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ONLINE DATING DANGERS

What are the Dangers of Online Dating?

I'm really new to online dating. I'm wondering if you could let me know some of the online dating dangers that are out there. Thanks. ~ Trying to Avoid the Danger

What a great question! In general, online dating is a fun and effective means of meeting people compatible with you. Tens of thousands of people have met, dated, and eventually married as a result of their online dating experience. However, it is still vitally important when using online dating services, that you exercise caution because there are some dangers. Here are a few:

1) The person you are communicating with may be married!

2) Many overseas women run scams against men. They pretend to get to know and like you and once you fall for them they start asking you for money. Thousands of men have been sucked into this scam, wiring money to a girl they never met and never hearing from her again (or hearing from her asking more money). If the person you are communicating with asks you for money, watch out.

3) Some people will email you instantly asking for your email address and as soon as you give it, you are inundated with dating spam while never hearing from that person again.

4) There are a few bad apples in the online dating world. A lady who shared an experience expressed how one guy showed up on her doorstep even though she never gave him her address!

Take precautions in your online dating experience. Here are a few tips:

1) Listen to your gut. If something doesn't seem right about the person you are communicating with then this may be an indication that you should move on. Trust what your instincts are telling you.

2) Never give out personal information too soon. A person armed with your home phone number can find your home address (without you knowing) in just a few clicks. (places like Zabasearch can do it in one or two clicks - just knowing your online nickname? Within 3 clicks you can surf for someone's real name, area of residence - then 1-2-3.... home address & phone number - Fighter)

3) Usually a person trying to take advantage of you is one who communicates first with you. Thus, even if you are a female you should take the initiative to contact people that look of interest to you. (This was true of Ed Hicks, Brad Dorsky, "J", Keith Clive and practically all our cyberpaths. THEY made the first moves!)

4) Set up an anonymous email account. When you're ready to communicate with someone outside of the security of the online dating service you are using, you may want to consider using an anonymous email account from a service like Yahoo, Hotmail, or Go.com. Be sure to change your account information to not give out your full name. Doing this helps protect your privacy more as it's fairly easy to get information on a person based on their actual email address that they've used for years.

5) When going on a first date, make sure you meet in a public place and that your friends know where you are. Consider arranging a time to check in with one of your friends.

6) If you have enough information on the person you are dating, then consider running a background check. I was surprised to learn that a person I once dated had done this on me. It was a smart thing for the person to do. The only reason a person should be upset at you running a background check is if that person has something to hide. (This shouldn't be a consideration as far as EOPC is concerned - its a must. And if the other person asks you NOT to check? RUN LIKE HE** - THEY ARE HIDING SOMETHING! - Fighter)

7) Learn self defense. On rare occasions, a female who has met up with a male via online dating has been assaulted. Know how to defend yourself. There are a ton of good reasons, even outside of online dating, to take a self-defense course.

8) Drive yourself to the date destination. Until you really know a person, it's a good idea to provide your own transportation. There's no reason the person you are dating needs to know where you live in the initial stages.

Keep in mind that a person can say whatever he/she wants in a profile and several tell outright or little white lies in the things they say. Some lie about appearance, some lie about marital status, and some lie about intentions. Always be smart, alert, and listen to your instincts. It's very much a possibility that the person you are destined to be with is just an email away. But never let your guard down when searching for that destiny.

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(While EOPC tends to recommend AGAINST Online Dating or meeting via Social Networking - we realize there are people who will do it anyway and urge extreme caution. - Fighter)

MORE VICTIMS FALL PREY TO ONLINE DATING-RELATED CRIMES UNDERSCORING NEED FOR LEGISLATION

TRUE Continues Nationwide Push to Better Protect Consumers from Engaging With Potentially Dangerous Individuals; Urges Lawmakers and Consumers to Join Important Cause

DALLAS -- Fighting to put an end to the growing list of online tragedies, today TRUE issued a call to action, urging lawmakers and consumers alike to support its nationwide legislation campaign aimed at better protecting online daters from interacting with criminals. This call to action comes on the heels of yet another online dating-related crime, reported late last week in upstate New York. The victim, a 43 year-old woman from Memphis, Tenn., was reportedly murdered by her husband of just one month, who had previously been arrested for harassment in the late 1980s.

Initiated this past July, TRUE's proposed safety legislation requires that all online dating providers prominently disclose on their Web sites whether they perform criminal background searches on their members. Currently, TRUE is the only online relationship service that actively promotes the safety of its users by performing extensive criminal screening on all of its communicating members.

In less than six months, TRUE has secured the support of legislators across the country, including Sen. John Carona and Rep. Will Hartnett of Texas, Representatives William J. Seitz and Scott Oelslager of Ohio, Delegate David Albo of Virginia, Rep. Kevin C. Ambler of Florida, and Representatives Jim Howell and Rick Johnson of Michigan. Furthermore, Michigan became the first state to pass the bill in its House in October, with an overwhelming bipartisan vote of 75 to 14. The Michigan Senate is expected to vote on the bill soon.

"According to Jupiter Research, the number of singles subscribing to Internet dating sites is expected to double over the next two years, which unfortunately means that even more people could fall victim to online predators," said Edgar Rains of Rapsheets, America's largest source of criminal records on the Internet. "While background screening is not entirely foolproof, it does offer an increased level of comfort that does not exist with other online dating sites right now."

