Online Players, Internet Predators, Cyberpaths, Dating Site Frauds, Cyberstalkers... whatever you call them - they need to be EXPOSED! Did they take your heart? your trust? Harass you? Tell your story... Share ideas for dealing with them... ('FAIR USE LAW' APPLIES TO ALL ARTICLES)
UPDATE
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EOPC gets emails every week from victims of cyberpaths, asking:
"How do I get rid of this person? They are stalking, harassing, cyberstalking, defaming, contacting my family/friends. I told them to stop. I reported them to the police and others. They are angry that I figured out their game. They will not leave me alone." The below article will hopefully, be of some help.
I want to talk about some things we can all do when dealing with a nutjob or control freak. Many of these I have used over the years. Some I learned from my own mistakes.
Basically, it boils down to a number of traits and attitudes:
1. Have confidence and feel powerful - If a person doesn’t have any confidence right now, with themselves or a particular situation, then I say , ’Fake it Until you Make it!’
Practice, practice, practice, until you ARE confident that circumstances will work out better for you. Act as if you ARE a powerful human being. Make eye contact with others and treat your life like it should be treated, because everyone deserves to be treated well.
Do not let anyone take it from you! Learn all you can about what being a confident person truly is. Surround yourself with confident people who are impeccable and rise to the occasion of being the best they can be, regardless of circumstances
2. Don’t try to win a pointless battle. Take care of yourself and the things in your life that are most important. Leave the petty things for another day. Pick and choose your battles! Don’t allow yourself to be controlled by ANYONE by getting involved in an argument or stupid drama. Delegate the fighting to someone else who is more experienced and a professional to handle the ’bull’. They will quickly realize what it’s like dealing with your psychopath and may suggest how to handle things from a different perspective.
3. There’s no need to be kind, friendly or nice. It’s not your job to give in to what others want all the time. You can always be professional-like, firm and say no! You are not required to provide your reasons to anyone for simply saying no. You have the right to completely ignore people who try to harass you, no matter what the threat may be. Do not react to them, and never forecast what actions you will take (if any). You are not obligated to be in a relationship with the other person if you do not want to be. You can chose your friends and those you wish to associate with. You can choose where you work. You can choose where you live and how you live.
4. Be unpredictable and mysterious. You can break the rules and do things differently. You owe it to nobody to account for anything. Never submit to their demands (but you can make it seem like you will). No one needs to know everything about you, especially someone who wants to harm or damage you. This alone can shake things up a bit - the stalker can be thrown off balance and not know what to expect anymore - and there’s nothing they can do about it.
5. Control emotions. Never get mad. Don’t cry in front of the other person. Appear upbeat and as if nothing can bother you; smile and laugh often! You do not always have to be sad - and never appear depressed (or homicidal). Be business-like and serious when you need to be - confident and resilient. If you show emotion (especially desperation or loneliness), then you demonstrate to others what you may be feeling, and they can take advantage of you when you are vulnerable, or use it against you (legal professionals, law enforcement, and those in a position of power included). Beat the crap out of a concrete floor (or solid ground) with a bat or a stick and scream to release your emotions (in private!) if you need to get rid of pent-up junk. I used to have to do this regularily. Now I laugh about it. But it felt great afterwards. It’s a healthy way to deal with ’stuff’.
6. Think about yourself (and your loved ones). Don’t worry what your harasser is up to or doing (or planning next). It can drive you mad not knowing, I realize that. What’s worse is you thinking up bad scenarios that have not happened (or may never)! Consider your own needs. What makes you happy and content in your life? Get your life back - start doing those things that you love again. Make it a habit, get unstuck and release yourself from all the negativity
7. Educate yourself. If you’re unfamiliar with certain topics, such as legal rights or finances, then research as much as you can. Information is power. Get yourself a free education by volunteering or working in the industry you may need to learn more about.
Most answers can be found on the internet these days, or by speaking to professionals and experts who know what they are talking about. Other answers can be located deeper within yourself. Always know what your options really are, make a Plan A, B, C and seek guidance on how you can get there.
Don’t believe everything people tell you, especially those in authority (because they could be lying, lazy, or just plain lame). Ask questions when you don’t know what to say. Don’t be afraid to ask questions! Do not assume anything. There may be more than one way to deal with your problem - there can be multiple solutions that you can test and try.
8. Dress for success. Look presentable and professional as much as you can. Do your hair, wear good clothing, spray on perfume or cologne, put on makeup to brighten your features.
Don’t look like a frazzled walking stress-case because people will treat you like one. More opportunity will arrive on your doorstep when you appear as though you expect it. Not only will you look better, you will start to feel better, appear more confident, be taken seriously and treated accordingly.
9. Get a handle on your financial situation. If you have money that someone else wants, find a way to protect it. Focusing on accumulation of wealth and success will preoccupy you and take your mind off the meaningless crap in your life. Remember, the one who has the gold, has more power.
10. Disassociate. By choosing to not have anything to do with the other person (unless absolutely necessary), you can gain the upper hand instantly. No one likes rejection.
If they have no way to connect with you, or harass you, and you don’t reciprocate or react, then the game they play can eventually become boring to them - they will move on to something or someone else to occupy their time (without a reaction from you). Their behaviour may escalate, but stand your ground. Keep safe and away from potentially violent situations. Do not take the bait if they make childish, harmful or made-up comments about you.
11. Be sharp and quick. Be witty, ingenious and creative. When you think you have explored every possible solution (and they have miserably failed), consider what the least obvious means to an end may be.
Go with your gut. You can outsmart a psychopathic when they least expect it, as this is all a game of cat-and-mouse to them. Most of them assume you will try to engage others to go against their smear campaign or abuse. The majority of these cases (are criminal, yes) but will never be prosecuted. Know that and accept it.
You can expose their character defects, their weaknesses and gaps in their plan. This can really get them tangled up in a ball of lies and contradictions!
Alot of the above techniques are likely employed by the stalker or psychopath in your life. I heard from a police detective once that if the cops want to catch the criminals, they have to think like them. This does not make them bad or immoral people for doing so.
So put yourself in the shoes of your harasser,and deal with their behaviour by being proactive and ahead of the game. Think like them, but do not be like them.
I believe I have the upper hand now when it comes to dealing with my psychopathic stalker. We are out of sight (and reach) - there is nothing more he (or she) can do to harm us.
Once you find out what the cyberpath is they may do a combination of any of the following:
Disappear and/or block you and/or change their nicknames, identity & emails
Lash out at you
Smear you
Belittle you & call you names
Tell everyone that you both know you are "crazy" or "stalking them" or (the oldest one there is) you're a "scorned man/woman."
many other nasty, malicious things worthy of a 9 year old
This is betrayal. This is what pathological people do when their 'mask of normalcy' is pulled off. You reel from it because you can't understand. You can't imagine what happened to the attentive loving guy you met who seemed understanding. Nothing happened. That wasn't the REAL PERSON. This monster who is out for your virtual heart is the real person.
Everything else? was a lie.
All you will get now is narcissistic rage. Anger that you busted them. And threats of harm to you, your family and so on. Just read through the stories on the right of our exposed predators and see how they treated their victims.
Take a look at Ed Hicks, Doug Beckstead, Dunetz/ Yidwithlid, Brad Dorsky orDan Jacoby . Look at how they were to their targets once they got bored or angry with them. Watch their rage, their blame-shifting, their guilt tripping and their disappearing acts from the lives of people who people who really loved and cared about them.
The one thing we can tell you here at EOPC is that 90% of the time, the threats are a form of "control by temper tantrum." Like a 6 year old they are mad that you won't play their game or said "NO MORE" to them. Or they got bored and don't want to play with you anymore, so your emails and attention is suddenly ANNOYING. Now they kick, scream, say rude things & stomp away hoping you will be so upset you will let them start up their game again. Either with you or someone else.
Or, that you are so scared of them you dare don't expose them or tell others. DON'T FALL FOR IT!
And don't for a second think they haven't told their online friends, offline friends, partner/ spouse, job... that you are "obsessed with" them or a "scorned" person. So when you send just one more email or make one more call hoping for explanation, closure, something... they say "see!! see how she is!! she's nuts and won't leave me alone! she's trying to manipulate me!"
What childish bull.
If you really want to help them? Expose them. Make them accountable. Don't let them scare you into silence. Help others stay away! Maybe they will get their relationship/ marriage right. Maybe they will go into LONG TERM counseling. The odds are 98% of them don't.
"The world is a dangerous place to live, not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don't do anything about it." - Albert Einstein
But don't let them scare you. Stand up to a bully no matter how long or what it takes. Take back what they took from you. Your power, your dignity and your peace of mind. - EOPC
~~~~~~~~~~~~ Betrayal, when realized, is a phenomenal existential feeling. Suddenly, your world is no longer the one you believed in. You question reality, but most of all you question yourself.
