unfulfilled needs in their lives. …<span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">he figures out how he can squeeze into the vacant space in your life and what you need to hear in order to allow this to happen. </span><br /><br />…[they] “sense” which woman will make the best target for them. They don’t know why they have this gift or how they acquired it. …they have been working women over since childhood. <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">A predator’s intuitive sixth sense is untaught. …an adult’s skills can’t compete with his abilities to scam, con and conquer. </span><br /><br />…emotional predators also fall into the mentally-ill category, usually under the diagnosis of antisocial personality disorder. Most also have hidden lives. When you couple a predator’s natural instincts with a lifetime of skills honed by successfully conning, exploiting and injuring women, you have <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">a man who is nothing short of extraordinarily smooth and capable of horrific dangerousness. </span><br /><br />Predators’ motives vary. But you can be sure <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">a predator wants something from you. That is the entire reason for the relationship. …There is something in you that he wants. Maybe “all” he wants is your utter adoration or for you to exalt his ego. …Maybe wants what you can provide to help establish his image so he will marry you (’good family man’). Or maybe …he’s most interested in the pursuit and conquest of a woman… If he is a sexual predator, you are a target, whether it be for consensual sex or rape - depending on whichever way it plays out or whatever mood he is in.</span><br /><br />A predator does not “need” the relationship. <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">Early on… the predator is deliberately romantic. Predators are shifting chameleons who can be all things to all women. Predators are smooth as silk. …predators are listeners who will give up very little information until they are sure it will align with your history. …His selection is based on his need and your vulnerability. He knows it’s a matter of matching need with need. The more he knows about your needs, the better he can meet them. </span><br /><br />He has a nose for vulnerability, so women who have unmet needs “smell” especially good to him. He seeks women who need men who can “sense and know” them on almost a spiritual level. Since he is good at this, he will appear to know you well - and quickly.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><br />They like women who had absent fathers, angry mothers or neglectful and abusive husbands. <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">Knowing that many women are trained to believe that people are basically good at heart, predators will present themselves as men of honor and virtue…. But because he is a chameleon, he will listen closely to see if you also need a mentor, an adviser on some topic, a spiritual leader, or a male friend. </span><br /><br />During counseling sessions I’ve had with men who are emotional predators, some have verbalized their targets. One said, <blockquote>
<span style="font-size: 130%;">“I look for naive women. I like a certain vulnerability to her - <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">that she trusts humanity without asking for proof. Maybe she’s been hurt a lot so there’s a “</span>woundedness<span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">” to her. That vulnerability makes them believe you, because they need to believe you.”</span> </span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-size: 130%;">“I like the women who have been pounded down by men and those with childhoods that weren’t so good. They are particularly easy.” </span></blockquote>
<br />It is important to understand that each predator has developed his own unique style. He has a “type” or two of women he prefers because with those types he has mastered the approach, the dating, and the ‘end.’ He doesn’t have to think very hard if he just uses the profile he’s had success with. One predator may prefer recently divorced or divorcing women because he succeeds at playing that angle with them.<br /><br />… these guys can show a woman they definitely “get it.” <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">They show you all the attention that the jerks you’</span>ve<span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);"> been with haven’t. They say all the right lines that the men in your past could never verbalize. They are brilliant and insightful about what you need. They seem to know exactly every pain you have suffered. </span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">With more skill than a carnival psychic, the emotional predator can hone in on your every need, sympathize with you in such a way so that you believe you’</span>ve<span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);"> met your long lost </span>soulmate<span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);"> and sweep you off your feet… He’s… more insightful than a therapist. He “knows” you the way no one else ever has. </span><br /><br />This guy moves FAST. He’s got to - <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">before you figure out what his M.O. is</span>. Every woman should be suspect of the relationships that seem to be traveling in the fast lane on the super-highway of emotional intimacy. <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">A predator needs to keep you so euphoric with compliments and lover’s talk that you </span>aren<span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">’t listening, or paying attention. He is dripping with sincerity and clinging to every word you say. A predator wants to consummate the relationship with you right away, because time is against him.</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">To move the relationship along and be indispensable to you, he must act helpful, comforting and generous. </span>Since he is working against the clock, he must find out what you need and then meet that need.<br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">While listening to you and observing you, he will glean a lot of information about your hobbies, interests, spiritual beliefs and value systems. He is the original identity thief. He uncovers and uses for his own purposes everything he can about what makes you - YOU.</span> He will find you amazing, beautiful, bright and talented - like no one he has EVER met before. He will align how he portrays himself with your needs and also your interests until you feel like you are looking at your twin.<br /><br />Finally, <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">another way predators succeed with women is by preying on their compassion. </span>Once a woman is in the grip of a predator, anything can happen.<br /><br /><span style="font-size: 130%;"><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">[Once a woman sees their stories] for the crock they are and bust them for their fake opinions with them, they will try and turn the table and make it seem it was the woman who had emotional problems!<br /><br /><span style="font-size: 85%;">(the original was written in the male gender; your predator may be female)</span></span></span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17248371.post-1132113436974084212016-06-17T08:56:00.000+03:002016-07-30T07:47:50.591+03:00THE CYBER-LOTHARIO<center face="arial" style="font-weight: bold;">
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<span style="font-weight: bold;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">Are you writing to someone who is romancing you off your feet? Does this guy seem to know just what to say or write that gets you a step or two further down the garden path?</span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-size: 130%; font-weight: bold;"><br /></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-size: 130%; font-weight: bold;">Perhaps more dangerous than the notorious Internet rapists and murderers are the Cyber Lotharios. Maybe you know one. Smooth as silk. Seduction is his native language. </span></blockquote>
<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">More dangerous, because these guys (well, there are girls too, but I am more familiar with the guys) are GOOD.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">These guys are the Internet equivalent of a Bill Clinton, if Bill Clinton hadn't gotten caught. They are the cyber version of handsome -- they write beautifully, know just what you want to hear and tell you. They POUR it on, and for a thirsty (abused, lonely, sick, divorced or just unsuspecting) woman, it is nectar from the Gods. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">These fellows post on dating/ reunion/ single parents/ penpal sites indefinitely, waiting for the unsuspecting newbie(s) to the site. You might contact him, he might contact you, but like an expert salesman, </span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-size: 130%; font-weight: bold;">he knows a pigeon when he sees one.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">Then slowly, softly, but determinably, he has his way with you. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">How do you tell if you have one of these guys on the wire? What if he is a really nice guy, really meaning every word he says?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-size: 130%; font-weight: bold;">Well, one clue would be if you find yourself agreeing to or even doing things that you never would if you were in your right mind.</span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"> <span style="font-style: italic;">Particularly</span> if that has to do with sex. Or maybe money. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">These guys make manipulation feel like a warm bath. They profile you subtley, making it <span style="font-style: italic;">seem </span>like they are "interested" in you and actually "care" about you. (They don't.)<br /><br />You just slide right in and it feels delicious.<br /></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">But there is a certain vagueness or inconsistency, particularly about past relationships, and perhaps about future plans. <span style="font-style: italic;">("I love you but I can't be with you....", "I have decided we can never be together"</span>, saying <span style="font-style: italic;">"I love you"</span> before they have met you and spent SUBSTANTIAL TIME with you - and NOT in bed either!)<br /><br />These guys may reassure, but they also will leave themselves a way out. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: 130%;"><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">How can you tell? </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">Well, one thing you can do is ask for a relationship history. Then pay attention to how he responds, as well as what he actually says. </span><br />
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<span style="font-style: italicfont-family:arial; font-weight: bold;">Does he groan and moan about doing the job? Is he grudging in what he tells you?</span><br />
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<span style="font-style: italicfont-family:arial; font-weight: bold;">Or is he open and serious, understanding what you are asking and why? </span><br />
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<span style="font-style: italicfont-family:arial; font-weight: bold;">Does he seem to have trouble remembering his own history, what her name was, what order the different relationships came in?</span><br />
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<span style="font-style: italicfont-family:arial; font-weight: bold;">Does he offer some information but leave a LOT of blanks in what he says?</span><br />
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<span style="font-style: italicfont-family:arial; font-weight: bold;">Is he reluctant to divulge, or does he sound like he is fudging?</span><br />
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<span style="font-style: italicfont-family:arial; font-weight: bold;">Or does he hold up one old girlfriend or two as the "one who got away" or the most "incredible sex/ relationship I ever had"? (making you feel inadequate or that you have to DO things you're uncomfortable with to measure up!)</span><br />
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<span style="font-style: italicfont-family:arial; font-weight: bold;">Does he make you feel like Number One; then over time - talk about the other Number Ones who left 'poor' him?</span><br />
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<span style="font-style: italicfont-family:arial; font-weight: bold;">Does he say HE broke it off, then a few weeks or months later say SHE broke it off?</span><br />
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<span style="font-style: italicfont-family:arial; font-weight: bold;">Does he say "I never should have married my wife" (if he admits to being married) or "the divorce is almost final"?</span><br />
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<span style="font-style: italicfont-family:arial; font-weight: bold;">Does he get upset when you say you are going to run a background check on him?</span><br />
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<span style="font-style: italicfont-family:arial; font-weight: bold;">Does he seem to be moving you fast towards a romantic getaway?</span><br />
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<span style="font-style: italicfont-family:arial; font-weight: bold;">Maybe he makes plans for the two of you to meet, and reserves only one room.</span><br />
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<span style="font-style: italicfont-family:arial; font-weight: bold;">Or does he hedge saying he can't control himself and doesn't know if you should meet?</span><br />
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<span style="font-style: italicfont-family:arial; font-weight: bold;">Is he heavily sexually suggestive and titillating? Do most chats turn to sex?</span><br />
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<span style="font-style: italicfont-family:arial; font-weight: bold;">Does he ask questions like "What are you wearing?" or "Are you alone?" </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">Even though a new and legitimate relationship can be highly sexually charged, a guy who is seriously interested in you and a possible future with you will be protective and understanding of you and your feelings</span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-size: 130%; font-weight: bold;">.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">If you feel antsy, pay attention. If your hormones may be doing your thinking, put on the brakes. Better to let this dangerous Clark Gable type swim away than to be left flat and busted. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-size: 85%; font-weight: bold;"><span style="font-style: italic;">Kathryn Lord - 2004</span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17248371.post-1149385019842387362016-05-10T07:30:00.000+03:002016-05-13T23:50:53.659+03:00IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT<center>
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<span style="color: rgb(0,0,102)font-family:arial; font-weight: bold;">Just some of the things the victims of an internet predator say.....</span><br />
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<span style="color: rgb(0,0,102)font-family:arial; font-weight: bold;">One of our </span><a href="http://groups.google.com/group/EOPC" style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102); font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">discussion group</a><span style="color: rgb(0,0,102)font-family:arial; font-weight: bold;"> contributors and a victim themselves - recently wrote the below to a reader who was blaming herself and was chided for her obsession to get to the bottom of what her apparent cyberpath was.</span><br />
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<span style="color: rgb(0,0,102)font-family:arial; font-weight: bold;">It was so powerful we asked and got permission from this contributor to reprint her response here (edited for clarity). Everyone should read it and heed it.</span><br />
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<span style="color: rgb(0,0,102)font-family:arial; font-weight: bold;">There's no fault when dealing with a cyberpath. Remember "PREDATORS HUNT THE WOUNDED" - EOPC</span><br />