In addition to support from lawmakers, organizations including Working to Halt Online Abuse (WHOA) have also joined TRUE’s cause. Founded in 1997 to fight online harassment through the education of the general public as well as law enforcement personnel, WHOA will work in partnership with TRUE to generate even more support by writing letters to legislators, testifying at hearings and urging consumers to support this safer dating effort and make their voices heard at THIS SITE

"We see up to 50 victims of online harassment/stalking each week," Jayne Hitchcock, president of WHOA states. "Some of these have had the unfortunate experience of meeting someone online, whether via an online dating service, chat room or personal ad, and have had a negative experience. So far, these victims (both men and women) have not had their lives taken as a result, or been physically abused, and we were able to stop the online harassment before it escalated to such a point. Putting a disclaimer on a Web site stating whether or not they provide a marital (see comment below) and/or criminal background check is a very simple solution and much easier than requiring every online dating service to do these checks. This then leaves a man or woman the option of joining that service, knowing what they can expect. And it could save their life."

"Since August, our background searches have prevented 218 individuals from communicating on our site. It's impossible to estimate how many victims were saved by this extremely simple procedure," said Herb Vest, founder and CEO of TRUE. "As an industry, I feel it's our obligation to provide members with the most extensive, accurate and trustworthy information available regarding potential suitors so they can make successful and, most importantly, safer relationship decisions."

(Ms. Hitchcock is misguided. Currently there is NO WAY to check if someone is legally married or not!! That is why EOPC is supporting a NATIONAL MARRIAGE DATABASE - and we urge out reader to please CLICK HERE and sign the Petition to Congress)

as always - our thanks to OneOfSeven for her eagle eye in sending this to us! - Fighter

SAFER ONLINE DATING ALLIANCE (S.O.D.A.)

Our Statement of Purpose

The Safer Online Dating Alliance is a grassroots initiative to raise public awareness, garner community support, and implement legislation to better protect those who participate in online dating services by assuring full disclosure of whether or not these dating services conduct criminal background checks on their communicating members.

Currently, many online dating users erroneously assume that since they are a member of an online dating service and often pay a membership fee, some type of protective screening measure is in place to ward against online applicants who are convicted felons or sexual predators.

The harrowing reality is that many online dating companies do very little to protect their consumers in the case where no less is at stake than their heart and ultimately their life.

We believe that consumers must have proper and adequate resources to make an informed decision when purchasing any product. As a consumer of the online dating industry, these individuals must be properly informed as to whether or not criminal background checks are conducted on its users.

Through embracing the positive potential of online dating while raising awareness of the very real dangers of meeting someone online, the Safer Online Dating Alliance seeks to partner with community groups, law enforcement officials, and the general public in implementing legislation which supports a safer online dating environment for its users.

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'My wife left me for a cyber love-rat'

By Matthew Chapman

As internet dating booms, both men and particularly women can leave themselves open to exploitation. Here, the tale of an online Romeo who managed to make six women fall in love with him at once.

Musician David Bagg is still in shock six months after his wife walked out on him for a man she had never set eyes on or even spoken to. "This was like a bolt from the blue," the 41-year-old said.

His wife Judy logged on to a website offering online healing last September. She e-mailed Joe Grice, the man who ran the website, asking for help with her arthritis.

Judy's e-mailing began innocently enough. She communicated regularly with Mr Grice for a few minutes every night with her husband's full knowledge.

Her husband said: "She had some concerns about her health and I thought if that helped her then fine. Quite quickly it became more secretive and she would be up in the computer room for hours in the evening."

Chatrooms have become increasingly popular
It was only from looking at his wife's e-mails after she disappeared that Mr Bagg realised what had been happening.

His wife had been meeting Mr Grice in a chatroom and their conversations sometimes lasted hours.

The messages became more explicit over time and Mr Grice eventually suggested he come over from the US to meet Judy. Events came to a head last December when Judy took off.

Not the only one
Five of Judy's friends had also been in e-mail contact with Mr Grice. Amazingly, all six women, two PhD students among them, had fallen in love with this stranger over the course of two months.

One of them, Cheryl, an attractive postgraduate student aged 27 said: "I just can't explain it now. It became so intense it took over my whole life - and yes, I think I did love him in the end."

It was like love bombardment
Nicola

Her friend and fellow victim Nicola, 26, puts Mr Grice's prowess down to his ability to tell them what they wanted to hear.

She said: "It was like love bombardment. He kept saying how wonderful I was and I fell for it."

Mr Grice encouraged the developing bonds with a simple ruse.

First he instructed all the women not to talk to each other. Then he encouraged each one to tell him secrets about the others. He would then confront the women with these secrets which he said he had gained through his mystical powers.

At one stage the six women - who all lived in Oxford - were online, sometimes simultaneously, as Mr Grice persuaded them to perform sex acts on themselves and urged them to leave their partners. It was only when Judy Bagg disappeared that the other five women came to their senses.

A 'guru' unmasked
Mr Grice is now living in Oxford. The BBC's 5 Live Report has established he is a 49-year-old ex-US Air Force Gulf War veteran who, at the time of his online seductions, was living in a tent in a friend's garden.

There is a tendency to give away a lot about yourself
Jenny Madden

He has left behind two children and an angry ex-wife who says she has spent several years trying to track him down to recoup a large number of child support payments.

