JOSEPH A. CAFASSO - CON MAN EXPOSED

Con Man identified in Simpson County
by Clara Aucoin

Joseph A. Cafasso was not prepared for the scrutiny he faced in Mendenhall, Mississippi. Leave it to a small town sheriff and a smaller town mayor to get the drop on a national conman.

Joseph "Jay" A. Cafasso, is a man of multiple talents, the foremost it seems, is to run scams on unknowing victims. These are not ignorant people, they include Fox News, Columbia University, the Dallas Morning News, the New York Magazine, and many others.

Cafasso zooms into town with accolades and education dripping off him. His game is to talk about his background, and his expertise, and volunteer to help people in their endeavors.

He worked for Fox News until they found out he was a phony. Locally, Cafasso worked for the Mendenhall Ministries as a Development Director, until he was found out, then he moved on to try and "help" Mendenhall.

The con man claims he is ex-CIA, secret agent, a Knight of Malta, claims to be traveling on a Vatican passport, and claims a vast array of illnesses and injuries.

If the name Joseph Cafasso or Jay Cafasso is searched via Google or Yahoo, voluminous text, pictures, and stories pop up.The photographs reveal all the stories are about the same person, although Cafasso has been known to change his appearance drastically. He lost 50 pounds, ditched his glasses, and shaved off a mustache and beard to alter his appearance. Now, he has something like, "the Indiana Jones look,"
going on said Mendenhall Mayor Randall Neely.

While in Simpson County, without knowing he was being thoroughly investigated by local law enforcement, Cafasso had the backbone to meet with Mayor Neely, the Sheriff, representatives for a senator, and Simpson Count Emergency Services Director. Neely said, "We knew he was a fake, we just wanted to see where he was going."

Evidently he was going somewhere because now he has disappeared from Mendenhall.
Neely said the last time he had seen Cafasso the con man had said he was going to St. Dominic's to have his gall bladder removed.

That behavior too was part of his typical pattern. Most of the reports have indicated that when things began to go "bad" for the con man, he would "suffer" some illness or injury that required medical treatment and simply disappear.

Although local law enforcement knew Cafasso was a fake, they also could not find that he had broken any laws. Zealous work on local, state, and national crime computers have also not provided any outstanding warrants. Although Cafasso leaves a swath of stolen identifications and credit card theft, it appears he did none of that
while in Simpson County.

However, the man had a plethora of approximately 15 aliases. It is suspected there are warrants against him under other names. Anyone with information regarding this man is urged to contact the Simpson County Sheriff Kenneth Lewis, at 601-847-2921, or Mendenhall Police Investigator Bruce Barlow at 601-847-2641.

MORE ON CAFASSO

When Dating Legislation Misses The Point

A recent decision by a US District Court judge has upheld the legality of a law that prohibits Americans from speaking with foreign individuals through online dating sites. The law, originally called the International Matchmaker Regulation Act, is now called the International Marriage Broker Regulation Act and was attached to the Violence Against Women Act, an act that any legislator would have had a tough time voting against. The act in question might have had a good intention at one time, but with such vague wording has missed the point entirely on what was intended to be accomplished.

The law was presumably intended to stop online dating sites that center on hooking up single American men with foreign women as women's groups advocated that foreign women brought in under these situations suffer a higher rate of abuse and mistreatment. While that is a honorable goal, the wording of the law makes it a) difficult to enforce and b) open to interpretation.

The law does state that it targets only those online matchmaking agencies that market themselves as a mail order bride site, but who draws that line? Match.com might not be affected, but those that offer traditional dating or matchmaking services and foreign women as well might be in the grey area. Additionally, there are a number of online daters out there that have had successful relationships through such sites. Does making the practice illegal based solely on some bad apples make sense for the American public as a whole?

The basis of the law is a good one and perhaps there are measures that are more appropriate and less presumptuous. However, such a broad stroke needlessly affects more people than it was intended to target, something every measure pushed through Congress should endeavor to avoid.

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Technology and the Fast Food of Sex

Ingenious 'blue' minds have found a way to exploit a most innocuous technology for sexual purposes.

By Alon van Dam

He checks his Rolex irritably as he bustles along through London's Gatwick airport. Clad in an Armani suit, his attache case swinging with every step as he busily sends an SMS message from his mobile phone, bystanders don't give him a second glance: just another yuppie businessman arranging a meeting. Except that Richard's meeting won't take place in a boardroom with executives, but in a public lavatory with a woman he's never met before and will never meet again after their "business" is concluded. For Richard is into toothing, a new sexual trend enabled by mobile phone technology.

Toothing is a form of anonymous sex with strangers that relies on Bluetooth technology, from which it also derives its name. Bluetooth is a system devised by Ericsson that provides a way for devices like computers, cameras, printers and mobile phones to communicate and convey information over short distances. Originally intended for wireless transmission of files between these devices, ingenious "blue" minds have found a way to exploit even this most innocuous of technologies for sexual uses.

The roots of toothing lay in another trend that has been gripping Britain, known as dogging, which involves having sex at a public place, like a park, with the specific intention of being watched. Dogging has become so popular recently that the BBC estimates some 60 percent of Britain's parks see regular dogging action.

Toothing was created by British journalists Ste Curran and Simon Byron. Amused and baffled by the dogging craze, they decided to invent an imaginary trend with a silly name and see if people would believe it. They wrote a fictitious article about a guy called "Jon" who supposedly messaged a random girl by accident while commuting. The flirtatious contact continued until, a couple of days later, the girl suggested squeezing into the local restroom for a quickie - or so the article claimed.

Curran and Byron proceeded to register a forum under the name "Toothy Toothing" where they and their friends enjoyed countless hours of churning out articles that were supposedly written by toothers. The pair of pranksters then sent off the articles to an Internet-based news service and played the waiting game. Byron remembers: "Our point at the time was to highlight how journalists are happy to believe something is true without necessarily checking the facts."

And believe it they did. Within days, the hoax had reached a far larger audience than they had ever expected. "We kept a record at the start of where we were mentioned, but there were soon too many to record in full." They agreed to do an interview with the London-based daily Telegraph and "many papers read that and followed up, broadsheet and tabloid, regional, national, all over the planet. One of us made an appearance on Radio 5 Live, and had a Conservative MP declare his interest in toothing as a way of meeting women. We received a whole host of offers to license official toothing merchandise: sex lines, Web pages, even mobile-phone software."

Saucy invites
Though technologically possible, Curran and Byron never thought their hoax would turn into something so real. "It's like going into a crowded nightclub, throwing a brick at the dance floor with a love letter attached, and hoping that the person it hits will agree to sleep with you." Curran and Byron reassured the world that toothing was nothing more than a practical joke gone way too far. Curran's last words on the matter were:

"Despite all the made-up ramblings on Web sites across the globe, despite the forums and the fan-fiction, the tabloids and the broadsheets, the perverts and the simply curious, no one has ever ever, ever toothed."