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<span style="font-weight: bold;"><i>THIS CONTRIBUTOR SAYS:</i></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">Let's get focused on him - the internet "friend" you say is NOT a cyberpath - because it was with HIM you interacted with and HE'S the cause for all the stress and suffering you are going through nowadays.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">It's more than obvious (and I want you to take me seriously) this guy is not so wonderful as you think and say he is. An emotionally stable, honest man, who is looking for a serious relationship or even a friendship over the Internet, <span style="font-size: -0;">will not create a profile on a sex site</span> (such as <a href="http://www.adultfriendfinder.com/">AdultFriendFinder</a> or <a href="http://www.eroticy.com/">Eroticy </a>to name a couple)</span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"> and won't try to find possible real/ serious partners on a sex site!.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">You had a profile there because as you said, your marriage wasn't good. I understand. When we are in emotional pain we can do stupid things. But believe me, even on a seemingly innocent site like <a href="http://www.penpalworld.com/">PenPalWorld</a>, or reunion sites like <a href="http://www.classmates.com/">Classmates.com</a> and the online dating sites, recovery sites, single parent sites, Facebook, you can find idiots, posers, players, etc. <span style="font-style: italic;">(the predator stories on EOPC will tell you just that!!)</span><br /><br />The possibility of finding them on a sex site is higher (sex addicts, narcissists, sociopaths, users and abusers love the Internet and they place themselves on these sites just waiting for the next victim). A sex site can be the ideal place. They will find lots of people to communicate with, to chat occasionally, to have cybersex with and nothing more than that. Casual, no strings. The difference is that on a sex site, they don't need to lie as much as they do on a dating or e-friends site.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">This type of man - the one you e-tripped upon - when they feel someone is starting to get emotionally attached to them, they will do everything to get rid of you or drive you crazy. Emails will go unanswered, generally with the excuse they are busy, sick or whatever their imagination can make up. Or they answer emails with short lines like "I</span><span style="font-style: italicfont-family:arial; font-weight: bold;"> don't know what to say/ tell you</span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">" or "</span><span style="font-style: italicfont-family:arial; font-weight: bold;">Thanks</span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">" or "</span><span style="font-style: italicfont-family:arial; font-weight: bold;">we will talk later</span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">."</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">They're either never online on Skype, etc. </span><span style="font-style: italicfont-family:arial; font-weight: bold;">(they are - they just appear to be offline - blocking those they're not interested to chat with)</span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">. Or they are there - putting on their AWAY or BUSY messages or just plain IGNORING you & PURPOSELY HURTING you by putting these messages up. (usually busy with other women!)</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: 180%; font-weight: bold;">They make it all your fault! </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">They will even tell you they are</span><span style="font-style: italicfont-family:arial; font-weight: bold;"> busy working</span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"> if you try to IM them anyway. These guys are emotional vampires and mental sadists.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">When something like this happens, its clear, they are not really interested in any type of </span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-size: 130%; font-weight: bold;">genuine</span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"> communication. I know by experience (</span><span style="font-style: italicfont-family:arial; font-weight: bold;">although on a different level)</span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"> it's time to say "bye bye - have a nice life."</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">Unfortunately most of the times we can't. </span><span style="font-style: italicfont-family:arial; font-weight: bold;">We have feelings - they don't</span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">. We would not do that to someone and can't understand why they are doing it to us. We blame ourselves for the situation and we wonder over and over, what have we done so wrong, to get such cold treatment. Actually, we did nothing wrong.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">However, they've allowed us to put them on such a pedestal that we can't see the real truth. We think they' the best thing in the world, better than sliced bread.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-size: 130%; font-weight: bold;">We idealize them and they knowingly allow it without telling us the truth.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">So, I know what you feel and empathize with you, but he is not 'a great guy' and it wasn't your fault.<br /><br />You just didn't know the best way to deal with him. The best would've been ignoring him, but gradually he made himself an obsession to you, always in your mind, a fruit of your desire. Your need for emotional connection made him into something he wasn't and it's not your fault. He could have responded to you and said something but he didn't. He let you dangle there confused... (this is a SEDUCTION method used by cyberpaths remember?)<br /><span style="font-size: 130%;"><br /></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="font-size: 130%;"><span style="font-style: italic;">Keep Them in Suspense: What Comes Next The moment people feel they know what to expect from you, your spell on them is broken. More: you have ceded them power. The only way to lead the seduced along and keep the upper hand is to create suspense, a calculated surprise. People love a mystery, and this is the key to luring them farther into your web. Behave in a way that leaves them wondering, What are you up to? <br />(from </span><a href="http://cyberpaths.blogspot.com/2006/12/lures-of-online-predator.html" style="font-style: italic;">LURES OF THE ONLINE PREDATOR)</a><span style="font-style: italic;">)</span></span></span></blockquote>
<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><br /><span style="font-family: "arial";">You are a sensitive caring person who doesn't just use and drop people when you are done using them - even online. <span style="color: #f1c232;"><span style="font-size: 180%;">He is.</span></span></span></span><br />
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<a href="https://ipredator-educationviewsor.netdna-ssl.com/wp-content/uploads/grooming-online-sexual-predation-internet-predator-ipredator-new-york-800X563.png" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"></a><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">And here you go blaming yourself. "It was my fault", "I shouldn't have said this and that", "I shouldn't have done what I did",</span><span style="font-weight: bold;"> etc... Ok, you sent him some e-mails, even a love letter... All of us victims have done things like that. Maybe because on the chats he was sweet, he called you "Princess", but unfortunately it </span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">was just words he didn't mean.<br /><br />See how he avoided giving you his address? He doesn't want any type of contact with ANYONE except for "discreet sex encounters."<br /><br />That's not the actions of a nice guy.<br />This isn't a normal person.<br />Keep that all in mind.<br /><br /><span style="font-family: "arial";">The e-mail he sent you was 100% bullsh*t. I'd bet money he wasn't going to '<span style="font-style: italic;">get married</span>.' I also doubt he was '<span style="font-style: italic;">in love with</span>' someone. Guys who are really "in love" don't go on sex sites looking for a little fun.<br /><br />He said that to get you out of the way and then to scare you he mentioned he would call the police if he heard from you again. This isn't the behavior of a nice guy. <span style="font-style: italic;">(typical predator move - now the victim is a "stalker" because they want & deserve answers! )</span><br /><br />He probably has <span style="font-family: "arial";">many friends from the sex site he exchanges e-mails with, many others to chat with, many to have cybersex with -- both he and they: without any emotional attachment. That makes him "busy" and obviously he is not on a sex site for genuine romance.<br /><br />I'd also bet he was busy with other women online (<span style="font-style: italic;">you know what I mean).</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: "arial";">Understand this situation isn't the way you have pictured it in your head: that others are good and you're a bad person for letting it get this far. <span style="font-size: 180%;">This isn't true. </span>Don't beat yourself up this way.<br /><br /><span style="font-family: "arial";">A good and nice guy would have interacted with you differently. The e-mail would have been different. He'd have been straight and honest with you. He'd have told you he wants no emotional involvement and just wanted sex. Problem is this guy most probably uses and abuses women. It's obvious. He thinks women are objects.<br /><br />Notice how that female friend of his told you if you had met him in person, you could see how flawed he was "in heart, mind and body". She gave you the accurate picture.<br /><br /><span style="font-family: "arial";">He is not a nice guy, much less principled. He is another jerk on a sex site! There are thousands like him.</span><br /><span style="font-family: "arial";">Although you don't think so, it's a good thing you didn't remain friends with him. He would have caused even more damage to you. At any moment he would have revealed his true personality and you'd see the <span style="font-family: "arial";">idiot he is -- then you would have been reeling.</span><br /><br />I know, I have been there. Study his motives and see how he is an idiot with a oversize ego who thinks women are good for only one thing: Sex.<br /><br /><span style="font-family: "arial";">Sorry but he is a jerk, not you! </span><br />Stop blaming yourself!</span></span></span></span></span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17248371.post-55764744459937558492016-04-14T13:36:00.000+03:002016-04-15T13:42:21.346+03:00Man Arrested for Murdering and Dismembering Woman he Met Online<center>
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">USA -- The man suspected of murdering a woman he met online has been ordered held on $2 million bail.</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">A King County District Court judge found probable cause Tuesday to hold 37-year-old John Charlton for investigation of second-degree murder in the death of 40-year-old Ingrid Lyne, a mother of three from Renton whose partial remains were found in a recycling bin in Seattle's Central District on Saturday.</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">During the hearing, prosecutors revealed new details of the crime, including the fact that investigators believe Lyne was killed in her own home, dismembered in her bathtub, and transported in her own car to the location where her remains were dumped.</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">King County Deputy Prosecutor Jennifer Worley said Seattle police crime scene investigators "found bits of human flesh and blood in bathtub drain" in Lyne's home, where they also located a 15-inch pruning saw.</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Lyne, a nurse at Seattle's Swedish Medical Center, has three daughters, ages 12, 10, and 7.</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">According to probable cause documents, Charlton told detectives that he and Lyne had been dating for about a month and that he had spent nights at her home on previous occasions. He said he and Lyne returned to her home Friday night after attending a Mariners game.</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">"Charlton claimed that he had been so intoxicated on Friday night that he could not recall how he and Lyne returned to her residence after the Mariners game, or what transpired when they got there," the documents said. "He said he believed they had sex, and said Lyne was acting 'weird', but could not or would not provide further details."</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Charlton said he was unsure how he left Lyne's home, "claiming that he assumed she must have driven him back to Seattle, where, he claimed, he slept on the sidewalk," the documents said. "Charlton said that he didn't think Lyne had plans with anyone else that night."</span></b></blockquote>
<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Charlton said he spent the following Saturday and Sunday night at the home of an ex-girlfriend in Lake Stevens.
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Police said that during the interview, Charlton denied having any injuries but that detectives "observed abrasions on his forehead, an injury to his lip, and to his chin. He also had scratches to his chest area and an abrasion on his left hand," the documents said.
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">The documents added that Charlton has a criminal history in six states that includes convictions for aggravated robbery, felony theft, grand theft motor vehicle, fourth-degree assault and third-degree larceny. He also has arrests for burglary.
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Lyne's mother, Jorga Bass, texted Charlton on Saturday asking where she could find her daughter, who was not at home when Lyne's ex-husband, Phil Lyne, tried to drop off their kids, who lived with their mother. But Ingrid Lyne's purse and cell phone were in the apartment.</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">He responded, "My name is John. I thought she was with her kids today?"</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Bass replied, "When did you see her last? She's not here, her phone is here and driver's license and purse but she's not, please respond, I've called 911."</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">"911?" Charlton responded. "What's going on? We went to the Mariners game last night but we didn't stay the night together because she has her kids today ... not sure what she had told you about me and our relationship."</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">"She's missing," the mother said. "What time did you see her last. A police officer needs to speak to you as you may be the last person who saw her. Please call [telephone number]."</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">When Charlton did not respond, she texted, "Can you please call me? I know your name is John Charlton so please call me."
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">In her final text, Bass wrote, "Please John, did Ingrid say anything about someone coming to see her after you separated from her last night. We can't find her or her car. As I said her phone and ID and purse are at her house but she and her car are gone without a trace. Any help would be appreciated. We are desperate. She would never just go off and leave her family."
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">She apparently received no response.
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Charlton's next court date is Thursday, which is also the deadline for prosecutor's to file any charges.
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Gordon Hill, Charlton's public defender, said at a court appearance Tuesday that no forensic evidence had linked any particular person to the crime.
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Hill also said no time of death was established in the certification of probable cause that overlaps with time Charlton was with Lyne.
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Court records show the suspect's parents once sought a restraining order against him, saying they feared for their safety because of their son's drunken outbursts.
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">The records show that the parents of John Robert Charlton filed for the temporary protection order in 2006.
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Ray and JoAnn Charlton said their son tried to provoke a fight with them when he was drunk and abusive.
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">The petition was later dismissed at the parents' request.
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">John Robert Charlton was convicted of a 2009 felony theft in Montana, negligent driving in Washington state in 1998, and a second-degree felony for aggravated robbery in Utah in 2006. Court records also show a battery charge in Idaho in 2009.
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Seattle police have said they believe the human remains are those of Lyne, who was reported missing on Saturday. She worked as a nurse in Seattle.
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Friends say she had planned to go on a date to a Mariners baseball game Friday night with <span style="color: #f1c232;">someone she met online.
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Seattle police found Lyne's SUV in downtown Seattle on Monday after taking the 37-year-old Charlton into custody.
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">On Saturday, Seattle police say three adult body parts — including a foot — were found in a homeowner's recycling bin in Seattle's Central District just after 4 p.m. Investigators later identified the remains as being those of Lyne.
O'Toole said the King County Medical Examiner's Office will officially confirm the victim's identity.
In cooperation with the Renton Police Department, a search warrant was served in their jurisdiction, and evidence was recovered, including telephone calls, that helped police identify a suspect.
Police said, based on that evidence, Charlton was arrested in connection with Lyne's murder and booked into the King County Jail for investigation of homicide.
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"><u>Neighbors quickly became worried
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">The last time neighbors say they saw Lyne was at her mailbox Friday before she headed out for her date with Charlton. Friends say the two met online and had been dating since last month.
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">In Renton, Lyne's neighbors say investigators were in the neighborhood all weekend.
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Getting choked up at times, Edward Franceschina earlier shared his concern over the disappearance of his neighbor Ingrid Lyne, who he says he saw more as a daughter.
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">“I don’t know; it’s not good,” said Franceschina. “The purse, the telephone and everything was in the house.”
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Franceschina said he last saw the Renton mom on Friday afternoon checking her mail before heading to a Seattle Mariners game. When she didn’t show to pick up her kids Saturday morning, her friends raised the alarm.
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Lyne was a nurse at Seattle's Swedish Medical Center.
