BY CATHERINE WALKER
OVER the past few weeks we have learned that 80 per cent of victims of cyber-stalking are women, and many have been the victims of ex-lovers, but although it seems relationships have a lot to do with online stalking it is not always men who are the stalkers. This week, we talk to a woman who was stabbed in the back by the person who she least expected.
Jane Burns (name has been changed to protect identity) was a normal young woman. In 2005, most of her friends at university were studying abroad, which brought her and another classmate a lot closer together than before. They spent hours together and told each other everything. Jane’s new best friend spent a lot of time on the internet, trying to meet men in forums. Jane worried her friend because she would often go to meet them after just a few weeks, thinking she had found her ideal man, and then resulting in disappointment, but little did Jane know it was herself she should worry about. Jane was in a long-distance relationship with a man abroad, but thanks to the internet they kept in touch every day.
One day, after she returned from a holiday at her boyfriend’s home, she went online and found an e-mail, apparently from him, which was directed to another woman, telling her he loved and missed her. Jane, with tears in her eyes, contacted her boyfriend to ask for an explanation. He, of course, knew nothing, but she felt deceived and hurt and told him she wanted to split up. Luckily, he insisted she checked whether the e-mail had really come from his address – it hadn’t. The address that had been used was the same, apart from a dash, which in the heat of the moment, she hadn’t noticed. On closer examination, the language was a little different, although the nickname used for her was right.
The only person who had this information was Jane’s friend, who also happened to have asked to read some of their e-mails just two weeks earlier. Why did she do this? Jane says she can’t imagine. But when she told her friend about the ordeal, without accusing her, she immediately went offline and the two have not spoken since.
You never know who is trying to hurt you on the internet, so be careful.
Trust turning to betrayal.
I agree 100%
ReplyDeleteI have one social networking profile on the internet for real life friends and family which I have locked down tight
Meeting people off the internet, and dating people on the net is a big no no in my book. The place is full of cyberpaths just waiting to pounce. It's a massive fantasy playground.
I prefer reality, what I can see, touch , feel and scrutinize.
The article is correct ,you never know who is trying to hurt you or manipulate you via the internet. It's best to go outside and meet real genuine folk.
Tempting sometimes when I'm lonely but I know there might be huge consequences and that's one risk I am not willing to take.
Be safe out there!