How wrong he was. How very wrong. Within months of the original post, hundreds of toothing forums sprang up like mushrooms throughout Europe, Southeast Asia and America. They were soon populated by all sorts of people seeking out the best locations in their area to tooth, sharing their adventure stories and posting saucy invitations, such as Mister LongDongShlong wants to meet King's Cross Station, 7th of October at 9 A.M. P.S. Women only.

Now, this so-called Mister LongDongShlong may be a broad-shouldered Johnny Depp look-alike or he could be a greasy, fat, 50-year-old pervert, who can tell? Need to know? Hop on a flight to London on the 7th and find out for yourself. Curious? For anyone who owns a mobile phone with Bluetooth-capabilities an exciting sex-adventure need only be a few presses of the button away. When activated, they have the ability to sense other Bluetooth-phones in a 40-meter radius.

One simply assumes a pseudonym and sends the message "Toothing?" - the most common opening move. Anyone interested in a quick sexual escapade will reply to arrange a time and place - usually very soon in a nearby bathroom or other semi-secluded space. "If the shoe fits, wear it right now. Why waste time?" is Richard's opinion. There's a very high level of privacy, as the messages are sent via Bluetooth technology without as much as disclosing the author's phone number.

"It's simple, doesn't take a lot of guts and rejection is nowhere as personal. Of course it's popular," says Shanna Petersen, a sexologist who strongly rejects skeptics who still claim that no one has ever toothed. Having spoken to many toothers herself, she explains: "Show people a new way through which they have a chance to have more sex and they'll do it. No matter how much effort goes into it or how meager the results." When asked about a perceived gender bias, she answered: "One would think toothing would appeal only to men, but plenty of curious women are trying it out. A lot more than you'd think."

Albert Benschop, a sociologist with the University of Amsterdam, researched the trend. According to him, toothing is the next logical step in dating. "The old game is just adapting to new times. It seems that being single and messing around is 'in.' Pair that with our faster lives, our shortened attention span and our technology and you arrive at toothing."

He explains that toothing is "just like picking up people in bars but without the silly time-consuming conventions of decorum that people are obliged to keep to these days. This is much more direct. You both know what you want." He also sees it serving an important purpose: "People can use it to satisfy their need for intimacy. As long as it helps people out of loneliness and gives them more to enjoy in life, I think it's a very good development."

Embarrassing moments
There's a high level of anonymity to toothing, but the flipside to all this privacy is that you have no way of knowing who's responding to your messages. However, according to Laura, a 26-year-old interior decorator, that's the point: "That's what makes it exciting - going to a bathroom stall or supply closet and waiting for someone who could be anyone, having uninhibited sex with them knowing you'll never see them again."

According to Paul, a 30-year-old executive for a Forbes 500 firm, the thrill lies in the sexual liberty toothing gives you. "You can finally be yourself and act out your wildest sexual fantasies without regard to anyone else's feelings. You don't have to live up to any standards." He does agree, though, that "the fact that it's with complete strangers and so different every time is a nice bonus, of course."

But it's not just the sex itself that's appealing. "For many people, the chase is where the thrill is. An important part of the game's charm lies in locating the source of a message: who in your direct vicinity just came on to you digitally?" says an Italian toother who prefers to remain anonymous. Seeing as the reach on Bluetooth is very limited, the person has to be close by. The opportunity for a tryst is around the corner, behind a tree or across the street. Toothers are generally quite young enough to have the level of technological savvy to operate a Bluetooth-phone, -but that doesn't usually narrow the field quite enough. And what if you, in anonymity, message someone you know?

"That actually happened to me once," says Paul, a blush rising on his cheeks. "It's hard to believe but one day I made an appointment in a lavatory near my office only to find that the woman I was meeting was one of the cleaning ladies. I beat a hasty retreat and pretended like it was a coincidence, but I haven't been able to look at her in quite the same way since." Paul therefore strongly advises any wannabe toothers to try it out somewhere far from home and work to avoid unpleasant surprises.

What are good places to go toothing, then? Well, the obvious answer is any place that is teeming with people that will increase the chances of a fellow toother being on the prowl. Public transportation seems to be the center of activity: airports, train stations, metro lines. Besides that, malls and busy shopping streets see a lot of action, too. "Where there are people, there are horny people," sexologist Petersen reminds us.

Because the phenomenon happens in crowded areas, it stands to reason that only the bigger cities have thriving toothing communities. "It's very hot in Munich, San Francisco, Berlin, Paris, Amsterdam, New York, Florence, Delhi. All over the world!" says forum Web master Mischa Schreuder. "But London and Rome are toothers' heaven. Try it out in the London Underground and I promise you won't be disappointed."

Meanwhile, the original creators - who still get up to much mischief, as is evidenced on their blog at thetriforce.com - are still having a hard time believing their little prank spawned such a massive sensation. They thought of it when the technology was just nascent and hard to use. In reflection, Byron says: "As we were doing toothing, we had a few offers from people wanting to develop software, which would make it practical. We knew it would be just a matter of time before someone did. We should have become rich from it. But we were happy to do it for fun." And many people around the world are thankful for it.

People call toothing a fad and say that its practitioners are nothing but immoral perverts. The toothers themselves don't care much. They watch benignly as more and more people of all ages, genders, races, creeds and nationalities join their community.

"It's the fast food of sex," says Richard the yuppie. "Cheap and fast, without making too much effort." Then he checks his phone again and smiles. "Sorry, got to go."

Americans Must Have Criminal Checks Before Contacting Foreigners on Internet

A new federal law that makes it a crime for Americans to communicate with foreigners on dating websites without criminal background checks is upheld by a federal judge.

Washington, DC -- On March 26, 2007, a new federal law restricting Americans from contacting foreigners through internet dating sites was upheld by a federal court after a Constitutional challenge by an internet dating company. In European Connections v. Alberto Gonzales, 1:06-CV-0426-CC, Judge Clarence Cooper of the US District Court for the Northern District of Georgia dismissed a lawsuit by European Connections which claimed that the law violated the right to freedom of speech contained in the First Amendment to the United States Constitution. The plaintiff had failed to challenge the law based on the First Amendment right to assemble.

According to Tristan Laurent, President of the advocacy group Online Dating Rights, "We will now have to take legal action from the point of view of the users of online dating sites. The whole idea that it is now a crime for American men to send emails to women in other countries is so preposterous it is beyond belief. The judge's ruling that there is no Constitutional violation in forcing Americans to divulge all sorts of highly personal information to a complete stranger or scammer abroad before the American can even say hello or know to whom he is writing is only exceeded in foolishness by Congress in making the law."