How, you wonder, could I have been so naive, stupid, blind, trusting, unseeing, unknowing? It may be difficult to believe, but these questions are good. YOU are the normal person, the one who aligns reality (he was so nice to me, he was my friend) with a cognitive belief: he ACTS as if he likes me, he TELLS me he likes me, I see no reason not to believe him because in my past, people who act and speak this way, CAN be trusted. There is congruency. But not now.
Suddenly, you learn that someone trusted - a spouse, lover, family member, close friend - has been putting you down, lying, manipulating others against you, and yet maintaining a stance of intimacy with you.
The world is not clear, the ground you stand on is wobbly. You will never feel good about this. You will not "Get Over" it. But you CAN move forward. You can do so by realizing that no matter how awful the betrayal, YOU are the normal person and this betrayal comes from rage.
This person envies you in some way, is enraged about it, and MUST put you down behind your back. They MUST harm you.
They have no choice. But you do.
In the world of normals, after we get over the shock, we can use this experience to become stronger, to help others, to learn to avoid this particular toxin, and to calm ourselves that the higher moral ground is ours. It's too bad this person acted as he did, we wish he did not, but we are NOT diminished by their pathology. Wiser, sadder, but never diminished. ~~~~
EOPC believes that cyberpathy is a form of pathology. Either narcissistic or sociopathic/ anti-social. Because its exploitative and the cyberpath has no remorse or guilt. Therefore we publish this article for the victims of cyberpaths.
Don't believe they aren't hurting you on purpose. They are. You are not the 'object' they treated you like. Stand up and tell them. They will probably disappear from your life while painting themselves as the victim - OF YOU!
Stop giving them the opportunity - stop trying to "get through" to them, stand up for yourself and starting healing you!
Hurting You Isn't Something Narcissists Do by Accident by Kathy Krajco
In all the jabber about narcissism, the worst noise is this idea that hurting you is something narcissists do by accident.
If you get nothing else out of "What Makes Narcissists Tick," get the message that frees you of that ridiculous belief. Which is nothing but a baseless assumption.
I don't ask you to take my word for this. Test what I say when I say that narcissists hurt you on purpose. Anyone can test any narcissist.
Here's how: The next time the narcissist is hurting your feelings or making you feel low, let your feelings show and tell him or her how they are making you feel asking them to stop it.Be prepared for a shock. Any normal human being would soften and let up, but a narcissist will do exactly the opposite.
What does that mean?
Is revving up their engines, kicking in the afterburners, and running you right over an "accident" after you show your soft underbelly and beg them to let up on you?
It's no "accident," that's for sure.
Want to see a narcissistic rage? That's no "accident" either. The test: Just fall to your knees in tears begging them to have a heart and stop kicking you around like dirt. The narcissist's response? He or she blows up into a rage. Is that rage an "accident" when nothing but how deeply they are hurting you provokes it?
No, it's a willful and wanton outrage.
Now hear this: THEY DON'T DO IT BY ACCIDENT. They aren't just inconsiderate and touchy.
Test their "touchiness" (if you can do so safely, or have somebody not at the N's mercy test it - someone who can defend themselves).
Rage right back in their face. Act just as wild right back in their face. Threaten right back. Speak abusively right back.
Now any normal person would be provoked to rage by your doing this in their face. But narcissists are so UNtouchy that they do the opposite. Watch how instantaneously the raging narcissist becomes meek and mild and switches to his "I-wouldn't-hurt-a-fly-mask."
Don't take my word for it. Test it.
You CANNOT insult a narcissist who isn't in a position to bully you! It's impossible. Try it, you'll see. Your lack of vulnerability gives them skin a foot thick! (Not to mention a rubber spine.)
"Touchy" my you-know-what.
They aren't touchy at all. So perceived slights aren't what set them off. The VULNERABILITY of a TARGET OF OPPORTUNITY is what sets them off - IF there are no witnesses.
That's predation, not touchiness.
Narcissists aren't inconsiderate of your feelings. To the contrary, they are extremely considerate of your feelings. Your feelings are exactly what they are trying to affect. They closely observe how you react every time they do something to hurt you.
And they are like sharks, able to smell a drop of blood a mile away. Why? Because your hurt feelings are their pain killing drug.
They are addicted to it. Ever since childhood.
That's what their mental illness is, an addiction. (In fact, all addictions are classed as mental illness.)
So where do people get the stupid idea that narcissists aren't to blame for what they do?
It's asinine to think that narcissists can't control themselves when we see them controlling themselves perfectly whenever witnesses are present. So, what? being behind closed doors makes them suddenly out of control of themselves? Baloney.
Their problem isn't lack of self control; it's lack of conscience. Conscience is what makes people behave the same in the dark as in the light of day.
Okay, they have an addiction to trampling people. They are hooked on the childish high they get from throwing somebody down, stepping on the victim's back, and thumping their chest with a Tarzan yell.
But since when does an addiction amount to a carte blanche? An addiction is just a TEMPTATION. It doesn't remove the addict's responsibility to resist that temptation.
If a heroin addict sees you with heroin, he will attack and may kill you for it - IF there are no witnesses present.
But do we absolve him of his responsibility for the crime just because he's addicted to heroin? Of course not.
Same with the narcissist. Since childhood he has done this mind-altering drug of abusing people and is addicted to it. He addicted himself.
Yet addicted as he is, he demonstrates the ability to control himself by behaving whenever witnesses are present, misbehaving only when he thinks he can get away with it.
Innocence that is not.
He does what he does because nothing but getting his drug matters to him. So he has no conscience. He lives to get it, whenever he can get away with it.
So, hurting others isn't something narcissists do by accident. It's how they live.
The victims of narcissists must understand this. They must quit falling for the masks predation conceals itself behind.
I don't care how much the poor, little, ole narcissist whines that he didn't mean to, and claims that he has an excuse because HIS feelings were somehow hurt, and weeps about what a miserable childhood he had and how sad and forlorn he'll be if you go away, and all that crap. It's a joke.
Painful as this is to admit, the victims of narcissists MUST understand it. It's the bottom line. It predicates your choices.
Don't take my word for it: test and see. 2 + 2 = 4. Always. Even on Thursdays.
By Tejaswi Agarwal Key Primers Bullying has been defined as a behaviour that is intentional, harmful, repetitive, and reflects anabuse of power. In today's hyper-connected world via social media, bullying has taken a gigantic form whereby the perpetrators utilise the technological means to harass, denigrate and stalk people. In order to put it in words of Ben, Cyber Bullying involves the use of information and communication technologies such as e-mail, cell phone and pager text messages, instant messaging, defamatory personal Web sites, and defamatory online personal polling Web sites, to support deliberate, repeated, and hostile behaviour by an individual or group that is intended to harm others. Contemporary Situation In today's socially connected world, accessing information has become the easiest tasks. The evil elements of the society never leave a chance to defame anyone. In the current scenario, cyber bullying has taken various forms. The defaulters send angry confrontational messages, often using explicit and vulgar language, referred to as flaming this often results in hypothetical situations leading to havoc in the society. Approximately 32% of all teens who use the Internet regularly have reported being victims of cyber bullying, according to a 2007 poll by project. The exodus of the North-Eastern residents of India was one such act of Cyber Bullying which tore apart the well fabricated sheet of harmony. All sorts of chat rooms are one of the prime locations of virtual harassment which results in hazardous consequences. Recent instances of Meier, Ryan, Tyler Clementi reflects the serious consequences of the matter concerned.
Global Efforts Bullying, an initiative of The Alanah and Madeline Foundation conducts National Coalition Against Bullying Conferences every year which hold testimony to the fact that people are uniting against the menace of bullying. Numerous reports by NCAB elaborates on the emerging issues of Cyber Bullying. Evelyn M. Field, psychologist, writer and a Board Member of NCAB authored book," Bully" targets the uncovered issues of bullying in real as well as the virtual world. There are all sorts of help available on the internet which will guide one to avoid being bullied online. bullying.org, cyberbullying.ca are such efforts in the right direction. Legislation Against Cyber Bullying As far as India is concerned; there is no law that directly regulates cyber bullying. The Information Technology Act of 2000 (IT Act) are a set of laws to regulate the cyberspace but hardly do they focus on interpersonal criminal behaviour such as cyber stalking to the fullest. In United States of America, Megan Meier Cyber Bullying Prevention Act was brought before the House of Representatives to prevent further events which happened with Megan Meier. Every State's legislation refers to the cyber crime laws with utmost seriousness.
Word of Caution
Keep your internet connection password protected.
Do not provide personal information like credit/debit card details to anyone on chat.
Don't open a message from someone you don't know on Facebook, Orkut or Google+.
Read the terms and conditions properly before providing personal details on any website. One needs to make sure that your personal information is utilised wisely and for appropriate purposes.
Public View Saurabh Jha, a prolific blogger feels that any form of bullying is no good to the society as it deeply hurts a person psychologically. There is a dire need for new legislations in India which bring about a change and also a fear among the perpetrators. "Cyber Bullying has created a fear among the common people who use internet for their daily purposes. The social networking websites such as Facebook, Orkut have become a direct medium to bully innocent people. The current situation calls for an urgent mechanism in these websites to filter content which aims at hampering the social harmony "- says Ravi, a third year B Tech student at VIT.