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Detectives believe the body parts had been packaged and placed in the bin near 21st Avenue and Pine Street sometime late Friday or on Saturday. The bin had been emptied of recyclables Friday.</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Police say they searched other bins in the area but found nothing of note.</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"><a href="http://q13fox.com/2016/04/12/grisly-details-revealed-in-murder-of-renton-mom-suspect-claimed-he-was-too-drunk-to-remember-prosecutors-say/">ORIGINAL ARTICLE FOUND HERE</a></span></b></center>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17248371.post-59441654411287685282016-03-11T09:49:00.000+02:002016-03-11T09:49:02.456+02:00Online Romance or Stalker/Catfish?<center>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">This week’s “Catfish” took a trip to Creepy Town when it appeared Nev and Max might be dealing with a stalker. The online romance between Ayissha and Sydney started off innocently enough, but things went south quickly when the latter avoided taking the relationship offline.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Sydney and Ayissha had developed a storybook romance from a chance Twitter encounter, but by the time Ayissha contacted N and M, Sydney’s stalkerish behavior had reached scary heights. A explained how S would never meet her in person when she came into town and kept blaming her second job for it. Because of the issue, the two lovebirds eventually ended their romance.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">After the breakup, Ayissha went to a party and kissed another girl. Oddly enough, her now ex-girlfriend texted her that same night, saying only, “I have a feeling… Ur somewhere ur not supposed to be.” After an argument, Sydney admitted to being named Whitney and sent her ex an entirely new set of photos. Despite the admission of guilt, Ayissha still had a lot of love for Whitney and found it difficult to quit her, even though Whitney had already caused A to miss midterms and drop out of school. The tarnished love story had some big consequences.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">The sleuths started by going through the catfish’s Facebook page. Immediately, they noticed that she and Ayissha shared mutual friends. Three of these pals — Markeith, James and Eric — also shared many mutual friends with Ayissha. Nev and Max reached out to the guys to find out if they knew Whitney; as they waited for responses, they discovered that Whitney’s phone number was associated with a Whitney Shanice Robinson.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">The next day, one by one, each of the boys responded to Nev with variations on the same response: “I don’t know who Whitney Shanice is.” The similarity of their responses led Max to realize that Whitney was likely running the guys’ profiles to keep multiple tabs on her victim’s behavior by checking their mutual friends’ statuses.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">At this point, there was nothing left for Ayissha to do but confront Whitney. Both sides were apprehensive about coming face to face but finally agreed to meet near W’s home in Texas.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">As is typical with catfish, Whitney looked quite different from the two photo sets she sent Ayissha, but she wasn’t as vicious as expected. In a local park, she explained to an understandably distraught Ayissha that catfishing gave her a way to reach out and gain love from people after her mom’s negative reaction to her coming out.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">It was a sad, potentially scary situation that seemed to find a good ending — even though the two women did not remain in touch: At the close of the show, Ayissha was back in school and Whitney had joined the Navy.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"><a href="http://www.mtv.com/news/2238470/catfish-stalker-sydney-ayissha/">article from this site</a></span><br /><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"></span></center>
<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"><br /></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17248371.post-1148788458223215432016-03-02T07:21:00.000+02:002016-03-04T02:07:19.334+02:00OH THE THINGS CYBERPATHS SAY!<center style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><br />Just a few words about the reactions of online predators we have profiled or those we have helped to expose behind the scenes of this blog. </span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204); font-style: italic;"></span><br /></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">In the time this blog has been up and running - we have only heard from ONE online predator who threatened us directly with legal action. We welcomed it since we had done nothing wrong and could back up everything we had. <span style="font-style: italic;">(this is the reason for our stringent rules for exposure) </span>Of course, this Cyberpath dropped the whole thing.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-style: italic;"><br /></span><a href="http://cyberpathlinks.blogspot.com/2008/05/brad-dorsky.html">Brad Dorsky</a></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">, who threatened us, seemed to think he was dealing with a bunch of vindictive teenagers on a social networking site - he thought wrong. </span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"> <a href="http://cyberpathlinks.blogspot.com/2008/05/brad-dorsky.html">Mr. Dorsky</a> </span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">said he was going to his local police - we told him to <span style="font-style: italic;">please feel free as we would be happy to speak to the FBI about his contacting someone out of the country and grooming her until she was no longer a minor to talk about violent sexual acts online with her that traumatized her</span>. (Cyberpaths love to see how far they can push you after they have brainwashed you)</span>.<br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-style: italic;"><a href="http://cyberpathlinks.blogspot.com/2008/05/brad-dorsky.html">Mr. Dorsky</a></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"> later had a friend of his write to us - wanting to know who we were, who gave us the information about them and tell us Dorsky was 'a good person.' We did not give out the name of the person who gave us the information. We are happy to post rebuttals or clarifying information.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">Also, we encouraged him to seek counseling for the way he had treated his victims and even offered to help him find a counselor in their area. We never heard from him again; nor did we remove any of the postings. hhmmmm......</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">We have reports of </span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="font-size: 130%;"><a href="http://cyberpathlinks.blogspot.com/2007/06/j-aka-gridney-aka-yidwithlid-aka-sammy.html">cyberpaths </a></span><span style="color: rgb(255 , 0 , 0); font-size: 130%;"><a href="http://cyberpathlinks.blogspot.com/2007/06/j-aka-gridney-aka-yidwithlid-aka-sammy.html">filing restraining or cease & desist orders or DMCA Takedowns on their victims</a> </span></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">to turn it around make themselves or their families look like the hurt party. <a href="http://cyberpaths.blogspot.com/2007/05/mike-campbell-strikes-back.html">Some, we guess, have enough money to drag all their victims to court and blame them for not controlling the whole internet</a><span style="font-style: italic;"><a href="http://cyberpaths.blogspot.com/2007/05/mike-campbell-strikes-back.html">.</a> </span>Most times - they have taken doctored or 'selective' information to law enforcement to get these orders. Law enforcement is often SHOCKED when they find out they have been lied to by these seemingly 'upright citizens.'</span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="font-size: 130%;"><br /></span></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">Sheer stupidity. <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">All to support lies.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">None of the ones we know have resulted in much of anything <span style="font-style: italic;">(other than the emotional trauma) </span>legally for the victims. All have been dropped.</span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="font-size: 130%;"></span><br /></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">- We had one cyberpath, </span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-style: italic;"><a href="http://cyberpaths.blogspot.com/2006/07/steven-langley-guy.html">Steven Langley Guy</a></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">, write us as his EX WIFE and that "he" had tried to commit suicide because we called him 'a predator.' <span style="font-style: italic;">(why would an EX-WIFE be using his computer?? and he IS a predator)</span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">- Then </span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-style: italic;"><a href="http://cyberpaths.blogspot.com/2006/07/steven-langley-guy.html">Mr. Guy</a></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"> wrote that he was hiring a lawyer <span style="font-style: italic;">(many of them SAY this, virtually none of them really do it!!)</span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">- And finally - "he" wrote as the person who exposed him begging us to remove him.</span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-style: italic;"><br /></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-size: 130%;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0);"></span></span></span></span><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102); font-family: "arial";">ALL FROM THE SAME IP NUMBER.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "arial";">These predators really think we're that stupid?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-style: italic;"><br /></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">EOPC asked him for the same "proof" we ask from those who turn this information over to us. <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">To date - NO ONE EXPOSED HERE has been able to show us any hard proof that anything we have posted here was false or fabricated. </span>These cyberpaths and all others remain on our site.</span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-style: italic;"><br /></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><br />We can see that our cyberpaths come to this blog, searching for who is here - who posted against them. Some even search all the defamation and free speech links for some loophole. <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102); font-style: italic;">(<span style="text-decoration: underline;">K</span></span></span><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102); font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="color: rgb(51 , 51 , 255);"><a href="http://cyberpaths.blogspot.com/2006_04_01_cyberpaths_archive.html">eith Clive </a>, <a href="http://cyberpathlinks.blogspot.com/2008/07/daniel-jacoby-dan-jacoby.html">Dan Jacoby</a>, <a href="http://cyberpathlinks.blogspot.com/2007/04/douglas-doug-beckstead.html">Doug Beckstead </a></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102); font-style: italic;">and others, come here using anonymous proxies thinking we don't notice, LOL)</span> Oh yes, some DO even try to change their location, their IPs or use anonymous proxies. Nice try!</span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-style: italic;"></span></span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-style: italic;"><br /></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><a href="http://cyberpathlinks.blogspot.com/2008/07/daniel-jacoby-dan-jacoby.html">Dan Jacoby</a> has been having his board-owner buddies write and threaten us and then post things about EOPC as "that horrible site" for outing his new identities. Jacoby & his proxies "Do Protest Too Much." We would guess that his exposure cut into his preying grounds. Jacoby has also made no attempt at restitution for the things he duped out of one of his victims.</span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-style: italic;"></span></span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-style: italic;"><br /></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><u>To all you cyberpaths</u>; How about expending that energy you are using on your smear campaigns & attempts to re-write history instead: on making amends & talking it out with those you harmed, or in your own offline lives -- as well as getting yourselves therapy - in short: <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">be an honest human being who doesn't use & abuse people.</span></span><br />
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<li><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">Genuinely Apologize. (Make financial restitution where necessary)</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">If your victim asks you to leave them alone -- DO SO!</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">For some: Reframe the relationship and talk about what happened. Not a shouting match because the victim won't buy into your "version" of things. REALITY TALK.</span></li>
<li style="color: #000066;"><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">BE ACCOUNTABLE!</span></li>
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">PROBLEM IS, Victims: <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">CYBERPATHS REALLY DON'T CARE ABOUT ANYTHING BUT THEMSELVES. ANYTHING. YOU COULD BE HANGING FROM A ROPE AND THEY WOULD FIND A WAY TO BLAME YOU </span>(like -- Lori Drew)</span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="font-size: 130%;"><span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0);"><br /></span></span></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">Remember - abuse happens in secret.</span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-style: italic;"><a href="http://cyberpaths.blogspot.com/"></a><br /><br /><a href="http://predatoralert07.wordpress.com/">Beckstead</a> </span></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">is trying DESPERATELY to do damage control by posting articles his name appeared in every place he can. This pushes the posts about him down on Google. <a href="http://predatoralert07.wordpress.com/">Beckstead </a>hopes no one will scan past the first page or two -- that way he can say: <span style="font-style: italic;">"See, I'm a good guy!"</span> All in an effort to counter the truth that he's an <span style="font-style: italic;">abusive, perverted online predator </span>and to convince his new targets what a altruist he is.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><br /></span><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102); font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><a href="http://predatoralert07.wordpress.com/">Beckstead</a><span style="color: rgb(51 , 204 , 0);"> </span></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">even went so far as to PHOTOSHOP pictures of himself to try to make himself look thinner (he's morbidly obese) and used a recent assignment to write about the war in Iraq (he was sent there to write) to tell potential prey he was "deployed" and imply he's an enlisted soldier. There's no crime in being fat but at least be honest<span style="font-style: italic;">. </span>He's also filled his FACEBOOK account with old friends & friends-of-friends who all believe he's a nice guy and know nothing about his secret life; in attempt to clean up his image without any real apologies.</span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-style: italic;"></span></span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-style: italic;"><br /></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">All we ask is these people submit to the same standards we have for our victims/targets: PROOF. Hard proof. (Funny how cyberpaths tend to think their 'words' are enough to rewrite truth and history) If we get this proof - we will of course retract and/or post rebuttals.</span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><br /></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">[the victim] is lying/ made it all up</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">[the victim] is obsessed with me</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">[the victim] wants to ruin my life/ is the abusive one</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">[the victim] is cyberstalking/ stalking me / my family/ my friends</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">I don't even know [the victim]</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="font-style: italic;">I have hired a lawyer to deal with this</span> (on </span><span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0); font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><a href="http://cyberpaths.blogspot.com/2007/03/gi-jerk-aka-phil-haberman-sends.html">Kristen Rhoad, one of Phil Haberman's victims </a>- </span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">has hired a lawyer(s) or legal representative - and it seems Mr. Haberman filed false charges and is about to get a legal spanking for abusing the system)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">It never happened</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">[The victim] is just jealous</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">That was all planted, I never said that/ did that</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">That is false,</span><span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0); font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);"> </span><a href="http://preyedonbyasociopath.blogger.com/" style="color: #000066;">I am the victim here!</a></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">They [the victim] abused ME!!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">I had to do something for relief. [The Victim] toyed with me/ tempted me.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">I am sorry - I have changed (while still having online affairs)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">[The victim] is just trying to ruin my life/ my happiness/ destroy my family or hurt my spouse.</span><span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0); font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;"><br /></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">And we can't go without an extra special mention to: LORI DREW - the woman that drove a 13-year old named </span><span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0); font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><a href="http://cyberpaths.blogspot.com/2007/12/media-pees-on-megan-meiers-memory-and.html">Megan Meier to suicide</a>. </span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">Who, after a year of the law doing NOTHING - told Megan's mother (who lives 4 doors down) and who is fighting for justice for her dead daughter to: </span><br />