Mr Grice has gone onto newsgroups to claim he is running clinical trials on ME in conjunction with Oxford Brooks University. Yet the university authorities have never heard of him. Neither Mr Grice or Mrs Bagg have commented on the affair.

Click here for love
Experts say the story serves as a cautionary tale of the potential power of the internet - and chat rooms in particular - to warp human relationships.

An online community may feel safer than real life
The boom in internet dating is one area where the vulnerable can be manipulated.

Match.com, one of the largest dating websites, had 1.6 million people posting advertisements in 2001 and the figure is expected to double this year.

While the majority of dates may be successful, it still leaves a lot of lonely-hearts open to being exploited, particularly women, says Jenny Madden, the founder of Women in Cyberspace.

"Women find cyberspace comforting because they are not being judged by their looks," she says. "But they also leave themselves very open to manipulation because there is a tendency, in chat rooms particularly, to give away a lot about yourself very quickly."

David Bagg is hopeful he can someday be reunited with his wife. "I still love her, despite what the Internet did to our relationship," he said.

ORIGINAL ARTICLE HERE

Tangled in the Web: Understanding Cybersex from Fantasy to Addiction

Tangled in the Web offers a critical look at cybersex fantasy and its potential for addiction and provides a comprehensive plan for recovery to help individuals hooked on adult chat rooms, online pornography, web cam sex, or a cyberaffair.

http://www.amazon.com

Truth, Lies, and Online Dating: Secrets to Finding Romance on the Internet

by Terry Ulick, Alyssa Wodtke

Online dating represents an amazing new way to meet people, but it requires technology skills in addition to social skills. "Truth, Lies, and Online Dating" shows you how you can effectively use your PC, digital camera, word processor and other PC-based tools to effectively market yourself and communicate who you are -- and who you are looking for. It teaches the mechanics of online dating services and shows you how to put each service's search engines to work to find the best dates. Learn how you can try services first without having to subscribe, and how to find dating sources that match your lifestyle. Finally, you'll explores the darker side of online dating, learning how to spot people who may not be telling the truth about themselves and even using background check services to verify the identity of the person you are interested in.

THIS ONLINE SNAKE ISN'T GETTING THE RING BACK

BY HELEN PETERSON -- DAILY NEWS STAFF WRITER

This snake isn't getting his diamond back.

A jilted fiance can't retrieve the $40,000, 3.4-carat ring he gave to his intended because he was already married when he proposed, a judge has ruled.

Brian Callahan, of Manhattan, who works in the financial industry, met his erstwhile bride, Dana Clyburn Parker, on Match.com in 2001, and she eventually moved to New York to be with him. He proposed to her in July 2002 and gave her the ring, according to court papers.

But Parker dumped Callahan in June 2003 after finding e-mails on his computer indicating he was still pursuing online relationships with other women, the court documents show.

Callahan's lawyer, Daniel Clement, denied his client was cheating on Parker.

He also said he believes that Callahan was legally free to propose and should get back the ring because Parker broke off the engagement. Typically, courts have ruled that if the bride breaks off the engagement, the groom should get the ring back.

Clement said Callahan was essentially granted a divorce in Massachusetts in June 2002, but in accordance with that state's laws, it was not entered into the public record until September 2002.

But in a decision made public yesterday, Manhattan Supreme Court Justice Rolando Acosta said New York law is clear that Callahan was legally off base when he asked Parker to marry him because he was not officially divorced.

"We're very pleased with the court's decision," said Parker's lawyer, Kevin Conway. "You are not permitted to enter into a contract to become married while you are still legally married."

Clement said he has not decided whether to appeal the decision.

Neither Parker, a former schoolteacher who is now caring for her sickly mother, nor Callahan could be reached for comment.

ORIGINAL ARTICLE HERE

Are negative personal ads refreshingly frank or just angry?

Open Hostility
By Amy Sohn

Any Internet dater is familiar with the personal-ad format: You toot your own horn to the point of ridiculousness and then, just so the reader doesn’t think you’re completely egotistical, throw in a mildly self-deprecating comment for good measure. If the ads are to be believed, everyone who dates online is intelligent, fit, caring, sensitive, and, of course, unmarried. But the truth is, anyone posting a personal ad is acknowledging their own singlehood, so when we read those self-aggrandizing adjectives, we know they mask someone more vulnerable than the ad might have us believe.

Aware of this, some posters choose to undersell, mocking themselves and potential respondents at the same time. They see their dark worldview as something to be proud of, not to hide, and post ads like “In search of bird with broken wing,” “Total jerk seeks total bitch,” or “Damaged Goods.” The philosophy is that honest, if negative, ads will reach the right people. And if these ads attract more psychos than the positive ones, at least the psychos make for more interesting dates, these posters say.

My friend Tim, 43, a storeowner who looks like John Lurie, calls himself the “king of negative personal ads.” He’s posted negative ads for three of the four years he’s been Internet dating, with headlines like “Seeking pre-operative Jewish girl,” and “Ex-girlfriend look-alike contest,” and says he feels he’s found the G-spot. “I finally reached the demographic I was seeking,” he says. “I realized I was less interested in trying to impress them with a well-selected restaurant than in finding the right wavelength.” That wavelength, he says, is “a kindred spirit I can have sex with, a chick who likes Bukowski.”

