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UPDATE
AS OF JANUARY 1, 2013 - POSTING ON THIS BLOG WILL NO LONGER BE 'DAILY'. SWITCHING TO 'OCCASIONAL' POSTING.
If you think meeting them on a Christian, Catholic, Pagan, Jewish or other religiously oriented online dating site is better? THINK AGAIN!! Online dating of ANY KIND is a NO NO!!! And the second woman shows again - GOOGLE THEM FIRST and READ EVERY HIT & PAGE NO MATTER HOW MANY!!
A man who police say raped and sexually assaulted women he met through online LDS (Latter Day Saints) chat sites is in trouble again for striking up new Internet conversations.
Kent Parkinson, 28, appeared in 4th District Court on Wednesday for an order to show cause filed by prosecutors who say he's been contacting woman on the Internet — a direct violation of his plea in abeyance.
In September 2006, Parkinson pleaded no contest to five counts of forcible sex abuse, two counts of forcible sodomy, 10 counts of rape and one count of aggravated kidnapping, all first- and second-degree felonies.
Prosecutors agreed to hold those in abeyance for three years — and not ask for prison time — if Parkinson could complete a series of requirements, including sex-offender treatment, paying fines and filing progress reports.
Prosecutor Mariane O'Bryant said in 2006 that although the deal seemed lenient, it was acceptable to the two victims, who were so traumatized by the abuse that more court hearings would have been difficult.
Police say Parkinson met the first woman online and later went to her home in Springville to watch a movie. During the movie, the woman told police Parkinson touched her breasts and genitals without her consent, according to a police affidavit filed in 4th District Court.
The second case also began with an online meeting and when the two met in person, police said, Parkinson kept the woman against her will for 10 hours and raped her repeatedly at a home in Orem, Utah according to an affidavit.
Defense attorney Debbie Hill told the court Wednesday that she wanted time to talk to Parkinson about the new allegations and the case was set for Nov. 26.
In September 2006, Parkinson was told that if he failed to meet the conditions of his probation or violated the law again, he could be sentenced and face the potential of life in prison.
The new chatting allegations arose when a woman from Layton said she met Parkinson on the Web site LDSplanet.com, and they chatted then agreed to meet.
She met him in July and they hung out several times, although she said she was hesitant to kiss him as much as he seemed to want to, she wrote in a sworn statement filed in 4th District Court.
They hung out a few more times but Parkinson began to get more aggressive and even unfriendly, the woman wrote. At one point she told him her feelings had changed and she wasn't interested and he got mad and said he never wanted to see her again, then sped away in his car, according to her statement. The woman said she got home and deleted him from her Internet chat accounts, then searched to see if he had a MySpace account so she could block him from that, too.
She told police that during that search she found a newspaper article about his original cases and that he was not supposed to be using the Internet.
"That is when we decided that we had to contact someone about it so nothing else could happen to me or anyone else," she wrote in her statement.
More on Darren Meade; paid smear-campaigner and internet abuser. Kudos to this site for calling out religion abusers, like our cyberpaths. Many meet victims on Religion-based dating sites or religion centered websites. Beware!
excerpts: Religious Sociopath's relate to true Christians as wolves relate to sheep. The Bible warns of this. Wolves will come to divide and scatter sheep. The apostle Paul warned Christians in his day for three years, day and night with tears, knowing wolves would come and leaders will rise up within their midst, twisting the truth to mislead so they can get their own following. The apostle Peter also warned of this happening. A Religious Sociopath is a highly intelligent person who is manipulative and cunning with superficial charm. Justifying his selfish motivations as permissible because “God wants me to do it for the good of the group,” he does not recognize the rights of others. His motivation is sometimes revealed in the indecent ridicule of humiliating victims, justifying it by saying he needs to “keep order” or to “protect his flock.” If he can get away with the ridicule, he gains more control. Religious Sociopath's feel they are entitled to have their way, since it is their right to abuse people. Being extremely sophisticated liars, they decide to believe their own lies at will. They are extremely refined in their quickly thought out persuasive answers, knowing to whom and when they can lie and get away with it. Friends and other people are just opportunities to exploit and control. They do have friends for many years, but the friends all end up as victims because a Religious Sociopath does not truly love others. The love, friendliness, and compassion is feigned. It is actually hatred. There is no remorse for those who are hurt or crushed by them. They don’t truly empathize, but have contempt, disdain, and scorn for others and for God. The sympathy is feigned. A Religious Sociopath preaches and believes the Holy Spirit is using only him, and the Holy Spirit in practice cannot teach others, motivate others, or comfort them. Only the Religious Sociopath can teach and provide comfort; all others need to go through him or the leaders who follow him. He loves deception and is intimately familiar with mind control techniques. A Religious Sociopath says what it takes to satisfy people for the moment, but does not follow through or deliver on promises. He conceals his deep contempt for sincere Christians as he politely helps them understand what he wants them to do. A Religious Sociopath wants to control every aspect of his victim’s lives for his own self gratification, concealing it within lengthy messages, scripture woven with truth and lies to conceal the true motivations. This brew of truth and perversion allows him to gain the confidence of sincere Christians who know the Bible, and then slowly deceive them with false doctrine over time. Religious Sociopath's crave the admiration and approval of others, but at the same time hate those who they control with their deception. Their doctrine is motivated by their licentious lust for control; for the need to have even more naive victims who will willingly do what they ask. They feel no remorse for the devastation in people’s lives and relationships, just as Proverbs 26 states. FOR MORE ON THIS READ: A RELIGIOUS SOCIOPATH
This sniveling little weasel bible-punching mortgage broker (with
whom I had no prior correspondence) spammed me with his message of
Christ’s love and the (admittedly subtle) offering of sound mortgage
guidance. Click here to read his email.