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<span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0); font-family: "arial"; font-size: 130%; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><a href="http://cyberpaths.blogspot.com/2007/12/media-pees-on-megan-meiers-memory-and.html">Mrs. Drew - you have confirmed via your lawyer's statements: that were full of "poor me" and blame-shifting to your victim</a> </span></span><span style="font-size: 130%;"><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">(a 13 year old victim) that you are mentally disordered. You have proved your cyberpathy - because you just did precisely what every other perverted predator here does:</span></span><span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0); font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-size: 130%;"> <a href="http://cyberpaths.blogspot.com/2007/12/media-pees-on-megan-meiers-memory-and.html">BLAME YOUR VICTIM! </a></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><br /></span><span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0); font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><a href="http://cyberpaths.blogspot.com/2007/07/call-for-information-nathan-ernest-burl.html">Nathan Thomas</a></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"> (a.k.a. "T") asked one of Targets to please not "annoy him" once she found out. He also accused one of his many overlapping wives of CAUSING the problem because she DIDN'T STAND BY HIM (i.e. believe and support his lies). You used women for free sex, room, board - even MARRIED THEM and now you don't want them to "ANNOY YOU?"<br /><br /><a href="http://cyberpathlinks.blogspot.com/2005/05/nathan-ernest-burl-thomas-jr.html">Thomas</a> has even gone as far as to tell a wife with whom he had an allegedly BIGAMOUS MARRIAGE that "<span style="font-style: italic;">the CIA and US Government</span>" were going to be "mad at her" for questioning him! He'd tried to convince her he was a Special Ops Agent for the U.S. Thomas took off after that on a "secret mission" (NOT) and this wife hasn't seen him since!<br /><br />Sick... just sick.</span><span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0); font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><br /><a href="http://www.jesuslifetogether.com/Letters/images/36057_Witch_Hunt.jpeg" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://www.jesuslifetogether.com/Letters/images/36057_Witch_Hunt.jpeg" style="cursor: pointer; display: block; height: 225px; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; width: 302px;" /></a></span></span><span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0); font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><a href="http://cyberpathlinks.blogspot.com/2007/06/j-aka-gridney-aka-yidwithlid-aka-sammy.html">Dunetz/ YidwithLid </a></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="font-style: italic;">(some simple web searches showed out he'd changed his nickname from Gridney to Yidwithlid and the Sammy Benoit before going back to his real name) t</span>old Target #2 "if you love me you will leave me alone and let my wife heal" (wait! He'd told Target #2 he <span style="font-style: italic;">didn't love his wife anymore and loved only HER</span>! So in 3 days - after getting caught - he totally changes his tune? REAL Love doesn't do that!)</span><span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0); font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><br /><br /><a href="http://cyberpathlinks.blogspot.com/2007/06/j-aka-gridney-aka-yidwithlid-aka-sammy.html">Jeff Dunetz/ Yidwithlid</a></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"> told Target #1 <span style="font-style: italic;">"its over</span>" and he would help get her children taken from her (<span style="font-style: italic;">which made her go to police... the rest is history</span>). Over? What's over? It never started!<br /><br />Now he makes his victims out to be some sort of attack-bots.</span><span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0); font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"></span></span><br />
<span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0); font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><br /></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">To this day<span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);"> </span></span><span style="color: rgb(51 , 204 , 204); font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="font-size: 100%;"><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">Dunetz</span> </span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">(like all of them) still </span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">blames Target #1</span><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102); font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"> </span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="font-style: italic;">only </span>for exposing him to his job, his family, etc and implies all the hooker postings and ads for casual sex were 'planted' or 'made up' (forensic recovery has shown us they were from HIM, not planted or made up at all!) - </span><span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0); font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><a href="http://preyedonbyasociopath.blogspot.com/">which we can say - she did NOT do.</a></span></span><span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0); font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"> <span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">She (like many of our victims) only told his wife in the hopes his wife would HELP him break his sex addiction and exploitation of women. It's too easy to believe women like this are doing it for revenge. But often, they aren't! She felt compelled to go to police to protect her children - and look what happened! A </span><span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0); font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><a href="http://query.nytimes.com/gst/fullpage.html?res=9503EFDB123AF936A25751C0A9639C8B63&n=Top/Reference/Times%20Topics/Subjects/S/Smuggling">$2million a year brothel ole Dunetz/ Yidwithlid was going to for about 3-4 years - was BUSTED!</a></span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">Recently<a href="http://lidblog.com/"> Yid With Lid</a> went so far as to send a statement that this whole thing was because Target #1 was "jealous" that he wouldn't "bang" Target #1 because she is <span style="font-style: italic;">fat & ugly</span> and (most hysterical) he<span style="font-style: italic;"> "didn't want to hurt his wife.</span>" Very third grade. <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">Obviously, the expensive hookers, phone sex and other women were of no consequence in hurting his wife</span>. Despite him trying to tell everyone that his victims are jealous and planting it all. </span><br />
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from Dunetz's own "mouth":<br />
<a href="http://lidblog.com/">I have 30 years in marketing. </a><a href="http://lidblog.com/2008/12/governor-patterson-pick-me-not-kennedy.html">I already twist facts for a living.from Yid's blog</a></blockquote>
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<span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0); font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-size: 130%;"><span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0);"></span></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0); font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-size: 130%;"><span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0);"><a href="http://narc-attack.blogspot.com/2007/08/power-of-suggestion-on-bystanders.html" style="color: #000066;">They all want </a><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102); font-weight: bold;"></span><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">victims to DROP it when THEY CAUSED PROFOUND TRAUMA TO THEIR TARGETS!</span></span></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102); font-size: 180%; font-style: italic;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0);"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><a href="http://narc-attack.blogspot.com/2007/12/sacred-right-of-self-defense-self.html">Don't drop it!</a></span></span></span></span><span style="font-size: 180%;"><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);"> Your pain is not NOTHING!!</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0); font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><br /></span></span><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102); font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">THE CYBERPATH FEELS ZERO RESPONSIBILITY TO THOSE THEY HAVE USED & ABUSED! To them <span style="font-style: italic;">you're an object</span>, just some words on a screen - not even real!</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: 180%;"><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">IN FACT, </span></span><span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0); font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-size: 130%;"><span style="color: rgb(255 , 0 , 0);"><span style="font-size: 180%;"><a href="http://narc-attack.blogspot.com/2008/03/responsibility-wrap-narcissist-hurts.html">THEY BLAME THE VICTIM FOR TELLING!!</a></span></span></span></span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">To make the point about how these predators have no feelings or feel the least bit sorry for </span><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204); font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-size: 130%;"><span style="color: rgb(255 , 0 , 0);"><a href="http://narc-attack.blogspot.com/2007/12/war-and-peace-with-narcissist.html">what they do</a></span></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"> to you.</span><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204); font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-size: 130%;"><span style="color: rgb(255 , 0 , 0);"> <a href="http://narc-attack.blogspot.com/2007/11/when-narcs-attack.html">Think about how they belittle, smear & blow you and your trauma off. </a> </span></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><br /><br />And yes, its trauma - make no mistake.</span><br />
<span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204); font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-size: 130%;"><span style="color: rgb(255 , 0 , 0);"><br /></span></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">They can see or emphasize with THEIR pain (<span style="font-style: italic;">they are such MARTYRS</span>!) but your pain, the pain <span style="font-style: italic;">they </span>caused? According to them, </span><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204); font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-size: 130%;"><span style="color: rgb(255 , 0 , 0);"><a href="http://narc-attack.blogspot.com/2007/11/every-little-thing-is-not-sin.html">you have no right to feel bad</a></span></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">! <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">Only a really personality disordered individual has SUCH A LACK OF EMPATHY.</span></span><br />
<span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204); font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-size: 130%;"><span style="color: rgb(255 , 0 , 0);"><br /></span></span></span></span><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102); font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">Don't listen to them anymore! Don't listen to anyone telling you they're O.K. and you're bad for being traumatized and not "forgiving & forgetting." You KNOW BETTER!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">Anyone (friends, family, counselors)<span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);"> </span></span><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102); font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-size: 130%;"><span style="color: rgb(255 , 0 , 0);"><span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0);"><a href="http://narc-attack.blogspot.com/2007/09/narcissist-sympathizers-ii.html">telling you</a></span></span></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);"> </span>to "<span style="color: rgb(204 , 0 , 0);">Move on" or "get over it" is further abusing you</span> because:</span><br />
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<span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102); font-size: 130%;"><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><a href="http://www.emotional-rape.com/">EMOTIONAL RAPE</a> IS A STATIC EVENT.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><br />It is FROZEN in the psyche of any compassionate human being. Since friends, family and clueless doctors may have never been through this sort of thing; and predators have </span><span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0); font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-size: 130%;"><span style="color: rgb(255 , 0 , 0);"><a href="http://narc-attack.blogspot.com/2007/12/forgiving-abuser.html">NO REAL FEELINGS</a></span></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"> - they see it as a blip on their radar. An inconvenience. To them.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">Why do you think, victims - that </span><span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0); font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><span style="font-size: 130%;"><span style="color: rgb(255 , 0 , 0);"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><a href="http://narc-attack.blogspot.com/2007/04/imagine-that-you-are-narcissist.html">Cyberpaths </a></span></span></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">show so much scorn for you once you find them out?</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: 130%;"><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102); font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">BECAUSE NOW YOU KNOW THE TRUTH and TRUTH is the one thing they can't handle.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: 180%;"><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">There's a huge difference between obsession and JUSTICE.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">After THESE CYBERPATHS' <span style="font-style: italic;">START, ENCOURAGE and LEAD ON THE VICTIM </span>and then toss them away like trash - traumatizing them; the only thing for victims to do is TELL. Telling is the first step towards HEALING!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">(of course there's the predators who start outright </span><span style="color: rgb(255 , 204 , 0); font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"><a href="http://www.operationdoubles.com/narc/npd-blog/2007/02/betrayal-of-bystanders_21.html">SMEAR CAMPAIGNS</a></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;"> against those who have found them out, exposed them or questioned them. Doing this is as unoriginal as the "scorned woman" accusation and we don't buy it either.)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">And if your predator says they have "<span style="font-style: italic;">changed - turned over a new leaf" - "please leave me alone to get on with my life"</span>? HOW DARE THEY!<br /><br />If they have really changed? They will take the time - how ever long that takes (days, months, years) to talk things through with you - admit & acknowledge what they did and make amends.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">If they tell you "<span style="font-style: italic;">my therapist says I can't talk to you</span>" - therapy has not caught up with this sort of interpersonal exploitation. That would be fine if you went into the online relationship <span style="font-size: 130%;"><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">knowing the truth IN THE FIRST PLACE. But you didn't.</span></span><br /><br />They used you like an object, a thing, something they click off like the computer itself - and you deserve better. <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">Besides, they are only using therapy as a COVER.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">If they say <span style="font-style: italic;">"it will hurt/ upset my partner if I talk to you"</span> find out exactly what they told their partner about you. Did they paint you as the bad one to get their a** out of the doghouse? Probably! If they say that they are still lying - to you, to their partner and themselves.<br /><br /><span style="font-size: 130%;"><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">HOLD THEM ACCOUNTABLE! </span></span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><br /><span style="font-style: italic;">(there are cyberpaths, such as<span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);"> </span></span></span><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102); font-family: "arial"; font-size: 130%; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;"><a href="http://cyberpaths.blogspot.com/2006_04_01_cyberpaths_archive.html">Clive</a><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);">, </span><a href="http://predatoralert07.wordpress.com/">Doug Beckstead</a><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"> </span></span><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102); font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">and </span><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102); font-family: "arial"; font-size: 130%; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;"><a href="http://cyberpathlinks.blogspot.com/2008/05/brad-dorsky.html">Dorsky</a><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204);"> </span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">that have tried to erase their tracks and rewrite history but don't know much about web archives and data retrieval! NOTHING ever really disappears on the web.)</span><span style="color: rgb(255 , 0 , 0); font-family: "arial"; font-size: 130%; font-weight: bold;"><br /><br /><a href="http://cyberpathlinks.blogspot.com/2007/05/ed-hicks-aka-charles-hicks-aka-charles.html">Charles Ed Hicks</a> </span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">said,<span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);"> IN COURT - IN FRONT OF A JUDGE</span>, after 2 of his ex wives testified against him and hard proof of his fraud and bigamy was entered into the record that it was "<span style="font-style: italic;">False, ALL FALSE</span>" Rumor has it - he's writing a book to 'set the record straight.' Maybe O.J.'s publisher is interested? LOL</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">Did we mention after a year in jail for Bigamy, Hicks was recently tossed out by another woman in Charleston, S.C. and is back online using the name <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 153);">CHARLES HICKS</span> or <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 153);">CHARLES GREENE</span>? Trolling for his next victim?</span> <a href="http://cyberpaths.blogspot.com/2008/12/help-catch-fugitive-whos-on-lam.html"><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"> And he's currently a WANTED FUGITIVE so beware!</span></a><br />