The law was originally called the International Matchmaker Regulation Act, but it did not pass Congress in previous years by that name and it was later named the International Marriage Broker Regulation Act (IMBRA) before it passed on December 17th, 2005. The law, which was attached to the reauthorization of the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) was apparently not debated in public and Mr. Laurent says that no dating company or dating site user was invited to a closed-door Senate hearing in July 2004.

IMBRA makes it a felony for an internet dating company, that primarily focuses on introducing Americans to foreigners, to allow any American to communicate with any person of foreign nationality without first subjecting that American to a criminal background check, a sex offender check and without first having the American certify any previous convictions or arrests, any previous marriages or divorces any children and all states of residence since 18. Match.com is excluded from the law, and the judge found that this exception posed no challenge to the Fifth Amendment equal protection clause because American women are supposedly not abused by American men that they meet on the internet, and thus are not in need of protection.

The law was sponsored by Sen. Sam Brownback, R-KS and Sen. Maria Cantwell, D-WA and was championed by key women's groups. The law was passed after these groups made claims that foreign women who marry American men are subjected to higher rates of abuse than are American women. However, the only study that addresses this issue was done by the INS in 1999 and it found that the rate of abuse in such international marriages is one-seventh the rate of abuse in domestic marriages. See http://www.online-dating-rights.com/index.php?ind=downloads&op=entry_view&iden=24

Online Dating Rights Director of Public Relations Jim Peterson said of the judge's ruling: "It is a sad day for freedom in our country when an American has to have a criminal background check before he can say 'Hello" to a foreigner through the internet." He also said that "America is the only country in the world that regulates communication between two consenting adults seeking to communicate via internet, with the possible exceptions of China and North Korea. Without new email technology, IMBRA could not have been even feasible because people generally sent paper letters to each other's home addresses just a few years ago. Is it right for the US government to make a form of communication illegal when it was the only form of communication possible just a few years ago?"

The law has been attacked in a bipartisan fashion by prominent feminist Wendy McElroy HERE and by men's rights supporter David Usher HERE and by immigration attorney Gary Bala HERE

Mr. Laurent says that his organization has undertaken a fundraising drive to raise $100,000 for a class-action suit against the government on behalf of all the men who can no longer contact women in Canada, England, Germany, Russia and the Philippines due to this law. Contributors are asked to visit the website at www.online-dating-rights.com.

Both Mr. Laurent and Mr. Peterson are available for media interviews but since both have to work for a living and do not receive federal taxpayer funding, arrangements for telephone interviews should be made by email if possible. Contact Mr. Laurent at onlinedatingrights @ yahoo.com and Mr. Peterson at veterans @ veteransabroad.com

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MIKE CAMPBELL - REDUX

UPDATE 3/27/07
This isn't the first or last time EOPC has gotten or will get veiled threats of this nature via our comments. We see that Mr. Campbell is still visiting this site daily. This poster came in from a Netscape News Aggregator which EOPC belongs to and promises to "personally see to it" that EOPC is closed down.

What this poster did not bother to do was to see or read any of the many legal links or the agreement form which we make all our victims sign and return.

This poster also should send this same threat to many of the sites under "EXPOSE THEM" on the right, some of which also pick up stories from EOPC and other sites. This isn't the only place Mr. Campbell is listed and all these sites have a same, very high standard of report and liability.

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Their Comment:
Let me preface my contribution by saying that I personally know Mike Campbell. He has backed me several times at blues jams and he has been nothing but supportive and gentlemanly to me. He has never come on to me or acted in appropriately in any way. And before any of think there must be something wrong with me, I am a very attractive woman and I am happily unmarried. But let's not look for reasons why he didn't "violate" me, just know that he hasn't done it to ME.

Next, I happen to run a non-profit for domestic violence, abuse and stalking victims. So I am not in favor of ANYONE, friend or foe, victimizing anyone in any way. Am I saying he did it? No. I am also not discounting how these women feel or what happened in his other relationships. The truth is that I don't know, I wasn't there.

What I do see are lot of legal holes that can be punched into this. And the owner of this site had better start doing some reading up on the law when it comes to slander/libel.

The first thing that jumped out at me was, "Unless you have hard proof that this person was LYING, THE TRUTH is a 100% defense to slander or libel.". WRONG. He does not have to prove she is lying, she has to prove she is telling the truth as she is the one making the claim in a public forum - IF he does decide to take her to court. Based on what I have read, she has not kept any of the correspondence they exchanged. I see alot of "Anonymous" posters making claims that he has done the same thing - who the hell are they? Are they going to be prepared to testify in court? I see the fact that he plays in a blues band fueling a stereotype. Maybe he cheated on his wife - that would not be nice. Sociopaths may have their perversions, but not all cheaters are sociopaths. To say he has broken up marriages before is to give him absolute power over these relationships. Does he have some kind of goo-goo dust that he sprinkles over these women that renders them helpless or less responsible for their actions? Bottom line, if they were secure in their marriages, themselves or both, Mike would not have been able to get a foot in the door. Does that mean Mike is a sociopath for chasing married or other women? No, it really just makes him immoral, if it were true. Again, I'm not saying this particular women did not go through what she went through. I do not know. I wasn't there.

What I do know is you all had better have a solid case against him because you PUBLICLY named him. The repercussions reach far beyond this woman. The ONLY information you should make public is public information (arrests, legal documents, etc.) if they pertain to this matter.

Naming him, his band, and other recognizable information is asking for trouble - and I mean big trouble. You not only defamed him, you have put the members of his band at risk of losing income as well and people and their money are not happily parted. I personally would like to see how this all plays out. If he deserves to be punished, then so be it and I will be very disappointed. If this is just another bashing under the guise of benevolence, I will personally see to it this site is shut down.
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In the last couple months since running Mike Campbell as our first Predator of 2007, EOPC has gotten letters of gratitude from other victims - for allowing the member to tell her story about this predator. Seems Mike gets around.

We have even heard from husbands and other women who know about this guy and are relieved the truth is out there. They stayed anonymous to us.

It appears that Campbell himself comes to EOPC, clicking in from news aggregators and so on. Campbell has been threatening those he thinks may have exposed him. Same stuff all the cyberpaths do... "lies, slander, never happened, she's nuts, she's delusional"...

. - FIGHTER

New Jersey considers banning sex offenders from Internet use; Constitutional issues raised

Released sex offenders would be barred from using the Internet and online dating sites would face new security rules under bills to be considered today by the Senate amid worries about child safety on the computer.

"We're living in some very scary times," said Senate President Richard J. Codey, who is sponsoring the legislative package that has raised constitutional questions and opposition from Internet companies.

Under the plan, released sex offenders caught using the Internet would face up to 18 months in jail and fines of up to $10,000.

Sex offenders caught using the Internet to solicit a child would face a mandatory five years in jail, rather than the three years they face under current law.

A bill also would require online dating sites to notify New Jersey residents whether they do background checks, a proposal opposed by Internet companies such as Yahoo!, AOL, eHarmony and Match.com.