Take note of his footnote disclaimer: “You received this email as a result of your ongoing business relationship with Darren Meade.”
This is 100% unadulterated Christian bullshit. Not one word of that
sentence is founded in truth. We never had ANY contact of ANY kind. He
is a lying spamming jackass.
Darren’s email included contact info all of which now lead to dead
ends. Read on to learn why, but first listen to this hypocrite spew his religious delusion.
The Downward Spiral
Since this rant was added to the site (late-2006), I found the
following self-authored blurbs about Darren on two different websites
containing other contact info which are also now dead:
My name
is Darren Meade with Victory Mortgage Lenders, and I look forward to
working with you. Together, we can work through this and position
ourselves to really succeed when this [real estate] cloud lifts,
ensuring great years ahead.
Darren
Meade is a national and local real estate financing expert. He is
available for speaking engagements, personal coaching and
consultations. He may be reached at (949) 499-1785.
And another…
Over
the course of several years I went from being homeless to living in a
condo on a golf course and representing the United States in
international events culminating in winning the middleweight title of
the IFBB Mr. North America bodybuilding competition. At the same time I
co-founded a nutritional which exploded in the nutrition market and by
age 27 I made my first million. Being young, I then squandered my first 3
million to turn around and build it again and again…slow learner at
times!
I’m not too inclined to believe much of this, but I can tell you that
Victory Lenders (which he owned) is now out of business. His website is
gone, no trace of the company can be found anywhere, and his email
address and all of his phone numbers lead nowhere or to someone else.
Must be hard to schedule Darren for all those speaking engagements,
personal coaching sessions, and financial advisory consultations that
Mr. Meade was quick to boast about.
These are just two of many highly-inflated
self-authored endorsements that I found with a simple internet name
search. I don’t see the need to post more as they’re all filled with the
same tripe…less you read what others are saying.
Now read just one of manycritiques of Darren’s business savvy and character:
Much
like Darren Meade of Victory Lending (Yes, the homeless boy turned
bodybuilder turned nutritional supplement king turned mortgage lender),
one wonders exactly how much koolaid they might have consumed, and if
there will be any long-term mental health impacts to the frequent
regurgitation of bull. However, at least with David Lereah, there is at
least some formal education to qualify him as a somewhat credible
source; if my personal trainer began giving me financial advice, I might
have to ask him to stick to what he knows best…it’s the ultimate
expression of the shoeshine boy offering stock tips.
However,
the difference between the 2 seems to me to be the voracity of their
arguments. In one case, Darren obviously believes the crud he’s sharing.
He speaks with all of the voracity of a Koresh believer. He might
rather endure great pain or even death before admitting any wrong. His
lending will only end when those providing the money end it for him.
Consider that he might actually lack the mental discernment ability to
know that what he’s selling is toxic waste of the lending kind.
Follow the Phony
Google this idiot’s name and see for yourself. Seems like our little
Christian friend has a penchant for jumping from job to job, getting
himself in trouble, and then playing the part of the perennial victim.
Here’s some bad news for Darren at The Ripoff Report and assorted tales of woe with the equally repugnant (and alleged) Met-Rx founder, Dr. Scott Connelly.
This little tidbit should eventually put the slimeball on ice. Also enjoy Darren’s lame attempt to play the part of the victim on Fox News.
The Coup de Grace
I can’t vouch for the validity of any claim against Mr. Meade, but none of this sounds good for the fellow – and this one
takes the cake. It appears that this jackass actually claimed that god
directed him to harass people. The rest is pretty god damn bad.