When he posted an ad on Craigslist recently that said “I hate you already,” he got dates with two women. One was on crutches and the other had just had knee surgery. I told him that with an ad like that, he’d gotten what he asked for. “I’m not trying to woo innocence,” he says. “I’m not looking for someone to take home to Mama.” Then why not place an overt casual-sex ad? “Because I don’t want to have sex with someone I’m not interested in. I want to watch a Fassbinder film with a woman, pause, have sex, and then watch the third act with her.”

But a negative ad, no matter how clever, isn’t just a way of telling people who you are. It’s also a way to draw extra responses, like those flyers that scream, “Don’t read this!” When I first ventured into Internet dating, my confidence was so low that I chose as my headline “I’m still here,” from the Sondheim song. Unfortunately, instead of drawing Jewish guys, I got closeted gay musical-theater fans.

Tim’s posting worked better. He says he had sex with the knee-injured woman, a dark, edgy 19-year-old named Jeannette, on their first date. He met the woman on crutches, too, and though he wasn’t interested in sleeping with her, she liked him. “She had been on eHarmony for two years and met 100 people and said she liked me better than any of them,” he says.

My friend Kate, a financial reporter in her early thirties, has posted several negative ads, like “Help - you’re smothering me!” Though she hasn’t met any boyfriends that way, she’s been enjoying the dates more.

“Ads like that help weed out people who aren’t my type,” she says. “I saw an ad recently that said, ‘Seeking someone who likes to smile.’ That doesn’t tell me anything, so why would I meet that guy?”

By the same token, she prefers to answer ads that are negative, because she thinks it will yield more connections. She went on a few good dates with a guy who had posted “Let’s meet and then get off this thing forever” and was glad she met him, even though it didn’t turn into a romance.

When I point out that it has now become cliché to complain about Internet dating on an Internet ad, Kate insists it’s a cliché that appeals to her. “Someone who complains about it is much more fun to hang out with than someone really gung-ho. My way, even if we don’t connect, we can complain about our bad JDate ads.”

Still, there’s a fine line between negative cute and negative sexist. Browse through any personals site and you’ll find men railing against their past dates in ads they hope will woo other women. Their money would be better spent getting some therapy than a gold membership on FriendFinder. “There are a lot of guys,” says Kate, “who go on and on about how they don’t want to meet superficial women who only care about money, and then at the end they say, ‘And by the way, don’t be fat.’”

Safer Dating on the Internet???

"State legislatures introduce bills requiring
online dating sites to do background checks"

Reno: The newest buzz phrase in online dating centers around “Background checks”… But there are many questions surrounding the issue: Who does the background checks? What do they cover? Who is liable? What is included? With so many deficiencies surrounding the issue, it seems impossible to know what the best solution is.

This is what prompted the creation of an internet verified identity service, PersonaCheck.com. “If you can prove who you are through a 3rd party who verifies your identity and background –it makes others more confident in your honesty and sincerity when chatting or answering personal ads” states President, Jeff Arndt. PersonaCheck.com. PersonaCheck.com is not a background check company, but it is one component of an overall verified identity profile. “The difference,” says Arndt “is that every other background service online is promoting their use for an individual to do as a check on someone else on a one-time basis.”

So the consumer has to try to get the other parties pertinent private data to do the check and verify whom they are dealing with. This can lead to identity theft. With PersonaCheck, an individual is in control of his or her own data. By members having a check done on themselves, they can prove who they are to others and don’t have to give out any information that they don’t wish to.

Plus it can be used on any dating/personals site, chat rooms and anywhere the member has the need. There are options for a variety of membership terms, with each providing for unlimited use. This provides credibility when meeting others through personals/dating sites, chat rooms and instant messaging. Since deception is so much part of the “game” with online interaction, PersonaCheck provides honest individuals an advantage in finding others who are equally as sincere.

It also provides a solution to many of the disadvantages of having each individual dating site be required to do background checks on their members.

PersonaCheck.com does not maintain or store any of the member’s private data (SSN, DOB, etc.). Once the member’s profile is verified and completed, all information is destroyed to prevent any chance of ID theft or release. Members can then send out their private PersonaCheck to individuals they choose- but without revealing any private data. The invitee can view only what information the PersonaCheck member chooses to share.

ORIGINAL ARTICLE HERE

(Think it will work? - Fighter)

Man Exposed On DontDateHimGirl.com Fights Back

Man Exposed On DontDateHimGirl.com Fights Back
Hollis Served Suits Against 3 Women

PITTSBURGH -- A marked man dissed on the Web site DontDateHimGirl.com is fighting back with lawsuits.

Todd Hollis, a Pittsburgh attorney, served the suits on Thursday afternoon.

Hollis is using his legal muscle and know-how to battle what he calls derogatory postings on the Web site.

Pittsburgh attorney Robert Byer received the complaint Thursday on behalf of his client, Tasha Joseph, founder of the DontDateHimGirl site.

It accused her of publishing false and defamatory statements about Hollis on her Web site.

According to Byer, while Hollis may not like the postings written about him, it doesn't mean he has a legal leg to stand on.

Byer said that under federal law, Joseph is not liable for the posting of others on her Web site.

Hollis told Channel 11 earlier this month that the postings are ruining his reputation.

Now, along with Joseph, he's naming two other women in his complaint, women he accused of anonymously posting derogatory comments about him.

One of the comments included in the complaint, now listed as exhibit A, indicates that Hollis might have herpes.