"Criminal background checks provide users of online dating with a false sense of security," said Bill Ashworth, director of state government affairs at Yahoo!

No federal law imposes Internet restrictions on convicted sex offenders, but Florida and Nevada have enacted such measures.

A U.S. Department of Justice survey of youths ages 10 to 17 found that about one in five received a sexual solicitation or approach over the Internet.

Such findings have prompted new laws in some states.

Colorado banned anyone from using a computer to talk to an unrelated child under age 15 without parental permission if the person is at least four years older than the child. Kansas and Oklahoma made electronic solicitation of a child a crime.

Under the New Jersey proposal, which has not yet been considered by the Assembly, convicted sex offenders would have to submit to periodic, unannounced examinations of their computer equipment, install equipment on their computer so its use could be monitored and inform law enforcement if they have access to a computer.

The state public defender's office has said it will look into the constitutional ramifications and expressed concern that barring juvenile sex offenders from the Internet would deny them educational opportunities.

ORIGINAL POST

HOW TO FLIRT ON THE NET

HOW TO FLIRT WITH A WOMAN
ON THE NET
10 TIPS TO SUCCESSFUL CYBER-FLIRTING

1. WOMEN WANT TO BE TREATED WELL
The same rules of gentlemanly conduct that apply in life, apply on the Net. Woman want to be treated well. Respect her and you'll be a winner. Offend her, and you're out of the game.

2. LOVERS COME AND GO -- FRIENDS LAST FOREVER
Although there are some women who are looking for a casual one-net stand, most women want a Cyber-Seduction to grow out of a friendship. If you can create a comfortable & safe place, chances are she'll want to play more. Even the most sensuous encounters are still all about creating relationships. They may not be permanent, they may not have the deepest emotional intimacy, but the guidelines for good relating apply to Cyber- Love as well.

3. RECOGNIZE THE VARIOUS STAGES OF SEDUCTION
Different rules apply for each stage of seduction . Recognize what stage of the seduction you're in:
First Stage: Making Contact.
Second Stage: Flirting and Courtship.
Third Stage: Cyber-Seduction.
Success comes to the man who recognizes what stage he is in.

4. GETTING TO YES -- THE FIRST STAGE OF SEDUCTION
The first stage is making contact and determining if the woman is interested in your attention. At this initial stage most woman are still in the no thank you mode. This is not the best time to start sending her direct, sexual private messages, because she is still in the no stage. Establish a friendly connection first. Make sure she really wants to play before you escalate the game.

Assuming you have determined that she is responding to you, the next step is establishing a connection that is personal to the two of you. The art of the first stage is knowing how to make it personal without making it too personal. It requires sensitivity to know where her boundaries are at each stage.

5. LET THE GAMES BEGIN! THE SECOND STAGE OF SEDUCTION
The best flirtation is like a good game of tennis. Both players return volleys. If she is not responding at your pace, SLOW DOWN. There is no point in trying to `ace' her at this stage in the game. Be interested in her, who she is, not what she is! Ask questions, but don't make her feel like she's the subject of a `60 Minutes' interview. Never ask questions about her body parts, or her dimensions unless she's willing to volunteer that level of information. Ask open-ended questions like how do you feel about....? what do you like best about...? -- rather than closed questions like Do you like Classical music? Those kind of questions tend to lead to yes or no answers, perhaps bringing the conversation to a halt. Keep the game going. Always respond to her, never let a comment or question go by unanswered. If you don't have an answer, speak up (softly). Don't just be silent. Remember, she can't read your mind. It's easier to keep the connection going than it is to re-start it.

6. LAY YOUR CARDS ON THE TABLE
Be honest! If you don't look like Mel Gibson, why say you do? You might as well take the risk to find out if she is interested in who you really are. She will be very angry at you if she finds out later you have mislead her ABOUT ANYTHING.

Be truthful about your intentions with her at this stage. If you are not looking for a romance, don't pretend to be. If you have other important relationships on the net or in life, TELL HER NOW IN CLEAR TERMS before the situation escalates, otherwise there are bound to be hurt feelings. Ask her the same questions about her love life and intentions. Reveal something about yourself FIRST. THEN ask her to do the same.

In the second stage, Be first to tell her how you feel. In the long run she'll respect and trust you more for being open and honest.

7. LET HER TAKE THE LEAD
As you move through the levels of the second stage , if possible, let her take the lead toward becoming more intimate. If she initiates deeper levels, you will know that this is what she truly desires, and it will allow her to feel more in control of the situation. If she feels in charge she's less likely to become afraid of more intensity.

If she is shy, you can still help her feel in control by inviting her rather than taking her down the path of Cyber-Seduction. Ask her: Tell me about what you're wearing? This is better than asking her, What are you wearing? (if you haven't reached this level of intimacy yet.)

8. STAGE THREE: HER SENSES MAY BE DIFFERENT FROM YOURS
If you've gotten to the cyber-seduction stage three, you may be speaking very directly about sex and sensuality. Remember, all of the above rules still apply, and a few more come into play. First, her sense of choice may be different from yours. You may want her to paint pictures for you. You may ask her to describe what she looks like, what she's wearing and other visual descriptions. This may do nothing for her. She may want to hear words that turn her on. Or she may want to feel through descriptions of sensations. She may initially prefer one modality, and then another as things heat up. Get to know yourself and your lady and you'll be able to play her like a fine violin.

Here's an example of how the different senses can be used. One simple act (escalating the action at a dinner table), can be handled in a multitude of ways:

Visual Sensation: ....I push away the dinner plates and lift you onto the table. I can see from the look in your eyes that you are mine. Your red lips part with longing...

Sound Sensation: ....I can almost hear you purr --- I know I can't wait any longer, "You are mine' I whisper. Shoving away the dinner plates, I don't care who hears us now, "You are my most sinful dessert' I sigh....

Touch Sensation: ...I reach under the white linen tablecloth, my hand slides teasingly slowly up your trembling thigh. You let me gently part your legs as your moist heat attracts my fingers like a thousand invisible magnets...

9. A ROSE BY ANY OTHER NAME.....
....May not smell as sweet. What kind of words does she use to describe body parts or acts of love? Does she like poetic & colorful innuendo, or graphic dirty words and explicit descriptions? One false step in this department can cause weeks of delicate feelings to unravel in a moment. Find out what she likes before you find yourself typing away like a wild man in the heat of action.

Erotic and (porno) graphic are very opposing styles. The different impact of these two approaches is considerable. She may not respond to one, whereas she may be delighted by the other.

Here is an example of an erotic approach:

...my hands find their way to the source of your desire, awakening an almost forgotten longing....

Graphic approach: (....maybe I'll just let you imagine this one....!)

Don't assume you know her tastes -- ask her. It may sound a little clinical, but that's where the great lovers are separated from the crowd. Get good at eliciting her love-strategy in a way that is fun, provocative and passionate.