The incessant ad hominem attacks on my character by Darren Mitchell Meade
would probably need a small book to adequately address each of the many
allegations. However, in the interests of brevity I will attempt to
reduce my response so as to retain the reader’s attention.
It is my humble request that parties interested in perceiving
the truth or falsity of either Darren Meade's assertions, or for that
matter my response, do consider the source of the allegations before
placing any value on the substance.
The following 30-second video clip was recorded by an unknown
person and distributed anonymously some time ago. Therein, Darren Meade
in his own words demonstrates the gleeful satisfaction he derives from
tormenting the targets of his Internet smear campaigns. In this case, it
was the renowned Stanford educated physician Dr. Scott Connelly:
VIDEO (30 Secs Long) (Explicit):
Meade Describes His Smear Campaign
Extortion, Distortion & Revenge
Darren M Meade Smears Rexxfield Founder Michael Roberts
3rd Party Verification. Any person may verify this for them selves for free with this form and fax: Central Abuse Registry IA DHS P.O. Box 4826 Des Moines, IA 50305
Fax to: 515-242-6884
"Michael had an arrest and conviction for domestic battery in 2000."
NOTE: The irony of these allegations will
not escape most readers. Darren is referring to an event on December 20,
2000 when I was wrongfully jailed overnight, and subsequently cleared.
Whereas, on that very same day, Darren Meade became subject to a
domestic restraining order filed by Laura J. Kelley who reported Darren
Meade's stalking and violent outbursts.
RESPONSE:True in part, lies in part. I was
arrested, not convicted. On December 20, 2000 my ex-wife Tracey
physically assaulted me after a customer went bankrupt owing my company
$26,000. She began kicking holes in the wall of the office with her
boots, I restrained her and she began stomping on my feet.
Photographs of holes kicked in wall by Tracey
After things cooled down I announced my intention to divorce. 45
minutes later I was in handcuffs and I spent the night in jail. However,
what Tracey meant for evil God meant for good, and I had the privilege
of sharing the Gospel with an elderly man who had intended to kill
himself when he was released the next day. At that time, the other 10
inmates in the shared cell stayed awake with myself and "Jim" listening
to this good news until about 5 am. Tracey begged me not to plead
innocence because she said her ex-husband would use my testimony against
her false allegations to gain an advantage in the custody battle of
their son Bert, my stepson. I agreed to plead no contest to disturbing
the peace. That way, I would not need to testify that Tracey filed a
false police report. Hindsight has 20/20, if only I had done things
differently, Bert & my kids would not have to have witnessed a
murder; Bert would not have been forced to participate in the crime
after the fact. More importantly, Dustin would probably be alive, and
who knows, maybe I would be back in Australia with my children?
"Michael is a bigamist"
Darren wrote:"Tracey's husband even married another woman while still married to Tracey" and "Michael and Tracey went on with their fragile marriage that finally ended in 2008."
Response: The marriage ended in March 2004 when I
survived Tracey's attempt to murder me. The judge issued an
interlocutory dissolution of marriage on December 3rd 2007. I married my
current wife in early 2008.
"Michael has been diagnosed with a mental illness"
These excerpts for the final decree for the marriage dissolution sums this up well:
"Tracey would, at times, give information to medical care
providers, in an attempt to have physicians find that Michael has a
mental condition. She would be involved when Michael was seeing his
family physician… At one point Dr. Brinck, a psychologist, diagnosed
Michael as being bipolar….Michael was examined by Dr. Charles E. Murphy.
In Dr. Murphy's opinion, Michael is not bipolar. Dr. Murphy's diagnosis
is post-traumatic stress syndrome and ADHD. The weight of the evidence
establishes that Michael is not bipolar."
"Michael is a criminal hacker"
RESPONSE: Darren Meade attempted to extort
from me the meager sum of $5000 in October 2011. After my refusal, he
set a deadline of October 31. He followed through with his promise. In a
coup d'état he was able to persuade a Fox News Journalist that I was a
criminal hacker, and these allegations graced the front page of
FoxNews.com on January 20, 2012.
Whereas, in the following e-mail message sent by Darren Meade to
a department of justice attorney just three months before the extortion
demands, Meade describes me as a victim of the crime syndicate of which
he now tries to persuade readers I am a connected:
RESPONSE: Below is a hyper link to the
polygraph in question and as can be seen there is no reference to
"failure"; in fact the polygraph operator determines the results to be
"inconclusive" -- this does not indicate deception but rather confusion
or anxiety. There were three questions in the polygraph, one of which
was something to the effect of "do you know the identity of the second
intruder". Whereas, although I initially strenuously defended my
ex-wife's actions in the 2001 homicide, the evidence I saw with my own
eyes planted seeds of doubt as to the veracity of her account of that
fateful night. In fact, I never really believed there was a second
intruder. The investigators told me later that that was most likely the
reason the results were ambiguous. After this revelation I volunteered
for a third polygraph which is also linked below.
(1) First Inconclusive polygraph by DCI (Coming soon, copy requested from police)
(3) Subsequent polygraph results with clarified question: "If we assume there was a second man, do you know his identity?"
"Use of hacking code via the Internet to tamper with the jury convened for ex-wife's murder trial."
RESPONSE: This allegation is simply absurd.
However, if we were to entertain the suggestion for a moment, an
objective reader should be able to just as quickly dismiss it because
Darren Meade did not raise this allegation until long after my ex-wife's
murder trial; more to the point, he did not raise this allegation until
he realized that his other character attacks were not gaining the
traction he had hoped. In fact, this gradual escalation and elevation of
flaming aspersions is his modus operandi in any distortion campaign he
runs, no matter who the target.
"Witness Protection Program."
Darren M Meade alleges that: Iowa prosecutors allowed me to stay in a witness protection program so that my ex-wife's defense attorney could not serve me with a subpoena.
RESPONSE: The fallacious nature of this
allegation is evidenced by the following facts (a) the program that was
protecting my children and me was under the California Secretary of
State,
(b) the murder was being prosecuted through the state of Iowa and
(c) Iowa officials have no say in what the California secretary of state does for its residents.
"Michael Was Founded for Child Abuse and is on Central Abuse Register."
RESPONSE: This is true; however, the findings were reversed soon thereafter. Darren Meade in keeping with his distortion tactics (watch, he will start using this term to describe me soon) is
taking a snapshot in time, but not giving the reader the benefit of
subsequent events. His propensity to do this should give readers cause
to dismiss everything he writes as deceptive.
Nevertheless, the findings were based on the testimony of
Tracey Richter and Bert Pitman. Tracey is a three times convicted felon
for and Bert is being considered for criminal prosecution for perjury
during the murder trial of his mother. This is a matter of public
record.
Tracey was also found to have forged the final the force
divorce decree between the two of us, wherein she added a clause giving
her permission to get passports for our children without my permission.
Moreover, Judge Duffy, in his (genuine) final divorce decree found as follows:
"Tracey is very deviceful; She usually has a plan or
scheme to effect a purpose. The following incidents establish crafty
schemes by Tracey:….One week after Michael filed the petition for
dissolution of marriage, Tracey filed a petition for relief from
domestic abuse….Tracey used this process in an attempt to gain advantage
over Michael on the custodial…..Tracey has made attempts to establish
that Michael has committed child abuse…In fact,. she conceded that it
was not child abuse. Later, Tracey made vigorous attempts to obtain a
founded report.
There is no founded child abuse report to support
Tracey's theory of child abuse by Michael. The court finds that Tracey
has failed to establish that Michael committed child abuse…. The Court
also finds that Tracey has failed to establish a history of domestic
abuse."
"Firearm offences"
Darren wrote: "Michael Roberts is photographed with one of many handguns
he purchased in violation of Court Orders after his conviction of
Spousal and Child Abuse. The photograph is with a sniper rifle. Police
reports allege he threatened to kill a Chicago detective with a sniper
rifle and that he (Roberts) is a very good shot. Roberts is on an audio
recording with another young man he mentors discussing having this young
man kill someone to ‘protect the inner sanctum’ or Roberts new business
enterprise with a .50 caliber hollow-point bullet which just explodes
his brain, the same as used by the rifle in the photo with Roberts
above." Response:
I have never been convicted of spousal OR child abuse. [Link: Proof]
I have never owned, held, touched or fired a 50 caliber weapon.
The photograph of the rifle to which Meade refers was
taken in the late 90s, five or six years before my ex-wife temporarily
obtained a restraining order prohibiting me from buying firearms. This
order was dismissed after it was determined the allegations were
unfounded in order to gain an advantage in the child custody issues.
The police report in question was filed by Tracey's
younger brother, Detective John B. Richter of the Chicago Police
Department. He made this report on October 29, 2011 this was the
Saturday immediately following the first week of his sister's murder
trial and by this time it had become apparent that things were not going
well.
