tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17248371.post3567848572199633191..comments2024-03-20T08:11:50.879+02:00Comments on Exposing Online Predators & Cyberpaths: Involved With a Sociopath (or Cyberpath)?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17248371.post-57751452602088634922010-08-19T15:31:22.549+03:002010-08-19T15:31:22.549+03:00Yep, thank you very much for posting such an amazi...Yep, thank you very much for posting such an amazingly accurate portrait of my ex. After giving him 10+ "last" chances I gave up and I ran fast and ordered him to never contact me again. It's been three months now :DKarinhttp://qow1.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17248371.post-56034699865162183892009-10-23T14:44:19.969+03:002009-10-23T14:44:19.969+03:00Yep, that's the guy again. Substitute the term...Yep, that's the guy again. Substitute the terms for dating relationships with someone you just happen to know a bit better than you'd care to, and that's my sociopath. I won't name him for obvious reasons or even say where we're from. I'm not ready to publicly expose the monster and am not even sure if it's my place to do so. This is a small town. I fear retaliation for even thinking about this. Our paths crossed again early this week, by chance and unplanned. I stupidly agreed to give the guy a ride somewhere and ended up being tricked into doing something that I had no time, interest or business doing. He had volunteered my time to a group that I have no ties to, tricked me into transporting him there and then announced that I was expected and we were holding everybody up.<br /><br />When I expressed my displeasure on having been deceived I was threatened: "Loyalty will be rewarded, but disloyalty will be punished" were the exact words. Nothing specific, nothing defined, no "I'm going to break your face if you say no again", just a vague statement that as little as a few months ago I would have taken as a sort of statement about pulling together for a common cause. This blog has taught me well. <br /><br />He threatened me, and now that I recognize it for what it is, he's threatened me on a number of times over the years. He's never carried through on these threats because he's a coward, and because he has nobody in his life with which he has genuine human interaction with. With everybody else he plays the fraud of a happy go lucky eccentric. Apparently I and a few others don't get the snow job. We get the real McCoy with his racism, bigotry, homophobia, misogyny, chauvinism, consuming jealousy, pettiness, resentment, temper tantrums, lectures, unwelcome advice, bizarre mind games, programmed behavior, unbridled entitlement and complete lack of consideration or remorse ... Unless he gets CAUGHT doing something, and then he's remorseful about getting caught.<br /><br />One other thing about that article which got me thinking about the guy is the concept of the victim wondering if they are the ones going mad. I've wondered it for years. How can someone be as wrong and worthless as I've been told I was? Not just told, having it slammed into my head by a sledgehammer every week six days a week for the three years we worked together. I'm not losing my marbles, I understand now that I almost surely have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder from dealing with this maniac. It seems to get worse every day.<br /><br />I also have a question for the admins that they might enjoy answering publicly -- Why has all this cyberpath/sociopath stuff only come out now? How come we've never really heard about personality disorders much? Narcissism is a term that I think most people would use to describe a vain, shallow idiot rather than somebody who's brain is either damaged or came missing parts. Why is it only now and not fifteen years ago that I'm learning what this guy's problem really is, and that the only way to cope with it is by severing all contact? And is the reason that society didn't prepare us on how to avoid sociopaths part of the current trends in identifying the trait? <br /><br />I'd seriously never heard of any of this before finding this blog. It seems to answer a lot of riddles I've puzzled over in regards to some of the people I've known. This guy is just one of them and the most toxic by far. Thanks again and I'll keep reading!hesitantnoreply@blogger.com