10. BRINGING NET-FANTASIES TO LIFE
If you've been having a Cyber Love affair, you may be wondering about taking it to the next level of reality. Assuming that you are both single and available, you may be curious to speak on the phone or even meet in person. WARNING: Are you willing to let go of a fantasy in order to have a real life experience? If the answer is yes, and you are willing to accept any possible outcome, then you know what you need to do next. Call her! If it goes well, get on an airplane!!!

But be honest with yourself.
Are you ready to have your life (which you have some control over as long as you are at the keyboard) disrupted?
Are you ready, willing and able to face the fact that the goddess you have been imagining and sweet chatting is different from a living, breathing, real woman?
Real women have real needs, hopes and dreams. But if you're ready for reality...

GO FOR IT!
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1. MEN HAVE DOUBLE STANDARDS

Many men have a version of the ideal woman they could take home to mom -- and another fantasy woman they'd like to take home to bed. Which role do you want to play? Get clear about this because each game has a different set of rules. Ironically, the game plan for success in one area can be a disaster in the other. To make matters more complicated, men want you to play one role perfectly at night (in private) and another (publicly) by the light of day. (If you think this is confusing to us, you can imagine how they feel.)

2. A CYBER-LOVE AFFAIR IS A RELATIONSHIP

Lovers may come and go, but friends last forever. Even if you are just looking for a little romantic or passionate fun and games, you will probably feel better about your Cyber-Lover if it grows out of a friendship. Remember, even face-less, anonymous cyber-love has emotional consequences. Feelings can be hurt. Make sure you are playing with a gentle-man who has a basic respect for your feelings, your boundaries, and your privacy.

3. GREAT SEDUCTION HAPPENS IN STAGES

Allow this process to happen gradually. Even if you know where you want to go -- go slow! If you rush through the courtship stages, not only do you cheat yourself of this most delicious part of the dance, but it may be very difficult to re-create the sense of romance once you have gone too far. It is better to go slow then to get in too deep, too fast. Going all the way on your first or second date may cause your cyber-affair to crash and burn.

4. WHO'S LEADING THIS DANCE ANYWAY?

No matter what they may say to the contrary, most men like to be in control. They say they like women to be sexually aggressive -- but not too aggressive. They say they want you to initiate -- but then they want to feel in charge. Go figure! Every man is unique in his control ratio. So here's the deal; you are going to have to learn and experiment to find out how much and how often your cyber-man wants you to initiate, lead or escalate the stages of cyber-seduction. Some men like to be in total control, some men like you to be in total control (that way they don't have to feel guilty or responsible for their actions). Some men like to be in control some of the time, and it varies with their mood and the stage of the seduction you are in. For example, they may want to lead in the flirting, and have you take over when it gets hot and heavy, or vice versa. Experiment; try both roles and see which one he responds to the most.

5. ASK AND YE SHALL RECEIVE

Ask for what you want romantically and sexually. If you don't ask, you may not get it. If you do ask, you might get it. Those are good enough odds in my book. Here is your chance to not be shy! Even if you can't do this in real life, use this as an opportunity to stretch your comfort zones and loosen your inhibitions. Let yourself go! But don't do anything you don't want to do! You have to be able to respect yourself in the morning.

6. LEADING MEN ON -- THE ART OF CYBER SEDUCTION

Eroticism and Pornography are as different as night and day. The goal of pornography is a release of sexual energy or climax. Eroticism is all about the enlivening or awakening of the senses. It's goal is stimulation or arousal of the energy. Eroticism and pornography each have their own language, style and mood. Remembering how different they are, decide which mode you want to be in at any given moment. Consider the significance of these two approaches:

Eroticism: I am imagining how it feels to have you peel away my dress, leaving me naked and trembling before you -- aching for your touch.

Graphic: Tear off my dress! Now! I am wet with longing for your tongue.

Your choice of words sets the tone and the mood. The choice is yours. This is just one of the ways that you can remain in control of the experience.

7. EAR-ROTICA -- PAINTING PICTURES WITH WORDS

Most men want you to paint pictures, to show them what is going on. They need to have a visual fix, which is why they often ask what are you wearing. Many women , on the other hand, want to be seduced with words and descriptions of sensations. Tell a woman I'm sending you roses, and she'll probably feel all tingly inside. To get a similar rise from a man you'd have to describe something you are doing, something he can see, I am running my hand down your hard chest. Some men like all three senses (sight, sound, touch) to be involved, and in a particular order. First they may want you to tantalize their eyes, then please their ears, then delight their sense of touch. Here's an example of one simple action (opening a robe), enticing each of these senses:

Visual Sensation: ....I open my red-lace robe, exposing one tight hard nipple -- for just a moment... then I take your hand showing you the way....

Sound Sensation: ...Slowly I let my satin robe slip to the floor, `-- I am yours', I whisper....

Touch Sensation: ...Your hands pull at the sash -- my robe slips away, and with it my inhibitions. Your touch -- my bare flesh -- a fire is igniting inside me....

8. A ROSE BY ANY OTHER NAME....

...may not smell as sweet. What kind of words does your cyber-lover like to describe body parts or acts of love? Does he like poetic, illusive innuendoes? Or does he prefer graphic dirty words and explicit descriptions. Find out this information before you get into the heat of the action. And let him know how you feel. One false step in this department can leave a man hanging.

9. BRINGING NET-FANTASIES TO LIFE

If you've been having a cyber-love affair, you may be wondering about taking it to the next level of reality. Assuming that you are both single and available, you may be curious to speak on the phone or even meet in person. WARNING: Are you willing to let go of a fantasy in order to have a real life experience? If the answer is yes, and you are willing to accept any possible outcome, then you know what you need to do next. Call him! If it goes well, get on an airplane!!!

But be honest with yourself. Are you ready to have your life (which you have some control over as long as you are at the keyboard) disrupted? Are you ready willing and able to face the fact that the person you have been imagining and sweet chatting is different from the living, breathing, real man? The man you have (created) in your mind may not be anything like the real thing. And he may have built up an idealized image of you. But if you are ready to surrender the dream....if you're ready for reality....Go for it!

10. YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF THE SEDUCTION

If your man wants to think he's in control of the seduction, who are we to tell him otherwise? But... (can we talk girlfriends?...) we all know who's in control of the seduction. You are!! If you hadn't given him the green light in the first place, he wouldn't have continued to give you his attention. You have to let him know that you are interested! Most men don't put themselves in situations where they are going to be rejected for very long. It is the woman who gives the man the signals that allows him to go forward -- to seduce you. So feel free, let him know what you want. After all, we can stop at any time, right? (Right!)

GOOD LUCK & GOOD LOVING

http://www.lovelife.com/flirt-woman.html

A Love Triangle by E-Mail

It was Henry L. Stimson, serving as Herbert Hoover's Secretary of State, who famously said, "Gentlemen don't read each other's mail."