If any of this
is true, Darren may have some profound legal woes in his future. Decide
for yourself. (Is it just me, or does he look like a creepy Matthew
Perry?)
And here’s a gem from rexxfield.com, specialists in combating online defamation. ..... There is a great email posted up from Darren (begging to make rent) because he’s about to be homeless. I’m sorry, but where’s Jesus in all this?
Video Killed the Lame-io Star
Someone posted this video parody of Darren getting bounced by a high-profile attorney in Los Angeles.
And I’ll close with this gem.
I wonder if he’s still living on that golf course. Doubtful, I’m sure.
Perhaps Jesus can assist.
We apologize that due to the holidays we weren't able to get together to finish this expose. But Mr. Darden deserves one last look. (We know he's been coming here to read this -- like all Cyberpaths -- ego surfing themselves)
A great look at how someone on a religious-oriented site, who portrays themselves as a scripture quoting 'man of God' is actually an Cyberpath trolling the net for vulnerable women for either cybersex, naked pictures or casual sex while using lines like "I love you" and blaming the victim for his cutting & running when he either 1. gets bored or 2. finds better victim(s). - Fighter
Here are some final emails between Darden and his victim Our comments in dark blue.
-------------- Original message ---------------------- From: "XXXXXXXXX.XXX
I'm so sorry. I didn't realize I let your hand go. I'm sorry. I didn't feel the connection go but it was a very painful topic. I remember now and I think I got lost in the pain and drowned out everything around me, including you. I didn't realize and I understand your reaction now. Please know I wasn't being dishonest.
I'm not perfect, but I guess I was hoping you could love me, all of me, imperfections and all. But I understand you're unsure of me now. Trust is not something easily rebuilt once it's been lost. So I understand your changed feelings and I'll leave where we go from here up to you. I'll be okay with whatever you decide.
I love you because I don't see your imperfections. I only saw your heart. Please don't try to make this about me. I didn't change. (It's ALWAYS about you - what a liar!)
I let you in even if was uncomfortable for me. You closed me out. You didn't trust me to understand. I understand pain. I have been understanding towards your pain the whole time. I am in pain also. I never used that as a excuse to shut you out. I never judged you. I accepted you. Did you accept you? Did I get to close to someone that you have not accepted. (Darn you wouldn't send me naked pics or have cybersex with me...!! You must pay!!)
I don't want to force anything on you. Especially not yourself. You are beautiful to me. That is all I could see. (All he could see was free sex!) I just want to put things in perspective. We tried something that I feel you were not ready for. (CASUAL SEX!! and because you have feelings & I don't you didn't go for it. I hadn't brainwashed you thoroughly enough. But hey I am gonna blame you anyway) That is the bottom line.
I feel you want something from me on your terms. I understand if you are not ready. I need you to be honest with me. You say that you have been but you haven't. One example is [dating site]. Please don't see this as me throwing it in your face. I feel that you won't see my point any other way. I am just trying to get to the truth. TRUTH. (you wouldn't know the truth if it jumped on you & bit you) ~~~~~~~~~~~~
Now she's trying to end it and not understanding why he won’t give it up and she doesn't get that he’s putting it all on her so he can leave her with a megadose of guilt!! Cyberpaths love to do this... make the victim leave so then they can play VICTIM!! Or make it so bad that if the victim continues to stay they can say "it's THEIR FAULT TOO!!"
Either way he wins. If nobody in the situation is to blame, then there is no way to resolve the problem. If you are to blame, then you must fix it. As for him, he is just an innocent victim and utterly blameless, therefore unable to do anything at all to find a solution, but totally justified in being a sod.
Thank-you. I thought I was ready. I wanted to be ready but maybe I wasn't. This may make me mistaken but not dishonest. Maybe neither one of us was ready.
I am not a dishonest person. I wasn't dishonest about the [dating site[. I noticed you were on because at work I kept your profile in my browser and when I was missing you I would go to it. You don't have to be logged on to do that. I should have asked you about it but not asking wasn't being any more dishonest than not telling me about it. It shook my trust but I wanted to believe in you and I felt asking you about it would be wrong. I deleted my account because I believed in us, in you.
I have grown so much and I love myself enough to know what is my truth and to not let others define my truth for me. I accept me. I accept me now because I see myself as Christ sees me. I see myself through my Father's eyes and I know that I am beautiful. That I am strong. That I am worthy because of my Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ and for no other reason. I know that I am worthy to give and to receive love. So if you want to believe I'm dishonest that's okay because what you believe about me can't change God's reality. And that's the TRUTH. (cough cough... Using God to dump all over her.)