Todd confronted one woman who has now posted an apology. She now said the earlier posting was a joke and that the information in it was untrue.

ORIGINAL ARTICLE HERE

(EOPC feels if these men spent as much time & money on the relationships, marriages, families and making PROPER and LONG-TERM AMENDS to the broken relationships, they wouldn't have to worry about suing anyone. If you can take the exposure, don't do the other person wrong! Note that the posting about Mr. Hollis has NOT been removed. People are not things to be toyed with for someone else's fun or to kill time. Our website has the same standards and abides by the same laws. - FIGHTER)

Professor Loses 540,000 Yuan In Online Dating Scam

Professor Loses 540,000 Yuan In Online Dating Scam

Posted by: Shang Koo

A 58 year old Chinese college professor was cheated of 540,000 Yuan by his online girlfriend, reports Nanfang City News.

The professor registered on a famous dating website in autumn 2005 to find a wife. There, he met a girl who claims to be recovering from drug abuse. The girl even sent him several pictures of movie star Zhang Ziyi and claimed them as her own from when she was in her twenties.

The professor sent the girl 540,000 Yuan to help her recover from drug abuse.

ORIGINAL ARTICLE HERE

"toomuchfun" (DARREN MACK) Apprehended!

Mack turns himself in, booked into Washoe jail
MARTHA BELLISLE - RENO GAZETTE-JOURNAL
original article here

Ending an 11-day international manhunt, Darren Mack turned himself in to authorities and arrived in Reno late Friday to face charges in the stabbing death of his estranged wife and the shooting of the family court judge deciding their divorce.

Bearded and wearing a short-sleeved shirt and jeans, he arrived for booking at the Washoe County Jail at about 11:50 p.m. Friday.

Mack, a 45-year-old wealthy Reno businessman, surrendered at about 10:30 p.m. Thursday to FBI agents and Mexican police officers at the Marriott Hotel in the Pacific Coast tourist town of Puerto Vallarta, Mexico.

He was flown Friday morning to the Dallas-Fort Worth International Airport, and later booked in the Dallas County Jail. Mack waived extradition to Nevada and was flown to Reno aboard a state of Nevada jet provided by Gov. Kenny Guinn.

Mack arrived in an armored SWAT van escorted by two Reno Police cruisers. Before he stepped out of the van, five officers armed with assault rifles secured the area. And then, about a dozen sheriff's deputies and several detectives escorted him inside the jail.

After being booked, he was scheduled to meet with his lawyers, who were waiting for him.

He was expected to make his first Reno court appearance on Monday.

Charla Mack was found stabbed to death on the floor of Mack's garage on June 12. Several hours after she was believed to be killed, Washoe District Family Court Judge Chuck Weller was shot by a sniper. The shooter fired from the roof of a nearby parking garage into Weller's third-floor office window, hitting the judge in the chest.

Darren Mack has been charged in Charla's death and will face attempted-murder charges connected to the shooting of Weller once in Reno, officials said Friday.

His arrest was welcome news to the families of Charla Mack and Weller.

"We are greatly relieved that Darren Mack has been apprehended without additional senseless bloodshed," said Charla's brother, Christopher Broughton. "And we look forward to justice being served."

Weller said in a statement that "he was overjoyed that he and his family will be able to resume their lives."

Mack first contacted Washoe County District Attorney Richard Gammick on Monday, and began negotiations for his return to Nevada. After days of talks, Mack agreed to surrender early Thursday at the U.S. Consulate in Puerto Vallarta and then failed to show up.

He talked with his attorneys Thursday, and then arranged to meet authorities at the resort that evening to surrender.

Reno Police Chief Mike Poehlman said Mack may have wanted to give up, but he also may have feared being caught.

"We believe, based on what we know, that he was aware that things were tightening around him with the checkpoints that the Mexican authorities were running," Poehlman said. "They were aggressively checking public transportation. And that led him to contact his attorneys."

But Mack's attorney in Reno, Scott Freemen, said the arrest took an extra day because of concerns about Mack facing the death penalty once he returned.

"It was always his desire to surrender," Freeman said. "It was always his lawyers' advice that he surrender. However, we wanted to explore the options with Mexico, and that created the delay."

Under Mexico's extradition policy, no one will be extradited to any country without assurances that the person will not face the death penalty. Freeman said he discussed that policy with Mack while he considered his surrender.

"Even though that option remained for Mr. Mack, he chose to voluntarily surrender, and all parties cooperated together to accomplish that desire," Freeman said.

Freeman said Darren's mother, Joan Mack, and brother, Landon, were relieved by the outcome.

"The most important thing is that their son and brother is alive," Freeman said. "They're grateful this ended peacefully."

He said a major factor in Darren's decision to surrender "was his concerns for his family and his children." Freeman is representing Mack with Las Vegas lawyer David Chesnoff.

Darren and Charla Mack were married in 1995, and had one daughter who is now 8. But Charla filed for divorce last year, and their case went before Weller.

Early in the divorce proceedings, Weller ordered the couple to share custody and granted physical custody to Charla. He also ordered Darren Mack to pay $849 each month for child support and $10,000 per month in alimony.

According to financial records Mack provided to Wells Fargo Bank last year to secure a $500,000 line of credit, Darren and Charla together were worth more than $12 million and he alone was worth $10.67 million. Darren's monthly income was about $44,000, court records show.

