ARE YOU A CYBERBULLY? - TAKE THE QUIZ

Often our cyberpaths, once found out and/or exposed turn into a cyberbully to silence their victims. We have had threats of lawsuits against victims. (No predator really wants their lies or cover-up exposed!)

Other predators have threatened their victims' families, children, friends, jobs, reputations. Two even started hate sites about their victims, blaming them for everything. Both were even so childish as to think she was US!! (They only see their exposes and not the slew of the rest of them!!)

Our very first exposed predator, Charles 'Ed' Hicks still claims its "all false" and is back online doing the same all over again as well as being WANTED for jumping probation! In fact he tells new potential victims he's suing his ex-wives, Very Bad Men, Dr. Phil and the court system in Virginia for their supposedly false accusations and writing a 'tell-all' book with the 'truth!' LOL. Don't hold your breath, readers.

Of course there's the old "SHE'S JUST A SCORNED WOMAN" or "HE'S A JILTED LOVER" excuses in cyber affairs. Real life affairs use them too when the predator wants to play victim and make everyone feel sorry for him - including new targets. It's a joke. (Our advice? The minute you hear that 'scorned woman' defense? Make it your business to contact this 'scorned woman' or 'jilted man'! Someone with no secrets or destructive agenda wouldn't care if you spoke to their ex! Same applies to women predators.)

So let's find out - did your online love or cyber-friend turn into a cyberbully? Or were they a cyberbully all along?
from: DEATH BY 1000 PAPERCUTS:

Cyber-harassment, cyber-stalking, cyber-group bully, cyber-Gossip: all of these categories fall under the tactics of a cyber-bully.

Here is a quiz, take it and see it you’re a cyber-bully or if you've ever pulled some other cyber-bullying tactics during your time on-line.

Have you ever done this?

1.Signed on with someone else’s nic and password to get information.
While this does not seem like cyber-bullying if this information was to be used for ill-will, then, yes, it is cyber-bullying.

2. Sent an email or online greeting card from someone else’s account.
Again, some may claim that this is not cyber-bullying, if the email or online greeting is used to stalk or harass someone, then it falls under cyber-bullying.

3. Forwarded a private IM or email without permission.
This could be construed as a “grey” area. After all, it’s merely passing on a private email or IM and some would argue as fairly innocuous.

It boils down to intent.

Was the private conversation/email sent to someone or others with the intent to spread gossip or do harm? While most likely the victim may never know their communication has been forwarded to others, this is still harmful to that person. This is not direct cyber-bullying, more like back-stabbing cyber-bullying tactics.

4. Hacked into someone’s PC, website or blog
Not only is this cyber-bullying but also cyber-stalking and illegal. A 33-yr-old man in Florida was just sentenced to prison for 110 years after being convicted of hacking into MySpace teenaged girl’s PC’s. He threatened to harm to them or their families if they didn’t send him lewd photos.

5. Sent a virus or Trojan Horse?
This is malicious behavior with intent to do harm.

6. Posted rude, nasty or vicious (miscontrued) comments about someone online
Back to intent. Some blogs or forums can get heated and contentious but if someone’s intent is to solely post rude, nasty or vicious comments about another poster then this is cyber-bullying and cyber-gossiping.

7. Teased or frightened someone during IM chats
Teasing that goes over the line, that is meant to chip away someone’s self-esteem. The victim cries foul, the perpetrator claims “teasing.” Boo! (Not that kind of fright) Frightening someone can mean making threats to do harm.

8. Joined in a clique on a blog, website or chatroom that enjoyed driving other posters offsite
Not often talked about are the “community” blogs or chatrooms where “like-minded” posters form cliques. Part of their activities are to single out other posters for the sole purpose of driving the target off the site. This is often done in the guise of “for the good of the blog or chatroom.”

9. Accused someone of a crime online without proof
The person who is unfairly accused of committing a crime online usually has nowhere to turn. The accusers are for the most part, anonymous, the “accusation” gets spread without proof.

10. Followed someone across the Web
Kept track of other online posters, following them from blog to blog, chatroom to chatroom, site to stie. This is a form of soft-core Cyber-stalking. Not the same as showing up at their door but enough to creep anyone out. (Cyberpaths do this to see if any of their victims are "talking about them" to anyone else and then raging on as "being the victim" themselves!)

(many of our victims feel that they need to find out if their cyberpath is "doing it again" or "harming anyone else." EOPC does NOT consider that cyberstalking but accountability as well as compulsory in order to stop these predators from throwing one life away to start destroying another)
Did you answer "yes" to any of these?

Only you know the answer to that question. If you did, maybe it was a one-time occurrence. Only you know the answer to that one, too.

If you were guilty of any of these actions, you should think about changing your behavior.

Unless you want to be a cyber-bully.

ORIGINAL ARTICLE FOUND HERE

HE'S BACK! ED HICKS BACK TROLLING ONLINE

Just to remind all of us how COMPULSIVE these predators are, Ed Hicks aka - Charles Hicks aka Charles Greene aka Billy Matthews, who was indicted for bigamy and got out of jail just a short while back is back online looking for new victims... er partners. (and still lying about his age too - he's actually 64!)

Hicks was the very first cyberpath we ever reported on and is the epitome of why this site was started. EOPC spent most of our first few months online reporting on this man and the fight to bring him to justice... yet 6 years later this alleged sociopath hasn't learned a thing.

From our friends at FIGHT BIGAMY, who got this comment (October 2011):

He's out again. Now going by the name of Billy Matthews. I too met him through an on-line dating site and found out accidentally who he really was. Luckilly for me, no damage done that I am aware of. Told me almost word for word every comment posted about him. Thank goodness for the internet.

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If this isn't PROOF to STAY OFF ONLINE DATING! Be sure to report him to the dating site(s) he is on if you run into him. This time he was on a CHRISTIAN DATING SITE called "Love & Seek." By now he probably has another new name and is on a new website. Jail time hasn't deterred him one bit.

These cyberpaths spend their LIVES doing this and they will never stop. Hicks is a serial abuser and bigamist. He is probably already juggling multiple women for sex, money or just for fun. Hicks will tell you he's:

• retired from the Federal Government (no. he was fired in disgrace.);
• he's just looking for "love" or "companionship" or "in love with love", and
• that all the news stories about him (well-researched with legal backup and filed in the courts in at least 2 states, convicted in Virginia and given jail time) are lies planted by his ex-wives or ex-girlfriends
• calls you "HONEY" all the time because he usually has about 3 women on the go at any one time and can't always remember your name.
  

This very bad man, just like another bigamist, con man - William Barber - and here's proof Hicks will never stop. Cyberpathy is compulsive and even jail does not deter these men from getting online and doing it all over.

MORE ON ED HICKS aka CHARLES HICKS aka BILLY MATTHEWS

CLICK HERE FOR EVEN MORE ON ED HICKS aka CHARLES HICKS aka BILLY MATTHEWS

EXPOSING THEM - CREATIVELY

"I remember thinking - the internet got me into this mess with this [cyberpath] and now the internet is going to get me out."

- openly available information is out there for sure!

We found websites started by people wishing to out THEIR predator, cheater or cyberpath. We commend every one of these people for being brave enough to put their stories out there to make sure these predators don't do it to someone else.

Some of these people listed have been covered by our site, some have not. Nonetheless, they have our support! - Fighter

Creativity can be a blessing when healing from a predator, user and/or abuser:
click below to go to some of the sites made in their "honor":

DIANA MEDINA

WILLIAM BARBER

BEATRICE M. ACEVEDO

SAMMY BENOIT / JEFF DUNETZ/ YIDWITHLID

MARK GRANIERI

JOSEPH A. CAFASSO

JASON CAPOZELLO

GARETH RODGER

There's more on the right of this site under VICTIMS FIGHT BACK!