Detective Richter, to the best of my knowledge is
currently being investigated by the Chicago Police Department internal
affairs, and the civilian oversight organization to which Internal
Affairs answers called "City of Chicago Independent Police Review Authority". [Complaint ID : OPS-9432]
Coincidentally, both Darren Meade and Detective John
Richter apparently reported that unknown persons had thrown rocks or
bricks through their windows at about the same time (I do not have
dates). Darren was in California, Richter was in Illinois.
I am not in an audio recording discussing killing someone
with a 50 caliber bullet. I was present with an individual who made the
statements, and I was the person recording the conversation and who
subsequently provided them to Darren Meade and law-enforcement because
Darren Meade was the "someone" the person was fantasizing about killing.
Coming Soon: Copy of police report containing the
allegations of Tracey Richter's brother Detective John Richter dated
October 29, 2011.
"Michael bought a house for another woman in Florida in 2004."
RESPONSE:Whereas, Tracey went to Florida
first to look at houses, she sent Michael and his stepson and son to
Florida a week or two later to look at her short list. He signed a
contract on the house they both agreed was best. While Michael was in
Florida, Tracey flew to London to be with her lover Tom Buehlmann. I had
previously discovered this relationship, I confronted Tom by telephone.
He apologized and said he had no idea she was still married and
promised that it would not continue. Tracey's relationship with Tom
began late December 2003 or very early January 2004. I did not meet the
"other woman" referred to by Darren until April 1st, 2004 after I
realized that Tracey's affair with Tom was ongoing.
"Michael stole Tracey’s identity"
RESPONSE: Tracey's team is getting good
mileage out of this allegation. In 2005 or 2006, I leased a large Dell
computer/server through "DFS" which is Dell Financial Services.
Unbeknownst to me, the lease had both my name and Tracey's name attached
to it from previous purchases while we were still together. Tracey
filed a police report for identity theft, she also filed allegations in
the civil divorce process. I contacted Dell, they removed her name, end
of story.
"Michael found shell casings at murder scene."
Darren wrote:"Michael Robert claimed to
have then cleaned the home and located shell casings within an hour of
taking possession of the home that were missed by CSI investigators."
RESPONSE: This is just one of many examples
of the incompetence of the investigators and earlier prosecutor who let
the murder go unpunished for almost 10 years.
"Michael's relationship with Dustin Wehde, Tracey's murder victim."
Darren wrote:"In his mentorship of Dustin, Michael Roberts had Dustin work on creative writing exercises that often were violent in nature."
Response: Says who Darren? Please provide
original source documentation, or a witness who has not been convicted
of either murder or perjury.
"Crime Scene Photos"
Darren wrote:"The crime scene photos were shown to me personally in 2010 by Michael Roberts." (referring to a document referencing the 'pink notebook' evidence).
Response: I challenge Darren to testify to this under the penalty of perjury.
"Life Insurance on Tracey & Michael's kids"
Darren wrote: "Tracey had a considerable life insurance policy as did the children."
Response: Tracey had taken out $100,000
insurance policies on each of the three children before the murder. She
had asked me to co-sign this one night when insurance agent was in our
home, I refused because I thought the idea was repulsive. However, I
finally consented to a $10,000 funeral policy for each of the kids under
protest because she just wouldn't leave me alone. Evidently, the
documents subsequently placed before me to sign were in the full amount
of $100K as later attested by insurance agent later.
Furthermore, in the year before the murder Tracey had stacked
my life insurance policies with at least three, possibly four policies
totaling somewhere in the range of 3 to 5 million dollars. I did not
know about this until I filed for divorce in 2004 and her first husband,
Dr. John Pitman, told me I need to go looking for them. I did, and what
I found blew me away. While Tracey was visiting her lover Tom, I
received documents in the mail from lifequote.com where she had applied
for an additional $1 million in coverage of my life only a few days
before she attempted to murder me in March 2004 by drugging and
suffocation. This was followed up by an e-mail message after I diverted
Tracey's business e-mail address to mine.
"The Real Darren Meade"by journalist Anthony Roberts (NOTE: he is NO relation & this site has apparently been hijacked from him): Visit Anthony's article
After the relationship is over or When they are Exposed
Cyberpaths project their faults and failings onto their victims (bad character flaws/deeds) , but they also project their feelings, and beliefs onto the victim also.
These beliefs the Cyberpath hold could be about themselves, the victim or others.
You can think of "projection" as the Cyberpath posing in the image of your face, they are projecting (throwing) all those bad flaws, deeds and beliefs about themselves unto you.
These feelings or beliefs might be positive ones or negative ones.
Positive Projection
Projecting positive things onto the victim he is using her as a mirror so the good deeds are "reflected" back unto him. Making him appear as the one who is marvellous, grand, worthy etc (his grandiose false image)
Negative Projection
Same thing - The Cyberpath projects his bad deeds, habits, thoughts and belief onto the mirror (The Victim) in order to make her appear that she is at fault and these "Negative things" are hers and not his.
Whilst doing this, the Cyberpath is in effect using the victim as a dumping ground. (Almost everything that has happened to the Cyberpath, including his own mistakes - is blamed on the victim.)
Slandering The Victim
When Cyberpaths slander their victims , they have two objectives. One is projection and the other is to "dirty a bright spot in your character" with whatever slander they are projecting at you. It's as though any shine on your image diminishes the glow of their glory.
This is of course the mentality of the rapist, who must tear others "down off that pedestal"
Projection and smearing at the same time isn't hard for the Cyberpath, in fact it's uncanny how Cyberpaths manage to accomplish it. It's all in the way they word their "line" on you. They are glib and amazingly adept at "killing two birds with one stone"
They not only ditch one of their faults, they muddy one of your virtues in the process.
Note: In doing this, the Cyberpath isn't attacking your faults and shortcomings, he is attacking your virtues and accomplishments. Consequently when he is conducting a campaign of character assassination against someone, the arrows he shoots never hit one of that person's real flaws
The Cyberpaths False image contains the virtuous qualities in other people's characters , and their images have had those virtuous qualities replaces with the flaws in the Cyberpaths character. In other words, the Cyberpath steals your virtues and dumps on you his faults.
In doing so, the Cyberpath is stealing your identity, pulling an identity switch with you, piecemeal.
It's kind of magical , an illusion created with nothing but words, which can warp perceptions by making anything of anything. For example: let's say that the Cyberpath is stingy and that one of your virtues is that you are outstanding for you generosity. He hates the glow of that shiny spot in your character, because it serves as foil to his stinginess, making it more noticeable by contrast. So he muddies your image and glorifies his image by misappropriating your generosity to himself and misappropriating his stinginess in you.
How? he goes around lying about how much she gives to charity and about helping people out all the time. More important (since one must be careful and subtle about boasting) , he just makes everything she does sound generous. He also goes around telling lying stories about you , stories that you are "stingy". More important, he makes everything you do sound stingy, however generous it manifestly is.
Normal people do not project. They may sometimes smear, but not in such a calculated , manipulative fashion.
Normal People Vs The Cyberpath
Normal people - Project when put on the defensive
Cyberpaths - Project in unprovoked attacks
Normal people don't smear themselves off on just anyone. They wouldn't dream of harming those near and dear. Or those they 'need'.
Cyberpaths see people as objects and nothing more, so they smear people off to anyone who will listen as thoughtlessly as we smear ourselves on a towel. For no other reason than to cause pain.
Normal people are likely to shake themselves off on whoever happens to be near at the moment. So they sometimes project a flaw off onto someone who actually has it.
Cyberpaths project ironically, accusing those with the corresponding virtue of a vice
Normal people stick to slander (which has some degree of truth to it) rarely engaging in calumny (lies) when they do calumniate someone, they at least have a natural reason for animosity toward the target.
Cyberpaths are perverted, there is no natural reason for what they do, they do it because they want to and because they can.
Normal people who do calumniate someone, they don't go hog-wild and calumniate that person so badly and so widely as to destroy them and ruin their whole lives.
Cyberpaths go hog wild , they are mental children and therefore as dangerous with their mouths as an angry five-year old with an assault weapon. Often, once exposed, they will often publish blogs or make posts on sites about how bad or dangerous the victim is. They accomplish this by rewriting and tweaking history to view them as the victim.
The Cyberpath is likely to smear off on someone he owes gratitude to, because needing help damages his image. He repays help as thought it were an insult , a threat. He must devalue it by devaluing the giver of it, as if such a contemptible person is incapable of really helping someone as grand as he.
Normal people don't do it because damaging others makes them feel good. In fact, doing this makes a normal person feel ashamed. But it makes a Cyberpath feel grand.
When it's fully conscious calumny a Cyberpath is spreading , he just thinks it's funny that people are such idiots that he can get away with it, feeding them ridiculous lines about others. Lines that are preposterous in the light of the target's known conduct. Cyberpaths will all let it be known at one time or another that they had nothing but contempt for the people who believed them. A Cyberpath views his success at lying as proof that he is brilliant and that all mere mortals are as stupid as sticks.