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<a href="http://hidemyass.com/?http://toylanders-thetoylanders.blogspot.com" style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"></a><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102); font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">Do you think they learn? change? NO! They just play on their next victim's compassion and willingness to believe in them. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">Also the winner, by 98%, of the lines</span><span style="color: rgb(102 , 0 , 204); font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;"> <a href="http://fightbigamy.typepad.com/">married predators</a> </span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">(those that admit they are married) give to their victims:</span><br />
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<span style="font-style: italic;">My [spouse] is cold to me/ the marriage is dead/ won't have sex with me/ its over ...but I am staying because of the kids/ money and I don't love [my spouse] anymore... our marriage is only on paper....</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">And as we have said many many times -<span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);"> please at least Google or search on the person you are chatting with's name and nickname(s) and read EVERY PAGE OF ENTRIES THAT COMES UP. </span> If they are pressing you for a meeting - we have links to background check agencies on the right and for a small fee you can find out everything you need to know.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;">If anyone tells you <span style="font-style: italic;">"if you do a check on me then you don't trust me/ love me"</span> - <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">DO THE CHECK ASAP!</span> If you find them on a site warning you - BELIEVE IT. If they tell you <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102); font-style: italic;">"don't speak to so and so, they will lie about me or my relationship with them"</span> or <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);"><span style="font-style: italic;">"she's a scorned woman" </span>- SPEAK TO THAT OTHER PERSON ASAP AND GET THE TRUTH!!!!!</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="font-size: 85%;"><br /><span style="font-style: italic;">BY CATHERINE WALKER</span></span><br /><br />OVER the past few weeks we have learned that 80 per cent of victims of cyber-stalking are women, and many have been the <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">victims of ex-lovers</span>, but although it seems relationships have a lot to do with online stalking it is not always men who are the stalkers. This week, we talk to a woman who was stabbed in the back by the person who she least expected.<br /><br />Jane Burns (name has been changed to protect identity) was a normal young woman. In 2005, most of her friends at university were studying abroad, which brought her and another classmate a lot closer together than before. They spent hours together and told each other everything. Jane’s new best friend spent a lot of time on the internet, trying to meet men in forums. Jane worried her friend because she would often go to meet them after just a few weeks, thinking she had found her ideal man, and then resulting in disappointment, but little did Jane know it was herself she should worry about. Jane was in a long-distance relationship with a man abroad, but thanks to the internet they kept in touch every day.<br /><br />One day, <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">after she returned from a holiday at her boyfriend’s home, she went online and found an e-mail, apparently from him, which was directed to another woman, telling her he loved and missed her</span>. Jane, with tears in her eyes, contacted her boyfriend to ask for an explanation. He, of course, knew nothing, but she felt deceived and hurt and told him she wanted to split up. Luckily, he insisted she checked whether the e-mail had really come from his address – it hadn’t. The address that had been used was the same, apart from a dash, which in the heat of the moment, she hadn’t noticed. On closer examination, the language was a little different, although the nickname used for her was right.<br /><br />The only person who had this information was Jane’s friend, who also happened to have asked to read some of their e-mails just two weeks earlier. <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">Why did she do this? </span>Jane says she can’t imagine. But when she told her friend about the ordeal, without accusing her, <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">she immediately went offline and the two have not spoken since.</span><br /><span style="font-size: 130%;"><br /><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">You never know who is trying to hurt you on the internet, so be careful.</span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-weight: bold;"><a href="http://www.euroweeklynews.com/2009111767504/news/national/when-the-stalker-is-someone-you-trust.html" style="color: #000066;">original article found here</a></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><br />An estimated 40 million Americans use online dating services hoping to meet "the one." There are more than 1,400 Web sites in the $700 million a year business, but some question their safety.<br /><br />Prosecutors say a Philadelphia nursing student was conning women on match.com. He was convicted in 2007 of assault, but the accusations don't end there. <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">His victims, described as attractive, ambitious professionals say their lives will never be the same.</span><br /><br />Prosecutors said Jeffrey Marsalis, 34, told some tall tales, <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">pretending to be a doctor, an astronaut and even a spy to lure women on Internet dating sites.</span><br /><br />"He faces up to 20 years in prison and he will have to register as a sexual offender for the rest of his life," said prosecutor Joe Khan.<br /><br />Marsalis was convicted of sexual assault. However, he was acquitted of more serious charges that he drugged and then raped seven women in his apartment.<br /><br />"You read about it, you see it on TV but <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">you just don't think it can happen to you,</span>" one anonymous victim said.<br /><br />She said she knows about tricksters like Jeffrey Marsalis and how easy it is to be duped online. According to her, <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">a man she met on a Christian dating Web site was seeing 60 other women from 25 different Web sites. He pretended to be everything from a country music manager to a Pentagon consultant. He even lied about having cancer,</span> she said.<br /><br />She claims he stole thousands of dollars from his victims.<br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">"Mentally, it just about broke me to think that I had been so naive, when I don't consider myself to be a very naive person,"</span> she said. "And of course, I was worried about my safety." She may have good reason to be.<span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);"> Dozens of Internet dating cases have ended in tragedy. And experts said it's only getting worse.</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">"Men especially are getting are getting bolder as far as using dating Web sites to find their next victim,"</span> said Jayne Hitchcock, who is working to halt online abuse.<br /><br />"Most of these women will tell you that they had a bad feeling about it but they went ahead with it because the person the man had a wonderful profile," Hitchcock said. "He was charming."<br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">One victim said it was loneliness that clouded her judgment.</span><br /><span style="font-size: 130%;"><br /></span><span style="color: rgb(255 , 0 , 0); font-size: 130%;">"Victims are victims because somebody is looking to exploit their weakness,</span><span style="font-size: 130%;"><span style="color: rgb(255 , 0 , 0);">" she said. </span></span><span style="color: rgb(255 , 0 , 0); font-size: 130%;">"And it doesn't matter if you're doctor. It doesn't matter if you're an accountant."</span><span style="font-size: 130%;"><br /></span><br />She said she wants women to trust their instincts because she didn't trust her own. About 35 percent of daters admit they lie about themselves online, according to a survey research study by Jeana Frost of Boston University and the Massachusetts Institute of Technology. <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102); font-style: italic;">(Though the real number is probably MUCH higher!)</span></span><br />
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<a href="http://www.abcnews.com/">ORIGINAL ARTICLE</a>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17248371.post-39888952905276369402016-01-26T07:16:00.000+02:002016-03-04T01:59:18.746+02:00Online Dating Hunting Grounds for Romance Fraudster<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">A Ghanaian man accused of posing as a US soldier on an online dating site has been arrested on suspicion of conning a British woman into sending £271,000 to Africa.</span><br /><br />In what is thought to be the biggest case of its kind so far, police detained Maurice Asola Fadola, 31, who is thought to be behind a series of "romance frauds" – <span style="color: rgb(255 , 0 , 0);">targeting women through dating sites, and fabricating an elaborate series of stories to convince them to send mone</span>y to Ghana.<br /><br />The British victim, who did not want to be named, struck up a relationship over the internet with a man<span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);"> she believed to be an American soldier serving in Iraq.</span><br /><br />After several months of correspondance, in which he told of his life dodging bullets and bombs, he told her that he was leaving the army – and perhaps they could meet up. But while his luggage was being returned to the US, there were a series of "problems" which the British woman was enticed into helping out – to the eventual cost of £271,000.<br /><br />The head of the Ghanaian Serious Fraud Office described Mr Fadola as a suspected "kingpin", and his arrest after months of painstaking intelligence gathering is the high point of a joint Ghanaian-British campaign against alleged romance frauds.<br /><br />Last month officers from the Serious Organised Crime Agency (SOCA) travelled to the Ghanaian capital of Accra to work alongside Ghanaian police in arresting Mr Fadola.<br /><br />Officers had planned to mount a "sting" operation; setting traps for when he came to collect money they had sent to a money transfer service, or lying in wait for him to pick up a parcel of laptops or mobile phones from the Post Office.<br /><br />Police froze his bank accounts, and when he came into the Serious Fraud Office in Accra to try and brazen his way into releasing the funds, he was arrested.<br /><br />Mr Fadola, who lived in a luxurious mansion on the outskirts of Accra, is being held in custody and questioned over money laundering and passport offences, which carry a maximum sentence of 25 years.<br /><br />Colin Woodcock, head of SOCA's fraud department, said that his team was working alongside Ghanaian authorities, sharing policing techniques with local forces to track down the fraudsters.<br /><br />"At first we thought it was just people sending £50 here or there," he said, "but although the bulk are small frauds, now we know that <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">some people are being robbed of hundreds of thousands.</span><br /><br />"It's an international problem, involving police forces from across the globe working together to squeeze the criminals."<br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">More and more cases of romance fraud are being discovered.</span><br /><br />In August last year Philip Hunt, 58, threw himself under a train after losing £82,000 in a romance fraud. He had met a Nigerian girl on the internet, who convinced him to spend the money with promises of starting a life together.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial"; font-weight: bold;"><br />Mr Woodcock said: "The bottom line is: <span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">don't give anyone your money. Imagine you'd met someone in a pub for the first time, and they said I'd love to see you again but can you buy me a laptop?</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0 , 0 , 102);">"We're seeing an explosion in this. Everyone is on online dating nowadays, and criminals have cottoned onto it. These people destroy lives. It's loss on a catastrophic scale."<br /><br />2 of EOPC's examples:<a href="http://cyberpathlinks.blogspot.com/2005/05/nathan-ernest-burl-thomas-jr.html"><br />Nathan Ernest Burl Thomas, Jr.</a><br /><a href="http://cyberpathlinks.blogspot.com/2007/04/douglas-doug-beckstead.html">Doug Beckstead</a></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-weight: bold;"><a href="http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/africaandindianocean/ghana/7664254/Police-arrest-suspected-romance-fraudster-who-posed-as-US-soldier.html">original article here</a></span></div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17248371.post-49596622212227715352016-01-16T07:17:00.000+02:002016-03-04T01:57:08.200+02:00Are Online Threats Taken Seriously?<span style="font-weight: bold;"> <span style="font-size: 85%;"><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic;">by Jackie Ibanez</span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-weight: bold;"><br /><span style="font-family: "arial";">Are online threats taken seriously? This question has been raised in the wake of fitness club shooting near Pittsburg.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: "arial";">George Sodini killed three women and himself after bringing in a gun to his health club.</span> <span style="font-family: "arial";">Before the shootings, Sodini outlined his plot and reasons for his rage against women on the internet.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: "arial";">Although many said they would dismiss threatening comments posted on the web, others said they would immediately contact authorities.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: "arial";">"I would call the police and let them know because I am very aware of what goes on around me," said Robbin Delgrande of West Stockbridge.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: "arial";">Sodini had a history of ranting about women and his failed love life online.</span><br /></span><br />
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17248371.post-23353506414702030162015-12-24T08:08:00.000+02:002015-12-30T08:32:18.129+02:00When Exes Attack... Online<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Woman Says Her Name, Number Posted Online Inviting Sex</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">That’s what a woman said happened after she ended a relationship a month ago.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">She said her former husband sent her a text message telling her to check out Craigslist. <span style="color: #000066;">When she did, she found her name, address and phone number on the Internet site, inviting people to drop by her home for sex.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">So many people responded that she was forced to change her phone number, leave her home and now she is seeking a permanent restraining order against the 44-year-old man.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: #000066;">"Within 45 minutes, I had 17 to 18 texts and phone calls,"</span> she said. One man even showed up at her home while a police car was parked in the driveway.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">"He goes through cycles," she said. "He loves me, he hates me."</span><br />
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<span style="color: #000066; font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;"><em>Our exposed predators: Dan Jacoby, Jeff Dunetz, aka YIDWITHLID, and others - did this SAME THING to their victims. Glad to see this woman's police department is taking this seriously. Many don't. - EOPC</em></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17248371.post-11866289954476716632015-12-09T14:30:00.000+02:002015-12-30T08:30:30.036+02:00READING RED FLAG BEHAVIORS IN INTERNET DATING<a href="http://i160.photobucket.com/albums/t200/TightarsedScotsman/44ba8b58.jpg"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://i160.photobucket.com/albums/t200/TightarsedScotsman/44ba8b58.jpg" style="cursor: pointer; display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; width: 200px;" /></a><br />
<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;"><span style="font-size: 85%;"><span style="font-style: italic;">by Mary Jo Fay, RN, MSN</span></span><br /><br />So you’re single again and the concept of Internet dating seems new and exciting! Upon your first glimpse, you feel like a kid in a candy store! New partners by the hundreds! People just like you – divorced, or otherwise broken relationships, hurt feelings, wounded souls – just looking to be loved by someone like YOU! Right??<br /><br />Well,<span style="color: #000066;"> </span><span style="color: #000066;">beware</span><span style="color: #000066;">. </span>Just as you need to be careful when you meet people in the bar scene, <span style="color: #000066;">the Internet is chock full of predators as well</span><span style="color: #000066;">. </span>However, there are lots of "Red Flags" to look for to protect yourself, IF you know how to read the signs.<br /><br />I’m tempted to write a book just on Internet dating "smarts." You know – things like what to say and not to say to appear to be kind, generous, and all those things that make the writer appear to be a perfect catch. And yet, how would the unsuspecting know then? The red flags would all be hidden and booby traps would be walked into by unsuspecting victims by the score!<br /><br />Naw – I think it’s best to warn you – the recipient, what to look for and let the narcissistic Don Juan’s (or their female counterparts) show their true colors for what they are!<br /><br />Here are a few actual statements from profiles of men currently on the Internet dating scene …<br /></span><blockquote>
<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">"I’m one of those individuals that is looking for a attractive, well kept, female…"</span></blockquote>
<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;"><br />On his description of himself, he claims to be "very attractive."(<span style="color: #000066;">Big red flag!) </span>Hmmmm… has he looked in the mirror lately? Balding, slightly overweight, posed in three pictures on his Harley need I say more?<br /><blockquote>
"Seeking smart, funny, sexy, balanced, introspective, well read, credible, flexible, independent, complete woman with a fine ass. If her ass is other than fine, I’ll guess we’ll have to focus on her brains and personality. If you’re not smiling right now, then my sense of humor either didn’t translate or you’ll not think me charming."<br />