Here's just a couple recommended sites that expose cyberpaths & abusers in order to educate the public about the M.O. and patterns of these predators (see full list at right):

FILTHY LIAR

LIAR LIAR LIST


(see our right margin for more sites to expose them. Maybe they will get help for their behavior and not harm others.

EXAMPLES OF PREDATORS WE'VE DONE (or are about to do)- EXPOSED ON OTHER SITES:

Dan Jacoby
one
two

Jeff Dunetz/ Gridney/ Yidwithlid
one
two

Nathan Ernest Burl Thomas, Jr.
one
two

Remember: You are only as sick as your secrets. Telling can put YOU on the road to healing.)

Warning: Online Predator will be BACK Soon!

from our friends at FightBigamy:

Serial Bigamist, Charles "Ed" Hicks to be Released July 17

Serial bigamist, Charles 'Ed' Hicks is scheduled to be released from the Chesapeake, VA jail on July 17, 2010. Hicks was incarcerated a second time for parole violation.

Be careful ladies because once he is out, he will be on the prowl very soon. He may have to stay in Virginia, but in my opinion, he will break parole again and will go anywhere. He was last found in the Florida Keys where he was living on a sailboat in Key Largo.

He likes to meet women via the Internet and has been known to have at least five online ads, while dating at least that many women. Hicks has had at least seven marriages of which four overlap.

Remember, when you meet anyone online, first do a Google search of their name.

original article here

Still Looking for Love in All The Wrong Places

(excerpts)

Fairfax County's renowned serial bigamist, Charles "Ed" Hicks, who married seven women but only divorced five of them, is back in jail for another year after violating the terms of his probation following his first year in jail.

...

Hicks ultimately was charged with felony bigamy in Chesapeake, Va., where he had married Julie Flint. (Wife number six -- you following this?) By then, he had disappeared.

Then, when wives six and seven appeared on the “Dr. Phil” show, his latest girlfriend in North Carolina -- watching the show with Hicks -- put six and seven together, and called the police.

Hicks was busted, pleaded guilty in March 2006 and was later sentenced to five years in prison, with four of those years suspended.

After serving his one year, Hicks moved to South Carolina, where he remained on four years of probation, Assistant Chesapeake Commonwealth’s Attorney Derek Wagner said. Meanwhile, Sandra Goldin Hicks started a blog called “Fight Bigamy.” And she was returned to the fight this summer when a friendly Internet reader spotted Hicks’ non-smiling mugshot, and realized she was dating him -- in Florida, Sandra Hicks said.

Ed Hicks was living on a boat near Key Largo, Sandra Hicks said. He also had neglected to check in with his probation officer in South Carolina on numerous occasions, and was wanted. He was picked up by police in September, extradited back to Chesapeake and last month sentenced to another year in prison, Wagner said.

“In his mind he has done nothing wrong,” Sandra Hicks (ex-wife number seven) said. “When he gets out in a year, he will be back to his same old tricks with five or six online personal ads and preying on more unsuspecting women.”

PLEASE POST COMMENTS & READ THE WHOLE ARTICLE HERE - CLICK

Serial Bigamist, Charles "Ed" Hicks Gets Another Year

from our friends & supporters at Fight Bigamy:


Serial bigamist, online predator, Charles Edward 'Ed' Hicks received a four-year sentence with three years suspended for violating his parole according to Derek Wagner, Assistant Commonwealth's Attorney for the City of Chesapeake, VA. Hicks is also known as the Dr. Phil Bigamist.

Hicks told the Court that he had been unable to contact his parole officer because he had a stroke and somehow got to Florida where he was living on a boat. He also told the Court he had a bachelor's degree in engineering from Cal Poly and a Master's Degree from the University of Washington! (all complete fabrications!) Hicks went on to say that a TV documentary had been done about him and ruined his 'good name'!

Hicks had been writing to several women he met on online dating sites for over a year. Despite claiming he was ill and that was why he hadn't reported to his probation office since early 2008, he was well enough to travel the state of Florida, ride a bike ten miles a day, and climb the 30' mast of the sailboat where he was living.

Hicks was arrested last month in Key Largo, Florida on a warrant from Virginia for violating his parole.

Ladies....this man is an on-line predator. When he gets out of jail, he will start doing the same thing again. If you are going to pursue online dating, at a minimum Google the person's name. (Hicks was EOPC's very first PREDATOR OF THE MONTH and we are glad all this information helped in his capture and re-incarceration. GOOGLE PEOPLE YOU MEET ONLINE!! PLEASE!! and stay away from Online Dating where predators like Hicks just PARK themselves and troll for new victims.)

For more information, see the article in the Virginian-Pilot.

Ed Hicks hits the news once again

By Kristin Davis

Authorities in Florida have arrested convicted bigamist Charles Edward Hicks, a Chesapeake man whose marital affairs were the subject of a TV talk show and a cable-channel documentary.

The 65-year-old was being held without bond in Monroe County in the Florida Keys, according to online inmate records.

A Chesapeake judge sentenced Hicks to five years in prison with four years suspended after he pleaded guilty in 2006 to bigamy involving his fifth and sixth wives.

He did not report to his parole officer in July 2008 and had been on the run ever since, according to court records.

At least two 2006 "Dr. Phil" episodes featured women who learned they were married to Hicks at the same time. In 2007, the We channel aired a program on Hicks called "Very Bad Men: The Man Who Married Too Much."

original article here

EOPC POSTS ON ED HICKS - OUR FIRST CYBERPATH!

IF YOU WERE EVER INVOLVED WITH ED HICKS - YOU'RE INVITED TO JOIN THE SUPPORT GROUP OF HIS VICTIMS: Write To: CEHsupportgroup@gmail.com

Ed Hicks - Back in Custody! Still Swindling the Vulnerable

Our very first Cyberpath - Ed Hicks - has been caught living in KEY LARGO, FLORIDA for skipping out on his probation.

CLICK HERE FOR MORE INFORMATION. (Be sure to leave a comment at that site!)

Hicks, who trolls the dating sites looking for innocent & vulnerable women -- was finally caught in 2006 after being profiled on the Dr. Phil show as well as "Very Bad Men"and charged with Bigamy. He got the longest sentence for Bigamy ever handed down in Virginia. A Felony Conviction.

But Hicks made a mistake -- once released, he NEGLECTED to check in with his Parole Officer, as legally required - in July 2008.

A warrant for his arrest has been issued from the Chesapeake Circuit Court.

If you click this link and want to verify Hicks is actually a fugitive:

1. Select "Chesapeake Circuit"
2. Select "Begin"
3. Enter: "Hicks, Charles" in the Search by Name field
4. Then Click "Search by Name" button
5. The Criminal radio button should already default:

It will be the first case that pops up and lists the 'Status' as Fugitive! The Case Number: CR05A03857-00

Hicks compulsive use of online dating sites to find new prey led to another of his victims TURNING HIM IN!

Hicks trolls ALL the dating sites (just like Barber)
Known Aliases: Charles Hicks, Ed Hicks, Charles Greene, Charles Edward Hicks
(could be using a name we don't know at this time)

Don't allow him to prey on anymore trusting women!

Hicks has also been referred to as the "Dr. Phil Bigamist" (click here to see TV shows and a documentary about Hicks - Click on "The Man Who Married Too Much").