Cyberpaths are not projecting guilt so much as they're projecting shame. In fact, it may well be that they have no concept of guilt and have it confused with shame. Which is pain. So this wicked behaviour is a way to ditch their pain onto you. It's a psychological painkiller, a drug, and that's why causing you pain makes him feel good.
Here is an example of a famous smear that illustrates how it works.
The first thing people noticed about Jesus of Nazareth was that, unlike the other prophets, he spoke on his own authority, appealing only to logic, and never prefaced his teaching with "God says...." This is but one of many example of his exceptional care to avoid blasphemy. He went way beyond custom in this regards. His tremendous reverence for the name of God was his most glaring virtue, but he put everyone , including the prophets, to shame in this.
Okay, so , if you or I wanted to smear Jesus, blasphemy would be the last thing we'd accuse him of, right? Because that accusation would be laughed at as a joke.
Or would it?
Well, whether people would get the joke or not, we're normal, so we'd accuse him of something believable, like being a drunk or something. But that isn't the way a Cyberpath thinks.
The narcissistic in the Sanhedrin who plotted against Jesus went right for that greatest shining virtue of his in leveling the charge of blasphemy against him. They just had to muddy it o'er.
Unbelievable. Yet the people believed it!
And consider the source of this accusation. Look who's accusing him of blasphemy. The Sanhedrin, blasphemously acting in the name of God.
In other words, in the very act, they were projecting the blot of their sin onto his outstanding virtue.
Unbelievable. Yet the people believed it.
Near the beginning of the Spanish Inquisition, a Spanish archbishop or cardinal (whose name I forget) remarked that the accusations leveled by the Inquisition were so widely believed because people are much readier to believe the unbelievable than the obvious. He said a mouthful.
Cyberpaths are projection machines, I am convinced that projection is a knee -jerk reflex in them. That is, whenever a moment of self-awareness threatens to let them know a flaw in their character they're revealing or some bad deed they are doing, they instantly go into denial about it (Repressing conscience of shame) by projecting the semblance of that flaw or misdeed off onto the handiest scapegoat- usually the very victim of whatever abuse they are dishing out.
How's that for maximum irony? Hence, while hurling a hailstorm of wild accusations at you, you can count off one of them being that you are hurling wild accusations at them. Every single time. They can't help it. I think they have been twisting their thinking for so long (since early childhood) that twisted thinking is hard-wired into their brains. I think projection is such an ingrained habit in them that often they're unaware they are doing it at times.
Projection is such a reflex in them that they give themselves away by some of the accusation they hurl. For example, if a Cyberpath says he fear you might attack him physically, look out" he is at least pondering whether to attack you physically. If he says he fears you might get into his bank account or spend his money, know that he is at least pondering getting into yours and spending your money. Every single time!
Cyberpaths are not the only people who project. But they are different in that they have done it so much for so long that they do it like a machine - automatically, every single time. They rarely hit one of target's real faults. Instead the accusation is a joke, smearing one of that person's virtues as a vice.
[Grant Crowell's Interview with Michael Roberts - October 30, 2010.]
GRANT: What is the "Google Humility Algorithm?"
MICHAEL: Please understand that I am answering these questions with the presupposition that it does in fact exist because my assertion is based on my empirical observations... I believe it really is out there!
Originally I called it “Google's Humiliation Algorithm”; however, I realized that I might have been jumping to conclusions because in context “humiliation” could imply that Google is deliberately humiliating the subjects being Googled. I opted instead for “Google's Humility Algorithm” to give Google the benefit of the doubt with respect to intent; humility is considered by right minded people to be a noble state of being although I would argue that it should be voluntary. I believe the humility algorithm is a provision within the Google search formula giving what would otherwise be unmerited high search rankings for a small number of web pages containing derogatory or demeaning words in close association with proper nouns such as personal and business names.
GRANT: How does it occur?
MICHAEL: I don't know; I would expect that Google guards its algorithms like KFC guards its secret recipe. Notwithstanding, although I cannot see the wind, I see its effects. Based on my observations and the tests our team have run, if I were to hazard a guess I would say there is a list of “humility words; nouns and adjectives that bring the hypothetical algorithm to life. These words include ponzi, scammer, abuser, whore, tax cheat, playboy, felon, conviction, indictment, bankrupt, molester, fraud, cheater, pyramid scheme, etc -- I'm sure you get the idea. There are also some web sites apparently designated as humility domains by default and they include the likes of ripoffreport.com, complaintsboard.com and, interestingly, blogspot.com.
GRANT: What is the reason for it occurring?
MICHAEL: I sincerely hope that Google's intentions were pure and that they were simply trying to ensure that the search results were diverse and balanced; lest genuinely bad individuals and organizations use expensive SEO techniques to bury legitimate dissent, competition and whistle blowing.
GRANT: What effect does it have on Google's search results (and search relevancy)?
MICHAEL: The humility algorithm seems to have special reservations for positions 3 and/or 4 on page one of Google search results. My close observations suggest that these high-ranking results have almost without exception, some type of a humility keyword in close proximity to the search subject's name. This year's "Caffeine" release of Google search has shifted the weight somewhat with humility search results being more random between #1 through #4 on page one and now it seems that #1 on page two has been reserved for humility results, but not always.
GRANT: What examples can you provide as evidence (can cite both existing and past)?
MICHAEL: I cannot really go into too much detail here because much of our work is based on real-life cases for clients. In some instances we have individuals literally on the verge of suicide because of the problems this was causing; unfortunately the child of one of our clients succumbed to the pressure several months ago. That being said, now that your readers have been told what patterns to look for, it won't take long to verify my assertions. And I would invite any brainiacs out there who have a better head for maths than I, to do some serious testing. I would appreciate being privy to the results.
GRANT: If you are correct, what do you think this is this accidental or intentional on Google's part?
MICHAEL: I believe the algorithm is very deliberate; but it is the intent that I am more interested in. In other words "humility vis-à-vis humiliation", or "don't be evil vis-à-vis evil is relative".
GRANT: If intentional, what would you argue is Google's motive or motives?
MICHAEL: If it is a humiliation algorithm [i.e. evil], then it could be argued that Google could benefit when users decide to click on a Google AdWords link to a humiliation victim's competitor once the user has read the negative results for the business he or she found in organic Google search results.
GRANT: What are the problems this creates?
MICHAEL: That is a whole 'nuther conversation which stretches from mild emotional annoyance for some individuals right through to suicide and breakdowns. I have personally witnessed these two extremes and everything between in the last three years. For businesses, the same emotional toll for the individuals involved through to insolvency; once again I have seen it all. I would even go so far as to say that the Wild-Wild-Web combined with the US Congress' existing subsidy for Internet libel, through Section 230C of the Communications Decency Act, is a clear and present danger to the national security of the United States. A competitive market driven economy can no longer function on a level playing field in these conditions; in many vertical markets the only businesses that can win are those willing to stoop to either “doing evil” by smearing their opposition with "googledoo", or looking the other way when it is within their power to act. I am referring here to the many thousands of tear soaked letters sent to Google et al, begging for the removal of egregious allegations from search engine results. These are usually met with canned template responses encouraging the victim to simply create more online content with positive spin to dilute the negative postings.
I find such narcissistic corporate cultures to the reprehensible on at least two levels.
(1) The very law that gives ISPs the immunity to turn a blind eye to such requests is in fact titled “Good Samaritan” protection, clearly implying that it was Congress' intent that the recipients of such letters would do the right thing. (2) Such letters encouraging the creation of more online content serves the purpose of creating more advertising platforms for AdWord campaigns; victims effectively become slaves at worst or indentured servants at best to Google by creating more of what it devours and profits from, information.
GRANT: In your opinion, would this put Google in a position of increased liability? Or are they fully protected by the CDA?
MICHAEL: This would be a good opportunity to make it very clear that I am not an attorney, although I consult for many of them in these matters. As such, I would rather defer to the wisdom of suitably qualified, but more importantly qualified professionals to express such opinions.
GRANT: What do you think needs to be changed and why?
MICHAEL: I would start with the human heart and the nastiness epidemic, but that comes only from a miracle of God. Otherwise, if I could wave a magic wand I would like to see some common sense amendments made to the communications decency act which still gives generous immunity for Internet service providers but conditional upon reasonable attempts to comply with the intent of the “Good Samaritan” clause which is found specifically in TITLE 47, CHAPTER 5, SUBCHAPTER II, Part I, § 230(C).
GRANT: What questions do you think Google needs to answer for in light of this evidence?
MICHAEL: My questions would be simple: (1) “Does the humility algorithm exist, and why?”
(2) Do your family members receive the same cookie-cutter responses when they ask you for junk results to be removed from your search index?
(U.K.) Poison pen letters used to be a staple of crime fiction. Hand-written but unsigned, they would circulate around a closed community such as a small village, spreading poisonous lies about some innocent person until the writer was unmasked by a clever amateur detective.