The Mack family started the downtown Palace Jewelry & Loan Co. about 48 years ago. Darren Mack and his mother were equal co-owners until last year, when he transferred 1 percent interest. Joan Mack has been the sole manager of the business since last year, the company said last week in a statement.

Darren Mack became a vocal opponent of Weller's, and friends and family have said that Mack thought the judge was corrupt. Another friend told police after the murder and shooting that Mack "was at the end of his rope" and was "extremely frustrated and angry with both his estranged wife and Judge Weller," according to the search warrant affidavit.

District Attorney Gammick, who said he has known Mack for 20 years, said he was aware Mack was struggling with the divorce, but thought he had it under control.

As the prosecuting attorney for the county, Gammick will be part of the team that decides whether Mack will face execution.

"I owe my allegiance to the people of this county, and this case will be handled just like any other murder case would be handled," Gammick said. If there is a challenge to his office over a possible conflict of interest, Gammick said "our office will address that."

"We work really hard to try to avoid as many of these legal issues as we can," he said. "But the attorneys on the other side are aggressive, and I'm sure we're going to see challenges on just about every single thing that can be challenged."

Our thanks to OneofSeven for sending this to us!!

PENN. WOMAN SLAIN BY BOYFRIEND SHE MET ONLINE

By David M. Brown -- TRIBUNE-REVIEW
ORIGINAL ARTICLE HERE

Lori Hann's grief-stricken family and friends gathered Saturday to start trying to say goodbye.

It won't be easy, said brother Larry Swatchick, 40, of North Fayette.

"My sister was a very trusting, loving person. She took care of all of us. Birthday cards. Spoiled her nephews. They were her life," he said, after a funeral service yesterday morning for Hann.

Hann, 41, of Forest Hills, was killed by a single gunshot to the face fired by her boyfriend, police say.

Hardy C. Lloyd, 26, confessed early Friday to fatally shooting her outside a Squirrel Hill home late Tuesday, according to an affidavit of probable cause filed to support his arrest. The Squirrel Hill man has been linked to a hate group that preached white supremacy and violence. Police say the shooting was not a hate crime, but erupted out of a fight over another woman.

"Why did she die in a cruel and inhuman act?" Swatchick said. "She never smoked. Never took drugs. Just a good person. It doesn't make sense to us."

Another brother, Lon Swatchick, 34, of Monroeville, said Hann "had absolutely nothing to do with any" of the hate mongering activities being associated with Lloyd. She was a deeply religious person who was "nonjudgemental to others," he said.

"We don't understand how somebody so evil could point a gun at someone and pull the trigger. This man obviously has no remorse for anything," he said.

Lloyd is jailed without bond on a homicide charge and faces a hearing Friday in the Allegheny County Coroner's office.

Lloyd's parents, Dr. Jon Lloyd and his wife, Jacqueline, didn't return phone calls seeking comment. Nobody answered when a reporter knocked on the door of their Shadyside home yesterday afternoon. His lawyer, Wayne DeLuca, couldn't be reached for comment.

Hardy Lloyd recently lost his job of six months at the Giant Eagle supermarket on Murray Avenue, near his apartment. Employees there said he was fired for stealing fruit.

Friends of Hann, a clerical worker for a Monroeville health care company who divorced her husband of 17 years last year, said she met Lloyd through an Internet dating service.

Police said they knew from Internet sites and from leaflets Lloyd distributed in the East End that he preached violence against nonwhites, Jews and law enforcement. Investigators said Hann knew of his activities, too.

More than 70 mourners attended Hann's funeral at St. John Fisher Church in Churchill. She will be buried next to her mother, Shirley Swatchick, who died of cancer in April 2003, Larry Swatchick said.

"I can't say enough about the outpouring of love and support from the friends and colleagues of my sister," he said.

He saw his sister a few weeks ago and at that time "she never appeared distraught or in trouble." Since her mother's death, Hann had taken a central role in looking after her father, Lawrence Swatchick, of Penn Hills, a retired mine safety worker. She called him and brought him meals frequently, the brothers said.

Hann also is survived by a third brother, Leonard Swatchick, of Penn Hills, and four nephews. An animal lover, she had a dog named Miranda and a cat called Crystal. The animals are being cared for, her family said.

"My sister was too much of an angel to have her life ended this way," Lon Swatchick said. "Words can't express the pain we feel."

David M. Brown can be reached at dbrown@tribweb.com or (412) 380-5614.

True.com sues convicted sex offender

by Dave Evans

It was only a matter of time. True.com made it's name as a website dedicated to safer dating. Now, it's fighting to keep a convicted sex offender off it's site.

True reportedly took quick action, reporting the offender to the authorities and filing a suite against him. The get around to mentioning that the offenders profile was removed from the site 3/4 through the press release, and this was reported via Brooke Benson, who reportedly has seen the lecherous creature on several other websites.

True being True, takes a swipe at Eharmony by fabricating a quote from Ms. Benson stating she felt that eHarmony was not "aggressive enough" when it came to dealing with a sex offender on eHarmony.com.

This is the one they caught, who knows how many others are on True.com or any other website. I would guess thousands.

Vest wants to "See convicted felony records opened to the public in all jurisdictions to better protect our consumers and our children." I hope he means for sexual predators and not run of the mill B&E or lesser crimes.

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(Thanks to OneOfSeven for this find! - Fighter)

Catching Online Child Predators

A MUST READ STORY!!