He sometimes uses the phrase he is "in love with love".
Additionally, he shows interests in kiteboarding, windsurfing, golf and sailing to his prey.
He usually lists his Race/ Ethnicity as 'Other'
He sometimes dyes his hair and lies about his age. He was actually born February 23, 1944.

Take a good look at all the pictures here and on Fight Bigamy of this remorseless predator who is now on the lam. These psychopathic men do not stop... he will continue destroying lives. Hopefully now he'll spend a few years in jail!

If you have been contacted by this man via an online dating site, you are urged to immediately contact the:
Chesapeake VA Sheriff's Department Fugitive Division
Phone: (757) 382-6159
E-Mail: fugitive@chesapeakesheriff.com

Their address:
ATTN: Fugitive Apprehension Unit
401 Albemarle Dr
Chesapeake, VA

Keep a Predator/ Fugitive in JAIL!

Click here for FIGHTBIGAMY's Information on Hicks.


IF YOU WERE EVER INVOLVED WITH ED HICKS - YOU'RE INVITED TO JOIN THE SUPPORT GROUP OF HIS VICTIMS: Write To: CEHsupportgroup@gmail.com

Help Catch a Fugitive Who's on the Lam

Our very first Cyberpath - Ed Hicks - is on the run!!

Hicks, who trolls the dating sites looking for innocent & vulnerable women -- was finally caught in 2006 after being profiled on the Dr. Phil show as well as "Very Bad Men"and charged with Bigamy. He got the longest sentence for Bigamy ever handed down in Virginia. A Felony Conviction.

But Hicks made a mistake -- once released, he NEGLECTED to check in with his Parole Officer, as legally required - in July 2008.

A warrant for his arrest has been issued from the Chesapeake Circuit Court.

If you click this link and want to verify Hicks is actually a fugitive:

1. Select "Chesapeake Circuit"
2. Select "Begin"
3. Enter: "Hicks, Charles" in the Search by Name field
4. Then Click "Search by Name" button
5. The Criminal radio button should already default:

It will be the first case that pops up and lists the 'Status' as Fugitive! The Case Number: CR05A03857-00

Hicks has yet to be found. He could be anywhere but his compulsive use of online dating sites to find new prey could help find him!

Hicks trolls ALL the dating sites (just like Barber)
Known Aliases: Charles Hicks, Ed Hicks, Charles Greene
(could be using a name we don't know at this time)

Don't allow him to prey on anymore trusting women!

Hicks has also been referred to as the "Dr. Phil Bigamist" (click here to see TV shows and a documentary about Hicks - Click on "The Man Who Married Too Much").

He sometimes uses the phrase he is "in love with love".
Additionally, he shows interests in kiteboarding, windsurfing, golf and sailing to his prey.
He usually lists his Race/ Ethnicity as 'Other'
He sometimes dyes his hair and lies about his age. He was actually born February 23, 1944.

Take a good look at all the pictures here and on Fight Bigamy of this remorseless predator who is now on the lam. These psychopathic men do not stop... he will continue destroying lives. Help stop him!

It's suspected he's somewhere in the SouthEast U.S., possibly taking advantage of the trusting heart of yet another woman he met and lured online. Possibly In: North Carolina, Virginia, Maryland, Georgia, South Carolina or Florida. Could even be in California, as he has family there.

If you have seen this man or been contacted by this man via an online dating site, you are urged to immediately contact the:
Chesapeake VA Sheriff's Department Fugitive Division
Phone: (757) 382-6159
E-Mail: fugitive@chesapeakesheriff.com

Their address:
ATTN: Fugitive Apprehension Unit
401 Albemarle Dr
Chesapeake, VA

Forward this to everyone you know -- help catch a Predator/ Fugitive!

Click here for FIGHTBIGAMY's Information on Hicks.

Our First Ever Cyberpath, Serial Bigamist & Ex-Con Back At It!

Cross-Posted as a courtesy to our good friends at FightBigamy:

Former jailbird and convicted serial bigamist, alleged sociopath and Virginia state felon Charles Edward Hicks, sometimes referred to as Ed is now calling himself Charles Greene. Mr. Hicks or Greene or whoever he is now got the longest sentence ever in the state of Virginia for bigamy.

This Charles Greene also has a new email address: e111h444@yahoo.com. (probably more!) I am surprised Charles Greene can remember that one, since he is 64, but he will tell you some younger birth year. I imagine the "e" stands for Ed and the "h" for Hicks; I don't know where the ones come from but 444 could mean his birth year that he always lies about.The real year is 1944.

• He is still telling the same lie about owning property in the Bahamas. He doesn't own squat.
• He is back trolling the online dating sites probably using his "in love with love" line.
• At one time he lived in the back of his van and used a kitty litter box for a bathroom. He rigged up lights and put insulation around the van for warmth.
• His van was parked along a street in Alexandria, VA until he found a woman in North Carolina who took him in and hit her up for $500.00 a month. (prior to his arrest)
  

He is a piece of work, and if he gets near you RUN!

Read everything you can under "Ed Hicks News" and "Ed Hicks Missives" on Fight Bigamy to familiarize yourself with this predator.

Also See a report on Dating Psychos, search under "Hicks" and look at the one without the photograph; read the one with the photograph as well. Hicks has 2 profiles at Dating Psychos! from 2 different women)

Read another comment below from Players & Psychos.com.

Comment from another victim:
He never stops.

He's back online using the name "CHARLES GREENE" - talks about his land in the Bahamas (doesn't own jack), he's an ace sailor (not), he's retired from the gov't (he was FIRED and disgraced after being sentenced for bigamy!), people are telling 'nasty stories' about him (sure... NOT!) and he's got a new yahoo address.

Beware ladies - don't let this charmer in your door

For pictures and more information CLICK HERE

ED HICKS - The noble & moral man. LOL!

(ORIGINALLY POSTED ON EOPC - December 2005. Ed Hicks was released from jail in October, 2006 after serving 1 year behind bars. CLICK HERE FOR MORE INFORMATION)

"LAURA CAMERON" was another of Sandra Hicks' (wife #7) 'stealth identities' to nail her bigamist husband ED HICKS in the act in his online date-site trolling. Here, Ed gets supicious and "DUMPS" Laura

As the TYPICAL Cyberpath, Ed tries to make himself look noble & above suspicion. He talks about his "ex" (Sandra) in a way to make HIMSELF look like the victim - complete with outright TWISTING of the truth and LYING.

Don't Read Ed's email here on a full stomach:

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Ed Hicks wrote:
Laura

I have taken some time by myself to reflect on my life. For the most part, it has been fine. I can live with myself for most of my life's actions. I needed time to myself to reflect on some information I received Friday. (You found out you were BUSTED and being watched maybe?) I received a message from one of my Ex's relatives telling me they realize there are two sides to every story and to take care of my self. That meant the world to me. I loved those folks. They accepted me for who I was and could tell I was real in my feelings for them. God, I feel so much better. With that positive note, I know what I must do. I knew before but thinking about who I am and what others think of me has a lot of bearing and merit. Value beyond belief. (All these statements are probably a PLANT by Hicks for the benefit of whoever is reading his emails, to make himself sound like a good guy and throw suspicion off himself. This is a TYPICAL Online Predator move when they know they are being found out!)

> I must tell you that I am not ready for a relationship. I (as crazy as it sounds) still have feelings for my Ex. She has many problems as do most of us but one cannot change love over-night. I know we will never be together again due to what she has done with relatives and friends. She took the low road with the entire break up stuff. I am not about that and her relatives know that and have stated that to me. (Why did you marry her then Ed? If you aren't ready for a relationship why are you carrying on 3-4 at the same time?)

