Monday, July 30, 2012


The process of brainwashing (or 'grooming') their victims is one consistently reported by those who have dealt with a cyberpath. Here's some of the cyberpath's process:


1. The cyberpath keeps the victim unaware of what is going on and what changes are taking place.

Your cyberpath might make plans for you, or not tell you what his plans are until the last minute. He may talk about you to others behind your back, to isolate you from them. They will always leave you on the edge of your seat about what their next move or even when your next contact will be. (usually on their terms, not yours)

2. The cyberpath controls the victim's time and online environment, and works to suppress much of the victim's old behavior. The victim is slowly, or abruptly, isolated from all supportive persons/friends/net buddies except the cyberpath.

Your cyberpath might have insisted that you stop certain social, hobby, or work activities. Your chats may have moved to a more "private" or one on one forum and they insist you NOT tell others about you & them or include anyone else in your chats. If you do, be suspicious the cyberpath might be working on THEM behind your back as well. You may have been asked (or told) to reduce or stop contact with specific supportive people in your life.

3. The cyberpath creates in the victim a sense of powerlessness, fear, and dependency. Usually by providing unparalleled attention, support and understanding in the beginning and then SLOWLY over time withdrawing it and systematically replacing it with their real 'agenda.'

Verbal and emotional abuse and manipulation creates these emotions, and they become stronger and stronger over time.

4. The cyberpath works to instill new behavior and attitudes in the victim.

The online predator trains to you behave in ways that he wants you to behave. He gradually makes you feel differently about yourself, and erodes your confidence in yourself. They make you feel that everything you do, say or think - revolves around the cyberpath. (i.e. less talking & real communication - more cybersex, doing things for them, in person sexual encounters, money loans, etc)

5. The cyberpath puts forth a closed system of logic, and allows no real input or criticism.

In other words -- What he says, goes.

(We have used the male gender - your cyberpath may well be female.)


yngathrrt said...

Very interesting post and it is actually closely related to my blog that I wrote yesterday on Emotional blackmail on the Internet.

As always, EOPC continues to post about very important issues that are informative, knowledge based and extremely important. I use this website a great deal to learn and keep up with Internet horrors.

Anonymous said...

this has happened on a site called the meeting place the boss man has manipulated some people to do all his dirty work for him to ruin other.

Anonymous said...

They end up controlling YOUR reality and that is crazy making. You can't tell the truth about what they are doing to you or discuss it except in their terms. You are blamed for everything.

This brainwashing thing is so real and it's the reason they are so hard to get away from. I felt like I was trying to get out of a cult and I've heard others say the same thing. Your thinking becomes so muddled by all the word salad and control you are not even the same person you once were.

When I figured out this was done on PURPOSE I was just astounded and shocked beyond belief but, it's true. And they do it over and over again. Like the predators they are.

Anonymous said...

It is interesting to read about online brainwashing,a friend's daughter went missing after being brainwashed on the internet.I didn't really understand it at the time but now I am reading about it more and more & it scares me.

Anonymous said...

This has just happened to me.I met a man on a dating site.From the start he wanted to spend many hours online to me each day.I was very flattered by this and i thought it was a sign that he liked me a lot.At first he kept talking about religion.then that stopped completely.He started to say he loved me.I believd this as he was spending so much time online with me each day.I knew there was something odd about him from the start but i couldnt figure it out.He would say something and then say the complete opposite.he told me he gets 'confused'.this made me more and more confused.after a few months he started acting a bit cold towards me.he stopped saying 'i love you'.he stopped saying goodbye and stopped leaving kisses.all the time he promised me that we were going to have a real life relationship.after spending so much time online to him i fell madly in love with him.i became tearful and distraught when he started distancing himself from me.i felt so confused and i was thinking about the situation all the time.i felt depressed angry.others began to notice the change in me.this man was gaining complete control over me.then one day i was talking to him on webcam and i became so emotional.i felt like i was loosing myself,like he was taking control of my mind.then in my daily life i started to have panic attacks because i could think about nothing but this man and the things he kept saying to me.luckily i was on the internet one day and i saw something on u tube about brainwashing.it said that one brainwashing technique is to tell say one thing ,then say another,to instill confusion.he done this to me from the start ,but i didnt realise it.i have only just realised that he has been brainwashing me.i will be ok just feel a bit confused.and the crazy thing is is that i miss him and i still feel like i love him.he has made me so dependent on him.he has affected my mind but i still want to believe that he loved me and cared for me.i still hope that i am wrong but i knew from the beggining that something wasnt right with the guy.i havent told anyone yet but i guess i should.

Anonymous said...

re cyber predators

My mentally handicap son was taken by one of these people.Because of his age im having issues getting police to arrest the man who has him. I never knew he was talking to some weirdo. I.I found out that the man who has him has others like my son.Police are watching the man . If this happens to your family you need to get a lawyer involved to push the police.