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Was that supposed to be cute and endear him to me? I’ll pass…<br /><br />Then of course, there are the guys who list their income, ($100,000 -$200,000!) and absolutely nothing else about themselves! Guess they figure that with their money they can get anyone they want.<span style="color: #000066;"> </span><span style="color: #000066;">If you fall for that, it’s important to realize up front that money is the only thing important to them. There will not be depth of character, an interesting, empathetic personality, an interest in YOU.</span><br /><br />"I dress my women in the finest clothes." <span style="color: #000066; font-style: italic;">(</span><span style="color: #000066; font-style: italic;">MY WOMEN?!)</span><br /><br />This actual statement came from the same $200,000 income gentleman who sent me this quick email that said, "Meet me at Jake’s Bar tomorrow night at 7. You won’t be disappointed!" That’s it. No info on him except about his money and how he "dressed HIS women in the finest clothes."<br /><br />Hmmmmm… when I opened up his photos, there he was with a woman who looked just like me! Talk about CREEPY!<br /><br />I wrote him back and said "No thank you," that I didn’t think our profiles showed much in common. He wrote back livid … "What? You’re refusing to meet with me?" In essence … his ego screamed back over email, (never a pretty site) and I blocked any further communication with this demigod with all his money and fine clothes!<br /><br />Another man (age 64), "winked" at me (I’m 48) to show me that he was interested. I guess he thought he was saving himself time and trouble with a bio that said something like this:<br /><blockquote>
"I have retired here in Texas where it is warm and I can spend lots of time on my boat. Seeking a wonderful, attractive, intelligent woman companion to do the same with me. No fatties please."<br />
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<span style="color: #000066; font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;"><b><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">EOPC recieves 100s of emails every week. At least 90% and more start with or include</span></b><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-style: italic;"><b>: </b></span><span style="color: yellow; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 130%; font-style: italic;"><b>"I met a someone who SEEMED LIKE a nice guy/ girl via ONLINE DATING."</b></span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #6600cc; font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: red; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b>Readers, never -- we repeat -- NEVER would we recommend Online Dating to ANYONE. </b></span><span style="color: #000066;"><b><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">EVER. It's <u>not</u> a "good way to meet people" nor is it a way to "ease back into dating after divorce/ breakup."</span><span style="color: yellow; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> Online dating is </span></b><span style="color: yellow; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b>CRAWLING </b></span><b><span style="color: yellow; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">with predators: narcissists, sociopaths, cyberpaths -- etc.</span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> And the online "sex site" (i.e. - bangmatch.com, eroticy.com, adultfriendfinder.com, redpersonals.com - there are 100s) are the worst!!<br /><br />And don't kid yourself -- it can be IMPOSSIBLE to know who someone really is, their criminal background and their TRUE intentions... EVEN IF YOU THINK YOU KNOW THEM!</span></b></span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #000066; font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;"><b><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">STAY AWAY FROM ONLINE DATING!!! </span></b><a href="http://www.volunteermatch.org/"><b><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Volunteer</span></b></a><b><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">, join a local group, go to the library and volunteer your time, join a running club or a gym. But </span></b><span style="color: red; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b>never ever</b></span><b><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> go looking for love, friendship, a pen pal or and old school pal online.<br /><br />The online dating industry buries the bad stories. For each ONE of those good stories you hear? There are a minimum of 15-25 horror stories. Below is just one of them:</span></b></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">A Texas man with a home in Aspen faces assault and domestic violence charges after an Internet date allegedly ended in an scrap at the Hunter Creek trailhead in August 2007.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">John Kirk Mitchell, 51, however, claims that the woman he met online was the one who started the fight. He said she had filed charges in a nearly identical situation involving her ex-husband in 2001.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">And Mitchell, an oil executive in San Antonio, Texas, has hired an attorney from a high-profile Denver firm to prove it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">On Aug. 28, Mitchell and the woman, whose name is withheld because she is an alleged victim of domestic violence, were on a date after meeting on an Internet dating site, according to a police report.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Mitchell picked up the woman in Denver, where she had driven from her home in Fort Collins to meet him. Things went wrong at about 6 p.m. that evening, when the two began arguing over the music being too loud on the drive from Mitchell’s Aspen residence to the Hunter Creek trailhead, according to the woman’s statement in the police report.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Officers arrested Mitchell on charges of third-degree assault and took him to jail.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Mitchell’s attorneys say the woman has a history of lying to police over harassment and assault charges.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">The case has been before the Pitkin County court for nearly a year. A possible plea deal in March fell through.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">In a March 18 letter to Judge Erin Fernandez-Ely, the alleged victim implored the judge to deny Mitchell a plea deal that would have dropped the assault charges for a no-contest plea on disorderly conduct.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">When the plea deal fell through, Mitchell dropped his local attorney, Lauren Maytin.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">And after a four-month hiatus in court, Mitchell hired Jeffrey Pagliuca of the firm Haddon, Morgan, Mueller, Jordan, Mackey & Forman, P.C. in Denver. On Aug. 5, his attorneys filed a motion to admit a recent lie detector test Mitchell took.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">On Wednesday, Ely set a trial date for Sept. 26, but Mitchell’s attorneys and Deputy District Attorney Richard Nedlin are negotiating a possible settlement.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Ely will consider the motions at a hearing scheduled for Sept. 24.</span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Shawn Macleod wanted to know where his estranged wife was going on the Internet and what she was writing in e-mails, investigators said, so he secretly installed a program called SpyRecon on her computer that sent him electronic logs with the sites she had visited and messages she had sent.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">His spying resulted in a four-year prison sentence.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Software programs created to monitor computer activity have grown in popularity in recent years as parents have sought ways to prevent children from accessing adult Web sites or e-mailing possible predators and as businesses have tried to curtail the time employees spend on the Internet when they are at work.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Others, too, have found a use for the software: Scorned lovers can track where their spouses or partners go online, whom they are e-mailing and what they are saying — all possibly in violation of the law.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #000066; font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Austin police considered Macleod's actions tantamount to illegal wiretapping and charged him with unlawful interception of electronic communication, a second-degree felony that can carry a 20-year sentence. Macleod pleaded guilty in May.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">"It's pretty alarming," said Macleod's attorney, Johnny Urrutia.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Urrutia said he would be surprised if his client knew that what he was doing was against the law.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Doug Fowler, president of SpectorSoft Corp., which manufactures an Internet monitoring program called eBlaster, said law enforcement agencies nationwide have in recent months sought company records during criminal investigations, hoping the documents would show who installed the software on victims' computers.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">In New York this year, a sheriff's deputy was found guilty of eavesdropping after investigators said he spied on the computer activity of a neighbor he thought posed a threat to young girls in their neighborhood.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">The deputy was sentenced to five years of probation.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">In California, a man was indicted on federal charges in 2005, accused of manufacturing, advertising and sending a program called Lovespy.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">In that case, victims received an electronic greeting card that, when opened, would record e-mail messages and the Web sites they visited.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Austin police in recent months have charged two men, including Macleod, with the crime. The second case, filed last month, is pending.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Detective Darin Webster, who works in the department's high-tech crime division, said investigators also have looked into several other cases that didn't result in charges because the evidence had been destroyed or they couldn't conclusively determine who had installed the spyware.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">"The problem itself isn't the software," Webster said. "The problem is how the software is being used. ... And in the cases I've seen, there are warnings on there that it may be against the law. In Texas, it is."</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">State law says it is illegal to intentionally intercept spoken or electronic communication.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">The law grants some exceptions, such as to switchboard operators who might hear part of a conversation while doing their job.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">The law doesn't address certain questions about computer spyware, such as whether it is legal to install the equipment on a jointly owned computer without the consent of the second owner.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Employers typically have workers sign waivers acknowledging that they know the company computers are monitored.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Parents, as guardians of their minor children, are allowed to monitor their children's activities.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">According to court records, Macleod's estranged wife, Kristy, reported to police in August 2005 that she suspected he was monitoring her computer use.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">A detective using a fake name sent Kristy Macleod an e-mail offering to buy the couple's pool table.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">A few days later, Shawn Macleod confronted Kristy Macleod about the e-mail, according to a probable cause affidavit.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Detectives searched the computer and found SpyRecon software on it, according to the affidavit.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Kristy Macleod could not be reached for comment. Company officials for SpyRecon did not respond to an interview request.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #000066; font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">In an online advertisement, the company asks, "Have you ever needed to secretly read the e-mail of your child or spouse?"</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">In the second case Austin police filed, investigators said Alexis Lugo, 29, installed eBlaster software on his ex-girlfriend's computer.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">An affidavit in that case said Kara Winebright called Austin police and reported that she thought Lugo had hacked into her computer and changed the password on some of her accounts.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Winebright said she had broken up with Lugo and later had discovered some unusual activity on her account with eHarmony, a dating Web site. She checked her other online accounts and found similar problems.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Police searched her computer and found the eBlaster software.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Ordinary anti-spy software might not detect such programs, but checking to see which programs and files have been downloaded to hard drives should reveal them, said Fowler, the manufacturer of eBlaster.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Fowler said his company intended for the software to be used only by parents or businesses, not by spying spouses or partners. The company marketed the product that way several years ago but stopped, he said.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">"We ultimately decided that it wasn't a market we wanted to participate in," Fowler said. "There are certainly those who buy the software for this kind of thing. But we don't encourage it."</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">(UNITED KINGDOM) </span> <span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">A new social networking tool allows mobile phone users to identify people just by taking a photo.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">The '<span style="color: #000066;">recogniser</span>' application gives any mobile phone owner access to almost all online information about anyone they photograph.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">IT expert Charlie Brown has expressed concerns about the application, saying <span style="color: #000066;">it's a walk up start for stalkers and could see an increase in identity theft cases.</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #000066; font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">'You can pretty much know everything about (a person) that is listed on the internet within about 30 seconds,' he said.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Facebook and Twitter accounts and business cards become available when <span style="color: #000066;">recogniser</span> matches an image of someone's face online.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">'During a party, you might want to figure out some more information about the person standing across the room from you.'</span></blockquote>
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<span style="color: #000066; font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Police and government agencies use a similar device to identify criminals.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">The application could be on mobile phones around the world by September 2010.</span><br />
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17248371.post-1129981072792220462015-10-12T07:36:00.000+03:002015-10-23T08:49:21.434+03:00ONLINE GRATIFICATION AS HARMFUL AS PHYSICAL BETRAYAL<center style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">
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<span style="color: #000066;"><b>Online gratification can become just as harmful to a relationship as physical betrayal</b></span><span style="font-size: 85%;"><span style="font-style: italic; font-weight: boldfont-family:arial;">BY MELENA Z. RYZIK</span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Remember Britain's uproar over soccer star David Beckham, who allegedly carried on an affair and sent sexy text messages to his lover.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">When the Internet became popular in the early 1990s, it was hailed as a technological breakthrough. A decade later, </span><b style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: red;"><span style="color: #000066;">easy access on the World Wide Web to images and information is causing an unprecedented number of breakups</span></span></b><span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">After all, titillating material is more available and visible than ever before. And whether it's online porn or Internet-enabled flings, a lot of relationships are feeling the strain.</span> <br />
<span style="color: #000066;"><b>Therapists, sociologists and even lawyers are waking up to the fact that online affairs and flirtations play as real a role in splitting up couples as offline romances do.</b></span><span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">"Infidelity on the Internet is as devastating as infidelity offline," says Rona Subotnik, a marriage and family therapist and the author, with Dr. Marlene Maheu, of "</span><u style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Infidelity on the Internet: Virtual Relationships and Real Betrayal</u><span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">" (Sourcebooks, 2001).</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: #000066;">"I think the Internet has been the single most significant factor in the accelerating divorce trend,</span><span style="color: #000066;">"</span> says Robert Stephan Cohen, a top Manhattan-based divorce lawyer and author of "</span><u style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Reconcilable Differences: 7 Keys to Remaining Together from a Top Matrimonial Lawyer</u><span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">."</span><br />