She never trusted me anyway. If only she knew, I would not and have never cheated on anyone I was in a relationship with. (LIE) That is just not, what I am about nor has it ever been. (Backwards psychopathic talk. Reverse this last sentence for the truth) I guess I aggravated the situation when I realized she was tracking my every move on our computer, telephone, etc. Followed me when I left the house. Questioned me if I was at the hardware store longer than she thought I should. I never once would entertain those kinds of thoughts about her. (of COURSE not! She was honest - you weren't) Life gets unbearable under those circumstances. I would sign up for a service like the one we met on just to drive her crazy. I would sign up and never remember or have any intention to deal with it. (LIE!!) She would see the log in and I would set her off. She should have realized I was always there with her. When would I ever have time to have a relationship? I knew she was utilizing a keystroke program so why would I ever think of exploring that avenue. I never answered any mail or intended to. (when you were locked in a room with your computer - or from your job? This is an outright lie told for his benefit because he knew he was being monitored) (Never wrote down the login or password) Just a way to let her know she should not be doing things like that. I know if you were under that kind of suspicion it would bother you as well. I never looked at another woman since we declared we would be a couple. She never could understand that a person can be faithful and love her. (Certainly not YOU, Ed)

> What she does has no reflection on what I do. (Bull! this whole email is for her benefit since you know she's on to you) Until I get past these feelings, I do not really need a love interest. I am sorry if I in any way lead you on. That was not my intent. I guess I was looking for a friend to talk to and maybe go out with later just for female companionship. So, saying that I understand if you discontinue writing to me. You have a life to live and wasting time with a person who has other dreams is not a good thing for you. I guess I am what you would call a person who has baggage. I will continue with my plans for the future since I know she has and probably always had other plans for herself. I just wish we could have talked and reasoned with each other about what life meant to us both. I am retiring in Feb and pursuing my dream of living in the Bahamas Islands. We may lose substantial $$ with some property we purchase together but there are other places to buy there. I have had it with the hustle and bustle of this area. Life has so much to offer in the island way of living life. I want to learn the lessons of the islands and ease into a better way of life. (With someone else's money, Ed? Who are you going to con in the Bahamas?)>

> You asked me where I lived. Well, I rented a room in a nice house with a private entrance and the whole nine yards. There is one feature I had not planned on: she had other reasons for renting me the space. Actually, it is more than a room; it has full appliances, separate bedroom, etc. Since I turned her down it is best that I find somewhere else to live. It could have been a great situation for me until I saved enough money to purchase a boat. Than I would live on it until time to leave. Oh well, I cannot be bought for money or sexual favors. I guess I could say I am not a prostitute for any reason. (LOL!!! How about parasite?or predator?) No sense in giving addresses at this point since we could not be a love interest. (The USPS doesn't deliver to your van, Ed) In addition, as soon as I can find another place (another target) I will not be at that address anyway. That renders this type of information null and void.
>
> Therefore, I will say goodbye to you. I wish you the best of luck in whatever or where ever your life takes you.
>
> Ed
*****

From: Laura Cameron
Sent: Monday, June 06, 2005
To: Charles Hicks
Subject: Re: The rain is holding off for now ................


Wow; double/triple wow...from a proposed trip to the Spy Museum to a dissertation on Ed's baggage. Interesting to say the very least.

From past experience when a woman begins learning of reasons not to trust the man she marries, she starts looking, as she well should, for other misrepresentations. Maybe your ex didn't like what she found, which prompted her to start investigating more. Could that be, Ed? A marriage should be based on trust and honesty or should it according to Ed's ideal relationship?

I cannot relate to being under suspicion because I've never done anything for anyone to be suspicious of. As I would have told you, had we gotten that far in a relationship, my life is an open book, I welcome a background check, and I would have asked if I could have had one done on you prior to any committed relationship. Had you told me that I could not, I would have wished you a good life with someone else immediately. I know of too many women who have been burned badly by online relationships that turn in to a supposed commitment.

I found your answers to my questions about your previous relationship(s) to be a bit disconcerting especially when you said your last ex misrepresented herself from the beginning. Your summary of her being controlling and your being the perfect laid-back man "in love with love" was not too plausible. Why did you marry this controlling counterfeit woman in the first place when you knew was a "bust" relationship from the beginning? She must have had something to offer you. (let's guess what that thing was). On the other hand, you portrayed the mother of your children in a perfect light even though she was a drug addict/alcoholic. Having to save your own children by getting away from the "Great Gal" drug addict alcoholic made little sense. It seems as if you have not only have baggage, but you also have a few overfilled trunks.

Actually, you misrepresented yourself to me, didn't you by telling me it was over between you and your ex and now you have feelings for her. After a weekend of reflection, you came to these conclusions? And, I also see you have ads on three different sites, using the same Screen Name and/or city, and all of those ads vary in answers to specifics too, including your age, birthdate, and your marital status. Now which is it, are you 52 or 53; are you a Pisces or a Gemini? Are you divorced or are you separated?

Regardless of whether you still have feelings for your 'ex' or not or whether you ever had any feelings for her at all, it sounds like you are no angel, Ed by putting ads online while you were a married man.

Adventurer06, you should give up the online playing for a while until you get your life straightened out and concentrate on making some reforms; use your brain instead of the that "sweet spot not on the list" as you describe as your best feature on match.com. You've probably done a little more than "aggravate a situation"; it sounds more like you have inflamed, provoked, roused; baited, angered, incensed, infuriated, and outraged.

Good luck, Ed, it seems as if you might need some.

Laura

Hicks' exchanges with another target just PRIOR to & after his marriage #7

Some emails between "Lynn" one of Hick's targets and Hicks just days PRIOR to and days AFTER his marriage to Sandra (wife #7). Sandra confronts "Lynn" at the end - as Sandra has found out about his other women.... but not his other wives, yet. Hicks was doing a lot of online romancing and spending a lot of time online, said wife #7. Sound familiar??

-----Original Message-----
From: "Lynn"
Sent: Monday, May 19, 2003 10:04 AM
To: Hicks, Charles E Mr APD
Subject: RE: Good Morning

Good Morning to You as well!

I know you love this weather! You can windsail in your backyard!

Today is kind of a quiet day. Only a few things on my agenda, so it will allow me to consentrate on other "administrative duties"—whatever that is!! But I can assure you it is not golf!!

My weekend was bittersweet. It rained ALL weekend, which of course is not a good thing. Parts of Roanoke flooded again and I have a nice crop of mushrooms in my yards. But I know sun is coming....I'm just not sure when! This coming weekend I may go to Myrtle Beach--and if I do that, I expect only sunny weather!! This Sunday, I worked on picture albums some more. Old pictures this time. Some of the people are dead, so it was kind of sad. I also cleared out some things for the trash folks to pick-up on Monday morning-that way I couldn't change my mind.

Remember asking me to see the first Harry Potter movie with you and it never happened?
When the movie was released in Spring, 2002 I bought it. The last week of last May you had planned to come visit (until you again decided I was the evil "email demon" and blew it off). I had hoped for us to see the movie then. I had ordered Bertie Bott's Every Flavor Jelly Beans and some chocolate frogs for the occassion. I have now officially thrown out the food items. I had also found a wonderful rebel flag last Fall that I had intended to send you for Lee-Jackson-King Day this year. Again, due to circumstances beyond my control, I was not able to accomplish that--so it also went in the trash this weekend. So as you see....it has been a little bittersweet for me. But that's okay. Necessary actions. And now I am looking for the sun outside, and have maintained my inner sun thoughout!