While this blog deals with predators who prey on other adults, NBC's Dateline did a story on 11/3/05 called "To Catch A Predator" about our friends at Perverted-Justice and the fight against Online Predators who prey on children.

These men, like Adult Predators, look like normal, upstanding guys. Teachers, Counselors and CLERGY!!

Rather than reposting the whole story, if you click HERE you can read for yourself.

SICKENING, ABSOLUTELY STOMACH CHURNING!

One of the things that sticks out about this story? Is the EXCUSES these Child Predators make? ARE VIRTUALLY THE SAME EXCUSES GIVEN BY ADULT PREDATORS:

"I've never done this before." or "This is the first time I have ever done something like this" (meaning its something about YOU and your online relationship driving this cyberpath? NOT!)

"I just wanted to talk" or "I just wanted a friend" (LOL!!)

Lying about their age, looks (sheesh!)

"I would never do something like that" or "I am not playing you" (while they are playing you like a fiddle)

"I am sorry" (and after this, instead of talking to you about what happened? they RUN LIKE HELL and leave you broken hearted...)

or they accuse the target of harrassing or stalking them!

And our SITE FAVORITE: "I know its wrong, I am getting help" or "I am seeing a psychiatrist for it" (the ploy for sympathy is really sickening. These guys should share the name & number of their 'shrinks' with their target so that the target can at least CHECK UP on see if they are REALLY getting help. Chances are they are just biding their time and perfecting their game to TO IT AGAIN!!)

READ THIS STORY AND PASS ON TO EVERYONE YOU KNOW!

Gays help expose online predators

(Gay men & women are just as vulnerable to Online Predators & Cyberpaths as straight people are. And Perverted-Justice should be thanked. Fighter stops typing for a minute and gives this a BIG THUMBS UP!!)

By LOU CHIBBARO JR

Gays involved with a group that conducts controversial online sting operations against adult men who solicit sex from underage teenagers of both sexes are calling on the gay community to take a more visible stand against the sexual exploitation of children and teens.

Perverted Justice, the group some have criticized as vigilante, participated in a Nov. 4, 2005 nationwide broadcast of the weekly program “Dateline NBC,” which used hidden cameras to show men arriving at a house in Fairfax County, Va., for that they believed were meetings with underage teens of both sexes for sexual encounters.

Instead, much to their shock and horror, they were greeted by “Dateline NBC” reporter Chris Hansen, who informed them that the “teens” between the ages of 12 and 15 with whom they thought they were about to have a sexual tryst were actually adults members of a group called Perverted Justice.

Members of this nationwide Internet group say they train for and carefully carry out online sting operations to expose men seeking out underage teens for sexual encounters. The group’s leaders said they avoid illegal entrapment by waiting for the adult men to initiate a sexual assignation. Perverted Justice refers successful stings to local law enforcement authorities, who often prosecute the men involved.

In a development not mentioned in the “Dateline NBC” program, two gay men and a lesbian are among the group’s 32 volunteer members and teen “impersonators.”

“I have been with Perverted Justice two and a half years, and I can say that I’m treated with respect and welcomed with open arms,” said gay Michigan resident Greg Brainer.

Xavier Von Erck, one of the group’s leaders, said Perverted Justice has no connection to religious right groups and considers itself non-sectarian. Von Erck, who is not gay, said the organization supports equal rights for all people, including gays, and welcomes all who supports its mission.

“We don’t consider men who solicit underage males to be part of the gay community,” Von Erck said. “If you go for a 13-year-old or a 12-year-old, it’s all the same,” he said.

Brainer called such predatory behavior “outrageous” and “just plain wrong,” and said he is hopeful that more gay men and lesbians will begin to speak out more openly against such behavior.

He said Perverted Justice members don’t link adults who solicit sex with underage teens with the gay community, and the gay community should “get over” its fears about being tarnished by the issue of pedophilia.

Efforts lead to 38 convictions
Von Erck said the group turns over to police and prosecutors transcripts of e-mail exchanges, along with online instant message conversations, between its volunteer members who pose as teens and adult “predators.”

As of Nov. 12, 2005 , the group had submitted information used to obtain 38 convictions since it began its online sting operations more than two years ago. It says 52 current cases are pending across the country, with many of the adults ensnared by the group awaiting trial.

Jack Drescher, a psychiatrist in private practice and president of the Association of Gay & Lesbian Psychiatrists, called the actions exposed by Perverted Justice as “predatory behavior” that occurs in men who are sexually attracted to teenagers of either sex, or both sexes.

“This has nothing to do with being gay any more than men who try to lure girls for sex has do to with heterosexuality,” Drescher said. “This is not typical behavior for homosexuals or heterosexuals.”

But Drescher said he was skeptical about whether gay groups or gay leaders should feel obligated to speak out on the subject.

“I personally deplore this type of behavior,” he said. “But which members of the community should speak out on this? It’s like saying, ‘Are you gay people moral enough to speak out against this immoral behavior?’”

Drescher noted that gays have historically been subjected to condemnation for sexual behavior between consenting adults. He said the condemnation is often politically motivated.

“So it’s not the way the gay community automatically thinks - to issue a response on this type of development,” he said.

Von Erck said about 75 percent of the adult men his group monitors on the Internet seek out female teenagers, with the remaining 25 percent soliciting sex from teen-age boys.