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<span style="color: #000066;"><b>"It's amazing how many people come in here and say the Internet has been a source of things that go awry,"</b></span><span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;"> he adds.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">In a recent survey by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, 62% of the respondents said that the Internet had played a "significant role" in the divorces they had handled in the previous year; </span><span style="color: #000066;"><b>68% of those cases, a spouse had met a new love interest online, and 56% showed an obsessive interest in online porn.<br /><br />Almost 80% of the lawyers surveyed said that incriminatory E-mails had been used as evidence in divorce proceedings.<br /><br />With a few clicks and for little or no money, the Internet provides lots of anonymous temptations - and instant gratification</b></span><span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: #000066;">.</span> In the Internet age, being faithful is suddenly a lot more complex.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #000066;"><b>Like crack for sex addicts</b></span><span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Online porn is what nearly broke up Betsey's marriage of 20 years. (</span><i style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">To protect sources' identities, all names and some identifying details have been changed.)</i><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">"My husband became hooked on Internet pornography as soon as he discovered it, about eight or nine years ago at work," the fiftysomething retired engineer and mother wrote in an E-mail. "He has an addiction - he is ashamed and secretive about his behavior; he is unable to stop regardless of the consequences to himself or anyone else. When he is in his addiction, his personality changes for the worse."</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: #000066;">"The Internet is like crack cocaine for sex addicts,"</span> </span><span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">says a spokesman for Sexaholics Anonymous (</span><i style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">who preferred to remain anonymous himself</i><span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">).</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">But even casual browsers can get hooked.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">"They're are what we call the at-risk population," says Maheu. "They otherwise would not go out of their way to look into pornography because it would involve more forethought and planning. But when you're sitting at your computer alone at night, it's just a few clicks away."</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Maheu estimates that as much as a quarter of the population falls into this </span><span style="color: #000066;"><b>easily targeted group, which runs the gamut from people who are mildly bored or curious to those dissatisfied with their relationships or generally depressed. "They don't have to use a lot of energy," she says. "They seek outlets that won't cause ripples in their work or home life</b></span><span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">."</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Betsey's husband was always more than a casual user; he told her that he had "a problem" with pornography when they started dating. But the Internet made his problem worse.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">"Internet porn is so there, just a keystroke away - at home, at work, anywhere," she wrote. And through pop-ups, cookies and spam, "once a person has gone to one of those sites, the porn pursues him."</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Indeed, the number of adult Internet sites has ballooned in the last four years, expanding 17 times to encompass nearly 1.6 million sites, according to research by software firm Websense. Industry analyst Nielsen/NetRatings estimated that 34 million people - or one in four Internet users - visited one of those sites last year.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #000066;"><b>False intimacy<br />Digital smut is not the only trigger for relationship trouble. Online communication in general can create a false sense of intimacy</b></span><span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">, says Subotnik.</span><br />
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<b><span style="color: #000066;">"There is a feeling that these are the only two people in the world connecting with each other. People will type things that they wouldn't say, and it happens much more quickly" than in real life.<br /><br />"I have probably chatted with at least 500 women in some sort of mutual sexual way," says Harold, a 29-year-old Manhattan man in a serious relationship who still enjoys flirting online.</span><span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Though Harold admits he has "almost had relationships end because of it," he also claims to have started relationships through "</span></b><span style="color: #000066;"><b>either randomly [instant messaging] people in chat rooms or making sexual overtures to women I have had previous sexual relationships with or crushes on in the past."</b></span><br />
<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: #000066;">Is flirting on the Net cheating? Only if your partner doesn't know you do it</span>, insists Harold.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #000066;"><b>Finding out that a partner is involved in a virtual relationship can be just as traumatizing as actually finding him or her in bed with another person. "It's an emotional type of cheating</b></span><span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">," says Maheu.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">"Online relationships have a profound impact on our emotional experience," Israeli philosophy professor Aaron Ben-Ze'ev writes in "</span><u style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Love Online: Emotions on the Internet</u><span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">" (Cambridge University Press, 2004). </span><span style="color: #000066;"><b>"Online relationships usually involve greater intimacy and emotional intensity."</b></span><span style="color: red;"><span style="color: #000066;"><b><br /></b></span></span><span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Harold says his girlfriends find his habit "a minor annoyance," but not every partner is so understanding.</span> <br />
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<span style="color: #000066;"><b>Time online=time apart</b></span><span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">George, a married man in his 30s who lives outside New York, first turned to the Internet to research a condition he has called "gender dysphoria," in which a person feels he or she was born in the wrong gender. George lost his job and spent more and more time on the computer, becoming what he calls "obsessed."</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">"You invest yourself into this thing that has nothing to do with your spouse, when really you should be investing yourself into your marriage," he says. "</span><span style="color: #000066;"><b>It saps your emotional energy and takes you away.<br /><br />"If you think of television of being addictive in a passive way," he adds, "the Internet is addictive in an active way."</b></span><span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Surfing the Net is a double whammy: There's potential for betrayal in both the content and in the diverted attention.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">"The prospect of something newer and 'better' can turn any computer search into a time sink," writes Betsey. "For the porn addict, always in pursuit of more and different, minutes can become hours can become days."<span style="color: #000066;"> </span><span style="color: #000066;">(A recent study classified people who spent 11 hours or more a week online looking at porn as sexual addicts.)</span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">"Spouses say, 'I feel like you're not here with me,'" says Maheu. </span><b style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: red;"><span style="color: #000066;">The absenteeism - whether literal or emotional - is often the first sign of a deeper problem</span>.</span></b><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">"I was spending a couple of hours every other night online," says George, who's now going through a divorce. He wasn't hiding his being online from his wife, only the content, but the time spent apart "contributed to our disconnect," he says.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">"I didn't have my eye on the relationship."</span><br />
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<span style="color: #000066;"><b style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: #009900;"><span style="color: #000066;">Problems in the sack</span>?</span></b></span><b style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: red;"><span style="color: #000066;">If spending too much time online can cause an emotional disconnect, physical breakdowns may not be too far behind</span>.</span></b><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Paul, a twentysomething club promoter in Manhattan, calls himself "<span style="font-style: italic;">a wild and crazy guy</span>" who has no trouble getting dates. Still, </span><b style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: red;"><span style="color: #000066;">he likes going online for sexual gratification</span>.<br /><br /><span style="font-size: 130%;">"<span style="color: #000066;">It's such a liberating feeling," he says. "I can be totally selfish</span>."</span></span></b><span style="font-size: 130%;"><br /></span><br />
<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Stephen, a Brooklyn 30-year-old in a long-term relationship, argues that online gratification may make it easier for couples to stay faithful. He even believes it takes some sexual pressure off women.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">But do the idealized women pictured online sour his expectations of his real-life sweetie?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Stephen shakes his head.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">"It's like saying Bugs Bunny is going to change my expectations of the government."</span><br />
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<span style="color: #000066;"><b>When cybersex is safe</b></span><br />
<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Maheu agrees that exploring sexual needs online isn't always a bad idea, but says couples have to agree about what is and isn't off-limits.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">"When you talk about your relationship, you really ought to be going down the list and saying, 'Okay, what about lap dances?' 'What about looking at pornography - alone or together?'" she says. "You as a couple have to talk about it and make an agreement, and if you violate that agreement, then it's cheating."</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">For Betsey, </span><b style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: red;"><span style="color: #000066;">dealing with her husband's addiction has been a long process; his betrayal affected her profoundly. "I doubted my own attractiveness. I doubted my own adequacy as a woman and a lover</span>,"</span></b><span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;"> she writes.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">Her husband entered Sex Addicts Anonymous. Betsey also received counseling through a 12-step group, which helped her come to terms with his problem.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">"I have experienced emotional intimacy with him when he has been able to maintain his sobriety, and I have totally fallen in love with him at those times," she writes. "I can see that he is committed to his recovery, and I can see that he is making progress."</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">George, meanwhile, is grateful that the information he found online led him to a better understanding of his own gender dysphoria.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;">"I'm sorry that my marriage was the price I had to pay, but without the Internet I could never have found a way to start dealing with this whole issue," he says. "That was the first step in accepting it for myself."</span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17248371.post-1133667289095672802015-09-19T11:32:00.000+03:002015-10-23T08:47:33.286+03:00IS IT LEGAL (redux)<div style="text-align: center;">
<b><span style="color: #ffcc00;"><a href="http://www.spiveylaw.com/images/Image-LegalScale.jpg"><img src="http://www.spiveylaw.com/images/Image-LegalScale.jpg" height="304" width="320" /></a><br /><span style="color: #000066;">We are reposting this article due to popular demand:</span></span></b><span style="font-size: 130%;"><br /><span style="color: #000066; font-weight: bold;">IS IT LEGAL (To Expose a Cheater or Abuser Online)? by EOPC</span></span><br />
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<a href="http://blogcritics.org/archives/2005/12/02/193150.php" style="color: #000066;"><b><span style="color: red;">CLICK HERE TO READ</span></b></a><br />
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<a href="http://www.signs-of-a-cheater.com/images/is_he_cheating_online.jpg"><img src="http://www.signs-of-a-cheater.com/images/is_he_cheating_online.jpg" style="height: 177px; width: 301px;" /></a><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">And an excerpt from a recent article along the same legal lines:</span><br /><span class="smalltext" style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;"><br /><div style="text-align: left;">
"Obviously, the men (or women) have the option of <span style="color: #000066; font-style: italic;">attempting</span> to sue the person who post information about them, if they can figure out who they are<span style="font-style: italic;">. </span>No one yet has been able to unmask a poster or sue an exposure website successfully. (as of this writing) "<span style="color: #000066; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">(Of course the women can then countersue for INTENTIONAL INFLICTION OF EMOTIONAL DISTRESS and ALIENATION OF AFFECTION (if married and allowed in their state.). Since many women develop permanent PTSD [Emotional Rape Syndrome] adrenal fatigue and severe depression from Cyberpaths - these women's claims may be easier to prove.)</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: #000066;">If the Postings are False, Are They Defamatory?</span><br /><br />....Moreover, <span style="color: #000066;">"substantial truth" - truth in substance, but not in the details -- is a full defense to a defamation claim</span>. So any man who is contesting a claim of infidelity, probably should <span style="font-style: italic;">never </span>have been unfaithful.</span> </div>
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<b><span style="font-family: arial;">The truth is a 100% defense to defamation. Those who post it can not be sued for "defamation" if they are simply reporting information. They are then covered by 'citizen journalist' rights. However, you can be sued for inciting others to harass someone, twisting facts, accusing, posting someone's address, phone or other private information online.</span></b> </div>
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<b><span style="font-family: arial;">(EOPC's legal release <span style="color: #cc0000;">requires the victim(s) to take FULL, 100% responsible for their posts and what is said. Additionally, they must hold EOPC harmless and those posted can only try to take action against the poster, not us</span>. We are reporting and giving opinion only. EOPC can't adjudicate. We absolutely do not get involved with any of these cases (example: contacting employers, etc.) We can't diagnose or take legal action against anyone for their posts. We REQUIRE posters sign and verify they are telling the truth and leave the burden of proof to them. Many cyberpaths try to get around this by guessing who we are and then harassing who they think is us. We are still here. This is absolutely the same for other exposure sites as well. EOPC merely provides a platform and is held harmless.)</span></b></div>
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"<span style="color: #000066;">...The owner of<a href="http://www.dontdatehimgirl.com/"> DontDateHimGirl</a> </span><span style="color: #000066;">who was threatened with a lawsuit, later sued and <span style="font-style: italic;"><u>the court threw out the suit completely</u></span> says: </span></div>
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<span style="color: #000066;">"Most of them say that the [person] who posted [the profile] is crazy, that something is wrong with [the poster/target], that they're saints."</span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-weight: bold;">and</span><span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;"><br /><br />"If someone posted my picture/profile in a database and I learned of it but it wasn't true, then <u>I probably wouldn't waste my time even rebutting it</u>. Why? <span style="color: #000066;">Because if I'm innocent, then the burden is <u>not on me</u> to prove such, at least not under American jurisprudence — legal or moral. </span>And I don't use and abuse people online or off - so I am not afraid of scrutiny.<br /><br />In short - its a catharsis the victims won't get anywhere else.<span style="color: #000066;"> What are the victims of these men and women to do with their anger, pain and hurt? Suck it up and allow the abuser to move on to another victim? Tell or not tell his spouse, partner or family? Stew in their feelings?"</span></span><span class="smalltext" style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;"><br /></span></div>
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<span style="color: #000066;">"A former U.S. attorney Scott Christie was quoted in the </span><u>New Jersey Star Ledger</u><span style="color: #ffcc00;">,</span></div>
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"Yes, it's all legal. If I were the owners of (such a) site, I wouldn't be concerned. <span style="font-size: 130%;">They're providing an outlet for people to express their opinion. </span><br />
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It's much like hosting a bulletin board for people with a common interest,. People are giving their <span style="font-style: italic;">opinion </span>about other people - they're entitled to it under the First Amendment."</blockquote>
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And this from Canada.com: </div>
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<span style="font-weight: bold;">According to a privacy lawyer from Halifax, (snip)</span><br />
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"If the person's reputation is in Canada, and they are in Canada, and likely the person who posted the information is in Canada, there's more than enough connection for Canadian defamation law to apply," says David T.S. Fraser, chair of the privacy practice group at McInnes Cooper. BUT he hastens to add <u>the statements aren't considered defamatory if they're true.</u></div>
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<span style="color: rgb(0,0,102)font-size:130%; font-weight: bold;">"If you're a slug," says Mr. Fraser, "it's only appropriate people know you're a slug."</span></blockquote>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17248371.post-11379589550673467222015-08-11T07:30:00.000+03:002015-10-23T08:44:22.832+03:00A Cyberpath's View of the World<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;"><a href="http://www.cosmicwalk.co.za/">excerpted from this great, must read site! CLICK HERE:</a><br /><br />A Cyberpath/ Narcissist is like a vampire who drains the emotional and even physical energy out of those close to him. He identifies and cultivates his prey, using them as a source of supply to feed his never-ending egotistical needs.<br /></span><span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;"><br /></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;"><br />Should his source not be good enough, he will dump it and can cut people off in an instant without a second thought. If he believes that the source has potential to be a good one, he will however nurture it and cultivate it carefully. This is where his charming mask comes into play.<br /><br />Everyone is a source of supply to him and he cultivates this in everyone that he encounters and deals with. Those closest to him are however given the special honour of being his greatest source of narcissistic supply and will be severely punished if they falter at all.<br /><br />From his family in particular the cyberpath/ narcissist demands unquestioning obedience, unwavering belief in him, complete subjugation to his whims and needs and perpetual attention.<br /><br />There is another aspect to this however. The cyberpath/ narcissist does not only feed off adoration and gratitude, but on negative emotion as well. You are his mirror and as long as you are reflecting (<span style="color: #000066;">reacting</span>), his needs are being fed.<br /><br /><blockquote>