You are quite a safe person to confide in. I have found being the same type of person, it is not often that I find folks in which to confide. (The Online Disinhibition Effect at work) In fact, as close as I am to the YaYa's and my sisters—I never tell them very much of consequence unless I need a sounding board to think out loud. It is kind of on a "need to know basis." I share a lot of frivolous things-to give the illusion of confiding. They need that because of confiding in me-they will actually ask why I never share things-so I found that frivolity tends to deflect that for them. See-we all have ways of achieving peace in our lives!!

So I guess I am taking a very long path to get to the cornerstone of this diatribe-thank you for being a safe confidante for me. I can’t say that you are always safe in other ways-but in this way—you are!! LOL!! (because he DOESN'T REALLY CARE)

I have a meeting I need to get ready for-so I have to run. I look forward to additional communications with you today-before you leave for the city of gold!!

Have a wonderful day. Take care. Be safe.

L
-----Original Message-----
From: Hicks, Charles E Mr APD [mailto:Charles.Hicks2@hqda.army.mil]
Sent: Monday, May 19, 2003 6:55 AM
To: 'Lynn'
Subject: RE: Good Morning
Good Morning.


Nothing like getting Fridays mail on Monday.

We had gotten rain all weekend. Thought it was supposed to stop by yesterday. Well, no one told Mother Nature. Smile (please someone whip Ed every time he does that smile crap!)

Hey, you tell me stuff because I am safe. Even if we lived in the same area with the same friends it still would be safe to tell me. I have always been a closed mouth and folks seem to get that impression after meeting me. That too can cause problems especially in the work place. As the EXTREME RULER OF MY KINGDOM in Calif. they would still come and tell me things I would be afraid or embarrassed to tell anyone, let alone my boss. Oh well, they were the good times. The times I could go and play golf from 10:30 until 1:30 in the afternoon. THE DAYS OF WINE AND ROSES. Where did that come from. Oh well. Smile (aggggggg!!)

You have a good day. I am heading to Fort Knox tomorrow so lets get in as much contact so I don't have Lynn withdrawals. (REMEMBER THIS LINE - He uses it on "CAROL" in an email sent the same day!! and btw - he was NOT going to Ft. Knox. He was getting married in 7 days to wife #7 - Sandra!!)

Ed
-----Original Message-----
From: "Lynn"
Sent: Friday, May 16, 2003 9:13 AM
To: Hicks, Charles E Mr APD
Subject: RE: Good Morning

I'm good today. I sure would have loved to sleep past 5:30 this morning though....it was cool and perfect sleeping weather!

We had the storm yesterday and then it rained some overnight, but actually the sun is out right now. In Roanoke yesterday, there were parts of the city that received over 3 inches of rain in that afternoon storm! I don't know how much rain I had, but the puppies' empty wading pool had enough water in it that they wanted to stand in it-maybe 1/2 to 3/4 of an inch.

How is your weekend stacking up? For the first time in several weeks, I have absolutely no solid plans. And to be honest, that feels pretty good!

Today will be a good day. I have several personal things to take care of by phone-which I try to avoid at work, but there are times.......

I need to schedule my follow-up testing next month for the ### irregularities. That is one of many things that I allowed to drive me bonkers over the last several months. But I have no control over the results-so I am thinking positively about the outcome. You are the only person I have mentioned this to, and I am not sure why I told you (Your gut was telling you WARNING "Lynn") Folks here who care about me would "fuss" over me and ask way too many questions if I shared it with them. You being the cool, logical person (detached & uncaring unless he wants something from you?) does have its down-side-I know you won't react so it is safe to tell you.

I also need to make room reservations for ### and ###'s ##'s June wedding in Richmond. It is one of those big, catholic, events that lasts all afternoon and night. ### offered ### $ to elope, but the intended and her family really wants the wedding. So they are counting on me to be there for them! LOL!!

And then I also need to get my puppies into the groomers in the near future-the last vestiges of their winter fur in driving me crazy-I just can't seem to get the remains completely combed out!

So that's my day. I will fit in "work" as I can! LOL!! Kidding!!

I hope your day in Crystal City is a good one. I know that you so love long, drawn-out meetings! I hope for your sake this isn't one of them.

Have a great weekend. Take care of yourself. Be safe. Talk to you later......
L

-----Original Message-----
From: Hicks, Charles E Mr APD [mailto:Charles.Hicks2@hqda.army.mil]
Sent: Friday, May 16, 2003 7:27 AM
To: 'Lynn"
Subject: Good Morning

How are you today? I am heading over to Crystal City for a meeting that will last most of the day. I wish you a great Friday even though it is probably raining........... Cheery hearts don't allow rain to dampen spirits...........

Have a great day. Chat with you soon.
Ed
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(4 days after Hicks' wedding to wife #7 Sandra)

Quoting "Hicks, Charles E Mr APD":



Good Morning

I was wondering if you thought I had forgotten about you. No, I have not. No access to my mail and I could not remember your work email address. (Ed was ON HIS HONEYMOON!!) I finally put it into my Palm Pilot this morning where it should have been all along. (but Ed -your WIFE will find it there!!)

Thank you very much for the card. I am so glad you had a wonderful time in Myrtle Beach. I like your adventurous spirit. You are also probably one of the most liberal persons I have met here on the East Coast. You should be proud of yourself for not letting color infest your thinking like so many others here have. You have no limits and that must give you a great feeling. I bet there were some great looking bikes there. I love motorcycles but would not own one here.
Traffic, Ill prepared motorist and narrow roads have tainted my thoughts on doing that.

I came back from the Piggy Bank as broke as when I left here. They were not handing out free samples or anything. What is becoming of this great country we live in. Smile. (No you just MARRIED another PIGGY BANK!!)

I will write more later. Need to dive into this email and take care of anything important or that others deem important. (like the other women and my new wife and more online dating too!!)

Be good and have a great day. Again, thanks for the greeting.
Ed

-----Original Message-----
From: "Lynn"
Sent: Friday, May 30, 2003 10:14 AM
To: Hicks, Charles E Mr APD
Subject: Hello......

Good Morning Ed Hicks!

Forget about me?? You?? Never!!

Select not to contact me?? You?? Quite possible!!

Not knowing your holiday weekend plans or your assignment for this week, I made the assumption that you would contact me as time allowed! And you did!!

I hope you enjoyed your weekend as much as I did. I had a very experiential, fun filled, time!! I have already written a letter to the Sun Times in SC expressing my outrage that helmets are not required in that state. There were 8 deaths during Harley Week and 4 deaths during Black Bikers Weekend. All involved head injuries. Outrageous. I am also considering contacting my Congressman with the idea that it should be a national law--I am sure States' rights prohibit that--but I am still feeling outrage! Folks keep telling me I can't save the world--and I keep telling them they can't know that unless I stop trying!! We all have to believe in change and we all have to believe we can be the instruments of that change....that's why the 80's took us on a nose-dive back in time--no one looked beyond themselves!! (But Lynn, Ed is still living there- On PLANET ED!)

Ooops! Sorry. Tirade alert!!

Anyway. Write when you have the opportunity. I miss knowing your life..... (IF ONLY YOU REALLY KNEW!! ED'S GOT SO MANY 'LIVES')

Take Care. Be safe. Smile....I will find another funny for you yet.....
L

-----Original Message-----
From: "Lynn"
Sent: Thursday, June 19, 2003 3:52 PM
To: Hicks, Charles E Mr APD [mailto:Charles.Hicks2@hqda.army.mil]
Subject: RE: All about Willie

I am disappointed but that's okay. I am so out of touch with you now that a day won't have a significant impact. And no, I am not whining or complaining. I am just trying to be as honest with you as I know how. I know that is not always a good thing, but not expressing my feelings never improved things either. So-I will look forward to Saturday.