Usually the culprit was the vicar’s wife.I thought that sort of thing had died out, both in fiction and, if it existed to any extent, in real life.
I forgot about the Internet. There you can be both anonymous and poisonous, and you don’t even have to pay postage. Claire Chirnside, 23, says she is the victim of a poison emailer, whose lies have already cost her her job.
Back in April, Claire was working as a temporary administrative assistant at a children’s centre in Wilmslow, Cheshire, when an email was sent to her managers claiming she was a con artist and had a criminal past.
The centre launched an internal investigation. Claire was subjected to an enhanced Criminal Records Bureau check and asked to provide a credit report.Nothing detrimental was found and she was cleared to continue work. When the temporary position ended, Claire returned to her native northeast with her fiance, Lee North, and they settled in Northumberland.
Within weeks, she had secured a permanent job at the Royal Institute of British Architects in Newcastle, where she was praised for her customer service skills.
But within two months, the cyber stalker traced her and fired off a vindictive email to her new employers. Claire protested her innocence and explained about the previous incident, but she was sacked anyway.
It happened just three weeks before her planned wedding. “Someone out there is stalking me and spreading these rumours and it’s devastating,” she said.
“For the rest of my life, I am going to wonder if people I work for will get an anonymous email and I will be investigated over and over again.”
Claire said she will appeal against the architects’ decision. “What do I say next time I go for a job? Whoever is doing this could make me unemployable.”
Police in Cheshire and Northumberland confirmed they are carrying out investigations into reports of the anonymous emails.
Seems Stone has learned a new word. Cyberpath. He calls his victim, her friends, EOPC and everyone else who sees his delusions for what they are a "Cyberpath." He's even trying to learn to use it in complete sentences. A real step forward for the pathological and or psychotic mind. But it's all projection. Here's some of the narcissistic games Stone continues to try to play.
Accusing you The best form of defense is attack and the narcissist knows this all too well. It is one of his most widely used weapons, but he is so good at handling it that you could actually not even realise what it is.
We are accustomed to accusations being blatant, ugly assertions about us and these we recognize with ease. It is the more insidious accusations that catch us off guard and make us lose our balance. The narcissist will use either or both, depending on his end objective.
If he is trying to rattle you, hurt you, undermine you or shock you, there is a good chance that he will come out with a blatant accusation. "You lied", "you stole", "you're a pervert", etc.
The reason that these are so effective is that instead of hooking defensive anger, they hook defensive guilt. A far more powerful behavior in someone that you wish to control.
He has effectively achieved a few things here: made you feel guilty so that he can now manipulate you, changed the subject completely, shifted focus fully back onto himself and made you the lesser person. When it comes to angry projection though, we are dealing with an out and out bully. He is deliberately attacking you with the objective of achieving control through fear and anger. There is also a good chance that what he is really doing is maneuvering you into a conflict situation. This person wants to have a go at you, but wants to be able to blame you for it afterwards. By provoking an argument, he can achieve that quite nicely. By the time that the fight finally ends... the chances are that you will not even remember that it all began with you trying to defend yourself against a wrongful and probably very ugly accusation. Even if you did remember, you'd be so exhausted by the awful fight that ensued that you'd be loath to go back and address it to set the record straight. He has now achieved a number of things. He has intimidated you, he has manipulated you, he has emotionally drained you, he has effectively used you as a verbal and perhaps even physical punch bag and, he has controlled you and further empowered himself. ~~~~~~~~~
Projecting Closely linked to hurling accusations is the fine art of projecting. Remember that you are their mirror. The things that they accuse you of are the things that apply to themselves. While they think they are showing you how clever they are, they are in fact revealing themselves in a way that would make them cringe if they realised it. - For goodness sakes never tell them. They will furiously deny it and launch a massive attack against you.(For those of you who have been with EOPC for our 9 years online now, can we take bets as to how long Stone - like ALL our other Cyberpaths - will take to do this?? Or has he already??)While he thinks he is stunning you with his amazingly astute insights into the human psyche, he is in fact giving you a very clear blueprint of himself.
~~~~~~~~ Shifting blame A common bully tactic. It goes right along with changing the subject and making accusations. As long as he can somehow make you believe that it was all your fault, he's off the hook and you're either left wondering what just hit you or you're falling over yourself (and him) to make it up to him. If you go for the latter option, there is a good chance that he will milk it for all it's worth. It's not always your fault though. It could anyone or anything at all as long as it's not him. If nobody in the situation is to blame, then there is no way to resolve the problem. If you are to blame, then you must fix it. As for him, he is just an innocent victim and utterly blameless, therefore unable to do anything at all to find a solution, but totally justified in being a sod. ~~~~~~~~~
Being the Martyr Narcissists almost make a career out of being victims. Ask any narcissist to tell you his story and you are bound to hear about the evil ex-wife, the ungrateful children, the idiotic and exploitative bosses, the crooked partner and every person who has been out to get them throughout their lives - which just about includes everyone they have ever encountered. Get involved with them and you will be the next addition to the list. Then they get magnanimous and let you know how forgiving they are of all these people. Please realize that the so called forgiveness of a narcissist is a joke.
Somewhere they have read or heard that forgiveness is a nice human quality and that it makes you look like a nice, rational person who actually gives a hoot about others. All that counts to them is the results they can get if they know how to effectively use these things. They know that, "I love you" turns on your wishful thinking, forgiving nature or your guilt and gets them back in the door. The know that "I'm sorry" gets them forgiven and gives them license to do it all again. They know that their numerous excuses take the focus off them and get them off the hook. For as long as he can make you feel guilty & sorry for him, he has you where he wants you. If you have any respect at all for either of you, you have to stop this game in its tracks.
~~~~~~~~~ Invoking fear and anxiety Are you keeping secrets from your friends and family regarding your life with this person, perhaps even lying to them because you know that if he found out you had spoken about it there would be hell? Do you feel as if you are walking on eggshells? If you said yes to these, you are being ruled by fear. You are a victim of blatant abuse. Ultimately this is one of their key strategies for maintaining control because as long as you are too scared to speak up, you have no voice. While you have no voice, you have no say. While you have no say, they can do exactly as they please and they can even legitimately claim that you never objected. Silence is consent with any type of abuser and this is society's view as well. If you didn't object, it automatically means you gave consent. A prime example of this is with rape. When a woman claims rape, the first thing she will be asked is, "did you very clearly say no?" - the fact that there was a knife at her throat seems to not even feature in the equation. It's pretty sick, but this is a victim's reality. ~~~~~~~~~~ Putting you on the defensive Nobody can do this as adeptly as a bully. Accusations, real or imagined past offenses and personal criticism of you are their three favorite tools to this end. Anything to get you hopping and get the focus off themselves. They also use questions that are skillfully worded and artfully delivered. They use facts that they distort ever so slightly so that they are hard to correct. They use skewed logic to turn a situation around from them being guilty to us being the cause. Whichever specific tactic they use, the result is the same: we feel we have to explain, justify, correct and somehow prove our innocence and good intentions. Think for a moment how often you hear yourself saying, "but that's not what I meant", or "but I only meant ..."? If they try to goad you, which is highly likely - they hate silent responses - revert to the techniques for setting boundaries. Refuse to engage and walk away.
After each of these staged 'break ups/reconciliations' Gary Stone would regain [Victim 1]'s sympathy using pathos, saying things like 'my life is like being dragged over broken glass without you', and begging her never to leave him. Gary Stone expected [Victim 1] to be available to him every minute of every day, to the point where she was barely able to find time to go grocery shopping, and he demanded photos of any family social occasions she attended, to ensure she was not 'seeing other men'.(Remember Dorsky's victim saying he'd 'driven her to the point of exhaustion'?)
The excitement seeking in her that found the psychopath’s extraversion attractive is now hitting the wall and causing extreme emotional exhaustion... The drama, the highs and lows, the daily power struggles, the weekly uncovering of some new lie and the constant fear of being abandoned are all now producing fatigue. A dichotomy exists between the excitement she still feels with him when the relationship is smooth (which is becoming less frequent) and the utter exhaustion that comes from being in a relationship with a psychopath. The exhaustion can also come from not only the emotional roller coaster of life with a psychopath but also from the pacing of their lives together. Since many psychopaths need much less sleep than normal people, lack of sleep is likely to catch up with her. The psychopath consistently keeps her awake, demanding her company while he watches TV, picks fights, or wants marathon sex. Her diet, exercise, down-time, spiritual practices, and friendships all go by the wayside while her stress levels increase. The fast-pace contributes to a total deterioration in her health. Her physical exhaustion can greatly increase her emotional fatigability. She is now unable to hold her ground against the psychopath, and despite the exhaustion, she remains hypnotized, fixated on his extraverted, highly exciting persona. The psychopath invested a lot in portraying himself to her as “wounded.” Many psychopaths played the “pity” trump card, using this card to attract and keep women based on sad stories. Psychopaths have no problem simultaneously playing both dominant and doomed personas. Likely, he acted as if the disclosure of his hidden pain was only to her. She was the only one who “understood him” or he felt “safe enough” to share his pain with. Even Ted Bundy feigned medical disorders to attract women to himself.