Often he will go out of his way to provoke a negative reaction purely so that he can get some sort of "power feed".</blockquote>
<br />Remember that the mirror he is looking into is not made of glass, but of water. It is constantly moving and rippling. It is vibrant and alive. This activity seems to be a key factor for the cyberpath/ narcissist, as if it in itself validates him and makes him more real and less illusion.<br /><br />When the waters get too calm and there is not enough movement, he will toss a pebble in and create some ripples just to get things going again. <span style="color: #000066;">It gives him an enormous sense of power to know that he can so easily evoke reactions in his victims</span>. <span style="color: #000066;"><br /></span><span style="color: #000066;"><br /><blockquote>
<span style="color: #000066;">Even after he's been exposed he loves pushing his "false version" of events <u>just to upset his victim</u></span>.</blockquote>
</span><br />It often seems as if the cyberpath/ narcissist is just plain bored when there isn't some drama around to feed him and, when all else fails, he will whip up a quick batch out of nothing. <span style="color: #000066;">He will provoke you, taunt you, beat you, berate you - whatever it takes</span>. Once you have given him sufficient response, he will finally sit back satisfied, in the same way that you or I may sit back in mellow pleasure after a good meal.<br /><br />This is exactly what his dramas are to him. A good meal.<br /><br />In this same vein, cyberpath/ narcissists love a good accident, a good disaster or a really juicy crisis. It doesn't matter whether it involves them or not. As long as they know about it they will make it about themselves in one way or another, wringing out of it every drop of sympathy or admiration that they possibly can.<br /><br />They also love success stories, especially their own. <span style="color: #000066;">They in fact have hundreds of success stories at hand with which to impress and win admiration. It may not be <span style="font-style: italic;">their</span> story, but that's beside the point</span>. Somehow they will make it theirs and if it actually belongs to someone close to them, you can be sure that <span style="font-style: italic;">they </span>are the sole reason for that person's success.<br /><br />An extremely difficult issue to come to terms with when you discover that your Cyberpath is a narcissist, is the awful, gut-wrenching realisation that this person has <u>never loved you</u>. <span style="color: #000066;">They do not love, period.</span> The only concept of love that they possess is the realization that it matters to the rest of us and it is therefore something that they can use. A weapon in their well-stocked arsenal.<br /><br />To the abuser you are no more than an object for self-gratification. Like a desk or a chair. Sex with you is merely sex with a 'blow-up doll with a pulse.' <span style="color: #000066;">You have no individual identity, which is why they get so enraged when you act as if you do.</span> Your thoughts, your feelings, your behaviors are meant to exist and be employed for one purpose only - to make the narcissist look good and feel satisfied.<br /><br />This is why he is so hell-bent on controlling every aspect of you and your life. - In his view of the world, it all belongs to him.<br /><br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg3Dx85KimT-4H_Vf1nXHKu9V0t93P0FURNQLVYPrQzjVDroYu4mKqXZr6utFWt1lUrhs6v51fHjVUkE_47UU23wVZKlmvEpf4V8xyI4UATsoPXxePgq6GMWkd1MDsnrHVm-Fg2pw/s1600-h/narcissisticcontinuum.gif"><img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5260189685980317842" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg3Dx85KimT-4H_Vf1nXHKu9V0t93P0FURNQLVYPrQzjVDroYu4mKqXZr6utFWt1lUrhs6v51fHjVUkE_47UU23wVZKlmvEpf4V8xyI4UATsoPXxePgq6GMWkd1MDsnrHVm-Fg2pw/s200/narcissisticcontinuum.gif" style="cursor: pointer; display: block; height: 131px; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; width: 200px;" /></a>He is a demi-god. He believes that he can destroy you. This creative power of his applies to every aspect of everyone in his life. Without him you would be nothing and it frustrates him enormously when you refuse to realize this and grovel in gratitude that he even bothered to pay attention to you.<br /><br />If you have a narcissistic Cyberpath in your life, please come to terms with the fact that you are not going to change him or her. The potential that you are clinging to is an illusion, the nice guy that you sometimes see is a manipulative mask, the dream of<span style="font-style: italic;"> happy ever after </span>is a pipe dream and the concept of <span style="color: #000066;">love overcoming all is delusional</span>. For love to have power, it has to exist in the first place. With a Cyberpath it doesn't and there is about a 99.9% chance that it never will.<br /><br />If you think that your love for them can overcome on its own, you are engaged in magical thinking. These people are unreachable because they choose to be and <span style="color: #000066;">it is a choice that nothing you do or feel can ever change.</span><br />Probably the most important thing to remember with a Cyberpath is that you will never win. <span style="color: #000066;">They are beyond being rational, they do not listen to anyone else unless it is about them and when they do catch the odd thing that you have said they will normally distort it and use it against you at some stage.</span><br /><br />Never ever show any weakness with them because they will store it away - for a lifetime if necessary - and use it against you (or someone else) some day. They go for the jugular because that is the quickest access point to maximum blood and this is exactly what they are after - your very life blood. <br />
<br />(though this article was written in the masculine, your Cyberpath may be female.)</span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17248371.post-73892444827842073572015-07-20T08:47:00.000+03:002015-07-24T08:49:15.081+03:00CHEATERS FEAR; PARTNERS CHEER<br />
Site’s
hackers claim 37m personal records have been stolen from notorious
dating site, with Cougar Life and Established Men also compromised <br />
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by Alex Hern<br />
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Hackers have stolen and leaked personal information from online cheating site <a class=" u-underline" data-component="auto-linked-tag" data-link-name="auto-linked-tag" href="http://www.theguardian.com/technology/ashley-madison">Ashley Madison</a>, an international dating site with the tagline: “Life is short. Have an affair.”<br />
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The site, which encourages married users to cheat on their spouses
and advertises 37 million members, had its data hacked by a group
calling itself the Impact Team. At least two other dating sites, Cougar
Life and Established Men, also owned by the same parent group, Avid Life
Media, have had their data compromised.<br />
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The Impact Team claims to have complete access to the company’s
database, including not only user records for every single member, but
also the financial records of ALM and other proprietary information. For
now, the group has released just 40MB of data, including credit card
details and several ALM documents.<br />
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According to the information security journalist Brian Krebs, <a class=" u-underline" data-component="in-body-link" data-link-name="in body link" href="http://krebsonsecurity.com/2015/07/online-cheating-site-ashleymadison-hacked/">who broke the news</a>,
ALM has confirmed that the hacked material is genuine, and the company
is working to remove from the net the material that has already been
posted. But the initial leak is just a taster, according to the Impact
Team, which accompanied the data with a manifesto threatening release of
further information if Ashley Madison and Established Men are not
permanently closed.<br />
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“Avid Life Media has been instructed to take Ashley Madison and
Established Men offline permanently in all forms, or we will release all
customer records, including profiles with all the customers’ secret
sexual fantasies and matching credit card transactions, real names and
addresses, and employee documents and emails. The other websites may
stay online,” the group’s statement reads.<br />
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The hackers’ main point of contention is with the fact that Ashley Madison <a class=" u-underline" data-component="in-body-link" data-link-name="in body link" href="http://arstechnica.com/business/2014/08/cheaters-hook-up-site-ashley-madison-makes-account-deletion-confusing/">charges users a fee of £15</a>
to carry out a “full delete” of their information if they decide to
leave the site. Although users have the option of permanently hiding
their profile free of charge, the company’s advertisements claim that
the full delete service is the only way to completely remove their
information from the servers.<br />
But the hackers say that that claim is “a complete lie”.<br />
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“Users almost always pay with credit card; their purchase details are
not removed as promised, and include real name and address, which is of
course the most important information the users want removed,” they
allege.<br />
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ALM believes it has identified the perpetrator of the hack, which it
says was likely an inside job. “We’re on the doorstep of [confirming]
who we believe is the culprit, and unfortunately that may have triggered
this mass publication,” the company’s chief executive, Noel Biderman,
told Krebs. “I’ve got their profile right in front of me, all their work
credentials. It was definitely a person here that was not an employee
but certainly had touched our technical services.”<br />
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The data dump seems to back-up that theory to a certain extent,
specifically apologising to the company’s director of security. “You did
everything you could, but nothing you could have done could have
stopped this,” the manifesto reads.<br />
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In a statement, ALM said: “We apologise for this unprovoked and
criminal intrusion into our customers’ information. The current business
world has proven to be one in which no company’s online assets are safe
from cyber-vandalism, with Avid Life Media being only the latest among
many companies to have been attacked, despite investing in the latest
privacy and security technologies.<br />
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“At this time, we have been able to secure our sites, and close the
unauthorised access points. We are working with law enforcement
agencies, which are investigating this criminal act. Any and all parties
responsible for this act of cyber–terrorism will be held responsible.”<br />
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Ashley Madison, along with a number of other dating sites, had
already been criticised for the lack of care taken over customer
information at least once before. In 2012, the online rights campaign
group EFF <a class=" u-underline" data-component="in-body-link" data-link-name="in body link" href="https://www.eff.org/deeplinks/2012/02/comparing-privacy-and-security-online-dating-sites">examined eight popular dating sites</a>,
and <b>found that just one, Zoosk, carried out simple security precautions
such as enabling encrypted connections by default.</b> In the EFF’s study,
however, Ashley Madison was explicitly praised for deleting data after
users closed their account.<br />
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ALM later said it had used the Digital Millennium Copyright Act
(DCMA) to demand the removal of online posts about the incident “as well
as all personally identifiable information about our users published
online.”<br />
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Posts on Twitter which had apparently earlier linked to pages
containing hacked material were now bringing up “page not found”
results, the Guardian found.<br />
<br />ALM also said it is now offering its full-delete option free to any customer to help them protect their privacy.<br />
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<a href="http://www.theguardian.com/technology/2015/jul/20/ashley-madison-hacked-cheating-site-total-shutdown" target="_blank">original article here </a></div>
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<b>Have you grown tired of snuggling with your cat on Saturday nights while your friends are out enjoying couples bliss? </b><br />
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<b>Then you’ve likely been on the hunt for a relationship. This can sometimes become a long and frustrating process. </b><br />
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<b>If you’ve been looking for love in all the wrong places and decided to start an online search, beware. Romance scams have been cropping up again lately, and unsuspecting lonely hearts are being bilked out of thousands of dollars.
The most recent version of this scam involves the mobile dating app Tinder. </b><br />
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<b>Unfortunately, Tinder’s popularity has made it a magnet for scammers. The Better Business Bureau released a warning for consumers, alerting them to scammers who are using Tinder to spread malware or obtain money. </b><br />
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<u><b>Instant attraction </b></u><br />
<b>The scam usually starts with you browsing for profiles, and then receiving an immediate response from a match as soon as you swipe right to communicate interest. After a lengthy messaging session (the fraudster is trying to get you buttered up so you’ll let your guard down), your potential suitor will then suggest texting instead of continuing to communicate through Tinder. </b><br />
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<u><b>Trouble in paradise </b></u><br />
<b>And that’s when the trouble begins. Your new match may start telling you about a new service or product that you should try. The Better Business Bureau says the scammer will usually send a link with referral codes. This is done so that the spammer will receive payment for referring new customers. Then, you’ll be asked to download an app, but once you click on the link that was provided, your phone is infected with malware. Furthermore, some scammers will request personal information such as your address, pretending that they need this information so they can send you a romantic gift. </b><br />
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<b>The Better Business Bureau gives these tips for spotting a Tinder Scam: </b><br />
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<b>1. <u>You receive a lighting-fast response </u></b><br />
<b>If you are a little suspicious of a fast response from a Tinder suitor, your instincts may be accurate. The Better Business Bureau says that some of the Tinder profiles are not real, but are in fact spam bots. If you get a message immediately after you are matched, proceed with caution. </b><br />
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<b>2. <u>The scammer pressures you to communicate outside of Tinder </u></b><br />
<b>Another red flag is if the new guy or gal fires off multiple messages and then tries to get you off Tinder as soon as possible. The spammer may suggest text or chat. The BBB says it is common for Tinder users to move on to a text conversation but that a spammer will make this suggestion almost right away. </b><br />
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<b>3. <u>You don’t have their attention </u></b><br />
<b>Be even more suspicious if the answers to your questions don’t make sense. This could be a sign that answers have been automated. The BBB suggests asking a few questions to see if the responses add up. If you get crazy answers, it’s time to shut the conversation down. </b><br />
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<b>4. <u>Their photo is too good to be true </u></b><br />
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<b>Be leery of Tinder users who post glamour shots. Unfortunately, that toned hottie drenched in baby oil may not be the real deal. So if you’re drooling over your match’s photo, be prepared for disappointment. While we hope that’s not the case and you find your love connection, don’t be surprised if you end up with more than you bargained for — and not in a good way. </b><br />
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<a href="http://www.cheatsheet.com/money-career/hidden-dangers-of-online-dating-look-out-for-scams-on-tinder.html/?a=viewall" target="_blank">original article here </a></div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17248371.post-70947218545657259662015-05-24T15:09:00.000+03:002015-07-24T09:08:09.585+03:00FAMILY MAN (Met Online)from 'MYCRAZYEX'
<a href="http://www.mylifetime.com/movies/my-crazy-ex/video/family-man">CLICK HERE</a>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17248371.post-71702940935662333642015-03-14T11:54:00.000+02:002015-03-23T14:55:59.013+02:00Man Pleads Guilty to $1 Million Online Romance Scam<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">(USA) A Maryland man has pleaded guilty to defrauding people on online
dating services of more than $1 million by pretending to be romantically
interested in them.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">Thirty-three-year-old Krist Koranteng, who has addresses in
Burtonsville and Laurel, guilty to mail and wire fraud conspiracy money
laundering Wednesday in federal court in Greenbelt.</span><br />
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</span><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">According to his plea agreement, Koranteng and others searched online
dating websites to initiate romantic relationships with men and women,
including several elderly people.</span><br />
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</span><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">Prosecutors say Koranteng and others used false stories and promises
to convince the victims to send money via checks and wire transfer.</span><br />
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</span><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">Koranteng faces a maximum sentence of 20 years in prison and will be
ordered to pay more than $1 million in restitution at sentencing on July
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