My meeting this morning dragged on - and on - and on. It was supposed to go from 11:30 to 1:00. I returned to the office at 3:00. I hate it when a very large male ego is in the room-everything becomes a power struggle. (wait until you hear about the REAL Ed's EGO!!!) I told a couple of the men (Mr. Ego had already booked) as I was leaving that it would have been simpler to just mark trees outside and be done with it! It is a benevolent organization with wonderful services and goals, but this guy thinks it is all about him. These type meetings always take a while for me to let go of and leaves a very bad disposition of my temper! I will be over it in a couple of hours- (he will make you pay covertly for your feminism by screwing & lying to you. Note- Psychopaths always make their targets 'pay' covertly in some way for something they don't like about the target. Usually AUTONOMY which in this case is "Lynn's" feminism)

So give me an idea about what time to expect you on Saturday and I will see you then. In the mean time, take care, be safe, and drive carefully on Saturday.
L

-----Original Message-----
From: Hicks, Charles E Mr APD [mailto:Charles.Hicks2@hqda.army.mil]
Sent: Thursday, June 19, 2003 11:17 AM
To: "Lynn"
Subject: RE: All about Willie

I just got off the phone with the teens that live at my house. They wanted to have a Bar B Que on Saturday but will move it to Friday evening since I am heading to Richmond. I wondered how to handle that but gave in. So, our dinner for Friday evening is out. I will be there with you on Saturday. That was not my first choice but I had promised them they could have their friends over for the Eat Out.......... See what I mean about having a life........

Okay, so we pack all our stuff into Saturday. Can we do that?

(THIS IS A TOTAL LIE - ED HAD PLANS WITH HIS WIFE (#7)

More later,
Ed

-----Original Message-----
From: "Lynn"
Sent: Thursday, June 19, 2003 11:09 AM
To: Hicks, Charles E Mr APD [mailto:Charles.Hicks2@hqda.army.mil]
Subject: RE: All about Willie

Good Morning!

I know you don't stereo-type people-unless they are teenagers!!

The concert sounded great! The weather here rained all evening and night-so I am glad the weather held for Willie! I know Willie has two new albums out (I read it in Time), but I haven't heard either.

It's good that you had fun!

I am running out the door for another meeting-different kind of Board (or bored) this time out. But I will write more when I return.

Hey-you never did say if you still plan to have dinner with me on Friday in that you are going to the wedding festivities on Saturday? (Ed has too many targets ...er... women in the air, Lynn!!)

More later.....

Have a great morning and stay safe!
L

-----Original Message-----

From: Hicks, Charles E Mr APD [mailto:Charles.Hicks2@hqda.army.mil]
Sent: Thursday, June 19, 2003 7:01 AM
To: 'Lynn"
Subject: All about Willie

First the weather was absolutely the best. Couldn't ask for a better day. The concert was outside with folks sitting on the grass and also there was seating under the roof. I had an inside seat (if you could call it inside) which seemed the prudent thing to do given the weather for the past two months. I never rained a drop. The temperature was about 80 degrees and perfect for all seating. The folks out on the grassy hills were popping the cans of beer and eating. We inside were could not take coolers there but could suck down a few beers, wine or whatever else you cared to drink.

On to Willie. He was the same old Willie. He talked more of the songs that he used to sing but that did not take away from his musical genius. He was great. I did not realize how well he played the guitar. He man can really play. I thoroughly enjoyed his performance as well as most who were there. I would do it again today if I had the chance. Well, maybe not since it is raining in buckets outside this morning.

I managed to avoid the guilt by not thinking about kids or other responsibilities. They are almost grown and if they cannot take life at this point they will never be able to in the future. I have done all I can, they have to do the rest.

So, no guilt. Had a great time. Willie was great as always. Only received a few funny glances but they were from folks that would have given me funny glances at Safeway. Smile. Oh, by the way I am not the one doing the stereotyping, it is others. I could care less what music anyone likes. I was just giving some inner thought to the fact that I would and almost was the only Black person there. I did see two others. Not bad for back here where color seems to be a dividing rod. (aren't you liberal? Predators come in all colors, genders & religions Ed!!) Glad you don't feel that way. :)

Well, I have given you all the facts of last night. Great, memorable and lots of fun. To me it was a lot of fun. Maybe to you a trip to the river with fireworks would be a measure of how much fun one can have. (Okay, just poking a little fun.)

I hope your day is filled with slack time or should I say time to breathe and formulate good thoughts as Directors should.

Chat with you later.

Me..........
Charles (Ed) Hicks
Army Electronic Library Branch
Standards and Technology Division
U.S. Army Publishing Directorate
Phone: 703-428-0565 [DSN: 221-0565]

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From: charles.hicks@usapa.army.mil [mailto:charles.hicks@usapa.army.mil]
Sent: Friday, July 18, 2003 7:21 AM
To: "Lynn"
Subject: I am Happy Now are you ?

Hi! charles.hicks@usapa.army.mil just sent you a music greeting from http://www.beatgreets.com!

To view your music greeting, simply click here

-----Original Message-----
From: "Lynn"
Sent: Friday, July 18, 2003 9:07 AM
To: Hicks, Charles E Mr USAPA [mailto:Charles.Hicks2@hqda.army.mil]
Subject: RE: I am Happy Now are you ?

Good Morning!

Yes, if you are happy-then that brings a smile to my face as well. Thank you for the music this morning-always a good start to the day! "I can name that tune in 5 notes-"

Looks like you will be able to play in the water this weekend, if you had any plans to do so-the weather will hold mostly on Saturday and all day on Sunday!

I am going to a cook-out tonight. A small gathering-so I will have a good time. I made little cucumber sandwiches last night-and a jug of margaritas-to contribute to the cause. Wish you could come out and play with us - The Ya-Ya's are going to be there-but we aren’t wearing out hats and glasses this time-since it is at a private home. We only do that in public!! We really aren't right in the head, are we!

I do hope your day is more fun than yesterday's. I am going to try and complete a plan for my Board and a report for the Board of Supervisors-both meet next week. If I don't finish-I can do some stuff later on this weekend (if it rains on Saturday afternoon).

I miss you Ed. But that's a good thing, is it not? It reflects how I feel--(wait until you find out the TRUTH!!)

So. Have a terrific day. Take care. Stay safe. And laugh out loud at least a few times, won't you?
L

-----Original Message-----
From: Hicks, Charles E Mr USAPA [mailto:Charles.Hicks2@hqda.army.mil]
Sent: Friday, July 18, 2003 9:34 AM
To: "Lynn"
Subject: RE: I am Happy Now are you ?

Being there sounds like a great idea. ### has a friend coming in from Calif. Tonight (or should I say tomorrow morning) Actually Sat. morning by than. He will be here for a week. He visited us last year as well. Nice kid. I have known him since he was about 7 years old. He and ### have remained fast friends through the years. He wants to come here for college next year. I don't think I can deal with more teens. If I recall you and I talked about that very situation last year. (Your latest wife is helping there, isn't she Ed?)

My weekend will be a little windsurfing if the wind blows. That does not happen to often here.

Sounds like you will have a good time tonight at the party. Yes, I wish I could be there as well. Schedules will have to be revamped so we can have some face time.

You just smile a smile for me today. You are loved toooooooooo. (but not by ED!!! his love is mostly for HIMSELF!!)