In emails, text chats and Skype calls, Gary Stone showed a penchant for escapism, role-playing the famous rock star and wannabe 'owner' of a fake music publishing company (Toylanders Press International - TPI), and kept saying he would set up a proper business with [Victim 1] one day.
[Victim 1] humored him and indulged him in what she thought was a little light-hearted, harmless fun, but it was actually cybersex. It was certainly a new experience for [Victim 1] and Gary Stone also claimed he'd never done it before, and there is no doubt that they were both willing participants. Although [Victim 1] is now highly embarrassed about it, it was only ever natural/ romantic/ loving scenarios, and nothing perverse was entered into. The kinkiest thing mentioned was Gary Stone's fetish for 'knees'.(almost ALL our exposed Cyberpaths did this or similar) As a Registered Nurse, Gary Stone also showed great interest in [Victim 1]'s rare post-natal condition, which requires her to take medication several times daily to replace the a hormone which manages stress. (some victims DEVELOP this condition after a relationship with a pathological!) Gary Stone got her to keep a daily chart of her blood pressure and medication, and asked her to email it to him so that he could monitor her condition, believing he could give her better advice than her own endocrinologist. Gary Stone also constantly reminded [Victim 1] that she owed her own life, and her child's life, to him because he recommended that she insist on obtaining antibiotics for strep throat.
Another of Gary Stone's pathological machinations is trying to increase his humane, solid-citizen, altruist fake-persona is by taking countless IQ tests, and he never misses an opportunity to boast that he has gained access to one high-IQ society. He now regularly reminds [Victim 1]'s ex-husband that he 'should not have f**ked with someone with an IQ'.(Most psychopaths test very very high in I.Q. -- but then they neglect to be tested for their stunning pathology, LOL! And we can't think of one who isn't VERY involved with a local charity, school, religious institution or community project simply to keep that "I'M A WONDERFUL PERSON" personna going!) Gary Stone tried to visit [Victim 1] in June 2007, and he sent her money to cover the cost of the flight, which he got her to purchase for him. But Gary Stone was denied entry to the UK on arrival, and immediately deported to the US. [Victim 1] was devastated, but Gary Stone's typical pathological response was to blame her for 'tipping off' Immigration about HIS criminal record and his being fired for harassment/ insubordination. Gary Stone told [Victim 1] that she should have invented a story and told Immigration that he was her cousin in order to get him into the country. Gary Stone also accused [Victim 1] of plotting to steal the monies he had insisted on sending her for his vacation spending money, even though she returned this to him immediately by personal check. Love-bombed & hypnotized by Stone, [Victim 1] spent the rest of 2007 defending Gary Stone and trying unsuccessfully to clear his name. Then, during [Victim 1]'s week vacation together in August 2007 in the US, Gary Stone said he had given up on his plan to move to the UK because he needed to stay closer to his family, and persuaded [Victim 1] to give up her home to move to the US. Although Gary Stone had paid some money towards [Victim 1]'s vacation air fares, she was now in debt because Gary Stone had not covered the cost of the whole vacation. [Victim 1]'s ex-husband was also about to give his consent to take their child to live in the US, but Gary Stone wrote her ex-husband his first offensive email, which gave him cause for concern about how Gary Stone might treat the child.
[Victim 1] therefore had to pay legal fees to draw up an agreement in order to obtain her ex-husband's formal consent to take their child to live in the US. [Victim 1] also paid for air fares for herself and her child to move to the US and had no option but to sell her only asset - her small home - in order to cover the costs of the move. Gary Stone spent many hours online with [Victim 1] window-shopping for properties she could buy in the US with the proceeds from her property. Even before it was sold, Gary Stone got [Victim 1] to transfer money to his bank to cover the deposit and first month's rent on an apartment they jointly leased, plus some Christmas gifts for [Victim 1]'s child. [Victim 1] confided to Gary Stone that she felt very apprehensive about going through such an enormous upheaval in her life, but Gary Stone assured her that his priority would be to make her feel secure once she was with him. [Victim 1] arrived in the US in December 2007, but Gary Stone kept making excuses for not getting divorced, spending his days with his wife and his nights with [Victim 1]. First he said he must wait until his wife signed a Separation Agreement, then he said he needed to find a job first, then he said he had to wait for 'tax reasons', then he said he wanted to wait until his wife came to terms with their relationship 'maybe after they had lived together for a year'. (almost ALL our exposed Cyberpaths did this or lied outright about their marriages or being divorced) In the meantime, Gary Stone told [Victim 1] that his wife wanted to kill her, and made [Victim 1] terrified of being attacked by her. Gary Stone had sent [Victim 1] pictures of his wife and she is a formidable woman who never smiled in photos. (Who would -- married to this guy? Stone may have carefully selected photos to show her in that light. She's probably a very nice person, like all the wives of these guys. Who knows what HE was telling his wife; that [Victim 1] wanted to kill her?)
It should be noted that, although Gary Stone and [Victim 1] were intimate during their short time together, they always slept in separate bedrooms. [Victim 1] understood this was because Gary Stone was embarrassed about the cysts all over his body and other physical abnormalities. However, when she came to do their laundry, she discovered the real reason was that Gary Stone's bowel problem resulted in explosive diarrhea stains being sprayed all over his underwear and the bed linen. Gary Stone kept calling [Victim 1] by the nickname 'Kinky', and showed her a huge gallery on his laptop, containing hundreds of screenshots of her cleavage which he had captured on Skype without her consent and carefully labelled with titles such as 'Ample', 'Very Ample', 'Voluptuous' etc. (Like Jacoby - Stone may have taken these screenshots WITHOUT her knowledge or consent)
Gary Stone gave [Victim 1] a camcorder and said he wanted to use it to record her as 'Kinky in the Kitchen'. Gary Stone also expected [Victim 1] to work for nothing for his non-existent company, while using her money to support him. When [Victim 1] said that the situation was unfair, especially to her child, he turned very hostile, accused [Victim 1] of cheating on him, and ordered her to go back to the UK in January 2008. (What they say GOES, or ELSE!)
[Victim 1] managed to make flight reservations, and departed with her child the very next day. Gary Stone made [Victim 1] pay all return air fares and settle the lease cancellation bill. (The only refund that Gary Stone paid to [Victim 1] was an unsolicited Paypal transfer of maybe 1/10th of what she spent in January 2007 for the bed she had bought him as a birthday gift in October 2007.) [Victim 1] arrived back in the UK in January 2008 in shock, financially devastated, and homeless - all because of Gary Stone - but she was still trauma bonded to him, so she continued to exchange emails with Gary Stone for a few weeks.
[Victim 1] finally drew the line when Gary Stone's wife sent her an abusive email, and Gary Stone began copying his abusive emails to his friends and cousin. In February 2008 [Victim 1] sent her final email, making it clear to Gary Stone that she wanted him to stop harassing her and stay out of her life. Instead of leaving her alone, knowing that stress could be life-threatening to [Victim 1], Gary Stone has recommended that she 'double her dose' of medicine before reading his emails.
Gary Stone has sent [Victim 1] over 2500 abusive emails, which have often arrived at a rate of up to 30 per day. In these emails, Gary Stone smears [Victim 1] as a 'c**t', 'bitch', 'cow', 'whore', 'witch', 'HPV infected Q**m', 'Serial Home-wrecker', etc. (Sounds like this Cyberpath's not-so-anonymous stuff)
Gary Stone has also sent [Victim 1] pornographic material which she NEVER asked for (in violation of U.S. Federal law), threatened her family, and cyberstalked her around the Internet, bad-mouthing her in (and getting himself banned from) countless blogs and forums (e.g. Betapet, Soundclick, Lulu, Tripod).
Gary Stone's phone calls to [Victim 1]'s cell phone were rejected and subsequently the cellphone had to be cancelled. Gary Stone has accused [Victim 1] of causing his brother's death (from kidney failure), and of causing Gary Stone's glaucoma.
Gary Stone may have allegedly committed Felony slander by sending emails alleging having contracted venereal diseases from [Victim 1] in his fanasty that he will be able to subpoena her medical records and use the court system to stalk & harrass her. Gary Stone has written countless reports to third parties and government agencies wrongly accusing her of fraud, obstruction of justice and innumerable wild conspiracy theories as he dreams them up; challenging [Victim 1] to get a lawyer and defend herself. His assertion is that [Victim 1] 'does not need to have actually done anything wrong' for him to force others to investigate her. (Stone has that fantasy about a lot of people) Gary Stone wants, craves and obsesses over his fantasized 'day in court' where he can be the center of attention. Gary Stone has actually sent scripts to [Victim 1] and her ex-husband detailing how he envisions himself cross-examining them in court.