That was 1929. Things have changed.

The State Attorney's office in the Lisa Nowak case has released 250 pages of documents, and they make for steamy reading. We've posted some text HERE. Most of what you'll find are emails between Bill Oefelein, the fellow astronaut Nowak allegedly pined for, and Colleen Shipman, the Air Force captain he was seeing even before he broke up with Nowak.

You read right. Oefelein tells investigators that he did indeed have an affair with Nowak, starting in 2004. That apparently contradics her version, back in February, that their relationship, while "more than professional," was less than romantic.

"Bill is absolutely the best person I've ever known and I love him more than I knew possible," Nowak wrote in a letter to Oefelein's mother.

Take a look, as well, at Gina Sunseri's REPORT on the case. She says there's no suggestion of past psychiatric treatments, drug use, previous arrests--just dysfunctional relatonships, marriages in tatters, and badly-hurt feelings. (Some of you had wondered before.)

As with so many tawdry cases, you almost can't help watching. Thoughts, as always, are welcome.

(can you say Nowak is possibly a victim of a flaming narcissist/cyberpath? We are not excusing her behavior - but nothing happens in a vacuum)

WHY LISA NOWAK SNAPPED

What would cause a highly educated, seemingly successful person to snap?

Some are asking that question in the case of an astronaut accused of trying to kill another woman in a purported love triangle.

Wednesday on TODAY, psychiatrist and television personality Dr. Keith Ablow offered his perspective, saying astronaut Lisa Nowak may have underlying "unresolved issues" and as a result "lost perspective."

"It is very hard for people to understand," said Ablow, "but these are feelings that cut across all social barriers. They cut across how accomplished you are at work. When affairs of the heart are involved, people sometimes tap very primitive and primal unresolved issues in their psyches and those come to the fore."

Nowak, 43, an astronaut who flew aboard the space shuttle Discovery last year, returned home to Houston on Wednesday after posting $25,500 bail. She was charged a day earlier in Florida with attempted murder of the woman she believed was her romantic rival for a space shuttle pilot's affections. Nowak is also charged with attempted kidnapping and three other crimes.

According to police, Nowak, wearing diapers, drove 900 miles from Houston to Orlando to confront Colleen Shipman, who arrived in Orlando aboard a plane Monday. Nowak disguised herself in a wig and trenchcoat, approached Shipman's car and sprayed her with pepper spray, authorities said. Nowak had all the tools necessary — tape, a knife, a BB-gun, a steel mallet, garbage bags and other items — to kill the woman, police said.

Whether Nowak and Shipman really were competing for the affections of astronaut William Oefelein is irrelevant to the question of why Nowak did what she is accused of doing, Ablow said on TODAY. People who become lovesick are capable of doing extraordinarily reckless things that are out of character and have lingering consequences, he explained.

"I've testified in cases in which people become completely irrational about jealousies," Ablow said. "I had a man who was a Harvard dermatologist say, 'I think I killed my wife' — and, as strange as it sounds, to always have her love. He had kids and did it in front of them."

'A desperate woman'
Nowak, who recently separated from her husband of 19 years, has three children — a teenage son and twin 5-year-old girls.

"This is a question of degree and perspective," Ablow said. "And she's lost perspective here."

Nowak's younger sister Andrea Rose told PEOPLE magazine that Nowak also never quite recovered from losing three former classmates in the 2003 Columbia shuttle explosion. "We knew Lisa was under a lot of stress," said Rose, 41, a lawyer. "But there's no way of knowing how a particular person will react to stress. We love Lisa and we're worried about her well-being."

Nowak's attorney, Donald Lykkebak, urged the public and the media to keep the incident in perspective. Nobody was hurt seriously, and the charges, particularly the attempted murder count, are merely unproved allegations, said Lykkebak.

"What she did was spray her with pepper spray, no more," Lykkebak said. "What we have here is a desperate woman who wants to have a conversation with another woman.”

Retired astronaut, Jerry Linenger, told the Associated Press that NASA should review its psychological screening process. With the space agency talking about a 2½-year trip to Mars, it would be dangerous for someone to “snap like this” during the mission, he said.

“An astronaut is probably the most studied human being by the time you go through your testing, your training,” Linenger said. “I think there’s still a lot of unknowns out there.”

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(anyone who wants to know why people like Nowak snapped? On the right margin, down about 3/4 of the way, is a list of predators we have exposed. PLEASE read some of their stories.

While we do NOT condone what Nowak did, we understand the factors that caused her to do it.)

ED HICKS GETS 1 YEAR IN JAIL

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ED HICKS - OUR FIRST PREDATOR OF THE MONTH: ARRESTED!!

(from EOPC's Archives, December 2005 - Hicks was release in October 2006 and is currently living in South Carolina -- possibly looking for new targets)

From THE WASHINGTON POST

'Dr. Phil' Helps Find Va. Bigamy Suspect
Viewer Recognizes Man as Sister's Beau

By Tom Jackman -- Washington Post Staff Writer

Who needs "America's Most Wanted" when you've got "Dr. Phil" to help capture supposed outlaws?

The case of Charles "Ed" Hicks, the Alexandria area man who has been married seven times but divorced only five, was featured yesterday on the syndicated "Dr. Phil" television show to emphasize the danger of bigamous men. A North Carolina woman spotted Hicks during the show's airing in the Charlotte area and said, "Oh my God, he's dating my sister!"

She called her sister, and then she called police.

Hicks, 61, was indicted last week in Chesapeake, Va., on a charge of felony bigamy. A warrant was issued, but he had not been arrested. The North Carolina women notified the Charlotte-Mecklenburg County police, and officers there arrested him at his current girlfriend's apartment at 1:35 p.m., said Julia Rush, a spokeswoman for the Mecklenburg County sheriff's office.

Hicks was living in the Hybla Valley area of Fairfax with his seventh wife, Sandra Phipps Hicks, when Sandra Hicks discovered he was still married to his sixth wife, Julie Flint Hicks. Ed Hicks was arrested on a charge of bigamy in Fairfax, but that charge was dismissed when it was determined that his sixth marriage also was bigamous and therefore invalid.

Linda Hembree of Shelby, N.C., said she first called her sister to say that Ed Hicks was on television. "She didn't believe it," Hembree said. "I said, 'Well, honey, turn on 'Dr. Phil!' "

Hembree said her sister, Barbara Hembree of Charlotte, had been dating Hicks for eight months after meeting him on the Internet. It was about eight months ago that Sandra Hicks discovered Hicks's history and booted him out.

Linda Hembree said Hicks had proposed to her sister last month, but Barbara Hembree wasn't ready to get married. Barbara Hembree, 54, was too upset yesterday to discuss the situation, Linda Hembree said.