Ed Hicks

-----Original Message-----
From: "Lynn"
Sent: Friday, July 18, 2003 10:05 AM
To: Hicks, Charles E Mr USAPA [mailto:Charles.Hicks2@hqda.army.mil]
Subject: RE: I am Happy Now are you ?

Alright now, you need to "re-frame" this proposition--make it work for you. Think about welcoming ## friend to come and go to school here, with the stipulation that he and ## are roommates elsewhere. If they have the motivation to hold jobs and pay rent or whatever, then you are one step closer to emancipation! I know you that somehow, you believe this would come back to bite you in the butt…..but if you are serious about actually charging your kids rent anyway (oh please, Ed would take money from a poor man- his own kid was no biggie!)-- they may want to go ahead and look at living elsewhere—and this way they would have another contributor toward expenses!

I know nothing about the actual situation, but speaking in generalities, it sounded like a viable option for you to consider! If not now-then at some future time in your children’s academic careers!

Man--why does a social worker believe that everyone want to hear what they have to say!

Sorry. But if I hold my words in too long-they contribute heavily to ulcerations!

Regardless-you will have fun this weekend. Kids are fascinating-especially if you like them!

-----Original Message-----
From: Hicks, Charles E Mr USAPA [mailto:Charles.Hicks2@hqda.army.mil]
Sent: Friday, July 18, 2003 10:12 AM
To: "Lynn"
Subject: RE: I am Happy Now are you ?

You offer sound advice. I have thought of situations like that and wish they would come up with a solution like that themselves. I will throw that out to them when ### is here and see what they say. Rent in this area is so darn high. Not like over your way.

Hey, what are we if we cannot accept advice from the ones we care about. Even though I may not act like it, I do listen to sound advice--- (YOU DO!? How about getting divorces, telling the truth, not playing vulnerable women and being a human being to people, Ed?)

This is Friday at 10:15am and I am tired: maybe just tired of this place for the week.

We are supposed to have rain this evening and possibly throughout the weekend. If it rains you cannot cut the South Forty. I know that would break your heart.

Hey, I don't know how long I will be here today. If we misconnect you have a wonderful weekend. Know that I am thinking of you always. (GAG!!)

Ed Hicks

-----Original Message-----
From: "Lynn"
Sent: Friday, July 18, 2003 10:48 AM
To: Hicks, Charles E Mr USAPA
Subject: RE: I am Happy Now are you ?

Trust me on this, sweetness--showers this evening, sun tomorrow, showers later tomorrow afternoon and evening, and then sun on Sunday (hence the name! HaHa). So play outside this afternoon and tomorrow morning-and all day Sunday!

You may be tired--but one thing I am sure of is that you have "retirementitis!" But kick back early if it is raining, watch a movie and nap through most of it-that is a wonderful afternoon. If it is still sunny this afternoon, kick back on a swing, read a little, and nap. It is that kind of down time that will restore your energy for the rest of the weekend!

Take care of yourself. Stay safe. And know that there is a caring aura sent to surround, always. Talk to you on Monday!

L

-----Original Message-----
From: Hicks, Charles E Mr USAPA [mailto:Charles.Hicks2@hqda.army.mil]
Sent: Friday, July 18, 2003 10:54 AM
To: "Lynn"
Subject: RE: I am Happy Now are you ?

If you get bored when the rain comes you can write me an email - use - EdHicks@hotmail.com. You can tell me about the party and the great time you had with your friends. That might make for interesting reading. Speaking of reading, I am reading the new Harry Potter book and should get a long way into it if the weather is bad.

I would much rather be SPOONING with you. (IMBEDDING DESIRE with words, typical predator)

Have a peaceful weekend. Don't take any wooden nickels. (Ed you are a walking WOODEN NICKEL)

Ed Hicks

-----Original Message-----
From: "Lynn"
Sent: Friday, July 18, 2003 11:04 AM
To: Hicks, Charles E Mr USAPA [mailto:Charles.Hicks2@hqda.army.mil]
Subject: RE: I am Happy Now are you ?

I am about mid-way through Harry's book. My mom thought it was too "verbose" (her word-not mine), but she liked it anyway. I am thoroughly enjoying it! But I have forgotten so many details from the first 4 books, that I want to re-read them again! Maybe I will do a "college scan" of the other books again before I finish this one.

How about you? How do you like this one?

I will write to you this weekend. A poor substitute for SPOONING, but it will just have to do for now!

L

-----Original Message-----
From: Hicks, Charles E Mr APD [ ]
Sent: Monday, June 23, 2003 9:16 AM
To: "Lynn"
Subject: I had a great time with you ..........................

Good Morning Linda

I just wanted to say I had a great time with you Saturday. I think I realize what is missing in my life (ROFLMAO!! Ed you are married for the 7th time to Sandra, what is missing with you is TRUTH & REALITY). I do miss the verbal conversations we used to have almost nightly. Talking at such length with you where time has no value brought that fact back into the picture. Conversations which has no end. Topics that come out of nowhere which lead to an endless flow of serious; funny; political; social conscious issues along with other topics neither of us imagined would transpire. Can I say that was the best part of the time we spent. Naturally pressing my lips to yours at the end was a treat. (GAG ME!! did she pay for everything Ed?) I don't normally have heart pounding experiences but that was one. Smile. (how about being questioned or called on your lies? running from other wives & women?)

I just wanted you to know what I thought and felt of our meeting.

Hope you day goes very well. I don't have much planned but there again this is Monday and things have a habit of popping up.

Be good and take care. I trust your drive home Sunday was without incident.

Charles (Ed) Hicks
Army Electronic Library Branch
Standards and Technology Division
U.S. Army Publishing Directorate
Phone: 703-428-0565 [DSN: 221-0565]

-----Original Message-----
From: "Lynn"
Sent: Monday, June 23, 2003 12:11 PM
To: Hicks, Charles E Mr APD [mailto:Charles.Hicks2@hqda.army.mil]
Subject: RE: I had a great time with you ..........................

Good Morning Ed!

I am starting to write this in the morning, but there is a good chance that "transmit" will come after the noon hour! It was busy this morning. I got a late start from home because of a couple of phone calls-people who tried to check in last night but my phone was busy then because of folks checking in!! LOL!! I guess it is good to be missed on some level! I mean, my gosh, I was only gone 2 1/2 days!! I guess the craziness of last week's full moon still has folks on edge and just wanted to make sure all was well. It gets kind of scary to think that I am the voice of sanity!! Then I rushed into a meeting, barely on time, and the same male ego was there that tormented me last Thursday. This time, each time he spoke I just imagined him as a two year old with a dirty diaper whining to his mommy.....it allows me a different perspective and it didn't get under my skin during this meeting. Is that sick or what? (um...yes)

Yesterday driving home was quite an experience for me. I think I had what is considered an emotional outburst. I cried. I cussed. I ranted. I raved. And by Charlottesville, I found some level of peace. It is truly amazing that passerby folks did not call the state police about a crazy woman-they must have assumed I was singing with the radio!! The cause for this unlikely behavior, you ask? Saturday. (Oh god you were with Ed!! you poor target)

I realized much the same thing as you. And I decided life and being a grown-up totally sucks.

I loved the time we had together. It flew by. I realized, once again, why I know you are the true love of my life. Regardless of outcome. And that set off a wave of diverse emotion that I was not quite prepared for. I thought I was in much better control of myself. Guess I was wrong. But by Charlottesville, I stopped, got a caffeine drink (I think the teller thought I was stoned because my eyes were so glassy - because you'd been zapped by a mind numbing emotional PREDATOR!), and cranked up the stereo the remaining 3 hours, and all was well. When I got home, happy puppies greeted me and I picked up the cards of my life, as I have been dealt, and the few wayward tears that have since made an appearance periodically have been banished!