Narcissists I've known also have odd religious ideas, in particular believing that they are God's special favorites somehow; God loves them, so they are exempted from ordinary rules and obligations: God loves them and wants them to be the way they are, so they can do anything they feel like -- though, note, the narcissist's God has much harsher rules for everyone else, including you.
I let you in as well. And now I release you. I know, that if you're honest, you want this to end so I will make it easy for you and say goodbye. As I said before, whether you want to believe me or not, I loved what we had together and I will always cherish and treasure you. You have such a blessed ministry. May God continue to bless you and may you continue to prosper. I hold no ill feelings towards you. Thank-you for loving me and for leading me to a place where I could finally love and accept myself. I pray the same for you.
Love always,
XXXXXXX
(poor girl hadn't figured out yet she was talking to a PATHOLOGICAL PREDATOR and her words were wasted. He was playing games and enjoying watching her twisting!) ~~~~~~~~~~~~
Good morning XXXXXXX,
I will always love you. (BARF!)
As I have said before I got to meet someone who I was able to fall in love with. It is my feeling that the person has retreated back deep inside of you. This is a change that I can not adjust to. I can be on the surface with any one and several ones at the same time. I am looking for someone that I can get deep with. I sense a change in our relationship. I sense a change in you. That is the truth. That is my truth. I would like for you to respect it. If you can not then do with it what you will. (Oh spare us Darden... the only thing you want to get deep with is someone's intimate parts)
Our communication through these past email makes it very clear to me that we have lost something in our communication. You are saying that you don't see it. You don't feel it. If it only exist in my heart then that is what I have to go on. (She lost nothing Darden... you just played her for a fool!)
I am so happy for you that you have found so much beauty in yourself. I hope that I had something to do with that. Regardless I am happy for you. You have always been strong in God. Stay strong in yourself. Thank you for releasing me. I truly think that is what I need. I can't find what I once found to be just for me. I too love what we shared but it is not the same. I remember the good and I chose to take the good with me. The sun rises and the sun set to rise again and again another glorious day. God bless you and keep you forever. (oh we feel SICK!)
Darden signs his name again, only once in future correspondence. He never again uses her name. He's objectified, devalued & discarded her and let's it show!
---- Original message ----
Good morning Darden,
I've had time to reflect and you are right. We attempted something I wasn't ready for. I am still struggling with low self-esteem, low self-worth, and not fully accepting myself. So although I thought I had accepted your love, I guess deep down I still questioned your motives because I couldn't understand how you could love someone like me. This is something I can now see and will continue to work on. I accept your need to move on and find someone to love and to love you how you deserve to be loved. And I thank-you. I would still like to be your friend if you will have me. If not, I understand.
Many blessings,
XXXXXXX
(Oh no - here it comes:
You will never be cured of contact with them if you don't face this unpleasant fact about them. They don't love you. They don't love anyone. They can't.
Lamb, you are as lovable as can be, but the Wolf doesn't love you. He doesn't dare let himself love you, or he'd starve. Correction: he does love you – for lunch.
Darden probably realized she was close to figuring him out and had to end it.
From: rdardenea@xxxxxxx.xxx Sent: Tuesday, 15 July, 2008 9:40 AM Subject: Re: Good morning
You are worthy you are worthy you worthy!!! Why? God has made you worthy by what His Son has already done. We believe Him and that makes us worthy. If I give a gift and it is received with doubt the gift's effect is reversed so it is no longer a gift but a curse.
I can't move on right now. My heart is with you. It is with your heart. I have been calling you to a safe place away from danger and you don't trust me. That doubt has caused you to remain in danger. How does that make me feel? Like my love means nothing. I love you. (GAG US!!!! Blame shifting -- blame shifting -- it doesn't end with this predator)
'Darden'
It was this last one that really shook his victim up. Because:
As part of his seduction, he recommended movies for me to watch, two were love stories (Daddy’s Little Girls and Why Did I Get Married) and one was about a man with psychological problems who hates psychiatrists (Rain on Me) Teaching her not to question him!!
We exchanged pictures and some of the new pictures he sent me he also posted on the dating site. That’s what I saw when I came across his profile – nicely updated with photos I thought were meant for only me!
We would bet money he STILL is addicted to porn (just look at what he sent to her!! and lust? It's his whole reason for breathing! Women are just objects to these men. Being on religious affilated dating sites just "makes them look safe!!" and they are NOT!!
ALWAYS WATCH THEIR ACTIONS NEVER BELIEVE THEIR 'WORDS'
The woman said she got home and deleted him from her Internet chat accounts, then searched to see if he had a MySpace account so she could block him from that, too.