"He was the most smooth-talking man I've ever met in my life," Linda Hembree said. She said Hicks had been shipping boxes to her sister's storage space in Charlotte in recent months and last week began spending much more time in North Carolina.

2005 The Washington Post Company

ED HICKS: Whatever Way You Look At It, This Is Work!

FROM EOPC ARCHIVES, DECEMBER 2005 - shows how much WORK it is for Cyberpaths to juggle targets!

How Does He Keep It All Straight?
Just think about it for a few minutes...some one carrying on such deception and betrayal is exhausting work; it takes a lot of effort, energy, and time to keep up this facade. Spinning elaborate yarns would cause a normal person to feel extreme guilt and remorse. A person possessing a conscience couldn't carry on a life such as this one.

Ed Hicks, how did you keep all the stories straight? From 1965 until the present, court records show there have been seven confirmed wives. Court records also show that four of Ed Hicks' marriages overlap. Additionally, from 2002 - 2004 email sent from a two different Department of Defense .MIL email accounts shows there have been at least four girlfriends in Ed Hicks' life in the past three years (*Lori*, *Lynn*, *Carol*, and Sandra), all the while he was still married to Julie Flint-Hicks and later married Sandra Phipps-Hicks. Wife #7 didn't know about #s 1, 2, 3, 5 & 6. Wife #6 didn't know about #1, 2, 3, 5, & 7. Wife #5 didn't know about #1, 2, 3, and 5. Wife #4 knew about them all...

Read the mini stories below and see which one would rank first for the "First Class Certifiable Low Life" award. Names in asterisks (* *) are pseudonyms to protect the innocent victims.

Using Your Father-in Laws Death to Cheat on Your Girlfriend with Another Girlfriend While You are Still Married To Your Wife

In 2002, Ed was still married to Julie Flint-Hicks, was dating Sandra Goldin, and had at least three other girlfriends, according to email sent from two different Department of Defense .MIL email accounts. In May 2002, Wife #6, Julie's, dear father passed away. Ed and Julie Hicks had been separated for eight months at that time after Julie found a letter on their bed pillow (no face-to-face talk mind you, but a letter; he separates from his wife with a letter). Ed told his girlfriend of one year, Sandra, that he was going to his kids' grandpa's funeral in Utah. Sandra thought that it was Wife #4's father. Sandra learned recently it was Julie's father who passed away and that Ed Hicks did not go to the funeral at all. Instead, he went to the Eastern Shore of Virginia to a bed and breakfast with his girlfriend, *Lori*. He used his wife's father death to lie to his girlfriend while he cheated on she and his wife with another girlfriend. Yes, reading this garbage will leave you with a headache and give you nausea. You are in for a bumpy ride, but keep reading.

Letting Your Girlfriend Welcome Your Children Into Her Family While You Go On a Getaway With Another Girlfriend While You Are Still Married to Your Wife

Another interesting incident occurred in September 2002. Ed, of course was and still is married to Julie Flint-Hicks. During Labor Day weekend of that year Ed told then girlfriend and later to become wife #7 Sandra that he was going to Nags Head windsurfing with a male coworker. Trusting, naive Sandra bought it and told him to have a great time. That was Labor Day weekend and Sandra' parents were coming to Washington to visit for a family get together.

Just prior, Ed had moved his two teenage children in with Sandra for her to care for, including her writing checks for their college tuition and books while Ed still worked in Norfolk. She took this opportunity to take the children to visit her parents, her son, and daughter-in-law for the holiday because she wanted to give the children a semblance of family life since Ed Hicks told her there had never been another woman in his children's lives, other than their mother, which turns out was actually Wife #4. Also Julie Flint-Hicks heard this same story too---she was the only other woman he had allowed in his children's life!

As it turned out, Ed Hicks did not go windsurfing with a male coworker, but instead took girlfriend *Lori* to Nags Head. Two months later, *Lori* got a bit wise to Ed and dumped him. Read Ed's response to *Lori*'s putting his butt to the curb below. Comments are in red. If you can guess the number of times the words "I", "my", and "me" are used in this missive you win the "I Can Find a Narcissist" award!


----- Original Message -----
From: Ed Hicks ('ce_2918@hotmail.com')
(Ed thought he better not send this x-rated one from work)
To: #############@#########.com
Sent: Wednesday, November 20, 2002 11:08 PM
Subject: Well, you have out done yourself .................

*Lori*

Just a note with some info you might be interested in. First, I knew you were out searching for another person. When you found him I was wondering when you would figure he was the one.

I still don't know what makes you tick. I stayed in spite of the facts I knew. Also quite a while ago when we talked about how bitter you were at your marriage I contacted one of your friends and they told me to be careful (Ed never contacted any of *Lori's* friends). I tucked that information away for later reference. There are things I still would like to know and why. Only you can supply those things. Oh by the way, I am not mad (Ed is never angry; see letter to Wife #7). I don't have the temperment to be that way. It sure hurts that you followed through with what you did (*Lori* got wise and put him to the curb, Ed didn't like that).

What I don't understand is how could you continue to make love to me and say you loved me and act that way as well? That part puzzles me. You were a willing participant, still taking me to places you like and seeing friends. That part had and still have me going. Oh, sure I did shed some tears over you (Ed Hicks, you've never cried over anyone but yourself). I think that is what you wanted all along. Well, you had that, now I would like to sit down with you and hear your reasons for the disception (spell check, please Ed)? I am not a violent person and I am probably more even tempered a person as you will ever meet (OH PLEASE STOP WITH THE VERBAL VOMIT, Ed Hicks...you would make a maggot barf). So, no danger there. A place of your choosing. I just want to hear the deep seated reasons. How you could act the loving part and still continue. You must be really bitter? (BTW...*Lori*'s only reply to this email was to tell Ed Hicks go right ahead with the little X-rated movie expose because she wasn't running for public office, and she never saw Ed again....Lucky *Lori*.)



Also, I have had a video of us screwing at Nags Head (Do tell, Ed...Do Tell...Ed never refers to "the act" as making love, it is always screwing, whether that be with wives, girlfriends, whomever, but yet Ed Hicks is In Love With Love). When I thought you were going to follow through with what ultimately happened I thought I would need some way to pay you back (Ed threatens *Lori* with a non-existent video, like *Lori* cared. As she responded to Ed Hicks, "Go right ahead, I'm not running for public office.). Not much to show execpt legs and heads in the hot tub but on the bed I got full face and body shots of us screwing. No mistaken who you are. A black man mounting you (this from Mr-Color-Shouldn't-Matter.... LOL!) and the facial contours of sexual pleasure. I guess you faked that as well. It is mighty convencing (Geez, Ed, learn to spell). The more I thought about it the more I came to my senses and fought the desire to put copies in public places around Norfolk (Ed fought the desire! Here's another rolling on the floor laughing your backside off moment). When I said the camera battery was dead it was not. I left it on the chair running so you would not be concerned about it being there. There are some interesting poses we were in while having sex. Now, if I were you (Not me) I'm not that way. Even though you think you have distroyed ("distroyed", I think Ed Hicks means "destroyed") my life. Well, you have not. You know where my heart was! On you and my kids. You should know by now that I only have a few things that I consider precious to me (the only thing precious to you Ed Hicks, is yourself). Nothing else matters (except Ed Hicks).