(Guess all this story was a little more than you had anticipated. Sorry.)

But I am okay. I simply look forward to the next opportunity that we have to share our pounding hearts. I'm just glad you didn't see the tears as I walked away Saturday night..... (you will have more to cry about soon)

Have a great Monday afternoon. I need to get my head back down to tasks at hand.....I have a grant to write today and tomorrow and an appeal decision to write-up before Wednesday. Plus, I want to go home early on at least one day and plant my summer pansies-they aren't dead yet, but they soon will be if I can't get them in the ground before the rains come again! Aarrgggg. I refuse to complain about the rain, but please! More sunshine!

Take care of yourself. Stay safe. Write when you have the opportunity.

L

-----Original Message-----



From: Hicks, Charles E Mr APD [mailto:Charles.Hicks2@hqda.army.mil]
Sent: Monday, June 23, 2003 1:49 PM
To: 'LindaJ'
Subject: RE: I had a great time with you ..........................

Probably not the forum to say this but so I will keep it short.

I WANTED TO STAY WITH YOU BUT HARNESSED MY DESIRE FOR VARIOUS REASONS (Ed, you had to GET HOME TO YOUR WIFE YOU LIAR!). You know me by now: I did not want to appear sexually aggressive or have you thinking that is all I wanted. (they ALL say this- they ALL say its more than sex..... Always proclaiming their "love" or moral, chivalrous nature. IT'S A TOTAL LIE SAID ONLY TO MAKE YOU BELIEVE IN IT) Sort of like the first time we spent time together. Full of doubt, apprehension and now add a lot of guilt in with it and you have my feelings. Life has dealt us a dirty blow and I don't know how to get around it. Not your fault for sure and I refuse to take the blame as well. How one gets around the crap and back to reality, life as we see it, normalcy or at least feeling normal as defined by me.........

I don't know. I do know I do not want to hurt you. (again, a typical LINE.... he's already hurting her, just reeling her in for more!) I think there has been too much of that without provocation on either of our parts.

You get the gist of what I am saying. (Predators LOVE to let their Targets FILL IN THE BLANKS FOR THEM. THIS IS CLASSIC!) I hope so since I have to run downstairs to a meeting.

Be sweet and think of the 90 + degrees you will have tomorrow.. Smile

Ed

-----Original Message-----
From: "Lynn"
Sent: Monday, June 23, 2003 2:37 PM
To: Hicks, Charles E Mr APD
Subject: RE: I had a great time with you ..........................

There is never a proper forum for expressing emotions in this crazy world. That's why we do the best we can with what we have. You have no idea how nervous I was in seeing you again. It was worse than the initial meeting. This time was a type of closing of a gaping hole in time. I was most afraid of not feeling in reality what was left in limbo a year ago. I guess that is one reason I was not prepared for the emotional rollercoaster that ultimately came for me.

All I know is that if and when the proper time comes for us, it will happen (never Lynn never).

And what I can tell you is that fate lies in your hands much more than in mine-for many reasons-some obvious, some not.

But there are several "truisms" that exist for me. One, you are the true love of my life. Two, despite the pain and loss, my unconditional love endured and still endures. (his is all conditional - you are playing right into his game!) Three, I am always content and therefore happy when we have time together. I believe that it feels "right" when we are together. Four, with you, I take what comes and expect no more (because you aren't getting more than player's lines & a quickee). Hurting me would come from dishonesty, deceit, and planting false hopes. (YES IT WOULD!!! Get a clue, he's a PREDATOR) And finally, you must realize that I believe myself to be fatally flawed, so I have no real expectations in a relationship. The abandonment always comes. (The target blames herself, just what predators want!)

So there you have five pieces of the inner wall of which I willingly allow no breeches. Not that they are any big surprise to you, since I do wear my heart on my sleeve. However, I do try to protect myself in some manner-real or imagined. Now just seemed to be the time open the inner sanctum a little bit......

You know your heart. Listen to it. The rest will follow. Unless your willing deceive or lie to me (he already has), or worse-to yourself, it will be okay. Like I said before: Regardless of outcome. ("Lynn" had already been confronted once by wife #7 but went back for more!)

And I thank you for your intentions to not hurt me. (Lynn will take that back since he ALREADY has... read on..)

Are your relationships always this complicated? (YES!!) Or do I just promote that in people!!

Hope your meeting went well this afternoon. I categorically DO NOT look forward to 90 degrees by mid-week. But I will take the sun on any terms for a few days!! Enjoy it yourself! At least I have mountains, cool breezes, and trees to offset it all!! (Oops....sorry, didn't mean to sound "gloaty")

More later.....
L

-----Original Message-----

From: Hicks, Charles E Mr APD [mailto:Charles.Hicks2@hqda.army.mil]
Sent: Monday, June 23, 2003 3:16 PM
To: "Lynn"
Subject: RE: I had a great time with you ..........................

You are correct in so many of your statements. Especially ones which pit the heart against reality (surely not YOUR heart, Ed) I still have ties here and responsibilities I wish I did not have. (YOU? ED?) Smile. I cannot ask you for time. That is totally unfair and unrealistic. So, despite the fact that I could drive the kids out, retire, purchase a place in the woods so things looked right and than move in with you. That sound is coming from my heart and not based on reality. I am trying to think into this and it is not working except increasing tension which will surely give me a headache soon. I will leave it for now. Know that I really care for you no matter where or how we turn out. That is not a death sentence for us nor is it a, "I promise".

To answer one other question embedded in your note. No, you are not the first to come into my life and not have it frothed with turmoil. You are not the cause whereas the one other time (HOW MANY? YOU TALKING ABOUT YOUR WIVES? AND THE MONEY YOU TOOK?) this person just could not take no for an answer. (typical - the predator plays "VICTIM") I believe we talked about it briefly during one of your late night chats. (Which lasted for hours) Smile.

You know me, I just want to live my life and not screw up anyone else's (this HAS to be a joke, Ed). Peace at almost any cost is my motto. (yeah, keep your mouth shut and don't expose ole' Ed!!) Don't hurt anyone except the type persons we were talking about on Saturday............. (for you is that anything FEMALE, Ed?)

Hey, you have a great day. Yes, I like you will welcome the heat if only for a couple days. Smile. It will take a week of 90 + to dry things out here. Hopefully I survive................

Ed

-----Original Message-----
From: "Lynn"
Sent: Monday, June 23, 2003 3:25 PM
To: Hicks, Charles E Mr APD [mailto:Charles.Hicks2@hqda.army.mil]
Subject: RE: I had a great time with you ..........................

Just promise me you will take me whale watching---

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OOP! ED!! DID YOU ACTUALLY GET CAUGHT!?

From: "Lynn"
Sent: Wednesday, July 23, 2003 12:34 PM
To: Hicks, Charles E Mr USAPA [mailto:Charles.Hicks2@hqda.army.mil]
Subject: FW: Let's 'Chat'

Some interesting mail I received to day. There was also a phone message given to my receptionist that implied that I was the "other woman" in a marriage and I would be dealing with the wife today in some form or another.

I left my meeting after becoming physically ill from the phone message. I am at work only because I have a Board meeting tonight. My computer at home crashed last night, again, and I am beginning to believe that it is being sabotaged in some way-but I am too cyberly challenged to even know how to tell.

Things always come in three's, and if this is the 3rd, it is quite a doozy. I could use some input about no--

( Now she, like "Carol" Is looking for closure & explanation. Don't expect the truth from Ed!! the TRUTH was worse than they all knew!!)