“The men who seek out boys are often married” to women, he said.

Brainer, 38, lesbian volunteer Del Harvey, 23, of California; and a 25-year-old gay male volunteer named Don, who declined to disclose his last name, each participated in the Fairfax sting operation recorded by Dateline NBC.

In what appears as a well-honed operation, the three gay volunteers and others who posed as teenagers created online profiles for chat rooms set up mostly for teenagers. In most cases, the chat rooms are on America Online and Yahoo, Brainer said.

In most cases, the adult “impersonators” obtain old photos of teenagers who are currently adults and who agree to contribute their photos for the cause, Brainer said. Once the adult impersonators enter a chat room, they remain passive and “wait” to see if anyone establishes contact with them.

In the case of the Fairfax operation, about 18 adult males made contact with the “teens” over a period of several days. Once the adults solicited the “teens” for sex, the impersonators expressed varying degrees of interest. Eventually, they told the adult suitors their parents were away from home and invited the adults to visit them.

In each case, according to NBC’s Hansen, the adult suitors specifically acknowledged the age of the “teen” they were pursuing, noting that they read the age in the “teen’s” online profile.

Rabbi caught in sting
Among those ensnared the Fairfax sting was 55-year-old Rabbi David Kaye, who worked for a national youth group in Rockville, Md. Kaye, believing he was exchanging messages with a 13-year-old male, sent the “teen” a nude photo of himself, Hansen reported.

He also offered to perform oral sex on the youth. The adult who impersonated the teen accepted Kaye’s offer, according to transcripts of instant messages between Kaye and the fictitious minor.

The “teen” then invited Kaye to his house, saying his mother was deceased and his father was away on a trip. When Kaye arrived, he was greeted by Hansen, who began pressing him with questions about why he came to the house to have sex with a 13-year-old.

Several hidden television cameras recorded the encounter between Kaye and Hansen. “Dateline NBC” reported that even before the episode aired, Kaye resigned from his job at the Institute for Jewish Leaders & Values. He also reported finding online a photo of Kaye with two other rabbis later convicted of sexual misconduct.

Rabbi Robert Saks of the D.C. gay synagogue Beit Mishpachah said he is not aware of Kaye having attended any Beit Mishpachah events or services.

Fairfax police spokesperson Rich Perez said police are investigating the information Perverted Justice provided them in connection with the Fairfax sting operation.

Man Accused Of Raping Woman He Met On MySpace

MOUNT LAKE TERRACE, Wash. -- Mount Lake Terrace Police arrested a man who allegedly raped a woman he met on MySpace.com.

The victim told police she met the man on MySpace.com and only wanted to meet him and not have a sexual relationship with him, but when she invited him to her home he became very aggressive and threatened that if she didn’t do what he said, he would harm her and her daughter.

During an interview with detectives, the suspect admitted to having sex with the victim but claimed it was consensual.

Police said his statement was inconsistent and retrieved conversations he had on MySpace.com.

"The topics are rather varied but oftentimes lead to or end up being about sexual desires and those sorts of things," Detective Sgt. Mark Conner with the Mount Lake Terrace police told KIRO 7 Eyewitness News.

Police told KIRO 7 Eyewitness News that the man was also a suspect in a sheriff’s office case in December that was closed due to insufficient evidence.

Police believe the suspect has struck before. "We know that his communication has been with more than just our victim and the sheriff's office victim, to what extent and what the end result with that is, we are not sure," said Detective Sgt. Mark Conner.

The suspect's bail has been set at $100,000.

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Charlie Sheen Snaps Back At Online Dating Partner

by Toshiba Reynolds

Representatives for Charlie Sheen have reportedly lashed out over claims made by a woman who says she dated the actor after meeting him on an online dating web site, according to published reports.

The up and coming un-named 20-something actress claims that she dated the "Two and a Half Men" star, who recently separated from his wife Denise Richards, for a month after meeting him through MillionaireMatch.com.

If you recall, Jack Ryan reported back on April 19th that Sheen was utilizing MillionaireMatch.com

"He met a woman on the site, and they're going on a date this week," an insider tells the mag. "They exchanged e-mails, and then he called her. She's excited. She says they have a lot in common."

tPC fave Jeannette Walls of the Scoop tried to do some digging: 'Reps for the site didn't respond to a request for comment, and Sheen's spokesman told The Scoop "I never discuss my client's personal life in a public forum." A source, meanwhile, says that the gal is "much younger" than the 40-year-old Sheen.'

The woman in question dishes to Life & Style magazine, "He's about as sick as they come. He posed as a talent scout (and left a message) that was like, 'Hi, this is Mr. Jonze, I'm interested in seeing more pictures of you' ... When I called him back, after a few minutes of talking, he told me who he was. We dated for a month. He's such a [bleep] perv. He would ask me to dress up, like, in pigtails and schoolgirl outfits ... I don't think he's like a paedophile, but he's definitely into young girls. You know like 18, 19. I don't doubt that everything his wife is saying now is true."

Charlie Sheen's representative, Stan Rosenfield, told the New York Post's Page Six, "Bull[bleep]! It's not true. It's not true."

The young woman says that she dated Sheen from early to mid-April, until only a few days ago when she attempted to contact the actor by telephone.

She continues, "Then one day, out of the blue, I can't reach him. I call and it's dead air. He didn't even have the decency to break up with me .... Basically, he used me."

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