With us, I honestly thought I could remove the bitterness you felt towards men and women (Ed, after dating or marrying you, anyone would feel bitter). At times I thought I could live with you for the rest of my life. I did and I still do love you (Remember, Ed is still married to Julie, dating Sandra, dating *Carol*, dating *Lynn* and telling them all that he loves them...AMAZING; He's In Love With Love). Unlike you, I could not fake the feelings for you. (BARF) Some things will not change for a long time. I wonder why you had to lie and say that you loved me when you really were continuing to weave a web (Oh, this one is too much. "Lie, weave a web"! This is coming from the mouth of THE MASTER). I knew about it several months before. Love makes a person think they can over-come obstackles (At least use a spell checker, Ed). Well, I was wrong. I became a source of sex and dinning (Glad you were good for something and I think you mean "dining"). Until you found someone else that could continue that effort. Again, that is okay. Not like I did know know what you were doing. I just fell for you and thought there was some reality in what you displayed to me over the time we were together. Goes to show we all can be wrong at times. Smile. (Here we go with that Smile business again.)

Well, I still would like to sit down and have you tell me what drives you. Why didn't you just say let's just fuck each other and go out? Nothing more and trust that I would have still continued. You knew that I loved you (PUKE). I would have continued and we could have saved each other a lot of misery. Well, to me the misery and you the gratification of being able to try and hurt innocent folks. I would like to hear the reason for that as well. Is it all over ### and what he did to you? You could have been honest with me (Why should *Lori* have been honest with you, Ed Hicks? You were never honest with her) and still enjoyed (If you enjoyed the sex, dinners, etc.) what ever you needed from me. I am a very logical person and would have understood (A logical person does not marry seven women and marry four of them while he is still married to some one else, Ed Hicks, get a grip...that is not LOGICAL). You used me and I guess you thought I was not smart enough to figure it out or to trace your mail traffic as well. (Lori used Ed! Now here is another laugh out loud rolling on the floor moment). Okay the cards are on the table.

Oh one more thing. Why did you involve my kids in all of this. You had a plan that could only end in disaster and you allowed my kids to become attached to you as well (Hmmmmm...Your kids were attached to their stepmother, Julie, that you booted from the house...see letter to wife #6 Julie...they were attached to girlfriends Sandra and *Carol*. How many woman have been paraded in and out of your poor children's lives, Ed Hicks, how many?). I am interested in hearing how they played into your plans. After we talked that night on the porch you made sense about bringing the kids there (Ed decided Sandra's place was better). I almost lost my thoughts and asked them if they would like that. Naturally they would have said yes. They really liked you and having them there would have been a tradgedy (spell check...PLEASE) for them. So thanks for doing this early enough so they would not have to suffer the hurt as well. (Ed Hicks, you know nothing about people suffering hurt... other than INFLICTING it)

Are you so heartless that kids don't matter (Oh please, Ed Hicks, you are a piece of work). What about your kids? They really liked me and I liked them. How do you resolve that even though they would never say anything to you. That has always been a concern of mine as I voiced to you on several occasions. Don't you care enough about yourself to think of them?

I think a dinner and drinks would put this mess to rest. We can go Dutch since now you have someone else to pick up the tab for dinners. (Ed Hicks threatens *Lori* with an expose of an x-rated home made video of the two of them, calls her heartless, bitter, and a liar, tells her she is selfish, tells her she has woven a web, tells her she has no self esteem, tells her she has hurt innocent folks, tells her she involved his children in who knows what, but yet Ed Hicks still wants to have dinner and drinks with her, but he wants to go Dutch....PRICELESS!)

I am heading to Calif. in two weeks and than (once and for all Ed Hicks, learn the difference between "than" and "then") to Aruba for some windsurfing (Ed didn't windsurf in Aruba; he ventured to California to see girlfriend *Carol* while Sandra took care of his kids. Of course he told Sandra it was a business trip to the Naval Postgraduate School). I would like to get this behind me before I leave....... Loving you is one thing but unanswered questions are another (there are quite a few people that you have left without providing any closure to whatsoever Ed Hicks, and you have the audacity to tell *Lori* there are unanswered questions).
Ed

The 9/11 Story: Your Wife and Children are Worried Sick at Home Thinking You are Dead Inside the Pentagon, Meanwhile You Are Sitting at Your Girlfriend's House Probably Using Her Computer to Write to Another Girlfriend, *Lynn* Across the State!

The September 11, 2001 story reeks of disgust, not that all of this is not disgusting, for it truly depicts the playbook of how one person's self-centered, immoral, conscience-free existence has traumatically affected so many other trusting, caring, kind people.

On September 10, 2001, Ed Hicks left his home in Chesapeake and told wife Julie that he had to go to the Pentagon on business and he would be back the next day. Little did she know that Ed was actually visiting girlfriend Sandra who thought Ed Hicks had been divorced for years. Of course we all know what happened on that horrible day. Meanwhile, poor Julie and Ed's children were worried sick about him; Julie thought he might be dead since he told her he had to go to the Pentagon on business that day. Ed Hicks was not at the Pentagon; he was actually working on Sandra's computer probably writing to another girlfriend, *Lynn* who lived across the state. Are there no boundaries anywhere in this man's life?

Using Your Wife's Father's Dying a Horrible Cancer Death to Lie to Your Girlfriend About Not Writing As Often, While Your Poor Other Wife Doesn't Have the Resources to Locate You

In January 2004, Sandra's father lay dying of Stage IV Lung cancer. Email from Ed to *Carol* sent from a Department of Defense .MIL email account shows that Ed Hicks told *Carol* the reason he had not been writing very much lately was because a dear friend of his was dying of cancer. The dear friend was Sandra's father. Again, Ed Hicks uses "one of his" father-in-law's dying to lie to a girlfriend. Meanwhile, Julie has been forced to bankruptcy, lost her car, asks Ed's children as to his whereabouts and is informed that they are not allowed to tell her where they live, their phone number, or anything about their father. Therefore, Julie cannot find Ed to even try to get a divorce, much less get any kind of closure from the man she married in 1997.

WOW--THIS IS WORK! If only Ed Hicks had funneled his intelligence in the right way, the moral way, the ethical way, and the Judeau-Christian way, he could have received that Bachelor of Science degree in Mechanical Engineering from Cal Poly and that Master's in Business Administration from University of Washington that he likes to tell everyone he has.

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