But they KNOW these words mean a lot to their victims... and use them appropriately as weapons to get what they want.
These emails from Gash to one of his victims and another IM session between Gash & a second target are, once again, great examples of the casual lies and manipulation of cyberpaths for one aim -- free sex. Like a 16 year old in the back seat of his dad's car - "I love you" gets him what he REALLY wants.
Let's see what Wikipedia has to say about LOVE BOMBING
Love bombing is the deliberate show of affection or friendship by an individual or a group of people toward another individual. Critics have asserted that this action may be motivated in part by the desire to recruit, convert or otherwise influence.Cyberpaths won't be honest and just say they want sex (or money or cybersex or fun at your expense, etc) they HAVE to toy with your emotions - which is where the trauma comes in for you. You are emotionally raped by them.
the phrase is defined to mean affection that is feigned or with an ulterior motive and that is used to reduce the subject's resistance...
And, ultimately - when you catch them - they will say you were "in agreement" or you "knew it was a game" or you "whored yourself to them willingly" - this is just more lies to cover up their misdeeds.
Coercion and manipulation and "I love you" is not mutual acceptance - It's PREDATION.
As always, our comments are in PURPLE.
Date: Mon, 12 Mar 2001
Subject: A romantic letter
To: one of his targets
XXXXX, from my heart to yours When I think of romantic times, I think about happenings between us ones that were or were not planned before but as it turns out time stood still and all emotions feelings came together at the sametime.
Those feelings - love, happiness, warmth, security, so involve in each other that the outside environment was only a blur, and never wanting that moment or happening to end. There are so many times like that between us but the special times describe being romantic in my mind and i will describe them to you and my feelings.
The first time we had dinner at XXXX - from talking about what we were going to wear the getting dress (how special you look with your smiles as you spray hair stuff on my hair), the taxi ride to XXXXX (the quick snuggling in the back seat), our discussion with the driver who could tell that both of us had sparkles in our eyes, the sitting in the little corner table drinking wine, then the making eyes all during dinner, the secret smiles to each other (I felt so special that we could get so lost into each other eyes), conversations that was not very important but to both of us made us feel so warm, leaving to go the couch to have dessert where we had a few kisses and block the world out , the ride back to our XXXX and the snugging that follow.
OH SUCH a Romantic Evening The little things - this is one is personal- the thinking about - and seeing you in my mind wearing the black scarf while I was in the store buying it for you I got lost in thinking about when I would see it on you - the sales person thought I was in another cloud. Many others some very short in duration you up dancing at the last musicals we went to - so romantic see you singing along. I can see you now wow.
Romantic event are all so special emotions flowing, I am not sure one can plan a romantic experience - I think they just happens between two people like having drinks in the lobby of the XXXX hotel to walking the beach. There is so much emotions between us that just touching each other fingers mine to yours can take us to a romantic state and we have no control over it - our emotions take takes control of us - and block rest of the world out -smiles John
The way I see romantic and what I think about what happens emotionally for it to be a romantic experience
Gash probably has a template of these (complete with bad English and poor spelling) But note the "mind control" and "emotional manipulation" in his words. What he says triggers his victim to FEEL things that he NEVER felt - in order to coerce her into thinking he cared!
Words like: emotions flowing, romantic, touching, no control, snuggling, another cloud, security, takes control... MANIPULATING EMOTIONS!! (sounds like Jacoby, Gridney/ YidwithLid, Beckstead, Hicks... etc!)
Subject: the things i love
To: one of his targets
XXXXX, I love your smiles, your smell, your touches , your conversations, and you soft lips. You make me so peaceful. hugs and ksises john xxxx
Does your wife know you talk like this Mr. Gash?
From: john john (cooljohn99@XXX.com)
Sent: 16 April 2001
To: one of his targets
of course - i want to come
i love love love you and totally want to come - smiles
i will see you in tuesday and only 9 days left to when i am in your arms.
missing you so much today - love and kisses john
DOUBLE ENTENDRE & Emotional manipulation with "EXPECTATION PLEASURE"!! A seduction technique
Sent: 15 April 2001
To: one of his targets
love you very
much and hugs and kisses
Mr. Gash -- Just making sure his predatory hooks are still in this woman
IM with a SECOND target:
wheelies03 (GASH) :i have to run back to work soon
wheelies03: but i was serious oh you having lunch wtih me when i am in Dallas middle of may
target: well then lets just see what happens here well that work for you
target: and talk some more
wheelies03 : sound good to me
target: i think that would be very nice
wheelies03: it will give me excuses to bend your ear (along with your MIND!)
target: you know many are so hard to carry on a conservation with here
wheelies03: and you can call me
wheelies03: when ever you want and we can talk
wheelies03: do you have a phone #
wheelies03: XXX XXX XXXX
wheelies03: my cell number (don't call my house PLEASE , my WIFE might answer!)
wheelies03: i go into room XXX
wheelies03: groups (ONLINE GROUPS where he can troll for more vulnerable, trusting women)
wheelies03: what about you
target: well i love to play solitaire
target: and listen to my cds
wheelies03: oh and i play poker (Because I am so good at BLUFFING)
target: i go into the XXXXXXX rooms also
wheelies03: romance or groups? (Profiling her!)
target: i have never been in those!
target: no i haven't
wheelies03: i will come looking for you
wheelies03: in group XXXXX some time
wheelies03: i am so happy now (I found FRESH PREY!)
target: well that would be nice
target: so why are you so happy
wheelies03: you were not lost for ever (aka - I hate losing one when I have them ALMOST on the hook!!)
wheelies03: i am 61
target: i am XX
wheelies03: so i cannot be your daddy (But, I can control, manipulate and use you??)
wheelies03: now it is over 7 min and i dont want you to leave (I am not done messing with your head yet)
target: well lets just say till next time how is that
target: not bye
target: just till next time
wheelies03: when i will get a surprise call
target: :) (you poor girl, you won't be smiling long)
wheelies03: for nowwww
target: yes john
target: for now
wheelies03: you know one last thing i go off to this meeting all smilessssssss