It should be noted that [Victim 1] and her ex-husband have never been in any trouble with the law or engaged in frivolous ligitation and both are dedicated to the well-being of their child.(Just like ALL our victims... decent, innocent and upstanding citizens taken advantage of by a pathological. ) Gary Stone has tried to alienate [Victim 1] from her family by claiming that her brother had phoned Gary Stone's wife and informed her that [Victim 1] had a history of targeting married men and breaking up families. This is an patent lie. The truth is that [Victim 1] had told Gary Stone early in their relationship that her first husband had been married with children, and that she had spent over 7 years with him before they divorced on the grounds of his unreasonable behavior (he was convicted of causing Actual Bodily Harm to [Victim 1]), and she has had no further contact with him. (almost ALL our married Cyberpaths make these SAME EXACT CLAIMS or TWIST what someone tells them)
Pathologicals believe their mere words can 'create reality' and it only sets off the victim to try to correct the record - which is what the predator wants. To UPSET & HURT them. Don't worry -- most professionals see through this pretty quickly.)
Gary Stone drafted a book of some 100 pages, telling his twisted version of events, and circulated it to [Victim 1]'s friends in the discussion group where they met, before changing the names and trying to sell it as thinly-disguised 'fiction' at various websites (e.g. Lulu, PayLoadz), in the full knowledge that the level of personal information is sufficient to identify [Victim 1], her ex-husband and their child and place them in harm's way by so doing.
Stone wants BADLY to believe he is special and unique. ALL Cyberpaths & Pathologicals do. Truth is they are so alike it's scary. Below is from Stone's website -- where HE calls the shots and HE creates the 'reality', about EOPC:
Elaine May Smithand her vigilantes EOPC: in order to validate
themselves have to attack me. In 2011 they chose to bring back a story
that was proved entirely false in 2009. Bringing that story back has
revealed even more of their flawed character. in fact the nature of it
is criminal. The main menu is here:
http://thetoylanders.blogspot.com/2013/01/exposing-cyberpaths-predators-barbara.html
.These pages are a response to their attacks on me.
We never saw any evidence of this story being false. Including Stone's behavior validating everything his victims said about him If you want to see more of Stone's WORD SALAD &; bizarre accusations about EOPC and his victim in general - go here. He's CLOSED COMMENTS. Every time they say they are "defending themselves" they just dig themselves in deeper and prove their own pathology further. Stone even wrote back one of his victim's supporters:
From: Gary Stone/ backbeatone@gmail.com IP: 24.218.247.216 Subject: thks for you input Date: Sunday, October 12, 2008, 11:00 AM This webpage exists, to counter defamation, and sexual harassment, thanks Gary ~~~~~~~~~~~~~
The way he replies to himself on his website makes him sound as if he is hallucinating! He will only believe people who TELL HIM WHAT HE WANTS TO HEAR! Don't confuse Stone with reality or the truth.
Stone even says one old poster, G Nicholson, wrote him telling Stone he "thinks we're crazy too." Interesting since we have emails from this same person thanking us for all our support and hard work. Seems Stones sees, hears and believes only what he wants to.
All these Cyberpaths ought to start an online support group -- because they're the only ones who would listen or believe each other's baloney anymore.
Remember how Hicks swore he was going to "sue all the websites, Dr. Phil, The Washington Post, the Virginia DA and write a book to tell the truth"? (He needs to talk to O.J. about that. And it's been a few years that Hicks is still singing this tired song; and changing his name many many times -- and NO lawsuit or book. hhmmm...)
Remember Jacoby trying to make up websites "showing" how one of his hapless victims was "lying" until it was 'pointed out to him' that he was skating into a Federal felony?
And Dorsky thinking we were a bunch of kids on some social networking site and he was going to 'call the Mashpee Police on' us? (We told him to go ahead while we contacted law enforcement contacts with evidence of his grooming a minor.)
"I believe. I too experienced seeing UFO last march in upstateMinnesota. It was both frightful and awe inspiring. It changed me forever" Posted By Gary Stone, Peabody, MA : 4:24 PM ET"
Stone says he has sent emails complaints to Government ministers telling them that one of his victims must have posted this to make him look bad...even before they knew Stone or his name! And that he knows who runs EOPC (he has not gotten it right yet) Pure projection. He's not just wrong; he's so off base it's laughable.
The list goes on & on & on & on... If cyberpaths would BOTHER looking at the other posts and then over to the right of this site -- that whole LONG list of Cyberpaths & Predators whose victims come to us for support & validation to offer their tales as education & warning to others; they'd realize they're not only not special... they're common, unimaginative and repetitive.
Some of Stone's recent rantings since this was reposted: ________________
A note to British authorities who have received my information on XXXXX's welfare fraud. I would like you to follow along with my argument with this group at their blog: Http://cyberpaths.blogspot.com
I would like you also to follow my rebuttal as they have seen fit to fight XXX's battles for her. Actually, they are behind the current XXX harassment page. (WHAT PAGE IS HE TALKING ABOUT????)
- they have a well documented history advocating for this kind of thing. (REALLY???) My answers to them will be here. http://garystonepeabody.blogspot.com
I have asked Elaine and your authorities to do something about her soundclick harassment, now it has moved to face book, and this is just the cyberpaths blog (HUH???) old nonsense rehashed. It will only be me fighting them initially, but I would like you to observe how they operate. And I invite you to check my facts as you surely have access to XXX's primary motives: welfare fraud reports. Thanks
I don't think they will fare well. even tho it is just me they are fighting. It was XXXX who chose this fight, and invite every legal authority to witness it. realize please that XXX has a huge gang, and this fight only involves me... they will play down and dirty because that is what they are - filth. Gary Stone
I believe fighter has contacted my employer, as well. (NO WE DIDN'T. WE DON'T KNOW WHO HIS EMPLOYER WAS NOR DO WE CARE NOR DO WE CONTACT PEOPLE OVERSEAS. WE DO NOT GET PERSONALLY INVOLVED)There is a comment on his blog that has been removed (but still exists on XXXX’s server she may remove it too, but I have a photo of it, and will put it here. She got html from cyberpath’s blog, and put it XXX
That statement (below) was made by somebody familiar with my job responsibilities, the IP of the poster would prove it. Now that the post has been removed from Cyberpaths blog, (We never removed anything.) __________________________
More of Stone's "Everyone's Out to Get Me" Lunatic Ravings (If Toylanders is allegedly a music publishing company, a lot its of time is spent ranting about conspiracy theories against him. He has been harassing EOPC for almost 5 years and people he thinks are EOPC - no matter how many times he's told he is incorrect. He hangs on like a pitbull.) Stone desperately wants attention but he's incomprehensible.
And a comment we got on the very first post on Stone from a Massachusetts Comcast Internet address (24.218.232.171)
I have spent some time around sociopaths. In their work you usually find them in positions of power and have control over subordinates.
Take for instance Gary Stone, he was a registered nurse and for many years the night manager. He had control over the nurses under him and god like control over his patients.
This was enough to satiate his sociopathy and allow him to lead a near normal life away from his job. That is until he lost his job, he scrambled for a few months before meeting the above victim and as the story above reads, you do not need to guess the outcome.
Sociopaths can be found in all lines of work, military, law enforcement, civil service, corporate management and small business owners but more or less in a structured environment to which the sociopath will play to their advantage.
Until, they loose their jobs or retire, then all hell breaks out and woo unto the first victim they latch onto. In my opinion the above expose and continued releases will in a sense become his new victim. It will allow him to analyze in great detail every word of each sentence and give him something to do with his time. His time, wasted as it is will be spent refuting the expose and using it as a stick to beat his victim with.
Great work EOPC! keep it up. I can’t wait to see the next installment.
(This above poster seems to be on to something! And the statement about him latching onto EOPC as the next target of his rage - spot on.)
Stone claims EOPC uses proxies and hacks. We do not do either. He claims a few old members of our support group run this site. We have told him repeatedly they do not. So he is slandering and smearing these people in his "I can smear too" stance. We post stories given to us by victims of cyberpaths with full legal permission from these victims. These victims take full, legal responsibility for their story. Other than giving these victims a voice, we can not and do not have the capabilities to get involved. Stone is paranoid and self-involved to point of thinking we are 'out to get him.' He keeps using proxies to read our site. We had blocked him in hopes that he would move on with his life instead of inventing more plots against him.
Some of Stone's Proxies (reported to us) Chelyabinsk, Russian Federation 217.118.83.156 Kirov, Russian Federation 89.254.227.183; 89.254.210.38 Kirovo-chepetsk, Kirov, Russian Federation 94.241.222.108 Kirov, Russian Federation 94.241.192.171 Kirov, Russian Federation 94.241.244.90 Chisinau, Moldova, Republic of 89.149.115.19 These days unemployed Stone is spending thousands of hours a year reading, re-reading, and RE-reading the same posts. Searching desperately for any reason to fabricate more plots against him or 'secret messages' we are sending him from some article one of the EOPC Team posted; or rewriting and rehashing his expose and his 'facts'.
The only one keeping everything going - is GARY STONE. Poor poor Gary Stone...
